There's this guy that has been a friend to my fiancee for sometime now. Some months back, I observed that the friendship was becoming "too close" than the norm, cos he was calling her almost every time and not just short calls, but long ones. I expressed my thought about it to my fiancee, but she insisted that there was nothing more to their friendship. After, sometime my fiancee started displaying some "erratic" attitudes. Most common of it was "I don't care" attitude. What now put me off, was a day she was with me and the guy call came in, she didn't answer it. Then I told her to answer the call, and she did. I observed the way she was talking with the guy, then I sensed there's more to them that meet the eye. I asked her to tell the guy that she's with her fiance and that the guy should call back, but to my surprise she was stammering and later disconnected the call. I got really furious and demanded an explanation. It was then she told me, the guy has been "disturbing" her for a date, but she said she had made it clear to him that its not possible. A lot of drama followed, that I can't relay here. It was then I knew there's more to what she has just said. Two days after, she came to my place to apologize for what happened the last time. I asked her to give me her phone, and she reluctantly gave me. Then after I collected the phone, I discovered that all her social apps has been 'passwordized'. I asked her to enter her password, and she said she can't, but I insisted, then she entered it reluctantly. I was about accessing her whatsapp when she suddenly snapped the phone from my hand and was begging me not to look further, but I insisted and had to wrestle the phone out of her grasp cos I was bent on knowing the real truth, no matter what. I checked and was shocked when I discovered she has been dating the guy in question. I called the relationship off @ that instance. She cried and begged that she's sorry, but I didn't listen. She actually continued to apologize for days, promising never to do such again. I eventually forgave her and we continued, but on the condition that she must never have anything to do with the guy and she agreed. Its been 3 months after the incidence, and my fiancee is asking to be friends with the guy again, claiming that she's not happy with my decision not to pick his call or chat with him. She said she's not use to doing that and that she will control the friendship. but I told her my decision still stands. I want to know if my decision is wrong and also to ask if its ideal to approve her friendship with the guy again.
Mature response please. Thank u all.

Tell her that Nigeria is not a part of India where polyandry practice (whereby a woman can concurrently marry more than one husband) is allowed.




She's "in love" with 2 men she doesn't know which one to date. Ask Tony Tetulla to complete the song for you.

The only mistake you made was going back to the relationship after you had called it quits. They'll now be more discreet and advanced in their relationship.
Why you still call her your fiance still baffles me. You don't marry someone you can't even trust at this preliminary level of relationship.
A girl that can not boldly tell another guy that she's engaged is still searching.
I will advice that you end it and start searching for a lady that is contented with you.

This happens when you dont make ur bae ur bestfriend

I tell people if you dating ur bestfrnd life becomes easier u communicate better u both wud share ideas better dan wen u just started datin nd now tryin to get to kno each oda in d realtionship den u get lost

But friendship before relationship is d best u wud av known each oda's flaws nd all wen u start datin u only put efforts to strengthen d friendship

marrying ur bestfrnd or frnd is d best

Dats why op's girl is so addicted to her male-friend sorry op

My brother maintain your stands or else you might later regret. Cuz that girl is suffering from indecision leading her to be confused. Shame on her!

Friendship ke? I can assure u that ur fiancee will still go back to him because there is connection between them, the best thing to do is to leave ur fiancee if not i foresee diaster awaiting to come

Bros hear me, she is not yet your wife, if you want to marry her, do so immediately but if you have doubts, then move on. She is very free to associate with others as long as she is still single.

the way sum guys mumu is jus so amazing..... see question wey Dis grown up man dey ask.... weda he should approve or not..... if u can't decide Dis small ish urself, it means u r nt ready to start a family... abeg grow up jare.... d question jus mak belle worry me....

valdes00:
the way sum guys mumu is jus so amazing..... see question wey Dis grown up man dey ask.... weda he should approve or not..... if u can't decide Dis small ish urself, it means u r nt ready to start a family... abeg grow up jare.... d question jus mak belle worry me....

calm down

amtaken:
Tell her that Nigeria is not a part of India where polyandry practice (whereby a woman can concurrently marry more than one husband) is allowed.




