Introduction
Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. A companion paper, based upon scientific studies, shows that this idea is false. Many Christians seem to have bought into the secular idea that as long as one is "in love" it doesn't matter if couples live together (and engage in premarital sex). The problem is that many times "love" fails, and Christians end up moving from one relationship to another. This paper examines what the Bible says about living together before marriage, for those who claim to be Christians.


Biblical love isn't a feeling
Most people think that love is that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year. Most couples decide to live together during this period of time when their decisions are often based upon emotions and passions. According to the Bible love "rejoices with the truth... always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... never fails". One will notice from this description that love isn't what you get from someone, it is something you give to someone. The Bible confidently says that love never fails, because as long as these things are done, love cannot fail. However, if we are interested in getting rather than giving, then selfishness always succeeds in shipwrecking a relationship.


Sexual relationships and the Bible
The doctrine of keeping sexual relationships within the bounds of marriage is so important that it is spelled out in the second chapter of the first book of the Bible (Genesis 2). The marriage covenant is spelled out in the original narrative that describes the meeting of the first man and first woman:

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.


Old Testament laws about sex
The Bible has a lot of bad things to say about being a harlot. In fact, it was so frowned upon in Jewish society that, among all the laws in the Old Testament, spiritual unfaithfulness (idolatry) is compared to harlotry. These days, people tend to think of harlots as those who engage in multiple sexual relationships. However, the Old Testament indicates that engaging in even one sexual relationship before marriage (i.e., not being a virgin) makes one a harlot. Engaging in consensual sexual relations with a married person was a capital offense, and those who were found guilty (both the male and female) were executed. Consensual sexual relations between an unmarried man and unmarried woman resulted in the man being fined and required to marry the woman without the possibility of any future divorce. Essentially, there was no premarital sex, since once you were caught you were married.


New Testament laws about sex
The New Testament confirms the laws of the Old Testament. Specifically, adultery is condemned, even including mental adultery, incest, and homosexuality. Other sexual sins, including premarital sex, are condemned through a couple Greek words (the original language of the New Testament) that can refer to a number of sexual sins, depending upon context. These words are porneia and pornos, from which the English word "pornography" is derived. English Bibles will translate these words different ways, so it is important to know some of the ways in which the words are translated. For example, the New American Standard translates the words as "fornication" (e.g., premarital sexual relations) and sometimes as "immoral persons," which seems to be some kind of generic immorality, although it specifically refers to sexual immorality. Other English words used to describe premarital sex include "unchastity." The fact that these words refer to premarital sexual relations can be seen in the Pharisees answer to Jesus, where they insinuated that He was born of fornication. The severity of this kind of sin can be seen in the descriptions of what will happen to people who practice sexual immorality at the judgment.

The New Testament directly states that sexual activity is to be restricted to marriage in the book of Hebrews, where it condemns both adultery (engaging in sexual relations with a non-spouse while married) and fornication (engaging in sexual relations before marriage):

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Conclusion
Premarital sexual relationships are strongly condemned in both the Old Testament and New Testament of the Bible. Therefore, Christians who engage in premarital sex are breaking God's laws and are not following Jesus Christ. Under such practices, God is not honored, and both yours and your partner's walk with Christ is hampered. In addition, one's witness for Jesus is nullified, since even non-believers know that living together before marriage is not what a Christian should do. If you are involved in this kind of relationship, you need to repent and start living according to biblical standards. It is not okay for a Christian to keep living a sinful lifestyle, including sexual intimacy before marriage.

God bless you

cc; lalasticlala

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winner01:
Introduction
Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. A companion paper, based upon scientific studies, shows that this idea is false. Many Christians seem to have bought into the secular idea that as long as one is "in love" it doesn't matter if couples live together (and engage in premarital sex). The problem is that many times "love" fails, and Christians end up moving from one relationship to another. This paper examines what the Bible says about living together before marriage, for those who claim to be Christians.


