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Its a complicated world I can never tell

ginawest:
she can do the opposite of all that and still not love you.

And no one will be at the loosing end.

If u dnt call........dere is no way we are even going to d next level. Flash as u want, i wnt call u.

# 7 is so so true.

I dey watch from under this udara tree

sinaj:
So many relationship expert in nl

And it might even baffles yhu 2 knw that most of dem don't have relationships that is even close 2 perfection... Lol..... Merry Christmas

What would we say of a lady that loves a guy, never demanding, supportive, understanding and really putting heads together for their tomorrow,always pleading her guy should pls not to break her heart,willing to know d guy's parent even willing to say hi on phn,but suddenly break his hrt without a warning light.

i'd like to say you can't just all b ryt or wrong with a view, it's just complicated atimes.

Hmmm,,,,women have been giving men headache since the time of methuselah

ginawest:
she can do the opposite of all that and still not love you.

could it be u ?

OP you are so on point. My ex exhibited all this traits but I was so sooo foolishly in lose. I see the reason why people say love is blind. Love is really blind in the sense that you will do stupid things and won't think twice. hian

buygala:
The heart of a woman, even all humans, is very unfathomable, indeterminate and uniquely configured

Sometimes the lady herself does the exact opposites of all the op has mentioned, thinking she 'loves' the guy...and then another dude comes into her life, who then makes her realize She has been shortchanging herself all along

Also, humans are genetically wired to react differently to complex feelings such as love.... While some unreservedly show their affection to the object of their love, some others just naturally lack that energy to act all lovey-dovey and stuff .... It isn't pride or selfishness... it's just who they are

Point I am trying to make is... People display 'love' in different manners.... The fact that John's girlfriend shows her love for him by talking with him all through the night on Mtn Extra-cool and getting all busybody and stuff about his family and business doesn't mean your own Juliet should do same... THERE ARE A MILLION AND ONE WAYS OF SHOWING AFFECTION.... PEEPS SHOULD LEARN TO UNDERSTAND THAT

Forget this long grammar. What the OP just said is the real true. For instance their threaten to break up at the slightest reason hurts the most. They feel as if they're doing u a favour. A lady that loves you will always call as much as you do and not only one sided. God luck to you if that's the kind of relationship you want. OP, you're correct guy. Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you but my Father Who is in Heaven. Merry Christmas to you, bro!

Grahamjnr:
Forget this long grammar. What the OP just said is the real true. For instance their threaten to break up at the slightest reason hurts the most. They feel as if they're doing u a favour. A lady that loves you will always call as much as you do and not only one sided. God luck to you if that's the kind of relationship you want. OP, you're correct guy. Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you but my Father Who is in Heaven. Merry Christmas to you, bro!

Hahaha...Merry Xmas to you too.

nairlanders, my case is different. My galfriend, keep telling me she doesn't know if she love me.

pablobellins:
nairlanders, my case is different.
My galfriend, keep telling me she doesn't know if she love me.

lol...that's not just Complicated BUT Undefined

Cutehector:
a girl who loves u wont break ur heart.. Trust me on that

. Things happen, Hector... Things happen. She may not have intended to really hurt him, but for some reasons, it happened.

bros thanks for these, u just correct... I think I need breakup after xmas

Scatterscatter:
Sorry to burst your bubbles... Anybody can break your heart, including your parents, siblings, pastor, wife, etc

woman rapper,...jumping over issue @hand

Then i think i have just missed my true love back in school because she prosses almost opposite of this number listed within, especially seen my parents in benin but i always resist her & she never ask me 4a damn,..i have lost everycontact of her due to my missed mobile,..

Make enough money more than your gal can spend and all those qualities will disappear from your face.

