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Oliviaarims:
This notion seems to be trending these days. But pls, before anyone goes about saying it's okay for a woman to make the first move, then perhaps they should also elaborate on what circumstances and the manner in which it should be done. So many girls are being misled already.. And making complete fools of themselves. I witnessed one such event yesterday and I just couldn't help laughing. This girl must have been feeling like a real 21st century chic when she even contemplated making the move. But with the way things turned out, I can bet on my two Di'ja-like-boobs that she's so never going to try that again. Heck, that dude was mean!


Back to my topic. I really don't get why a girl should be encouraged to make the first move. Look at it this way. Wooing a woman is sth that comes very natural to men. It's what they do. It's what they've always done right from time, what reason then has a guy not to make a move on the girl he likes? So this boy and girl know themselves, perhaps not as friends or anything serious, but each knows about the existence of the other. They are perhaps in the same location.. Work in the same place, live in the same neighborhood, attend the same Uni;So, surely they get to see each other from time to time. Why then should it be the girl making a move since she's interested in him? Hasn't he seen her before? If actually he had any interest whatsoever, he'd make the first move. It shouldn't be an issue at all. Girls are used to being wooed.

But he doesn't and some girl would think it's okay for her to make the first move. Trust me, chances are high that he won't take u seriously if ever u should go into a relationship. He'd simply see the whole thing as him doing u a favour by dating u and perhaps getting an advantage for himself if he succeeds in sleeping with you . I can't even imagine how u'd feel comfortable being in that relationship. He's most likely always going to be eager to show u the door, because after all, u made the first move on him, when he was just on his own doing his thing. It's just like reversing roles entirely. And IMO, it shows desperation.

And I also thought guys used to enjoy the chase. They want girls to be the ones chasing them now? Lol.

Pls, giving the green light and not playing too hard to get is enough. A man's supposed to know what to do when he sees the green light. If he doesn't, well, that's sad. It simply implies that there are so many things about women he isn't sensitive to.

Call me old-fashioned. I like being old-fashioned if this is what being old fashioned is all about.

Ruuhh:
some girls greenlight be like "come make I use you shine", they act receptive but try talking you get lost n confused,so annoying

KingEbukasBlog:
Letting a woman woo you is not cool or romantic its just dumb and an act of desperation

Oliviaarims:
This notion seems to be trending these days. But pls, before anyone goes about saying it's okay for a woman to make the first move, then perhaps they should also elaborate on what circumstances and the manner in which it should be done. So many girls are being misled already.. And making complete fools of themselves. I witnessed one such event yesterday and I just couldn't help laughing. This girl must have been feeling like a real 21st century chic when she even contemplated making the move. But with the way things turned out, I can bet on my two Di'ja-like-boobs that she's so never going to try that again. Heck, that dude was mean!


Back to my topic. I really don't get why a girl should be encouraged to make the first move. Look at it this way. Wooing a woman is sth that comes very natural to men. It's what they do. It's what they've always done right from time, what reason then has a guy not to make a move on the girl he likes? So this boy and girl know themselves, perhaps not as friends or anything serious, but each knows about the existence of the other. They are perhaps in the same location.. Work in the same place, live in the same neighborhood, attend the same Uni;So, surely they get to see each other from time to time. Why then should it be the girl making a move since she's interested in him? Hasn't he seen her before? If actually he had any interest whatsoever, he'd make the first move. It shouldn't be an issue at all. Girls are used to being wooed.

But he doesn't and some girl would think it's okay for her to make the first move. Trust me, chances are high that he won't take u seriously if ever u should go into a relationship. He'd simply see the whole thing as him doing u a favour by dating u and perhaps getting an advantage for himself if he succeeds in sleeping with you . I can't even imagine how u'd feel comfortable being in that relationship. He's most likely always going to be eager to show u the door, because after all, u made the first move on him, when he was just on his own doing his thing. It's just like reversing roles entirely. And IMO, it shows desperation.

And I also thought guys used to enjoy the chase. They want girls to be the ones chasing them now? Lol.

Pls, giving the green light and not playing too hard to get is enough. A man's supposed to know what to do when he sees the green light. If he doesn't, well, that's sad. It simply implies that there are so many things about women he isn't sensitive to.

Call me old-fashioned. I like being old-fashioned if this is what being old fashioned is all about.

Crex007:
No b when una gv us green light....we make move....den green light go suddenly turn to red ligt

Oliviaarims:
This notion seems to be trending these days. But pls, before anyone goes about saying it's okay for a woman to make the first move, then perhaps they should also elaborate on what circumstances and the manner in which it should be done. So many girls are being misled already.. And making complete fools of themselves. I witnessed one such event yesterday and I just couldn't help laughing. This girl must have been feeling like a real 21st century chic when she even contemplated making the move. But with the way things turned out, I can bet on my two Di'ja-like-boobs that she's so never going to try that again. Heck, that dude was mean!


Back to my topic. I really don't get why a girl should be encouraged to make the first move. Look at it this way. Wooing a woman is sth that comes very natural to men. It's what they do. It's what they've always done right from time, what reason then has a guy not to make a move on the girl he likes? So this boy and girl know themselves, perhaps not as friends or anything serious, but each knows about the existence of the other. They are perhaps in the same location.. Work in the same place, live in the same neighborhood, attend the same Uni;So, surely they get to see each other from time to time. Why then should it be the girl making a move since she's interested in him? Hasn't he seen her before? If actually he had any interest whatsoever, he'd make the first move. It shouldn't be an issue at all. Girls are used to being wooed.

