Mindfulness:


desire

Well, I don't know why desire something I don't need, especially in this context.

God bless you!

KanwuliaJara:

Did the OP see her looking for a husband? This na 2016 almost o. Husband nor dey reign again. That na 'unto OLD SKOOL'! Shioooooor!!!!

lol.

freecocoa:
Well, I don't know why desire something I don't need, especially in this context.

Because neediness is a prerequisite to problems in a relationship; different topic though.

Now, talking about divorce, in most African divorce cases, the man lives the woman and the woman is left miserable, because all she was designed to be was a wife, and not an individual with personal goals. If African women were taught to be achievers as much as they were groomed to be wives, they would have been more self-dependent in the face of divorce. This infact rubs off on the children, because in most cases the children are left with the struggling mother who can't take proper care of them without a man. Funmilayo Alakija is a classic example... She is the richest black woman on earth. Her husband left her, and her 4 male sons. Somehow she strived hard enough to create her own heaven and her children to live in. If she was just a good wife, and not an achiever, where would she and her 4 children be today?

Mindfulness:


Does this article say "Women value your careers more than your family"?



This way of thinking is the reason why we need more articles like this. People like you think that all unmarried ladies who have flourishing careers cry themselves to sleep at night while all married ladies sparkle happiness.

There are career women who enjoy their lives very much without crying themselves to sleep. They take pride in their achievements. They travel the world. They buy expensive designer clothes and the best cosmetics the market has to offer. They get the best facial treatments, manicure and pedicure and a massage twice a week. They have fancy houses and people who clean their houses. They look healthy and younger than they actually are. They dine in the best restaurants where waiters are eager to please them and fulfill their wishes.


But yeah, they will definitely change their position with a mother of five whose husband can barely feed them just for the sake of having a man.

buhahahahaha @ bolded. If only money could buy true happiness. Don't be deceived by their glittering appearances and lifestyles, if some utter or confess their innermost thoughts with you, then you will know that the rich also cry. Yes the article says, girls should act like kings not queens

bennyrazz:
buhahahahaha @ bolded. If only money could buy true happiness. Don't be deceived by their glittering appearances and lifestyles, if some utter or confess their innermost thoughts with you, then you will know that the rich also cry. Yes the article says, girls should act like kings not queens

I am sure they confided in you and told you how money does not buy happiness and how lonely all of them feel.

I am also sure a relationship / marriage is a guarantee to happiness.

Mindfulness:


I am sure they confided in you and told you how money does not buy happiness and how lonely all of them feel.

I am also sure a relationship / marriage is a guarantee to happiness.

the only thing that guarantees happiness in life is "fulfilment". If you are not fulfilled in marriage, career, education, how can you be happy? fulfilment is like that thirst you need satisfy.

bennyrazz:
the only thing that guarantees happiness in life is "fulfilment". If you are not fulfilled in marriage, career, education, how can you be happy? fulfilment is like that thirst you need satisfy.

Different people find fulfillment in different things and an unmarried woman can feel happier than a married woman and vice versa.
It is very individual.

KanwuliaJara:


Awwwwwww
Sweet.
Thanks.
But I did not go anywhia o.
Just taking time to h-enjoy life offline

pls come back...we missed ur presence

Mindfulness:


Different people find fulfillment in different things and an unmarried woman can feel happier than a married woman and vice versa.
It is very individual.

life is hinged on destiny. Fulfilling your destiny is very tantamount

bennyrazz:


life is hinged on destiny. Fulfilling your destiny is very tantamount

If there was a destiny, I would not have to fulfill it as it would fulfill itself. I don't believe in the concept of a destiny.

Mindfulness:


If there was a destiny, I would not have to fulfill it as it would fulfill itself. I don't believe in the concept of a destiny.

Do you believe that there is a God?

bennyrazz:
Do you believe that there is a God?

YES! I am convinced that there is a God.

What about you?

Mindfulness:

YES! I am convinced that there is a God.
What about you?

who convinced you?

bennyrazz:
who convinced you?

Life.

What about you? Do you believe?

Mindfulness:


Life.

What about you? Do you believe?

Psalm 14:1 it is only a fool that will say in his heart that there is no God.

Have had encounters, i've seen things, I've experienced things.

