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Good evening friends.

Here we come again, Oliviaarims and myself, Emusmith.

This collabo-thread focuses on exposing the Tight-Corners Ladies Put Guys through, Vice versa.

Being in a tight-corner with the opposite sex is being in a circumstance where you are "confused", not knowing what to do.

I'm from the Guy's Angle: Tight-Corner Situations Ladies Put Guys In.

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1. She expects him to ask her out over and over and over again before saying, "Yes".


Oh 21st Century ladies, be considerate! Those laws of yours are rather too much! Hian! A nice guy has just broken out of his own laws to approach you but you absurd rules drives him away. To some girls, a guy must ask them out for nothing less than a month. Does that portray him as serious? Nah, he might just be a player. Be flexible, young lady. When you set those 'standards', consider your age also. Let's be real, other girls are also bothering him. He leaves them because of you and you're forming, 'principled' and 'expensive'. Loosen up a little in 2016.


2. She makes him fall in love with her and then starts acting funny when he's trying to reciprocate.


Some chicks can be funny. After giving him a red light, he goes away and then all of a sudden, she starts caring rekindling old flames. Perhaps, he has erased all memories of her. This puts him in a fixed situation because he loves her. If you tell him, No, please leave him alone and go away. Don't ask him for anything. Don't commit him to your affairs. This is wicked! Some guys sef needs a strong heart.


3. She wakes up one morning and calls quit a marriage-bound relationship of years for just "no reason."

Young guy has planned his life with her only for her to wake one morning to call it quit. That's not cool. Where should he start from?


4. Comes to a date with her friends.

This is so childish, mehn! What if he didn't plan for that, what situation are you putting him?


5. Compels him get intimate and later deny he "forced himself" on her.

This happens as I learnt. Maybe, just a few but it does and it's precarious situation for a guy to be in. Yes, he didn't hold on to his guns but you should come as a protective cover and not an enemy.


6. Giving him the ultimatum of "Meet this need of mine or I'll break up with you"


Especially when she notices he loves her, she starts misbehaving and demanding unnecessarily. That's unfair. Is your love for sale? If it is, you're not fit to be called a 'Lady'.


7. Keeping mute and expecting him to read your mind after a quarrel you staged.

Not all guys are mind-readers. Don't be complicated by playing deaf on his honest questions. If you're mad, be simple and open up. Don't expect him to be a mind-reader overnight.


Understanding is the key to a smooth relationship. Every relationship thrives on it. Even before he officially asks you out, you could be observant and enough to know a thing or two about him. These days, some ladies just sit with their lazy self on their couch, consuming one love movie after the other; expecting a guy to lick their feet. To such ladies I say, It's possible if you believe. Keep believing!

#Passes the mic to oliviaarims#


Oliviaarims So true, Mr Smith.

I'll be speaking from the Ladies' Point of View.

Sometimes, in the process of getting to know that person for a potential relationship, we raise up the red flag without intending to do so. And this leaves the other party in a fix. Sometimes, it could mark the end of a relationship in potentiality.To avoid these, here are a number of things a guy unconsciously does which puts a girl in a tight-corner.

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1. You hardly Call, Text or Ping.

If you're looking at dating a girl, then these things are quite important if she's to take you seriously. It mustn't be an every day affair. Infact, if u guys aren't already very close, u shouldn't call everyday. But if you're still in the process of making her warm up to u and and to start considering u seriously, then u have to let her know she's on your mind. An occasional call, text or ping will do. But they shouldn't be too infrequent, like once in a month. This will leave her confused as to your intentions. 

You're formal with her. Come on, this is a girl u want to get into a relationship with. Loosen up! If you're uncharacteristically formal with her, she's most likely going to assume you're not very much into her.

2. You put up an "I don't care attitude"  about the guys around her.

This is assuming u know there are a number of guys she's involved with.. Friends or whatever they may be. Or it's just this one particular guy. If u never ask her about it, or act like u didn't even notice, she may quickly conclude that u don't like her enough to even get a lil bit jealous and concerned about her male friends.

3. Girls are always flocking around you.

If you're this dude, then she'd assume you're a flirt and probably want to flirt with her too or perhaps that you just like female friends and want to enlist her in your train of mere female friends.

4. You don't spend enough time with her.

If when eventually when u guys get to see each other, you're always in a hurry to leave, she'd presume u don't very much enjoy her company or that she's not important enough for u to spend quality time with.

