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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by madjune(m): 4:42pm On Jan 03, 2016

You should blame yourself when you stay calm almost all the time.

You could have stopped all these nonsense by unleashing the beast in you the first time you noticed this.

Now, you may not get the best advice from some of us.

Some might tell you to beat the hell out of her and some as usual, tell you to stay calm.

The Problem Don Grow Roots.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by dinachi(m): 4:43pm On Jan 03, 2016

elantraceey:
I don't understand your frustrations but you know what I forgive you, maybe you are just a kid and you probably grew up in a broken home that's why you're this frustrated but I'll leave you to your agony and may God help you.

If God can forgive you your Ashawo work why shouldn't you forgive me for telling you the obvious truth? As for being kids, those who give advice they can't take are what exactly? Your parents did all of us a great disservice by not selling you ealier to buy recharge card. You and your advice are completely worthless! I repeat may you husband request and receive images of other women puccies. May he cheat on you with multiple women! Say Amen to that so that you can at least use your advice.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:44pm On Jan 03, 2016*

AstuteJ:
I need your candid advice on how to handle the various cases of infidelity against my wife. We have been married for 10 years with kids and I have never had any reason to doubt her until the following incidents began to unfold;

1. Sometimes in 2012, I took her to the market on a Sunday morning. She left her phone inside the car while she went into the market. A message dropped and I picked her phone to check, what I saw was a joystick sent by one of her BBM contacts. I dropped the phone aand pretended I dint see anything. When she came back, she checked the phone, saw the picture, deleted it and pretended nothing happened.

I waited for like 5hours to be sure she wasn't going to talk about it before bringing it up. She claimed it was sent in error and went ahead to call the guy to register her displeasure. I believed her and laid the matter to rest.

2. About six months later, I was out of the country. She called about 6pm that she needed to drop some items for a client at City Mall, little did I know she went to meet a man at Swe bar. I got back some days later and noticed she was all over her phone chatting and smiling while I was talking to her. I took the phone from her to see whom she was chatting it. All the previous chats had been deleted and I continued chatting with the guy. I could not flow well because the guy was coding and suspected he wasn't chatting with the right person.

I went through her phone for any prior message between them and I saw an SMS she sent to him at about 11:45pm the day she went to City Mall; "I just got home, please call if you can"! I did further findings before she confessed she went to meet with the guy at Swe bar and had to call to lis to me in case she runs into one of my friends. She claimed the guy is an old friend and had issues in his marriage, so she turned a marriage counsellor overnight to go solve the issues.

3. While I was still with her phone, the guy that sent his joystick pinged and I started chatting with him. The guy went very romantic and I cautioned him not to put me in trouble like he did when he sent an unsolicited pix of his joystick. The guy went "Ah Stella, but you asked me to send it na, have you forgotten? That you even sent me a pix of your laps taken in a dark room when I asked for yours"! I was speechless! He went "and you said you told your hubby it was sent in error and he believed you". I confronted my wife with all these and she still had some "stories" to tell.

4. We were at her Mum's place two years ago and she got a call, she told the fellow to come see her there. Her ex came in some minutes later to the warm embrace of the mum. We greeted and he wasted no time to settle in and joined the discussion on ground. The last time I saw him was before we got married and she claimed they never dated. The guy talked about his wife, how poor she is in home keeping, in the kitchen. on bed etc. My wife cut in "and this lady is supposed to be enjoying Andy o, cos I remember Andy knows how to take care of a woman, each time he came visiting in the university days, he always came with bags full of goodies". She even suggested seeing the woman to advise her and the guy said "no you are not in the best position to do that, you know she is not too comfortable with you".

All these happened right in the presence of my mother in law and I kept my calm all through. We left there after the show of shame and I warned her to cut all communications with the guy.

5. Few weeks later, same guy came to our church to worship. After the service wifey told me his kids would like to follow us home to meet our kids; I did not respond. Her mum and aunt was also in the church same Sunday and I drove them and my wife straight to my house. The guy drove behind. We got home, wifey went to the kitchen to cook, her mum and aunt settled in to a good gist with this guy in my own very living room. I picked my keys and left the house for them. I returned late in the night when they had all left and you can guess what happened afterwards.

6. I was with her phone few weeks later and another ex bumped in. "My baby, how are you doing, I have missed you bla bla bla". He requested they meet somewhere on the mainland two days later! After taking a second look at the unsaved number, I remembered the number had sent her an SMS; "can I call you now" about twice in the past. the second time I saw the SMS, I called the number with her phone but the guy refused to pick all thru the day!