Biblical love isn't a feeling
Most people think that love is that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year. Most couples decide to live together during this period of time when their decisions are often based upon emotions and passions. According to the Bible love "rejoices with the truth... always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... never fails". One will notice from this description that love isn't what you get from someone, it is something you give to someone. The Bible confidently says that love never fails, because as long as these things are done, love cannot fail. However, if we are interested in getting rather than giving, then selfishness always succeeds in shipwrecking a relationship.


Sexual relationships and the Bible
The doctrine of keeping sexual relationships within the bounds of marriage is so important that it is spelled out in the second chapter of the first book of the Bible (Genesis 2). The marriage covenant is spelled out in the original narrative that describes the meeting of the first man and first woman:

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.


Old Testament laws about sex
The Bible has a lot of bad things to say about being a harlot. In fact, it was so frowned upon in Jewish society that, among all the laws in the Old Testament, spiritual unfaithfulness (idolatry) is compared to harlotry. These days, people tend to think of harlots as those who engage in multiple sexual relationships. However, the Old Testament indicates that engaging in even one sexual relationship before marriage (i.e., not being a virgin) makes one a harlot. Engaging in consensual sexual relations with a married person was a capital offense, and those who were found guilty (both the male and female) were executed. Consensual sexual relations between an unmarried man and unmarried woman resulted in the man being fined and required to marry the woman without the possibility of any future divorce. Essentially, there was no premarital sex, since once you were caught you were married.


New Testament laws about sex
The New Testament confirms the laws of the Old Testament. Specifically, adultery is condemned, even including mental adultery, incest, and homosexuality. Other sexual sins, including premarital sex, are condemned through a couple Greek words (the original language of the New Testament) that can refer to a number of sexual sins, depending upon context. These words are porneia and pornos, from which the English word "pornography" is derived. English Bibles will translate these words different ways, so it is important to know some of the ways in which the words are translated. For example, the New American Standard translates the words as "fornication" (e.g., premarital sexual relations) and sometimes as "immoral persons," which seems to be some kind of generic immorality, although it specifically refers to sexual immorality. Other English words used to describe premarital sex include "unchastity." The fact that these words refer to premarital sexual relations can be seen in the Pharisees answer to Jesus, where they insinuated that He was born of fornication. The severity of this kind of sin can be seen in the descriptions of what will happen to people who practice sexual immorality at the judgment.

The New Testament directly states that sexual activity is to be restricted to marriage in the book of Hebrews, where it condemns both adultery (engaging in sexual relations with a non-spouse while married) and fornication (engaging in sexual relations before marriage):

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Conclusion
Premarital sexual relationships are strongly condemned in both the Old Testament and New Testament of the Bible. Therefore, Christians who engage in premarital sex are breaking God's laws and are not following Jesus Christ. Under such practices, God is not honored, and both yours and your partner's walk with Christ is hampered. In addition, one's witness for Jesus is nullified, since even non-believers know that living together before marriage is not what a Christian should do. If you are involved in this kind of relationship, you need to repent and start living according to biblical standards. It is not okay for a Christian to keep living a sinful lifestyle, including sexual intimacy before marriage.

God bless you

cc; lalasticlala

This is great bro

Ok all well and good. But what if after abstaining from sexual relations with your partner and you end up with this eventually. What does one do then? Back out of the marriage or persevere in it? Sexual compatibility is a major bedrock of any marriage. If this aspect is lacking in any guise then one can rest assured that marriage is as good as dead

Cold, make we share D chill Orijin below U re so on point.