emusmith:
Qualities Of A Girl Who Never Truly Loved You.
Well, I did pick a lesson or two in my previous thread.
Life is a film; boys are predictable, girls are not. They say. How true is that?
That makes it difficult to really decipher the intention of a girl when she is playing the "I Love You" game. To many, it is.
Yes, back then, they used to be emotional whose love wasn't for sale. But in the 21st century: you'll agree with me that anything can be sold...to the Highest Bidder. Including their love!
Witnessed different situations and heard shocking things about this subject and I think can write on it and I will be @least, 85% correct.
How can you truly know a girl doesn't truly love you? Seven ways only...
1. She never calls you until she has a need.
Hmm, you have suddenly become 911. Who said it's an abomination to call a guy you care about? If she calls you only when she needs money, she is a gold-digger. Dump her! Simple! You're not CBN, are you? The NEWest strategy now is: she calls after many months and starts forming she cares with the mind to ask for help in two days time...Let the relationship be platonic or...FWB. (Your choice tho). But never be just a nice and generous friend EVEN when you know she doesn't care and you love direly. Health tip: Give yourself a break! Go elsewhere before you're shown out or have a heart attack!
2. She isn't interested in seeing your siblings.
It's natural, if she likes you she would not hesitate to want to meet your siblings or parents. If all she wants is you...hehehe, don't feel important. It's not good enough. Marriage transcends both of you. Reality exceed the couples. Some girls have already been trained to be rebellious to their in-laws- Watch out against such!
3. She threatens you with a breakup after each argument.
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Don't you think it's just a way she expresses her outburst. Love doesn't threaten. If she makes the mistake of saying it once or twice, it might just be anger. But, constantly, haba! Leave her. Another "club" is promising her luxurious and wonderful things, that's why she wants to leave your "club". That na breakup scheme.
4. She never talks about saving- no future with you..
Does she just spend and spend without warning you to cut on your spending habits? Some ladies are good at that. When she wants a particular shoe or bag, she doesn't mind you withdrawing your last dime. She doesn't see a future with you. Love plans and prepares. Leave her before you wreck.
5. She lacks initiative to doing things that really matter to you.
I do know that if you truly love someone, you'll be initiative to doing things for them. Mothers don't need a push to buy new clothes for their babies- Love at work. If she isn't initiative concerning your lil issues, it's a sign she is about some other guy. Don't be friend zoned, I beg you! She enters your house and after eating, can't wash her own plate. How can I explain this? Simple initiative.
6. She loved your material things MORE than your aspirations and goals.
Hey, if what matters to her the most is your money and not how you get it: she doesn't care then. Don't marry some one who has no pride at what you do. If she doesn't like your job but likes you, it can be managed BUT if she hates your vision/dreams, you can't be forever compatible. It's like a pastor marrying a witch. Hehe.
7. She lies to you to buy your trust.
I can beat my chest and say, 80% + of girls lie. It's awful how one intends to begin a relationship on lies. When a girl you know very starts lying to your face just to increase her "market value"...it's laughable you know. Come clean. Nobody is perfect. Let's be ourselves here. False identity is like 21st bras; they don't hold it up forever. It will soon collapse.
In addition: If she is manipulative, be careful. Eve extended the serpent's manipulation on Adam and see us today. Love doesn't manipulate. It might explain itself but never manipulate. The serpent is the most manipulative reptile. If she often seek to manipulate you(If you are a MAN sef, would she be doing that?), she doesn't really love you. She thinks she does. It's a selfish, conditional and controlling love.
Good Morning.

Always go for a girl that loves u, not the girl you love simple.

Kindly send mie ur account number.. I'll forward it to Sambo Dasuki... naija appreciate ur thinking ability n vision.

Oliviaarims:
. Things happen, Hector... Things happen. She may not have intended to really hurt him, but for some reasons, it happened.

its just a matter of choice. She chose to let it happen...

jhalaljnr:
Kindly send mie ur account number..
I'll forward it to Sambo Dasuki...
naija appreciate ur thinking ability n vision.

lol...

Snoolv360:
Make enough money more than your gal can spend and all those qualities will disappear from your face.

Money isn't everything, not in matters of the heart.

Op you must be talking from experience....coz u r so on point.
Na that lying part na im dey obvious pass(on both sides), when your partner don dey lie, 'B'eware(i.e be careful) when he/she con start to dey forget his/her lies, 'A'eware(i.e RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!)

Sadusky:
lol, which part of nsukka are you for

obukpa.. Do u knw dere? What abt u?

emusmith:
Qualities Of A Girl Who Never Truly Loved You.


Well, I did pick a lesson or two in my previous thread.

Life is a film; boys are predictable, girls are not. They say. How true is that?
That makes it difficult to really decipher the intention of a girl when she is playing the "I Love You" game. To many, it is.

Yes, back then, they used to be emotional whose love wasn't for sale. But in the 21st century: you'll agree with me that anything can be sold...to the Highest Bidder. Including their love!

Witnessed different situations and heard shocking things about this subject and I think can write on it and I will be @least, 85% correct.

How can you truly know a girl doesn't truly love you? Seven ways only...



