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I have a female friend that her boyfriend lost his job for two months now, as in these guy is really broke to the core, on the other hand its the lady that has been feeding him for months now, they both met in school but the thing is that her parents have arranged a guy which is based in the uk for her to get wedded to, her pastor and her family have all agreed for her to marry this young doctor that lives in the uk, according to her this doctor is good in heart based on the time she has spent with him but the pain is that she loves her boyfriend, now should she leave her boyfriend and get wedded to the doctor or she should continue loving her broke boyfriend that she dont even know if they will end up together. "whats your advice to her? mature comments please!!

Whatever rocks her boat

Mehn this kinda dillema usually frustrate people. If she loves the boyfriend, she should stay with him if he promise to marry her. I Dont know about the doctor.

Its her choice. No one will make it for her. Two good men hv been put before her to choose who she wil spend d rest of her life with. So d ball is in her court nw. Buh she should be very careful tho, cuz what may seem right to her may later turn wrong aftwerwards.

Let me see her picture so that I can proffer the best solution to her problem.

missKiffy:
Whatever rocks her boat

what if it rocks ur boat?

How well does she knows the doc?? She better stays with d one she's seeing than the one she's not period!

Cutehector:
Its her choice. No one will make it for her. Two good men hv been put before her to choose who she wil spend d rest of her life with. So d ball is in her court nw. Buh she should be very careful tho, cuz what may seem right to her may later turn wrong aftwerwards.

URE right bro, i feel pity 4 her.

nickkylawve:
How well does she knows the doc?? She better stays with d one she's seeing than the one she's not period!

The one she is seeing is dependent on her bcaus he is broke but the one she is not seeing was recommended by her pastor and parents.

He lost his Job for 2months and he is already broke to the core




Sister bia nu go find love somewhere else. This ur boyfriend na d type wey the spend salary even. Before e land.

As for your parents arranging a UK base doctor for you marry......I strongly believe who to marry is your personal opinion, all your parents owe you is their blessings and advice.

Targaryen:
what if it rocks ur boat?

We are two different people

My candid advice is dat she stay with are boyfriend, reasons because some guys can be super nice to a lady, showing her all d care in d world just to win her heart, wen dat is done, dey turn into monsters.

For the sake of her happiness, she just have to stay with her boyfriend, nothing lasts forever, whether rich or broke..
so long her boyfriend is sourcing for wat to do just to get back up again.

Follow the doc

Its a very tough one for her. My advice is this:

1) She should be sincere with herself and ask who she is ready to live and love. I don't know any of them and people change over time. If her young doctor loses his job in the future nko? Would she cope with him?
2) She should try to find out EXACTLY why her parents and pastor is recommending the doctor. Is it because he displays certain characters in church or what? Is her pastor really looking out for her or he is after her parents interest?
3) She should pray to God about it. I don't know how spiritual she is but I know that its a sure way of knowing who is right for her; if she receives a reply from God for real.

My 3cents

CC: Targaryen

goodmorning40:
Follow the doc

whats ur reason?

Targaryen:
The one she is seeing is dependent on her bcaus he is broke but the one she is not seeing was recommended by her pastor and parents.

no one knows tomorrow tho u don't knw wat future holds for the both!!

rapmike:
Its a very tough one for her. My advice is this:

1) She should be sincere with herself and ask who she is ready to live and love. I don't know any of them and people change over time. If her young doctor loses his job in the future nko? Would she cope with him?
2) She should try to find out EXACTLY why her parents and pastor is recommending the doctor. Is it because he displays certain characters in church or what? Is her pastor really looking out for her or he is after her parents interest?
3) She should pray to God about it. I don't know how spiritual she is but I know that its a sure way of knowing who is right for her; if she receives a reply from God for real.

My 3cents

CC: Targaryen

UR Reasons are absolutely on point, well no doubt the doctor displays the christian character, well i think she should just pray about it bcaus nobody knows what her boyfriend might become tommorow. cc lalasticlala, dominique

So what's the guarantee the young doctor won't get broke later on as well? Or won't turn to a wife beater as well?

It's just like sport bet. Arsenal was tipped to win West brom. When the match kicked off, Arsenal was doing great. They scored the first goal, every1 rejoiced. Only for Arsenal to later lose the match.

Like I used to say, the broke ass u knw with potentials, is better than the rich ass u barely know.

If you love someone, you wld make big sacrifices just to accommodate disturbances/challenges you'd be faced with. Her family and her pastor are just after their own happiness(to make her marry a rich guy so they can get favours from it). They are least concern about what her heart truly wants.

Is anything wrong for a lady to provide for a man? Women have been craving gender equality. Now how do they want to equate with men if they stil believe men should exclusively provide for the family?

If she had been the one catering for him in his needy time, is anything wrong in that? I thought the woman was made to serve as a companion and a support for the man.

My favorite creature on earth is the Lion. The females do the hunting. The male defends their pride!

My point is, in difficult times, the lady shld take initiative and substitute as the breadwinner til when fortune smiles back at the man! This is how women can equate to men!

Targaryen:
UR Reasons are absolutely on point, well no doubt the doctor displays the christian character, well i think she should just pray about it bcaus nobody knows what her boyfriend might become tommorow. cc lalasticlala, dominique

No 1 and 3 are very important. There are ladies and men who nowadays cheat simply because they don't love their spouses enough, irrespective of behavior. Then its only God that knows the heart of a man, any of the two men can disappoint.

Btw, is the unemployed man searching for a job? What are his future plans? He must begin to think about it and act on that, for no responsible babe will stick with an unemployed man who has no plans for the future.

Chai ......tight corner

this is a tight situation but der is absolutely nothing impossible for d one dt knows tomorrow. Any of d two cud change and b worse 2morow. I cnt tell her to follow d doc becos he cud turn into a beast tomorrow or even her guy cud disappoint her 2morow wen he gets a job. At dis point she needs d only one who knows d hrt of evryman, d one dt can discern d intern of evryman so dt she wudnt make a mistake