menix:


Then be prepared to marry a ritualist..

Cameleon72:
On one condition that he declared that "AM THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY PUBLICLY"

Rukkydelta:
and we may use you for ------------

nawtibownie:
It depends tho. I won't give a lazy husband who's not ready to work up to half of my salary because he's definitely going to blow it up.

sihom:
I think that money should go into a joint bank account created for the purpose of funding family/household projects - but I'm a single lady what do I know.

Three married women I know of have done this sort of thing on a regular basis, it led to their husbands becoming lazy and slacking off on responsibilities like paying school fees, house rent etcetera practically leaving those responsibilities to their wives to handle.

My only concern and fear is that your husband may go the way the men described above did. On the other hand another true life story of a married couple I know was different from the women above.

Tunde (not real name) was unemployed for seven years and all his attempts at business/finding aa stable source of income wasn't yielding fruits. His wife (let's call her Kanwulia) on the other hand was gainfully employed and each time she received her salary she would give all of it to Tunde.

I figure she did this to honour him as her husband and the head of the home. Tunde never took things for granted and always used the money wisely & prudently. No one ever knew the situation in that house for as long as it lasted not even their family & friends.

The couple Tunde & Kanwulia handle pre-marital counseling & classes at a certain church and often share their story with intending couples.

You know your husband better than I do. Will he in the long run behave like Tunde or the other three husbands I mentioned?

A joint account thingy is what I would do in your shoes and since you earn more you can as well fund the account at a higher ratio than your husband with a caveat - that caveat being that you are both signatories to the account and one person cannot withdraw funds without the knowledge & signature of the other. That way you are kept in the loop and aware of where your monies collectively as a couple is going to.

TooNoisy:
So what is he giving her husband money for?

If it is to pay part of the bills, then there is nothing wrong. If the husband can give the wife money, why can't the wife give her husband money?

FREEDOM4BIAFRA:
Not necessarily, except at a time he has an urgent need.

It's best if she uses that part to support the home, buy things that are needed for the home, without bothering the husband for money for Omo or bathing soap.

Cameleon72:
On one condition that he declared that "AM THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY PUBLICLY"

AdaNri1:
This is exactly how I know most Igbo homes to be. Unless the man runs into difficulties Igbo men do this for their family. I have little respect for men who expect their wives to give them money and still refuse to do house wirk in that family. If everything should be shared then they better start cooking, washing, bathing the children and looking after them or are they not part of that household?

Cameleon72:
On one condition that he declared that "AM THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY PUBLICLY"

gamaliel121:

So your ass is chocolate?

Janix2:
I need honest answers.
Notice this days that Women earn than men.

MrsPhyno:
Nope. Either the whole "family money" is kept together and equally stewarded by Hub and Wifey or she keeps her checkssss