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Decker:
What if she is serious? What if she is really hurt and is already contemplating on a lot of things to do to herself?

You guys should listen to yourselves. Do you think everyone is wired the same, both psychologically and emotionally? Do you think everyone has the same emotional threshold as you?

Haven't you heard of girls committing suicide because they were jilted by a lover? Where is your humanity people?

This girl is human. She wasn't the one who decided to break up with him, he was the one who did. Every human in her condition would feel sad.

Okay, you all are trying to say that the girl is trying to play a smart one on him? How if I may ask? The guy has already made it clear that he doesn't want her anymore and even though he some how still decides to go back to her, probably out of pity and fear, he isn't doing it with all his mind and the girl won't still be confident of the relationship knowing fully well that he doesn't love her anymore, except she is a silly opportunist. So what is she to gain?

I am not saying he should go back to her, but there are other ways to remedy an issue like this.

Thanks a lot for ur concern,I ve been consoling her that I'm going to be her best friend but she's still not okay with that.

Tabh:
In case she dies,do post her obituary here.

Naughty gel... See ur head.

misspicy:
care to tell me why it was so?

If I loved,I loved with my all.I serenade,I write poetry,I give flowers,and I surprises.
You dont miss your water till the wells runs dry.

Maybe u want to knw what's at stake,u can apply sha.

Op beneath her obituary poster,you write.

[size=25pt]She died for love[/size]

Odunharry:
If na my sister Be that girl na factory reset slap I
go give her..

Sister no dey tell such to brothers

spencerlouis:
same tin happened 2 me, she cut her self wit a knife and in d process of stoppin her i was cut too, hers was worse tho...

Na wao!

Whatever happens. Someone must die. I'm just saying.

spencerlouis:
so he wuldnt get 2 buy her shitt dis xmax

Lol,I told her that I wont change much,that I'm her brother and best frnd.

She will definately threaten 2 do anything just 2 get u.

PunkyVeer:
She's manipulating you. Plain & simple. You claim you're done, so walk the talk by not responding to her guilt trip. You're not responsible for her inability to woman up & deal with hurt feelings. Everybody is born with that inner pacifier. If she can't suck it up, that is her problem, not yours.

Thanks... Na thief sabi trail the path of thief.
Hahaha... Oshe!

ebonflex:
Okay so what do you now intend to do? Still be circling her life and be otherwise actively invlved in it? That's just her own way of making sure she still has you as a pseudo-boyfriend. Don't start what you can't finish in the name of "caring". Just think, if you were dating someone else, would you still continue doing that thing for your ex?

It all comes down to emotional blackmail. Something petty girls never hesitate to resort to for more attention.
It's only in white man land you hear all that one of suicide that you are hearing. Living in naija puts in you a toughness that no break up will make you kill yourself. And if you DO kill yourself, then it's better you do so now over something as small as breakup than later in life over much more important things. Abi you wan make she kill herself later over fight after you don already use money take marry am?

Truth though

Decker:
The bolded is the problem with this country. We have this mentality of thinking that some issues are restricted to just white people, while we Nigerians are somehow immune to them. That's why we are still struggling to move forward in a lot of areas.

Who told you that's it's only white people that commit suicide?

https://www.nairaland.com/2668097/photos-girl-kills-herself-after

https://www.nairaland.com/2465970/18-year-old-girl-tries

https://www.nairaland.com/754717/girl-17-commits-suicide-love

https://www.nairaland.com/2173670/girl-commits-suicide-after-boyfriend

https://www.nairaland.com/2540673/extremely-graphic-photo-girl-commits

Above are links of cases where Nigerian ladies committed suicide over issues similar to the OP's.

That's my fear,in the past she does stupid things even if I don't pick her calls.talkless of now.

sauceny:
Op beneath her obituary poster,you write.

[size=25pt]She died for love[/size]

Oloshi mba!

MissBiba:
She will definately threaten 2 do anything just 2 get u.

U girls are giving me confidence o.u girls are like that... Ahh see life!

amiskurie:
I created a topic yesterday abt what makes me break-up with her,so now I just got this message below after I didn't heed to her pleadings.

" Ok no problem, bt dnt b surprises if any body shld cal u to tell u something happend 2 me. I dnt know what will happen bt am vry sure of my sef dat sumtin is goin 2 happen. Tnk u "

This is a girl I gave the privilege of still staying as her frnd to help her through the tough breakup time.

What do I do nairalanders.she's in school too and I have heard a lot of news of ladies doing foolish things in the name of love here in the past.

In as much as I am not taking her back as my girlfrnd,I don't want her harm herself.

Lalasticlala. Ishilove. Seun.

wat was her offence sef dat u cnt forgive her.