Do you believe that Jesus Christ came to the world to die for the sins of mankind to reconcile us back to God?

bennyrazz:


Psalm 14:1 it is only a fool that will say in his heart that there is no God.

Have had encounters, i've seen things, I've experienced things.

Do you believe that Jesus Christ came to the world to die for the sins of mankind to reconcile us back to God?

Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. I will have to think it through.

lilmax:
i give up

But he's right

bennyrazz:


life is hinged on destiny. Fulfilling your destiny is very tantamount

Destiny Who's that?

CircleOfWilis:
pls come back...we missed ur presence

Make I finish holiday season.
Too much going on offline.

bennyrazz:


If only money could buy true happiness.

Sorry to butt in, but marriage does not guarantee happiness either.

I seem to know a lot of women who are miserable in their marriages, and barely tolerating it.
Most stay in the marriage just to avoid the ruckus and stigma a divorce would have caused, and these are career women who are not financially dependent on their spouses.

Happiness is a gift you should give yourself, and if you wait for anyone to do that for you, then you're on a long thing.
That's why you should have a life, and love yourself first. Do things that would make you a better person, because your family and others around you will enjoy the better improved you.

Mindfulness:


Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. I will have to think it through.

really? thinking it through? you are not a christian?

eyinjuege:


Sorry to butt in,

Happiness is a gift you should first give yourself and if you wait for anyone to do that for you, then you're on a long thing.
That's why you should have a life, and love yourself first. Do things that would make you a better person, because your family and others around you will enjoy the better improved you.

I actually came back to read this part of your post. And I think, this is the missing ingredient most people lack in relationships. If you don't love yourself, you can't love others, if you don't have it, you can't give it. if you are not happy, you can't radiate happiness. cheers

The angry/bitter men association of nl chapter have arrived

So what is wrong in women achieving things of their OWN before marriage

But it must be all about marriage. Chaiii

Even some of the crack heads and Dustbin pushers are still cooling their heels in nl prison for daring me


Ahhenn so as I was saying

bennyrazz:


I actually came back to read this part of your post. And I think, this is the missing ingredient most people lack in relationships. If you don't love yourself, you can't love others, if you don't have it, you can't give it. if you are not happy, you can't radiate happiness. cheers

now you're talking like a real man

SAMBARRY:
now you're talking like a real man

cheers

bennyrazz:


cheers

same to you

Mindfulness:


Does this article say "Women value your careers more than your family"?



This way of thinking is the reason why we need more articles like this. People like you think that all unmarried ladies who have flourishing careers cry themselves to sleep at night while all married ladies sparkle happiness.

There are career women who enjoy their lives very much without crying themselves to sleep. They take pride in their achievements. They travel the world. They buy expensive designer clothes and the best cosmetics the market has to offer. They get the best facial treatments, manicure and pedicure and a massage twice a week. They have fancy houses and people who clean their houses. They look healthy and younger than they actually are. They dine in the best restaurants where waiters are eager to please them and fulfill their wishes.

But yeah, they will definitely change their position with a mother of five whose husband can barely feed them just for the sake of having a man.

Let me tell you something my brother no matter how successful a woman is in life she still desires a man to be by her side whether they are married or have chosen to just partners for legal reasons don't let them deceive you with I am single and loving it o they may not want to be poor as you described but I tell you whenever they see married women their is still a pang of envy

@op you described marriage like it's a cage and were a womans goals are limited once she gets married. Marriage is very important and when it is blissful both of you can achieve your goals together have you seen Mrs alakija. Folorunsho marriage wasn't a limitation at all. It's about mindset
You can't eat your cake and have it if any woman would ask me whether to make sacrifices between her career and her children I would choose children cause when you raise a child well you are raising a whole lineage well

UIA04:

Let me tell you something my brother no matter how successful a woman is in life she still desires a man to be by her side whether they are married or have chosen to just partners for legal reasons don't let them deceive you with I am single and loving it o they may not want to be poor as you described but I tell you whenever they see married women their is still a pang of envy

There are unmarried women who are much happier than some married women.

As eyinjuege has said "Happiness is a gift you should first give yourself and if you wait for anyone to do that for you, then you're on a long thing.".

bennyrazz:
really? thinking it through? you are not a christian?

No, I am not!