I met Precious (not real name) and we started dating around early april 2015, which was a semester ago in my school. We are both from average backgrounds. All through out the previous semester, she was always at my rented appartment off campus (like couples life ) although she has her own apartment which she shares with her sister. We do everything together; walking to school, eating. Playing, enjoying etc.

As the guy, i was catering for both of us from my stipend allowances and money i earn from jobs i do for my clients online so i was rarely broke. We didn't have much, but we had enough. Throughout a whole semester, i never could prove that my gf had a bank account, she never talked about visiting d bank or atm, neither did i ever saw a bank sms of any sort on her phone (I just got to observe, i wasn't checking her phone due to suspision). At a point i had to ask her if she wasn't a ghost, cos she had no financial record that i could pick upon. But all these while, she uses money to do some stuffs, which i didn't give to her which made me know that she receives money.

There was no problem at all until this semester, when i stopped doing online works due to my academics, and then due to the fact that she stays with me, my allowances no longer have impact on "our" expenses. Now its always like whenever am broke, then she's broke. There aint no remedy of no sort. The allowance for one person is been spent by two, the foodstuff for one person is been consumed by two and now its like we are living from hand to mouth. Although at countable times, she had brought some bit of foodstuffs from her house for us, we always remained broke until i get money. Now whenever she receives money, she plans it and pays all manner of church dues, association due, department and faculty due, dues for church vest etc. Whereas when i receive money, i get foodstuffs and other necessary things we would need, thereby neglecting my own bills and "dues". She even always indulge me on what to do with the money cos she's always aware when i get money but i do not always know about hers.

Recently i tried confronting her on the issue, and she was kinda "lackadaisika", telling me that am the guy and its my responsibility and all that. Truth be told, i love this girl, but she's wrecking me financially (at least for now), what can i do about it? Is she a wife material? Say i become fortunate in future, can i still pick on her? Am i been irresponsible?

Please relate your opinions in the most sensible manner, no insults allowed. Thanks

Cc lalasticlala

Itz ur cross na... Bear it
My advise is.... Pls wait till she finally wrecks you

you sef wreck her nah,


thats if you understand me ohhhhhh.

She is wrecking you financially right? You didnt talk about how you are wrecking hwr physically and intwrnally... Co habiting is wonderful... Aint it

Laitesmart:
She is wrecking you financially right? You didnt talk about how you are wrecking hwr physically and intwrnally... Co habiting is wonderful... Aint it

If am wrecking her physically then she is also. Isnt it a mutual affair?

teemanbastos:
Itz ur cross na... Bear it

My advise is.... Pls wait till she finally wrecks you

Speechless

wreck her too naw...it takes two to tango

Are you a boko-haram member??
why co-habiting a girl who isn't your wife??

please bring back our "GIRL"

i'll kick you like a wrecking ball...
#singing

It happens in school must times even in service(NYSC). Not new at all.

mumu, na school them send u go

Leave woman and concentrate on your studies!

Too bad for you to start family life now!

Maybe she doesn't have much money,either...Girls have expenses, u know...and u were indulging her all this time by catering 4 her,so she got used to it. Thank God she has her own apartment, pls,send her back...bcoz as long as she continues living with u,u'd av to take care of most of the expenses. Explain things to her nd send her bk.
Why did u allow her stay so long,anyway? U want to get her pregnant,abi? Better save urself the troubles now.

talk to her and pray about it

op you see your life.. brb

If she doesn't wreck your life, who will

Why are you both even living together? are u married?

This one is strong...
First of all, it's wrong for couples who aren't married yet to live together....
You should try talking things out with her concerning the financial issue. As a girlfriend, in fact, as a good girlfriend, a girl is suppose to understand and know when her boyfriend is financially broke even without him admitting it. Just talk to her about it and after listening to her response, you'll know what to do. Communication is the ultimate key to happy relationship.

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If you are fuccking her...then no p... She give u, you give her...

Please, she doesnt sound like a girlfriend, dump her

I wonder what ur still doing with her...dump her sorry azz!!

She's living with u and you're here complaining about her wrecking u. Excuse me mister, what do u expect when u guys are already living like mr&mrs (couples) and you don't have a job. she's ur responsibility as far as she staying with u. Stop complaining

Ok lalasticla.la for what
U can't think with your Brain
Or you just need Frontpage
Oga op Tell me??

Since she is already living couples life with you she isnt wife material.......but to be honest you also aren't husband material.

Op i pirry u,u r living with a lady in school& u r here complaning she is wrecking u She never wreck,still dey live with her okay!But wait u dey enjoy pusssy naw?so stop complaning

NoLoveLost:
I met Precious (not real name) and we started dating around early april 2015, which was a semester ago in my school. We are both from average backgrounds. All through out the previous semester, she was always at my rented appartment off campus (like couples life ) although she has her own apartment which she shares with her sister. We do everything together; walking to school, eating. Playing, enjoying etc.

As the guy, i was catering for both of us from my stipend allowances and money i earn from jobs i do for my clients online so i was rarely broke. We didn't have much, but we had enough. Throughout a whole semester, i never could prove that my gf had a bank account, she never talked about visiting d bank or atm, neither did i ever saw a bank sms of any sort on her phone (I just got to observe, i wasn't checking her phone due to suspision). At a point i had to ask her if she wasn't a ghost, cos she had no financial record that i could pick upon. But all these while, she uses money to do some stuffs, which i didn't give to her which made me know that she receives money.

There was no problem at all until this semester, when i stopped doing online works due to my academics, and then due to the fact that she stays with me, my allowances no longer have impact on "our" expenses. Now its always like whenever am broke, then she's broke. There aint no remedy of no sort. The allowance for one person is been spent by two, the foodstuff for one person is been consumed by two and now its like we are living from hand to mouth. Although at countable times, she had brought some bit of foodstuffs from her house for us, we always remained broke until i get money. Now whenever she receives money, she plans it and pays all manner of church dues, association due, department and faculty due, dues for church vest etc. Whereas when i receive money, i get foodstuffs and other necessary things we would need, thereby neglecting my own bills and "dues". She even always indulge me on what to do with the money cos she's always aware when i get money but i do not always know about hers.

Recently i tried confronting her on the issue, and she was kinda "lackadaisika", telling me that am the guy and its my responsibility and all that. Truth be told, i love this girl, but she's wrecking me financially (at least for now), what can i do about it? Is she a wife material? Say i become fortunate in future, can i still pick on her? Am i been irresponsible?

Please relate your opinions in the most sensible manner, no insults allowed. Thanks

Cc lalasticlala

Hmmmm.. I have nothing to say but i remeber while i was an undergraduate dat yr, My roomate who co-habited a lady even up till exam time was advised to withdraw from sch after series of warnings and repeat semester so i will advice u Run as fast as ur leg can carry you

Honestly, with the kind of threads I see and read here and starting to believe all these stories are being made up just for attention or front page sake. Just like Hints and Hearts magazine.

Your girlfriend is wrecking you, I believe you don't need a rocket scientist to tell you to tell her to go and kiss and pig!. Instead of coming here and asking for advice.

My friend this is not love. You don't have to take responsibility for her. So forget that nonsense she told you. You are still a student.

Ask her to move out of your apartment. Trial marriage in school is simply parasitism and young man, you are the bloody HOST! Stop fooling yourself forming responsible husband to a girl that is not your wife.

Op, u r just irresponsible...yes baby, u really are.