That was the message I sent her yesterday below,I even created a top here for it yesterday.

firstking01:
wat was her offence sef dat u cnt forgive her.

when it all began,I didn't hide a thing for sake of a strong relationship,I tell you everything u needed to know,I let you know my weakness,and I started doing my little care... And I made it known to u how sensitive my mind,brain and heart is,that u should always tell me the truth..because my brain is highly sensitive and I know it when people lie.YES! So,u begin with your virginity which I later found that it's not true,and why u couldn't let me,but u were trying to attribute that to me.but why lie about it,after I told u I loved u for who u are?Who told u that u cant find love without it... But I still love u even though u lied cause It's not really a big issue to me. From the earliest days,I see everything wrong with the way u treated me.from the days when we discuss your school mother.from the calls I got sometimes even purported by your friends.from most of things. From people that are still in your life that u think I'm not sensitive of. I discuss and try to encourage you to free ur mind and tell me things u think I don't know but u didn't.I waited in vain and in pain for u to concede the secrecy I see all over you.even today u left here,I know you didn't go to Ife.I know that school changed you,but U still dwell in the past after I encouraged u not to.u still hold on and never sacrifice the ugly past for sake of our love.u came from good home,u were just a victim of circumstances,advantages,or should I say disadvantages?But I still love u,and I will always be where u can find me anytime or anyday...the privilege I didn't give to my ex,or anybody I use to know.I will give this privilege to u cause you're special- of all the people I've known in my life.I don't want to leave u to your fate because the world is cold out there.I want to guide you like your best friend/bestie and your brother. Above all,I don't want to tie my emotion to you anymore because it's a painful experience and its killing me mentally,emotionally and even physically. don't let this affect your mood,I promised I will be the same person you use to know,I promise I will be your best friend,I promise u won't see a change in me.I want to guide you and be your inspiration into time.I will fight for you like a brother,like a lover,and a friend. As for me,I want to remain in this state or status till years to come.. A state unconnected to emotions of some kinds. I promise I won't make you see the difference.Thanks dear!

amiskurie:
That was the message I sent her yesterday below,I even created a top here for it yesterday.



when it all began,I didn't hide a thing for sake of a strong relationship,I tell you everything u needed to know,I let you know my weakness,and I started doing my little care... And I made it known to u how sensitive my mind,brain and heart is,that u should always tell me the truth..because my brain is highly sensitive and I know it when people lie.YES! So,u begin with your virginity which I later found that it's not true,and why u couldn't let me,but u were trying to attribute that to me.but why lie about it,after I told u I loved u for who u are?Who told u that u cant find love without it... But I still love u even though u lied cause It's not really a big issue to me. From the earliest days,I see everything wrong with the way u treated me.from the days when we discuss your school mother.from the calls I got sometimes even purported by your friends.from most of things. From people that are still in your life that u think I'm not sensitive of. I discuss and try to encourage you to free ur mind and tell me things u think I don't know but u didn't.I waited in vain and in pain for u to concede the secrecy I see all over you.even today u left here,I know you didn't go to Ife.I know that school changed you,but U still dwell in the past after I encouraged u not to.u still hold on and never sacrifice the ugly past for sake of our love.u came from good home,u were just a victim of circumstances,advantages,or should I say disadvantages?But I still love u,and I will always be where u can find me anytime or anyday...the privilege I didn't give to my ex,or anybody I use to know.I will give this privilege to u cause you're special- of all the people I've known in my life.I don't want to leave u to your fate because the world is cold out there.I want to guide you like your best friend/bestie and your brother. Above all,I don't want to tie my emotion to you anymore because it's a painful experience and its killing me mentally,emotionally and even physically. don't let this affect your mood,I promised I will be the same person you use to know,I promise I will be your best friend,I promise u won't see a change in me.I want to guide you and be your inspiration into time.I will fight for you like a brother,like a lover,and a friend. As for me,I want to remain in this state or status till years to come.. A state unconnected to emotions of some kinds. I promise I won't make you see the difference.Thanks dear!

hmmm

amiskurie:
If I loved,I loved with my all.I serenade,I write poetry,I give flowers,and I surprises.
You dont miss your water till the wells runs dry.

Maybe u want to knw what's at stake,u can apply sha.

ehya no wonder


I wish i could apply buh am taken

amiskurie:
Sister no dey tell such to brothers

sure but somehow you fit hear

misspicy:
ehya no wonder


I wish i could apply buh am taken

Eyahh,but u can break up today..give him foolish excuse.

Go and finish what you started my brother. :p or u want to be a murderer?

amiskurie:
I created a topic yesterday abt what makes me break-up with her,so now I just got this message below after I didn't heed to her pleadings.

" Ok no problem, bt dnt b surprised if any body shld cal u to tell u something happend 2 me. I dnt know what will happen bt am vry sure of my sef dat sumtin is goin 2 happen. Tnk u "

This is a girl I gave the privilege of still staying as her frnd to help her through the tough breakup time.

What do I do nairalanders.she's in school too and I have heard a lot of news of ladies doing foolish things in the name of love here in the past.

In as much as I am not taking her back as my girlfrnd,I don't want her harm herself.

Lalasticlala. Ishilove. Seun.

