hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

Man must protect himself, swear you don't have another person wey dey nack your kpekus. His is protecting himself from witches out there, after all you guys have not legally married. You self, you don't know maybe he will marry u. continue open hole, hole of hole.

1a. He cares about you and is playing safe not to infect you with whatever infection he might be dinning with.

1b. He no wan give the girl belle.



2a. He's cheating and its glaring to you.

2b. If you cant stand it,walk away now that he's just a fiance.



3.... He might have gotten the job of a major distributor for condoms

Why did you believe that lie that he saw it on the floor,is he a small child that picks things up and down?
well,now that you know he's cheating on you,,i'm sure you knw what to do..approach him first..you don't need advice dear.

Very clear pointer he's cheating...if yhu decide to still marry him,don't come bk to NL looking 4 advise on how to deal with a promiscuous husband.
As 4 coping,well,put urself 2gether..d world hasn't come to an end. Just don't dwell on the issue. But sincerely,if u can't deal with infidelity,then don't marry him.

Oohh no...that is very clear he is banging someone else...the truth always prevail on it's own..try to talk to him first but u have to calm down (as we women we easily get heat up & go HAM) & listen very carefully & read his body language...
But @ the end, it still ur decision tat matters...do wat makes u think will make u happy...

Dude be protecting himself from demonic infestations out there.


But how he got to like the color of condom pack tho... When he's not a 2yr old.

Please stop searching his bag.

Now you gotta decide whether to cope or not.

Oliviaarims:
Very clear pointer he's cheating...if yhu decide to still marry him,don't come bk to NL looking 4 advise on how to deal with a promiscuous husband.
As 4 coping,well,put urself 2gether..d world hasn't come to an end. Just don't dwell on the issue. But sincerely,if u can't deal with infidelity,then don't marry him.

I can't deal with it.I was worried about what people will say.we have already done our intro and our wedding is slated for December. I will do what is best for me before I commit a crime.thanks for your sensible response

KiidaACE:
Why did you believe that lie that he saw it on the floor,is he a small child that picks things up and down?
well,now that you know he's cheating on you,,i'm sure you knw what to do..approach him first..you don't need advice dear.

thanks I do know what to do

He might as well wana use those with U. For curiosity's sake ASK at least. Not that its gonna change anything but just ASK. Its very important, ask!

My dear
Usain bolt will be your portion in jesus name
Amen

vision2050:
Man must protect himself, swear you don't have another person wey dey nack your kpekus. His is protecting himself from witches out there, after all you guys have not legally married. You self, you don't know maybe he will marry u. continue open hole, hole of hole.

I do know he will marry me because our wedding is this December and please learn to talk to people with respect especially when you don't know the whole story.

standingtall:
I can't deal with it.I was worried about what people will say.we have already done our intro and our wedding is slated for December. I will do what is best for me before I commit a crime.thanks for your sensible response

Uwc...just hope yhu remain strong. U should know what's best 4 yhu...In whatever u decide to do,it shouldn't be bcoz ov fear of criticism or to please anybody,but because it would ultimately be in ur best interest. Look out 4 ur longterm happiness.

standingtall:
hi guys
I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. in the beginning everything was cool until recently. about a month ago I found condoms an empty pack of condoms in his bag,I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.
I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.
fast forward to today,I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag
I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now. please my sisters I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out

I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

Ray360:
Dear OP, it's ridiculous to know that a man you have been with for 3 years is a chronic philanderer with Zero modicum of regard for your feelings and worth as a prime woman. Is he Using those Condoms on you or on those harlots out there with no scintilla of woman virtue?
Call him to order and lay bare your grief at his Philandering Lifestyles, Your wedding is just months away and this doesn't bode well for you. cheers.

My thoughts exactly, Standingtall! Give your 'red' the second thought pls!

1... You yourself, you be thief. Trying to get money from his wallet without his consent.

2... You've seen it in his bag before, you new he was lying about what he said.

3... You found it again. Hello, na every time he de see condom for floor, abi he de work with waste managements?

4... He de quick vex, he will definitely vex beat you some day.

PLS IF YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM, WHY WASTE YOUR TIME ON HIM? HELLO... PLS RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!

#get marriage books and preaching on marriage. And books for singles. NL is not the best place to seek for advice, this is serious. Why not go to a marriage counselor to counsel and advice you.

Lol @ he liked the colour of the condom wrapper. So lame. Worse than "It wasn't me".

Anyway, you say you know what to do, so good luck. You sure deserve someone that will be true to you.

For coping with heartbreak I find that keeping busy all the time really helps. Don't spend any time home alone with nothing to do.

standingtall:
hi guys
I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. in the beginning everything was cool until recently. about a month ago I found condoms an empty pack of condoms in his bag,I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.
I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.
fast forward to today,I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag
I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now. please my sisters I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out

probably likes the colours too
This is a new one
I heard of coin collectors, stamp collectors
now we have condom collector

He saw an empty pack of condom and he picked it. You kept mute, sorry to say, he is taking you for a fool lol . And will keep picking more condoms from the ground.

My sister your man is cheating. Like I always say all men are divided into two those that cheat and those that are violent. Your man falls into the first category. Never you think he will change because he will get worse. So if you care about what people say then go ahead but know that those people will leave you to face your marriage woes alone.

My dear the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. What of if he is not protecting himself, which will u have preferred? Tho m not in support of him cheating but he respects u if he is protecting himself. #my opinion

There's no harm in asking, so ask! But study his body language. He might wanna use them with you.

Don't quit things can be repaired

You were looking for change in his bag...... just when he was conveniently absent. Cool Story!

If your man wants to lie, he should tell a better one. haba!!!!! You can't even convince an 18 year old naive girl with that kind of statement.

''he picked it on the floor indeed''

But waitoooo dear sister. why are you so concern about the condoms was it that both of you were playing abstinence kind of relationship or he does not use Condom when both of you........

mimicious:
My dear the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. What of if he is not protecting himself, which will u have preferred? Tho m not in support of him cheating but he respects u if he is protecting himself. #my opinion

So I guess it's ok to cheat so long as there's protection abi?? Like that's your own version of "respect"?

standingtall:
I can't deal with it.I was worried about what people will say. we have already done our intro and our wedding is slated for December. I will do what is best for me before I commit a crime.thanks for your sensible response

Ah! This is beyond me.

Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

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