1. She never calls you until she has a need.

Hmm, you have suddenly become 911. Who said it's an abomination to call a guy you care about? If she calls you only when she needs money, she is a gold-digger. Dump her! Simple! You're not CBN, are you? The NEWest strategy now is: she calls after many months and starts forming she cares with the mind to ask for help in two days time...Let the relationship be platonic or...FWB. (Your choice tho). But never be just a nice and generous friend EVEN when you know she doesn't care and you love direly. Health tip: Give yourself a break! Go elsewhere before you're shown out or have a heart attack!


2. She isn't interested in seeing your siblings.

It's natural, if she likes you she would not hesitate to want to meet your siblings or parents. If all she wants is you...hehehe, don't feel important. It's not good enough. Marriage transcends both of you. Reality exceed the couples. Some girls have already been trained to be rebellious to their in-laws- Watch out against such!


3. She threatens you with a breakup after each argument.


Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Don't you think it's just a way she expresses her outburst. Love doesn't threaten. If she makes the mistake of saying it once or twice, it might just be anger. But, constantly, haba! Leave her. Another "club" is promising her luxurious and wonderful things, that's why she wants to leave your "club". That na breakup scheme.


4. She never talks about saving- no future with you..

Does she just spend and spend without warning you to cut on your spending habits? Some ladies are good at that. When she wants a particular shoe or bag, she doesn't mind you withdrawing your last dime. She doesn't see a future with you. Love plans and prepares. Leave her before you wreck.


5. She lacks initiative to doing things that really matter to you.

I do know that if you truly love someone, you'll be initiative to doing things for them. Mothers don't need a push to buy new clothes for their babies- Love at work. If she isn't initiative concerning your lil issues, it's a sign she is about some other guy. Don't be friend zoned, I beg you! She enters your house and after eating, can't wash her own plate. How can I explain this? Simple initiative.


6. She loved your material things MORE than your aspirations and goals.


Hey, if what matters to her the most is your money and not how you get it: she doesn't care then. Don't marry some one who has no pride at what you do. If she doesn't like your job but likes you, it can be managed BUT if she hates your vision/dreams, you can't be forever compatible. It's like a pastor marrying a witch. Hehe.

7. She lies to you to buy your trust.

I can beat my chest and say, 80% + of girls lie. It's awful how one intends to begin a relationship on lies. When a girl you know very starts lying to your face just to increase her "market value"...it's laughable you know. Come clean. Nobody is perfect. Let's be ourselves here. False identity is like 21st bras; they don't hold it up forever. It will soon collapse.


In addition: If she is manipulative, be careful. Eve extended the serpent's manipulation on Adam and see us today. Love doesn't manipulate. It might explain itself but never manipulate. The serpent is the most manipulative reptile. If she often seek to manipulate you(If you are a MAN sef, would she be doing that?), she doesn't really love you. She thinks she does. It's a selfish, conditional and controlling love.

Good Morning.

Lol especially d no 1 have a girl like dat.. But I spoke sense into her and showed her d exit door because I don't tolerate such olosho attitude...

buygala:
The heart of a woman, even all humans, is very unfathomable, indeterminate and uniquely configured

Sometimes the lady herself does the exact opposites of all the op has mentioned, thinking she 'loves' the guy...and then another dude comes into her life, who then makes her realize She has been shortchanging herself all along

Also, humans are genetically wired to react differently to complex feelings such as love.... While some unreservedly show their affection to the object of their love, some others just naturally lack that energy to act all lovey-dovey and stuff .... It isn't pride or selfishness... it's just who they are

Point I am trying to make is... People display 'love' in different manners.... The fact that John's girlfriend shows her love for him by talking with him all through the night on Mtn Extra-cool and getting all busybody and stuff about his family and business doesn't mean your own Juliet should do same... THERE ARE A MILLION AND ONE WAYS OF SHOWING AFFECTION.... PEEPS SHOULD LEARN TO UNDERSTAND THAT

men your mind is deep in an unbelievably special way.I wish I could hire you to be my thought manager.

funnynation:
obukpa.. Do u knw dere? What abt u?

Aaaa, Obukpa is a popular place,, I stayed there once,,
Do you know Nru town?

funnynation:
obukpa.. Do u knw dere? What abt u?

Aaaa, Obukpa is a popular place,, I stayed there once,,
Do you know Nru town?

Sadusky:
Aaaa, Obukpa is a popular place,, I stayed there once,,
Do you know Nru town?

make we relate on watsapp