7. Last Christmas dat, she gave me her phone to check something on her whatsapp and a chat came in from a guy I have been monitoring his number for a while. The excerpt of the chat is below (I took over the chat from the line he asked for her pix).

5/12/2015, 7:51 am - sy: May d joy of Xmas be for u and ur family IJN
25/12/2015, 7:52 am - sy: Enjoy ur day
25/12/2015, 11:08 am - Jimmyeatery: snap i wanna see yur Sexy look
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: I hope youre alone
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Lol
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Yes
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM alone here too
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - sy: That's good
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM deleting it immediately
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Where is the one you have
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme snap
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:14 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0006.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Pls delete it quickly
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Nice
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Why should I delete it
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Tnx
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: Someone can misplaced phone
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - sy: That's true
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: I dont want yur man to one across it as well
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: To be on safe side
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - sy: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: I wanna see u babe
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: You have my pix already now
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme see yur Sexy body babe
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Nope
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Very not seen it
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Is it even new to you
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - syt: OK o
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Till we see again
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Ive not
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - sy: Why are you in a hurry
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Dont be shy dear
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: IM just lonely here
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: Soo lonely
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - syt: What about your wife
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London with my kids
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: Good
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: I av 1% left
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: What?
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme see you
25/12/2015, 11:22 am - syt: You will see me when I change my dp
25/12/2015, 11:23 am - syt: You there?
25/12/2015, 11:43 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0009.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:45 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0008.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: My ba3 low N phone went off
25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: Im using my laptop to charge now
25/12/2015, 11:46 am - syt: OK Sir
25/12/2015, 11:47 am - sy: Was wondering why you kept quiet
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - sy: Can't talk please
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: I tot u said youre alone before
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: My kids are here now
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme know wen youre free to talk
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Oook
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: Let's chat, say whatever you wanna say here
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - syt: My hubby is out
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Are u Sure?
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: ðŸ˜ƒ
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: Yeah
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme be sure if youre d right person IM chatting with................

Please advise me in how to handle all these.......

Thank you.

Same old story with my formal Gf who is also on Nairaland...truth is if ur woman loves u she won't cheat on u. Maybe u don't satisfied
her in bed and other small small excuses..
Most times this particular character comes into play because of the "Okanfor's Law" which says once given twice received.. grin

****BOTTOM LINE**** U can't make a wwhore (hoe) a house wife...

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by snoopdg(m): 4:44pm On Jan 03, 2016

[quote author=elantraceey post=41595414]What do you intend to gain from using cuss words on a fellow woman like you? Please don't judge her at least not yet.

@Op I took the time to read all you posted and I can't help but notice how the guy is so immature and your wife too. Please first let go of any thought of divorce in your head as what you have now are just assumptions.

She's your wife and you've been with her for 10years so you should know how to get the truth from her and I'll say you should use love not anger. Ask her questions like if she isn't satisfied with you or where you've missed it or something,.make it seem like the fault is coming from you even though its not and she'll most likely be comfortable and she'll begin to open up. Be ready to forgive no matter how bitter it turns out at least for the sake of your children.

Make sure she deletes and block those guys and try to resolve whatsoever reason she'll give.

#Myhumbleopinion

I seek forgiveness from God and may he forgive us all.

This humble opinion is wicked, though you advised the man to thread with caution, you seem to indulge the wife and her concubines , you are on the same plane with the woman the why you said she's immature, she could have been discreet with her ex guys. What an encouragement, the woman I feel is up to something, she running a kind of behind the scenes show with her guys.

As for the husband you need to man up, wake up, these guys will claim your wife, sharing her with you is still fair to you as she may be gone with them soon. You really need to put your house in order because it's under a subtle attack. Assess yourself as a man, rise up and condemn the act and put seal on the crack in your marriage, your wife does not seem to care or may not know the gravity of what she's doing.

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by annawhite(f): 4:44pm On Jan 03, 2016

You should Ave warned her the first time u noticed such act!!! Personally I dont think she is sleeping around,I think she is just been adventurous asking men for pic of brokoses***... Give her another chance #ensure her phone's not under lock# remind her that 10years not worth throwing away over some camera 360 brokos pic.....