5. You never invite her to your house.

This would seem really weird to her, especially as guys are quite fast in inviting girls over to their crib. And perhaps, when u do invite her, friends are always around. Trust me, she wouldn't be happy about this. She may not be expecting you to sleep with her, but it would be much appreciated if you two are alone. .

6. You don't allow her meet friends and family.

Even if you aren't an item yet, it would be a lil bothersome if she hasn't met any of your friends, at least. Maybe not family yet, but your friends. Because she believes that if really u like her, then ur friends would have known and would have wanted to meet her. 

7. Inviting her for an occasion and leaving her to herself

Now, this is so not nice. No matter how pre-occupied u seem to be at the occasion, she'd never feel happy being left alone, esp if she's in an unfamiliar territory. The proper thing to do is to first acknowledge her presence, if both of u didn't come in together, and then, sit with her, if possible. Otherwise, occasionally check in on her. This will show that u truly care. 

 As a guy, if u do most of those things, youl'd have succeeded in pushing your potential girl friend to the brink of giving up on you. She'd be uncertain about how you feel about her and your intentions. And if care's not taken, she'd start giving you attitude and give up on you totally.


That's cool, Oliviaarims. Both guys and ladies have their expectations from the opposite sex so it leaves us with the responsibility to find out exactly what our mates appreciate so we don't put them in a tight corner.

Good night.

.. [size=14pt] hello, Emmanuel and olavarims (correct me if I got that one wrong)

Can you categorically put your hands on your chest and swear that you both haven't been doing the aforementioned?
Oh please I beg to differ.
The level of hypocrisy is alarming...

I was also hypocritical... But stopped it last two years ago... .


Here goes my story. ..


I wrote for a blog regularly about the dangers of wanking but even with all my incessant preaching I was a chronic masturbator.. .. .


My point is live on what you write, say or do.. ..

Nigerians let's abandon this hypocritical life and surge forward. ...

Cheers...

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goodnight

Great now we have 'OPS'

I cant help but to agree with the ops


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Well said!!

Okay. So??

Hmmmm!


I won't Even Pretend to Understand This. Olivia actually Contributed OR You just Made it Up

This exceeding trifling witling, considering ranting criticizing concerning adopting fitting wording being exhibiting transcending learning, was displaying, notwithstanding ridiculing, surpassing boasting swelling reasoning, respecting correcting erring writing, and touching detecting deceiving arguing during debating.

Ghen Ghen
Bf -- MSc in Romance/family Gbege
Gf -- BSc in Owanbe/Romance Palava
Pikin *****

This love na elele, this love na waya o

Vjcray:
.. [size=14pt] hello, Emmanuel and olavarims (correct me if I got that one wrong)

Can you categorically put your hands on your chest and swear that you both haven't been doing the aforementioned?
Oh please I beg to differ.
The level of hypocrisy is alarming...

I was also hypocritical... But stopped it last two years ago... .


Here goes my story. ..


I wrote for a blog regularly about the dangers of wanking but even with all my incessant preaching I was a chronic masturbator.. .. .


My point is live on what you write, say or do.. ..

Nigerians let's abandon this hypocritical life and surge forward. ...

Cheers...

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That's your problem. Solve it. Stop wanking: It is a fake way to live. You could tag me for a hypocrite. That's still your problem. Solve that too.

Nice piece!

But I just want to get out the friendzone.

emusmith:
That's your problem.

[size=14pt] it ain't my fvvking problem.....


I have an opinion and I believe I passed my views...

Now kindly fvvkingly fvvk off my mentions...

Cheers again [/size] u

Vjcray:
[size=14pt] it ain't my fvvking problem.....


I have an opinion and I believe I passed my views...

Now kindly fvvkingly fvvk off my mentions...

Cheers again [/size] u

I see...waste of FTC.

obiorathesubtle:
This exceeding trifling witling, considering ranting
criticizing concerning adopting fitting wording being
exhibiting transcending learning, was displaying,
notwithstanding ridiculing, surpassing boasting swelling
reasoning, respecting correcting erring writing, and touching
detecting deceiving arguing during debating.

u don dey kolo small small dey go

before u knw what is happening na yabaleft u go see urself

[/quote][quote] 1. You hardly Call, Text or Ping.

If you're looking at dating a girl, then these things are quite important if she's to take you seriously. It mustn't be an every day affair. Infact, if u guys aren't already very close, u shouldn't call everyday. But if you're still in the process of making her warm up to u and and to start considering u seriously, then u have to let her know she's on your mind. An occasional call, text or ping will do. But they shouldn't be too infrequent, like once in a month. This will leave her confused as to your intentions. 
You're formal with her. Come on, this is a girl u want to get into a relationship with. Loosen up! If you're uncharacteristically formal with her, she's most likely going to assume you're not very much into her.