She's "in love" with 2 men she doesn't know which one to date. Ask Tony Tetulla to complete the song for you.

Miss lawyer ask him at the end of this will he walk the as with her at the end no matter what

do you really need a prophet to tell you the girl likes both of you?
i feel she likes the other guy more than you seef

Baba mi u made a mistake fo taking her back in d 1st place, nt too late tho, buh give her a chance to roll with d guy again @ ur own peril. shikenah

Oga will you move on already...Cant you read the handwriting boldly written on the wall If you marry that girl put O.Y.O for you

MzPecs:
Your decision wasn't wrong.

Let her choose between you or the other guy if she still want to keep that guy as friend.

Nonsense girl!

Sambori iyaf vexation sha...

If you're still sitting down, you're on a loooong thing. Handle your woman. If she's still interested in this guy after all the drama then you should see the writing on the wall. To marry nor be by force.

Just be a man for once.

Melahou:
she loves the guy and still wants you around.

i think there is something about the guy that attracts
her to him.

even with your decision for her not to see the guy
am sure she will still see the guy behind your back.

its a matter of time before she will let you go

OP- listen to this guy, he knows what he's saying, she don fall for the guy, no matter how u go do, infact chain her if u will, she'll still find a way to see him.
And you forgiving cheating is almost like encouraging it. Women don't cheat out of pure lust like men do. So cut your lost and start planning on ending it. Sorry bro but its the right thing to do.

CaroLyner:

calm down

so annoying....... he get sum kind question wey u no nid to ask ppl..... this question included....

Sm guys sha...once a cheat remains a cheat....

Na all these kind of girls dey turn good boys into bad guys! Op abeg free the chick!

I would have loved to say you made the wrong choice going back to her, but when ladies beg,its very hard to stand your ground, but the best thing is to try end the relationship in a discreet way, cos marrying her is a disaster standing on the queue, e must shift come front.

:DWhao! This is really interesting. Some harsh, plain, honest and true replies I've got here. The voice of men, sometimes is the voice of God. I really appreciate every1 of u . I've deduced all I need and this will really help in making my final decision. God bless u all.

some women think with dia breast !!








razi

valdes00:

so annoying....... he get sum kind question wey u no nid to ask ppl..... this question included....

hehe.i get what you mean.

Dunno why you have to approve and disapprove of who she is to make friends with. She is not a kid and you are not married to her yet.

If you can't trust your fiancee completely I don't see what you are doing in the relationship. So now that you have barred her from being friends with this guy, what about all the other male friends you don't know about. Will you keep policing her friendship with every one of her male friends? Absolute nonsense.

By using the word 'fiancee' I assume you guys are already thinking marriage and commitment. The fact is that your girl, who should be planning marriage with you was actually dating another man. That says a lot.

You need to ask yourself serious questions. What is it that you are not doing right that can make your fiancee go to the extent of double dating in this age when women are looking for men who are serious about settling down? Personally, I'd never take such a lady back. I can understand a girlfriend cheating, but a lady I have expressed my commitment to; nah.

In any case, If it turns out that the problem is not with you, but her; then trust me barring her from this guy will not really stop her from double dating again.
Since you have forgiven her, its either you trust her implicitly or you just move on.

dachaste:



Approve at ur own peril. Ain't it obvious she's into him?



If she insists on keeping in touch ask her to choose btw d two both of u. Lolz



D babe stingy gan. She wan keep 2 men for herself ni

imagine only her two guys when some people are looking for just one



OP in case she no gree leave the guy please look my way

CaroLyner:
hehe.i get what you mean.

tankx for ur understanding jawe..... o ga o

Dude u ain't a kid I tink u did nt nid a prophet 2 advice or tell u wat 2 do so man up Jere