But come o....why do women ask for brokos

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Originalsly: 4:44pm On Jan 03, 2016

This is serious. Bro.... this been going on before you got married... never stopped... and would never stop... getting from bad to worse. It is likely that none of the kids is yours. You need to get that DNA test done immediately and if not yours then you file for divorce... adultery. All this stuff you presented is not enough grounds for a court to grant you a divorce.... is all bad, unbecoming, disgusting and all such but not adultery. "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree"....daughter like mother... they see absolutely nothing wrong in this big mess so don't even entertain the idea of "sitting her down and discuss"... whatever you say or anyone says contrary to what she is doing would enter one ear and exit the next. Divorce is the civil way out. If you can somehow transform your ehmmm... altar boy attitude to that of a street guy....then I suggest you hook up with a bad ass street babe... even if you have to pay her for a month.... move her into your house as an old friend that would be staying indefinitely..... she would know what to do to make that ~~wh.ore~~ wife of yours pack up and leave. Just saying.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by MisterGrace: 4:45pm On Jan 03, 2016

The only option you have now is to divorce her. Once you become infected with high BP, HIV, HEPATITIS and other STDs that's end.

So many plenty good women out there.

God be with you.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by krestup: 4:46pm On Jan 03, 2016

AstuteJ:
I need your candid advice on how to handle the various cases of infidelity against my wife. We have been married for 10 years with kids and I have never had any reason to doubt her until the following incidents began to unfold;

1. Sometimes in 2012, I took her to the market on a Sunday morning. She left her phone inside the car while she went into the market. A message dropped and I picked her phone to check, what I saw was a joystick sent by one of her BBM contacts. I dropped the phone aand pretended I dint see anything. When she came back, she checked the phone, saw the picture, deleted it and pretended nothing happened.

I waited for like 5hours to be sure she wasn't going to talk about it before bringing it up. She claimed it was sent in error and went ahead to call the guy to register her displeasure. I believed her and laid the matter to rest.

2. About six months later, I was out of the country. She called about 6pm that she needed to drop some items for a client at City Mall, little did I know she went to meet a man at Swe bar. I got back some days later and noticed she was all over her phone chatting and smiling while I was talking to her. I took the phone from her to see whom she was chatting it. All the previous chats had been deleted and I continued chatting with the guy. I could not flow well because the guy was coding and suspected he wasn't chatting with the right person.

I went through her phone for any prior message between them and I saw an SMS she sent to him at about 11:45pm the day she went to City Mall; "I just got home, please call if you can"! I did further findings before she confessed she went to meet with the guy at Swe bar and had to call to lis to me in case she runs into one of my friends. She claimed the guy is an old friend and had issues in his marriage, so she turned a marriage counsellor overnight to go solve the issues.

3. While I was still with her phone, the guy that sent his joystick pinged and I started chatting with him. The guy went very romantic and I cautioned him not to put me in trouble like he did when he sent an unsolicited pix of his joystick. The guy went "Ah Stella, but you asked me to send it na, have you forgotten? That you even sent me a pix of your laps taken in a dark room when I asked for yours"! I was speechless! He went "and you said you told your hubby it was sent in error and he believed you". I confronted my wife with all these and she still had some "stories" to tell.

4. We were at her Mum's place two years ago and she got a call, she told the fellow to come see her there. Her ex came in some minutes later to the warm embrace of the mum. We greeted and he wasted no time to settle in and joined the discussion on ground. The last time I saw him was before we got married and she claimed they never dated. The guy talked about his wife, how poor she is in home keeping, in the kitchen. on bed etc. My wife cut in "and this lady is supposed to be enjoying Andy o, cos I remember Andy knows how to take care of a woman, each time he came visiting in the university days, he always came with bags full of goodies". She even suggested seeing the woman to advise her and the guy said "no you are not in the best position to do that, you know she is not too comfortable with you".

All these happened right in the presence of my mother in law and I kept my calm all through. We left there after the show of shame and I warned her to cut all communications with the guy.

5. Few weeks later, same guy came to our church to worship. After the service wifey told me his kids would like to follow us home to meet our kids; I did not respond. Her mum and aunt was also in the church same Sunday and I drove them and my wife straight to my house. The guy drove behind. We got home, wifey went to the kitchen to cook, her mum and aunt settled in to a good gist with this guy in my own very living room. I picked my keys and left the house for them. I returned late in the night when they had all left and you can guess what happened afterwards.

