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You can't do this to your precious future. She lies? OK, find out more reasons why she refused to take you home. But if am to dwell on you post, I would make serious judgement to let her go. I mean, why would a lady form yet she is a mess. Why must you look good on the outside, and your inside is dirty. That's pretence and am very certain you can't live with that forever.

I see fire. Guy, can you see it too?

People rarely change (even after promising to change). So, if you can tolerate what you saw, go ahead and marry her. If you cannot, move on

cosmicrayboi:
sheey u don dey chop her food since? see ur head! and i sure say u like am.. u no dey go marry ha family, just d gal.. mayb wat u saw was der own definition to cleanliness, marry ha and teach her ur own way of cleanliness

Your statements make me think. Let me tell you something, if such a lady lives in that house and cannot put things right because say na family house, then she might do worse in your house, should she be ur wife. If her parents or her family is not clean, no one will scold her for being dirty. She has time for face and body makeup, she can even do make up for the food she gives the guy, yet lazy to do make for the kitchen stuffs.

I pity some people who have not been there before. Wise up and see the end from the beginning please.

First of all dis is a total lie... Ur story of d front door been locked n u taking d back door!! Of ur gf house for d first Tym. I don't believe dat... But my advice to someone who might face similar problem.. U can change her, ppl marry Ashawo n change dem to perfect house wife

Op u go like food o

rry807:
Dear Nairalanders,
I attached this picture so that others will understand my feelings because the other place i shared they said am not serious or just trying to frame her, there is a girl i have been dating before God and man she brings food for me at times and i eat but each time i request to visit her house she will refuse with silly excuse and God knows i really wanna marry her then as God may have it, I did some investigations and with help of God i met an old friend who knows her and family very well, so he took me to the girls house to see her family casually, the front door was locked so we passed through kitchen, my people what i saw made me speechless the whole house was so dirty from the kitchen to the parlor was all messed up, and this is a girl that made me believe she’s cool, make ups, claims her family is rich etc. Please what do I do?

ur stupid, is dat y u wld bring d pic to social media? u dnt love her joor

YourMain:
Oh my lord. That is disgusting.

So now make op com mary u abi

mostyg:
Why not? Because her family house is unkept does not mean she's dirty. I actually do not see that as a reason not to be married to someone. Everybody has his own dirty secret/weakness.

sure. ...but why should a lady allow her family house get that dirty??

The lady really package herself and you bought. We are in packaging millenium, meanwhile the white pap you see comes from black pot. If this is only thing but faithful to you, talk to her she would change. Don't jump from frying pan to fire while searching for a perfect wife. Her parent will do 40% and 60% is yours. I mean rest of her life after marriage is your responsibilities.

D truth is that we all have our individual foibles. I advise that u call her and discuss your displeasure over her reluctance to invite u to her house coupled with your discovery when u eventually found her place. Albeit hygiene is key to a healthy living in d home this development is not enough to call off ur relationship with her besides she might be ready to adjust if u respectfully correct her. And who says a husband must not contribute to domestic sanitation?

dolarland:

That got me laughing..... You people on NL no go kill person

Naommydammy:
Follow ur heart

Hashtag #oroagba

Hmmmm....u dey use style lie sha.....my cousin sent me ds same pix like 2weeks ago on whatsapp...with a different story line but bros why na? U wan b Lai Mohammed ni?

rry807:
Dear Nairalanders,
I attached this picture so that others will understand my feelings because the other place i shared they said am not serious or just trying to frame her, there is a girl i have been dating before God and man she brings food for me at times and i eat but each time i request to visit her house she will refuse with silly excuse and God knows i really wanna marry her then as God may have it, I did some investigations and with help of God i met an old friend who knows her and family very well, so he took me to the girls house to see her family casually, the front door was locked so we passed through kitchen, my people what i saw made me speechless the whole house was so dirty from the kitchen to the parlor was all messed up, and this is a girl that made me believe she’s cool, make ups, claims her family is rich etc. Please what do I do?

Their is more to marriage and love than this trace deficiencies listed. You abused her privacy by going inside her kitchen taking pictures without her consent. How can you judge her with that when the home belongs to her parents. Better start looking for a woman with a good heart. With that you can build a good home. Teach and turn her to Mrs squeaky if you so wish and be happy too. You can trade off all these qualities you are so keen to have now and every other things for a woman with a good heart and care.

You ate the food and did not suffer from any form of food poisoning?
Don't worry, your system is now immuned to all germs!!!
Stay there and keep enjoying the toi toi !!!

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If you haven't shown her the picture or talked to her about it, why report it here?

Best point. Everything is now social network gist. We cannot even talk to each other one on one again. I think it is unfair and gossip to share it with strangers.

dolarland:

sinaj:
Lord protect you frm Karishikas

Sinaj u get mouth I swear

Being poor should not be a reason to be dirty

johnsonjosbles:
So now make op com mary u abi

Ya.

So you went to her house the second time to take picture evidence right. Gerara here shit!

mostyg:
Why not? Because her family house is unkept does not mean she's dirty. I actually do not see that as a reason not to be married to someone. Everybody has his own dirty secret/weakness.

Baba, you are wrong! I hope we're looking at the same pic.
If she can live like that in her family house, then that is exactly what her husband's house will turn into when she's married. You can take a pig out of dirt, but you can't take the dirt mentality out of the pig.

eroticecstasy:
please what is "mad cow disease"?

Ask google.com

I have seen the picture on Facebook. please next time post something real.....

rry807:
Dear Nairalanders,
I attached this picture so that others will understand my feelings because the other place i shared they said am not serious or just trying to frame her, there is a girl i have been dating before God and man she brings food for me at times and i eat but each time i request to visit her house she will refuse with silly excuse and God knows i really wanna marry her then as God may have it, I did some investigations and with help of God i met an old friend who knows her and family very well, so he took me to the girls house to see her family casually, the front door was locked so we passed through kitchen, my people what i saw made me speechless the whole house was so dirty from the kitchen to the parlor was all messed up, and this is a girl that made me believe she’s cool, make ups, claims her family is rich etc. Please what do I do?

dolarland:

ask am again did he do that after u find out were the food u eat come from

For me, deciding against marrying a girl because she is alleged to be dirty is totally lame and unguided, its too secular and detrimental. As a spiritual being, i am sure the choice of who to marry shdnt be logical, let God guide you.
Applying logic doesnt work, thinking someone is dirty, short or dark is technical. What someone looks like today has no bearing on they will eventually become. What if it was you who is dirty, do you think you are so perfect that there are no snag that could make a girl turn you down as well?
The societal system scripted us to think and act judgementally, hence we naturally reject whatever doesnt comform to certain human standards.
In serious relationships and marriages, we must learn to manage weaknessess and differences
Bro, i must tell you, going through a family kitchen and taking pictures of their dirtiness then posting it on social media is a deep weakness

YourMain:
Ya.

Op go still com tell us here sey you do make up too much,,

Elparaiso:
If he would clean up after her sha

you are still the same even though change has come

Are you after their wealth or you genuinely love her for marriage.
Check your mind

CALL HER, SIT HER DOWN, TELL HER WHAT U DID, WHAT U SAW, WHAT U TOT ABT WHAT U SAW, ASK HER Y SHE WOULD WANT U TO CONTINUE WITH THE AFFAIR, DO THIS LIKE A MAN. DO NOT USE THIS AS A YARDSTICK TO CALL HER OFF. YOU MAY DISCOVER OTHERWISE.
THERE ARE NO 100% WOMAN, THEY ALL HAVE THEIR FLAW, THIS ONE CAN BE CORRECTED, THEN COUNT YOURSELF LUCKY!