WHats the use? most times they just answer you in phrases or ignore you outright a man cant hold a conversation by himself unless he is mad

2. You put up an "I don't care attitude"  about the guys around her.

This is assuming u know there are a number of guys she's involved with.. Friends or whatever they may be. Or it's just this one particular guy. If u never ask her about it, or act like u didn't even notice, she may quickly conclude that u don't like her enough to even get a lil bit jealous and concerned about her male friends.

Honestly why should I care? If the guy is screwing her I'd be the last to know. If you ask she will most likely lie about who he is

3. Girls are always flocking around you.

If you're this dude, then she'd assume you're a flirt and probably want to flirt with her too or perhaps that you just like female friends and want to enlist her in your train of mere female friends.

Cant help it same way bees flock to the brightest flowers. y'all better deal with it

4. You don't spend enough time with her.

If eventually when u guys finally get to see each other, you're always in a hurry to leave, she'd presume u don't very much enjoy her company or that she's not important enough for u to spend quality time with.

A nigga's gotta make money U know and time is money. IF I spend time with her broke, she will be the first to ditch me. Something's gotta give

5. You never invite her to your house.

This would seem really weird to her, especially as guys are quite fast in inviting girls over to their crib. And perhaps, when u do invite her, friends are always around. Trust me, she wouldn't be happy about this. She may not be expecting you to sleep with her, but it would be much appreciated if you two are alone.

I agree its kinda weird to not invite her over

6. You don't allow her meet friends and family.

Even if you aren't an item yet, it would be a lil bothersome if she hasn't met any of your friends, at least. Maybe not family yet, but your friends. Because she believes that if really u like her, then ur friends would have known and would have wanted to meet her.

It all depends on how far we have come. besides most girls I know really dont care except they want marriage from you

7. Inviting her for an occasion and leaving her to herself

Now, this is so not nice. No matter how pre-occupied u seem to be at the occasion, she'd never feel happy being left alone, esp if she's in an unfamiliar territory. The proper thing to do is to first acknowledge her presence, if both of u didn't come in together, and then, sit with her, if possible. Otherwise, occasionally check in on her. This will show that u truly care.

Sh*** like that shouldnt bother her. its just for a few hours and Ill be all yours after the occasion

nice one

the collaboration tho.
is it true or just another way of wooing.


just saying .

iyke926:
Nice piece!

But I just want to get out the friendzone.

Haha, you don't know what to do?

Diddyydiva:


nice one

the collaboration tho.
is it true or just another way of wooing.


just saying .

are you a learner:p

dollyjoy:
are you a learner:p

in this case dearie I am


Wait!!!


are you pondering what am pondering

Diddyydiva:
in this case dearie I am

Wait!!!

are you pondering what am pondering

if ops catch you.



But i think it is obvious,no hiding

Are you guys dating each other?

RexKexMilann:
Hmmmm!


I won't Even Pretend to Understand This. Olivia actually Contributed OR You just Made it Up

You can ask her...

RexKexMilann:
Hmmmm!


I won't Even Pretend to Understand This. Olivia actually Contributed OR You just Made it Up

I contributed...

BUTCHCASSIDY:
WHats the use? most times they just answer you in phrases or ignore you outright a man cant hold a conversation by himself unless he is mad



Honestly why should I care? If the guy is screwing her I'd be the last to know. If you ask she will most likely lie about who he is



Cant help it same way bees flock to the brightest flowers. y'all better deal with it


A nigga's gotta make money U know and time is money. IF I spend time with her broke, she will be the first to ditch me. Something's gotta give



I agree its kinda weird to not invite her over



It all depends on how far we have come. besides most girls I know really dont care except they want marriage from you



Sh*** like that shouldnt bother her. its just for a few hours and Ill be all yours after the occasion

Lol.

Decker:
Are you guys dating each other?

No, we aren't.

All these ppl feeling love in the air, biko... Know what u feeling o.

Oliviaarims:
No, we aren't.

Okay.

All I can say is "hmmmmm". If these 2 do not win award for NL couple of the year by the end of this year,buhari would have to arrest seun and charge him for corruption.

@ lalasticlala: work done land;kindly move it to the permanent site.

Books space first *comes back to modify after reading the writeup

So i agree with everything the OPs stated there especially that of Oliviaarims...(who wont agree with a lady anyway)...these OPs stuff make sense...who wants to partner me? Admission is free cc my mod friend CaroLyner that refused to unban me