6. I was with her phone few weeks later and another ex bumped in. "My baby, how are you doing, I have missed you bla bla bla". He requested they meet somewhere on the mainland two days later! After taking a second look at the unsaved number, I remembered the number had sent her an SMS; "can I call you now" about twice in the past. the second time I saw the SMS, I called the number with her phone but the guy refused to pick all thru the day!

7. Last Christmas dat, she gave me her phone to check something on her whatsapp and a chat came in from a guy I have been monitoring his number for a while. The excerpt of the chat is below (I took over the chat from the line he asked for her pix).

5/12/2015, 7:51 am - sy: May d joy of Xmas be for u and ur family IJN
25/12/2015, 7:52 am - sy: Enjoy ur day
25/12/2015, 11:08 am - Jimmyeatery: snap i wanna see yur Sexy look
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: I hope youre alone
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Lol
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Yes
25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM alone here too
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - sy: That's good
25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM deleting it immediately
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Where is the one you have
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme snap
25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:14 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0006.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Pls delete it quickly
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Nice
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Why should I delete it
25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Tnx
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: Someone can misplaced phone
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - sy: That's true
25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: I dont want yur man to one across it as well
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: To be on safe side
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - sy: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: I wanna see u babe
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: You have my pix already now
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme see yur Sexy body babe
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Nope
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Very not seen it
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Is it even new to you
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - syt: OK o
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Till we see again
25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Ive not
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - sy: Why are you in a hurry
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Dont be shy dear
25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: IM just lonely here
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: Soo lonely
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - syt: What about your wife
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London
25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London with my kids
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: Good
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: I av 1% left
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: What?
25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme see you
25/12/2015, 11:22 am - syt: You will see me when I change my dp
25/12/2015, 11:23 am - syt: You there?
25/12/2015, 11:43 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0009.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:45 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0008.jpg (file attached)
25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: My ba3 low N phone went off
25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: Im using my laptop to charge now
25/12/2015, 11:46 am - syt: OK Sir
25/12/2015, 11:47 am - sy: Was wondering why you kept quiet
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - sy: Can't talk please
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: Ok
25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: I tot u said youre alone before
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: My kids are here now
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme know wen youre free to talk
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Oook
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: Let's chat, say whatever you wanna say here
25/12/2015, 11:52 am - syt: My hubby is out
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Are u Sure?
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: ðŸ˜ƒ
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: Yeah
25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme be sure if youre d right person IM chatting with................

Please advise me in how to handle all these.......

Thank you.

From what I see,
1. It's seem your wife is a full time house wife, which is giving her a lot of time to chat and because she see it as a means to kill boredom which has now create a room for her to be vulnerable.
2. After a long period of time marriage become boring couples engage in the same regular routine. This also create a room for any married person to be vulnerable to such a thing.
In my opinion you should conform her and let her know what you have discovered and how you feel. It's either she denies it or accept it.

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by 99foxxy(f): 4:46pm On Jan 03, 2016

DuchessLily:
Eyaahh... If all u posted is real, then Sorry bro, u married an Olosho

Well this is what u should do - ... fast and pray for God to change her.. ( as that is d advice given to women when her hubby is doing this kind of rubbish) and again "'stop touching her fone; yes ke! leave her fone alone, so u don't give urself high bp" (advice given to women). no be only women go dey endure this kind rubbish.

well spoken sister, wen dey do it to we girls dey tink it doesn't hurt? He deserves it even more. Useless cheating niggaz. Who knows if she is paying him in his coin? Mitcheeeew...

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by cruz419(m): 4:49pm On Jan 03, 2016

my brother d truth is ur wife is cheating on oo and if she is not soon she will be ,,and from d look of things even if u catch are red handed in d act she will still cook up some stories cos is lyk ur d cool type,,,my advice sit her down and and once again state all did evidence b4 her and tell her to tell u d truth and if she, still decides to tell u cock and bull stories ,,,give her a sound warning and let her know d consequences if u catch or notice any other dirty act of hers,,and please mean it wen u say it!!!!!

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Ligxy(f): 4:49pm On Jan 03, 2016

elantraceey:
What do you intend to gain from using cuss words on a fellow woman like you? Please don't judge her at least not yet.

@Op I took the time to read all you posted and I can't help but notice how the guy is so immature and your wife too. Please first let go of any thought of divorce in your head as what you have now are just assumptions.