Back to Topic = Our Many Christians are waiting now? Its a choice as an Ex-Christian I dont joke with it @ all. This Sex of a thing get advantages abeg. Mean while if d absent is base on another thing is different. E.g If am dating a V and she said NO sex till wedding night, I will agree. Why? Because i do respect people Opinion. Its her choice i cant force her. But base on Christianity lailai. According to the Story Book Mary nah V so den most be V abi? Bros Joseph neva touch Aunty Mary before Holy Spirit sama aunty Belle. *wink* Holy spirit self soji gan o. I once made up my mind no sex till wedding as d tin go eh. Had my first sex @ 22 years. Not dat no Pu**y its a choice. So No sex base on Opinion I agree. But cos One Jew/Hebrew Story Book condem it. Nah Big Damn.


Another Insights from my Boss
uote author=johnydon22 post=41364025]Isn't it remarkable how many have been convinced that there is a powerful humanoid who created the universe and everything in it and then comes to planet earth only to get concerned over who haves sex or not..

It is a huge form of childishness and misplaced priority... Vying to burn people over what they do with themselves that is of no concern to any other.

Such nonsensical reason given by men in order to add weight to their own idea of sexuality and so heaps a baseless restrictions on such actions is ridiculous..

Personally to me i don't see how two consenting adults choosing to have fun with themselves without hurting anybody is doing something abominable..

Religions may teach human sexuality as sinful that doesn't mean its bad or will it ever... it is part of us and it is a beautiful part of us...

I see nothing wrong in consenting adults agreeing to have sex... [/quote]

What should I say to confuse u again I thought I have tould you that. function is for childern having premarital sex before , while adluttry is for the adult having premarital sex before marriage. Shikina.

Ok

The question is straight-foward and the answer is simple; Yes, its ok. Thanks

Shout out to d mod that banned me......lol quite funny

please save your energy all these end time boys won't listen

Test run b4 purchase.

Space for sell

OK

Let me observe the replies

It is Haram naa..

obejoseph10:
Shout out to d mod that banned me......lol quite funny

MOD or MAD...Lol

Nicepoker:
Test run b4 purchase.

ok
And after "test-running" for months and probably yrs and "it" is found unsuitable, u jump on the next. And so the vicious cycle. "Workability" is relative and can be worked on. Sex before marriage is a sin before God! I'm talking about Christians tho, not church goers.

I like d second paragraph a lot! Love is not jus a feeling.

Sometimes it is absolutely not worth it commenting on a thread like this.

tosyne2much:
We all know that sex before marriage is a violation of Religious Law but may God forgive us all sha

us all? Speak for urself bro

sanc2s:
The question is straight-foward and the answer is simple; Yes, its ok. Thanks

really?

We all know deep down in us, it's wrong. May God help us and also forgive us.

Yes it is bad from bible perspective but most marriage problems r mostly caused by sex either one person is weak or d oda person has too much strength... we have to try dis tins out and see who is compatible with us before marriage cos dat bible is also against divorce. OP can u live with a sexually weak person all d days of ur life?

tosyne2much:
We all know that sex before marriage is a violation of Religious Law but may God forgive us all sha

Which religious law? Do you know there are some religion that made emphasis to sex whether you have it pre marital or post marital?

Its funny what we have become as a people.
A highly promiscuous man hoping that once he gets married, infidelity will cease.
Or a lady who sleeps with several men at will expecting to be satisfied by just one man after marriage.
And we are unrepentant about this


The world is gradually going over to the dark side, insanity is fast becoming legal all over the world. People now want to do things the way they like with no one to call them to order. That pretty explains the reason for some of the negative comments above.

We keep stressing how corrupt our leaders are, but this generation is far worse.
A generation that endorses evil without remorse, a generation where bad is said to be another word for good, a generation that rejects accountability to God, a generation that tries to modify the principles of God, a generation that rationalizes evil, a seriously reckless generation.
I weep for our children.

Adeevah:
MOD or MAD...Lol

. Lol MAD keh

You're right OP

The Love of God constrains us.

MsGlobalwonder:
us all? Speak for urself bro

I guess you have comprehension problem

joseph1832:
Which religious law? Do you know there are some religion that made emphasis to sex whether you have it pre marital or post marital?

Wooooow ?


Seriously?