I don't know what she intend doing but d very worst she can do is to commit sucide, she is not the first and she won't be d last. Tell her that I say RIP in advance.

My advice 4 you: stay mute and ignore her message or b mean and send this to her "if u intend commiting sucide because I sent u outta my life cause of your waywardness, RIP in advance"

Abegi!!! Notin dey happen. She just dey try trap u @ least 4 Xmas taxing... Bt 2 make sure say she no go try anything, just connect her 2 me make I give her small consolation d*ck. Just trying 2 help a broda & sista out.

amiskurie:
That was the message I sent her yesterday below,I even created a top here for it yesterday.



when it all began,I didn't hide a thing for sake of a strong relationship,I tell you everything u needed to know,I let you know my weakness,and I started doing my little care... And I made it known to u how sensitive my mind,brain and heart is,that u should always tell me the truth..because my brain is highly sensitive and I know it when people lie.YES! So,u begin with your virginity which I later found that it's not true,and why u couldn't let me,but u were trying to attribute that to me.but why lie about it,after I told u I loved u for who u are?Who told u that u cant find love without it... But I still love u even though u lied cause It's not really a big issue to me. From the earliest days,I see everything wrong with the way u treated me.from the days when we discuss your school mother.from the calls I got sometimes even purported by your friends.from most of things. From people that are still in your life that u think I'm not sensitive of. I discuss and try to encourage you to free ur mind and tell me things u think I don't know but u didn't.I waited in vain and in pain for u to concede the secrecy I see all over you.even today u left here,I know you didn't go to Ife.I know that school changed you,but U still dwell in the past after I encouraged u not to.u still hold on and never sacrifice the ugly past for sake of our love.u came from good home,u were just a victim of circumstances,advantages,or should I say disadvantages?But I still love u,and I will always be where u can find me anytime or anyday...the privilege I didn't give to my ex,or anybody I use to know.I will give this privilege to u cause you're special- of all the people I've known in my life.I don't want to leave u to your fate because the world is cold out there.I want to guide you like your best friend/bestie and your brother. Above all,I don't want to tie my emotion to you anymore because it's a painful experience and its killing me mentally,emotionally and even physically. don't let this affect your mood,I promised I will be the same person you use to know,I promise I will be your best friend,I promise u won't see a change in me.I want to guide you and be your inspiration into time.I will fight for you like a brother,like a lover,and a friend. As for me,I want to remain in this state or status till years to come.. A state unconnected to emotions of some kinds. I promise I won't make you see the difference.Thanks dear!

Nigga u v got A-game. C break up letter. CHAI. I wish 2 b lyk u o. U r a man's man. I troway plenty salute 4 u. 1st tym I don witness guy dey break up with girl @ d same tym put am in d frndzn. Nna I di epic. I wish say u fit do dis 2 all dem biatches wey don frndzn me.

Na God Sabi d kind emotionless dude I b na e make Him no put me 4 dis situation. Make babe try pull dis kind stunt on me dey send me dis kind msg, I go just msg am back "VALAR MORGHULIS". opari

amiskurie:
That's my fear,in the past she does stupid things even if I don't pick her calls.talkless of now.

Then it is good you give her her space. People who make the other person "God" in their relationships need time to themselves to FIND THEMSELVES. Anything other than that is an emotionally parasitic relationship that will end up in you being unnecessarily drained and die before your time.

this may not be a cheap blackmail. have heard of a lady taking mosquito killer because of issue like this n eventually died....guy make person no die for ur head oo. even if no b u kill am i know say u go still write statement o except nigeria police is no longer ur friend

Decker:
What if she is serious? What if she is really hurt and is already contemplating on a lot of things to do to herself?

You guys should listen to yourselves. Do you think everyone is wired the same, both psychologically and emotionally? Do you think everyone has the same emotional threshold as you?

Haven't you heard of girls committing suicide because they were jilted by a lover? Where is your humanity people?

This girl is human. She wasn't the one who decided to break up with him, he was the one who did. Every human in her condition would feel sad.

Okay, you all are trying to say that the girl is trying to play a smart one on him? How if I may ask? The guy has already made it clear that he doesn't want her anymore and even though he some how still decides to go back to her, probably out of pity and fear, he isn't doing it with all his mind and the girl won't still be confident of the relationship knowing fully well that he doesn't love her anymore, except she is a silly opportunist. So what is she to gain?

I am not saying he should go back to her, but there are other ways to remedy an issue like this.

sharaaaap there and gehrara here.
why did you break up.with her if you are so into her.n you care so.much about her.
you think say na.mugu de NL.nii.

hmmm

misspicy:
Trust me she will not do anything to herself......unless shez abnormal


btw who harms herself untop boy matter,when there. are many boys swimming around for her to pick

..YINMU,,who knows if you are the ruth of our time

Hope you're keeping your chat log / records. You need evidence just in case.

Any girl who says stuff like this is not stable mentally. She fit do herself strong thing come do you join. Keep away from her. Run away from the Karishikas of this world.

As you don escape this one, God Win!