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saviolah:
Hmmm... The kind of love and affection my cousin sister pouring on me cannot be quantified. At times she does things that even my girl friend cannot do for me. The closeness is too much that... O my God, i think we are in love with each other. We do almost everything together. When ever one of us is away, it affects the other person negatively. Please need some advice

Tallesty1:
You contradict yourself a bit.

There is love. And love is love.

There is no true or fake love. Just love.

God is love and he gave a good example of how to love.

Scripture says that God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him.....

That's love in its truest form.

It is just love not true love.

Now if a man mistakes infatuation and lust for love and starting dating a woman for that reason, chances are, the relationship won't last because it was rooted in infatuation and lust not love.

You have been enjoying love for decades.

It is love or nothing.

Any other feeling outside it is either like, hatred, lust, etc.

There is nothing like love that is true and one that is not.

Love is Love.

#MY OPInION.

HawksDude:
The only kind of "true love" that exists is God's love. Any other kind is a sham..

uncjay:
All u mention above are attributes, well in the thread I talk about varieties, my bone of contention is d affections humans termed as true love....

PunterTim:
Are You Less Than A Decade Old

Tallesty1:
There is nothing like soul mate.

Unless you are talking about hair cream.

trapQ:
true love does exist outside God's love. and its in the book "songs of Solomon "

BlaqCoffee109:
..oh brother! love is eternal..lust is momentarily..once satisfied,you may even detest the object of your lust..you look for the next best thing..infatuation is just foolhardy unreasonable attachment that is just demanding and not looking for the good of its object

Gr8amechi:
there is nothing like true love, once you love you love, I will agree with you if you say love doesn't exist among us again, what we have is infatuation, love can't die...........a love that can end never really existed, and a love that can be substituted was just a farce

Revolva:
Love...Umm not in Nigeria...ok our ladies sef no even get love...true love don die for naija

Ballmer:
How many time have I told you I will give that to you in abundance ? In fact even free of charge. How many times ?

ministeriallist:
It only exist for a while. If the rich man lavished wealth on the lady she would soon forget the poor shepherd. That's the fact.

BlaqCoffee109:
there is true love..though rare,it is the soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another..because GOD is love,that GOD essence in man where the breath emanates from is the proclivity to love...but sadly most times,man leans to the fallen adamic nature of self hence selfishness,hatred etc.That stated from your post op, it is clear you confuse infatuation, falling in love for love! To be clear, a guy meets a physically or not so physically attractive lady, she catches his eye..she appears to have all the thing he presupposes a woman to have to keep him happy..he falls in love..he is beclouded by some preconceived notion- the burble bursts when he starts observing some trait that is alien to his ideals..vice versa..they fall out of love the same way they fell in..for infatuation,he just is blinded- on the other hand love itself is a choice albeit a conscious one at that it indeed is eternal

Snowangel4:
True love exist but it is vry hard to find

machinegundammy:
It's all infatuation and attraction but pple refer to it as true love. All this is because of a man's need for a woman and a woman's need for a man. When these needs are not met, there are profuse complaints from the inner working components

AdeniyiA:
scarcity is one of the attributes, it has to be searched out.

trapQ:
bless you, sister

PunterTim:
Aww,*Rests My Head On Her Chest*I Just Wana Feel Your Warmth.

uncjay:
Dear Nairalanders, this piece is my personal opinion, submission and conclusion as regard the topic. It's quite lengthy notwithstanding I want you to take your time and go through everything in order to effectively decode my point and bone of contention base on the subject matter. Knowledge, they say is open ended and not tentative, hence no one is a custodian of it. You can share your views and criticism, but please be concrete and discreet. There are two peculiar words at play here, in uses they are sometimes interchangeable but one is deeper and stronger than the other. Here we go.....

Love is actually a feeling that goes with human existence and emotions, it is sometime referred to as the greatest magic in the world because of it power of proficiency over man. It's good to love and be loved in return, but at times the reverse is the case. Often times we discovered that there are different varieties of love or rather, we see and observe love from different disposition and levels, as some consider it 'casual', some consider it 'genuine', some consider it 'TRUE', some consider it 'Agape', other varieties include; fatherly, motherly, brotherly, and sisterly love, these I call the 'LY' love. Whichever way we see it, it exist and function only where two or more persons co-exist and lived as a people in a specific society.

Despite all the attributes of love and it pertinent, I still struggle to come to term with how people refer to love as 'TRUE' and argue that there is nothing like 'TRUE LOVE'. After observing experiences and experiment carried out, I hereby conclude that there is no true love. The context of the phrase 'true love' is one thing I find yet to be justified in the world of man. Love can be genuine, casual or agape for that matter but there is nothing like true love. Love is a phenomenon that comes and go. It is not static and does not stand the test of time, where is the true in love.

A guy may love a girl genuinely from a sincere heart (and vice versa) and will be eager to do anything whatsoever to profess that love to her. At that point some will regard it as TRUE LOVE, without even considering the gravity of it. It is not true love but love in it genuineness, which of course can be reverse by circumstances or the coming of another love. That guy though loves the girl but after some time into the relationship the degree or percentage of the strength of the love reduces and continues until it becomes very low or non existent anymore, why is that? Such love cannot be term as true.

True is an everlasting phenomenon, no matter how long it is hidden, it will eventually come to manifestation someday and when it does, it indisputably stands and remain for life. Hence love cannot be regarded as true because it does not possess such quality. History will forever remember every scenario for its trueness. Though history or historical event sometimes can be twist or rewritten to suit or concur with the selfish desire of some people, or still in order to create either a negative or positive impressions, all aimed at either painting someone or people good or evil. That notwithstanding does not mean that there is no true story of the said history. Most African countries suffer this degradation from the bigoted whites.

Therefore, there is no true love, it only comes and go. Love does not remain forever, it changes as regard change in behaviours and circumstances around men. When someone loves, he/she cherish with all his/her heart, but at some point in time it becomes odd or rather not as effective as it were at the beginning, (a true love must maintain the degree and percentage base on which it started) this maybe due to the fact that someone else came that manage to stole the love a man has toward a woman and vice versa, or something unfortunate breach the love rendering it less effective or infidelity. Thus, as long as love got to do with emotion it should not be referred as true because anything can affect emotion as it may change.

Provided that, in a situation where someone love another probably from secondary school through tertiary institution and for one reason or the other they were no longer together, yet he/she professes his/her love toward that person as firm, in such cases it is only expedient to examine why they were not together in the first place, as it stand as the reason why such a love could be regard as rather genuine love that couldn't stand the test of time but certainly not true. Else they will rather be together, and breach will be found in the relationship.

That a couple lived and grew old together does not mean the love between them is true, it maybe genuine enough to sustain them all through their lifetime but it not necessarily true as there will be situation where the man or woman wish they had another person as partner or still may at one time or the other love and cherish another person even briefly, (I mean real love and not brotherly and sisterly love) yet they are still together as couple. At that point there is a breach making it less true but genuine to keep them together.

A true love must maintain a single strength from beginning to end. A true love must not change or shift affections toward another person (no matter how little). A true love must be eternal. So tell me where can we find such among men. As such people should put into cognisance the gravity and weight of the phrase "true love", before considering whether to term certain affections as true. Thanks.


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AdeniyiA:
Yes, you've aptly described what infatuation/lust is all about. But the true love we're talking about is not demanding, but more of giving.
it doesn't seek for what to receive but what it can give in a relationship to make it survive

Tallesty1:
There is nothing like soul mate.
Unless you are talking about hair cream.

lmao