She's your wife and you've been with her for 10years so you should know how to get the truth from her and I'll say you should use love not anger. Ask her questions like if she isn't satisfied with you or where you've missed it or something,.make it seem like the fault is coming from you even though its not and she'll most likely be comfortable and she'll begin to open up. Be ready to forgive no matter how bitter it turns out at least for the sake of your children.

Make sure she deletes and block those guys and try to resolve whatsoever reason she'll give.

#Myhumbleopinion

Lalasticlala help this guy get good advice.

Madam you wicked o. If Op is your little brother or your son, will you still say this??
What on earth justifies a strange joystick in a married woman's phone.
This world is really coming to an end.
Oga Op, man up, warn your wife and teach her a lesson she'll never forget easily, then let's hope she changes, if she doesn't, even the bible justifies divorce on grounds of adultery.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Agath29: 4:50pm On Jan 03, 2016

Why not sit your wife down and talk to her as a friend. You can ask her what/how she want to be treated then know how to change your attitude 1st because of all those guys he choosed you, so why all the problems now? Be the man/friend she needs

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by easy015: 4:51pm On Jan 03, 2016

hey, man. u dont need anybody to tell u before knowing that your so caalled wife is an ebola sent by devil to kill u. if u fail to do the needful on time u will meet your early grave. DIVORCE HER ASAP

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by lagosrd: 4:52pm On Jan 03, 2016

Prevho:
Which advise do you want.

Divorce?

Save your soul
1. Take the children for dna test secretly.
2. Make sure the evidence you have are all intact
3. Prepare your mind that you are in for it. Lucky you about to start a new life.
4. Don't let her know what is happening.
5. Dint let her family know about it.
6. Still allow her stay in your house but no sex with her again.
7. Never make the mistake of calling any pastor.
8. File for divorce with evidence/ don't eat her food hence they poison you.
9. Apply thunder bolt on her so that it will serve as severance package.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by elantraceey(f): 4:52pm On Jan 03, 2016

So4baba:
I have a feeling you the OPs wife,,, or you knw the family in person,, if not, ur idea is just annoying... This is evil

You guys are very funny, does everyone have to agree you with you? I never said she wasn't cheating , I only said that he should try to resolve the issue at least for the children's sake before heading for divorce.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:53pm On Jan 03, 2016

elantraceey:
Are you kidding me? So you're perfect ? You've never done something you were not proud of? Can you imagine? Concluding on someone you know nothing about. I'm not saying cheating is excusable but what's written up there is not the story so cut the woman some slag and don't just judge her like that.

I only pity your future husband

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by iPopAlomo(m): 4:53pm On Jan 03, 2016

carlcar2012:
Sit her down and talk to her

OP... another hoe low show here....

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by iPopAlomo(m): 4:53pm On Jan 03, 2016

dammytosh:
Dear Op,

Your wife is a step ahead of you. She even sent this comment on Nairaland.

Hahahahahahahahha... I died... grin

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by robosky02(m): 4:54pm On Jan 03, 2016

na waoo

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Midazman(m): 4:55pm On Jan 03, 2016

its really a tough one buh obviously shez cheating..try have a family meeting afta discussion wt her first.

if she doesnt change thereafta, it might be cool to quit d marriage.

my opinion tho..

wish u d best

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by serendipityF: 4:58pm On Jan 03, 2016

Werin she dey lust for? Ur face abi ur physique? grin

I can bet d opposite of wat u are thinkin is d case tongue

na joke o

kay29000:
Hmm! I caught a married woman staring at me yesterday at a party and i felt bad. I mean, i could see it in her eyes that she had undressed me already and was lost in lustful thoughts of what sex with me would be like.

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by 99foxxy(f): 4:59pm On Jan 03, 2016

Truckpusher:
Chase the damn prostitute out of ya life - You've got loads of evidence and yet here you are asking for help on how to handle such a betrayal of trust.

Chase the damn thing out of your house and conduct a proper DNA test to ascertain if you're the biological father of all your kids.

imagine calling her names. If you're married, do u know what your wife does out there? Be prepared to chase yours first. Home wreckers cry

Truckpusher:
Chase the damn prostitute out of ya life - You've got loads of evidence and yet here you are asking for help on how to handle such a betrayal of trust.