But he doesn't and some girl would think it's okay for her to make the first move. Trust me, chances are high that he won't take u seriously if ever u should go into a relationship. He'd simply see the whole thing as him doing u a favour by dating u and perhaps getting an advantage for himself if he succeeds in sleeping with you . I can't even imagine how u'd feel comfortable being in that relationship. He's most likely always going to be eager to show u the door, because after all, u made the first move on him, when he was just on his own doing his thing. It's just like reversing roles entirely. And IMO, it shows desperation.

And I also thought guys used to enjoy the chase. They want girls to be the ones chasing them now? Lol.

Pls, giving the green light and not playing too hard to get is enough. A man's supposed to know what to do when he sees the green light. If he doesn't, well, that's sad. It simply implies that there are so many things about women he isn't sensitive to.

Call me old-fashioned. I like being old-fashioned if this is what being old fashioned is all about.

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!making sence thou

wristbangle:
When a lady makes the first move, she suppose to be diplomatic in her approach and such move can be approved when she and the guy have known for long albeit him been a dude who is too shy to express his feeling.

Perhaps maybe the lady you are talking about oliviaarims was too forward in her approach and also dressed seductively. There are ways to make your move on a guy to make him come of his shell of shyness and if despite your move he is still not proffering his love to you, just assume he is not in love with you.

49cents:
you must be taurus

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!

Toks2008:
If wooing a guy is the first move the op is talking about then that is a big NO. I dont advice any African lady to do that cos its not in our culture but as i wrote before there are subtle signs a lady can show which is never the same as outrightly wooing a guy.

That is called GREEN LIGHT.

Movingcoil:
must you touch that car?

oglalasioux:
It's true we all want to be civilized but it's not ok for a woman to make the first move. Pride is embedded in the male genome and that's why he likes hunting. The joy of the kill is in the chase.

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!

oseod:
Lol.....so you know how it feels like.?

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!

Toks2008:
If wooing a guy is the first move the op is talking about then that is a big NO. I dont advice any African lady to do that cos its not in our culture but as i wrote before there are subtle signs a lady can show which is never the same as outrightly wooing a guy.

That is called GREEN LIGHT.

Oliviaarims:
This notion seems to be trending these days. But pls, before anyone goes about saying it's okay for a woman to make the first move, then perhaps they should also elaborate on what circumstances and the manner in which it should be done. So many girls are being misled already.. And making complete fools of themselves. I witnessed one such event yesterday and I just couldn't help laughing. This girl must have been feeling like a real 21st century chic when she even contemplated making the move. But with the way things turned out, I can bet on my two Di'ja-like-boobs that she's so never going to try that again. Heck, that dude was mean!


Back to my topic. I really don't get why a girl should be encouraged to make the first move. Look at it this way. Wooing a woman is sth that comes very natural to men. It's what they do. It's what they've always done right from time, what reason then has a guy not to make a move on the girl he likes? So this boy and girl know themselves, perhaps not as friends or anything serious, but each knows about the existence of the other. They are perhaps in the same location.. Work in the same place, live in the same neighborhood, attend the same Uni;So, surely they get to see each other from time to time. Why then should it be the girl making a move since she's interested in him? Hasn't he seen her before? If actually he had any interest whatsoever, he'd make the first move. It shouldn't be an issue at all. Girls are used to being wooed.

But he doesn't and some girl would think it's okay for her to make the first move. Trust me, chances are high that he won't take u seriously if ever u should go into a relationship. He'd simply see the whole thing as him doing u a favour by dating u and perhaps getting an advantage for himself if he succeeds in sleeping with you . I can't even imagine how u'd feel comfortable being in that relationship. He's most likely always going to be eager to show u the door, because after all, u made the first move on him, when he was just on his own doing his thing. It's just like reversing roles entirely. And IMO, it shows desperation.

And I also thought guys used to enjoy the chase. They want girls to be the ones chasing them now? Lol.

Pls, giving the green light and not playing too hard to get is enough. A man's supposed to know what to do when he sees the green light. If he doesn't, well, that's sad. It simply implies that there are so many things about women he isn't sensitive to.

Call me old-fashioned. I like being old-fashioned if this is what being old fashioned is all about.

Love Machine:
And when he react.to the green light by wooing you,you will start forming.I have reacted to this green thin to girls several times but these bitches started forming at me.When i call she doesn't pick.When i send text she never reply.This was a girl that would laugh at my dry jokes.This was a girl that love to be around where i am.Immediately I start showing interest she start forming.I just withdraw sharperly.

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely (especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

Love Machine:
And when he react.to the green light by wooing you,you will start forming.I have reacted to this green thin to girls several times but these bitches started forming at me.When i call she doesn't pick.When i send text she never reply.This was a girl that would laugh at my dry jokes.This was a girl that love to be around where i am.Immediately I start showing interest she start forming.I just withdraw sharperly.

khalhokage:
Everybody talking about greenlight, person like me wey dey color blind, you go just dey one corner dey pine away in greenlighted lust while me I go dey toast one babe for the other side wey go dey feel like celebrity.

greenlight ko turquoise light ni

akachidi:
It works differently for every body,and I don't think it really matters who makes the move wether in wooing or in bed.

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!

[color=#1980BC]Look at all these mumu girls that cannot handle rejection.

So for the fact that you give a guy green light then it's now compulsory for him to look your way? For fùcks sake a guy may not also care about your green light because you may also not reach the standard he wants in a lady. You may probably be ugly or shapeless or a drama queen.

Going by that it's not by force for a guy to woo you because you are showing him green light.

So fück you too and your dimming green light! [/color]

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenty "Sharks" in the sea... I only have to choose from so many .....!

Laveda:
Nah... I can't try that shít again..
Imagine being turned down when you've surmoned the courage to talk to him

I dont advice that...keep flashing that green light..if he's too dumb to see it...fùck him .

[color=#1980BC]Showing us green light is not a guarantee for us to ask you out.

It goes both ways...I don't get why y'all are bitter. [/color]