Chase the damn thing out of your house and conduct a proper DNA test to ascertain if you're the biological father of all your kids.

imagine calling her names. If you're married, do u know what your wife does out there? Be prepared to chase yours first. Home wreckers.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by kay29000(m): 4:59pm On Jan 03, 2016

serendipityF:
Werin she dey lust for? Ur face abi ur physique? I can bet d opposite of wat u are thinkin is d case na joke o

Na! I know what I saw.

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 5:00pm On Jan 03, 2016

I bet your wife is Yoruba!! Yoruba women are really unfaithful and confident with it. I'm Yoruba btw.

@op you have all the evidence to pursue a divorce and gain custody of the kids. Remarry and be happy.

Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by macminista(m): 5:00pm On Jan 03, 2016

If all you evidence you stated below re true then you re the weakest man alive not have to sent re packing....listen I am a married man having been in the institution for a decade like u....women re the most cunning animal alive..they love with their mind not their heart..do what u gonna do before you end up with bp

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by profmallory(m): 5:00pm On Jan 03, 2016

This is exactly why my dad warned me that as man you must have some occasional craze..You are too soft that why all this is happening to you. In fact I feel like slapping the taste out of your mouth. From hence forth do the following;

1. No more stupid smiling at home
2. Tell her straight that you have given her the last warning and you will surprise her either she changes or not
3. Go for the paternity test of your kids
4. Tell your people
5. Tell her mother
6. Start praying, cause sometimes this things are spirits that enter people and they start to misbehave.

But let her know its now fire for fire in that until she stops that rubbish

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by elantraceey(f): 5:01pm On Jan 03, 2016

lrguru:
I only pity your future husband

Please don't pity him because he's NEVER going to experience any thing like this. You know why? It's not because I'm perfect but because I understand what it is to be a human, misjudged and I understand priorities and I don't give in to feelings easily.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by iPopAlomo(m): 5:02pm On Jan 03, 2016

donodion:
Ol boy... Take thia from me...out 10 married women 7 does all you posted.They are only clever to delete all messages and pictures so you won't have proof to nail them.As they are reading this they know its the truth.Most will even call it ' casual flirting"

Left to me, I suggest you separate from her but before then, when nexr you have access to her phone, install spy software. That way all her sms and chats come straight to your in- box as evidences.
Call a surprise family meeting of both sides to a delicious lunch or dinner,don't ket them be aware your intention.

After menu menu, give them all print out copies of her ' runs' .Demand they take her with then as they are leaving else two people will mark attendance at the other side of life tonite.

" That last supper " would forever remain in her parents memory till eternity.

A cheat hardly repent until when caught and proven to be unworthy.

My =N=1 advice.

Oshay baddest...

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 5:05pm On Jan 03, 2016

D the handwriting is all over d wall....ur wife is a LovePeddler sorry to say....she has been fucking all those men

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by adexsimply(m): 5:06pm On Jan 03, 2016

Onegai:
Abeg add "wear red bra and black pant"

"Don't leave, do you know what the next woman is like? "

"stop neglecting her, give her whatever she wants, whenever she wants it. Have you put on weight recently, lose it".

"Don't listen to all these agents of divorce, they are unhappy. Please stay and fight for your marriage".

"It is well"

LOL

. Is this now your trademark?. I could remember seeing a post of this nature few days ago

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by john650(m): 5:07pm On Jan 03, 2016

carlcar2012:
Sit her down and talk to her

Talk to her about what?

What she needs is a heavy dose of meanness. The day she is out of the house, get a trailer and pack all her stuff and take it to her parents house and dump it. Before that, get a good lawyer to make sure you can get custody of the kids, assuming they are really yours. Worst thing you can do to a woman is deny her custody if her children. I can tell you none of her ex's would take her in. If they would, they would have married her in the first place.

You need to be tough with a woman that takes you for a ride. Being nice, tactful or trying to find reason why she is doing what she is doing does not work.

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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by elantraceey(f): 5:07pm On Jan 03, 2016

Ligxy:
Madam you wicked o. If Op is your little brother or your son, will you still say this??
What on earth justifies a strange joystick in a married woman's phone.
This world is really coming to an end.
Oga Op, man up, warn your wife and teach her a lesson she'll never forget easily, then let's hope she changes, if she doesn't, even the bible justifies divorce on grounds of adultery.

Seriously woman , I'm now wicked for being against divorce and advocating for peace and love to prevail, are you serious? If God punishes you for all your misdeeds ,do you think you'll think you'll still be alive? Come on let love prevail.

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