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10 Areas Guys And Ladies Should Work on In Their Relationship (Emusmith Vs Oliviarism)

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Hi everyone. In few hours time, we will be entering into the New Year. Looking back, there were pleasant and unpleasant scenarios in our relationships.
Oliviaarims and I, Emusmith, in this Collabo-thread wants to pinpoint some areas in our relationships, both Guys and Ladies should pay closer attention to in this coming year 2016.

Without much ado, from the Guy's Angle I'll list 10 areas:

Guy's Angle:

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1. Guys, devote more time to understanding your lady.

Different strokes for different chicks. She needs you to understand what she isn't saying. If you love her, you will won't fail her.


2. Don't take her love for granted
If you think you can now misbehave just because you've gotten her to fall in love with you; that's childish and immature, with all due respect. Instead, love her and say it often. That fertilizes relationships.

3. Be open to your girl.

Let her trust you. Lying tells her you ain't ready to trust her. Start from the small things to the big ones.

4. Don't be a player who sleeps around: but one that takes responsibility

Don't be a "player" who sleeps around. Responsibility is one thing you can't dodge if you wanna tread this path.

5. Arguing with her is an error.

Ignore her rash words. Ladies can talk. Two wrongs can't make a right. Be the man. Be the bigger person.

6. Enticing her with money and not being able to maintain that is foolishness

I would suggest you be plain and not exaggerate. Let her know your worth when you notice her commitment to the relationship.

7. Surprises can be wrongly-timed

She likes surprises but ensure it's at the right time. Don't take her to a place without pre-informing her of "her roles". That's will be an embarrassment.


8. Spend on her

Have you heard? You can give without loving but you can't love without giving. If you love her, you won't have to let her ask everything. If you're not giving her, you're giving someone else.

9. Effective Communication

Talk to her before making major/minor decisions. It tells her you care. Sometimes say, "I'm telling you firsthand, haven't told anyone else." She becomes you confidante. Your shelter, so to speak.


10. Learn not to remind her of her past when there is a quarrel

This is so unfair. Nothing hurts as much as this. Let her know that you love her despite her past life. Please do.

Thank you. #Hands the mic over to Olivia#



Olivia: Yes, nice points.
Relationships are a vital part of human existence, man necessarily being a social animal.
It's however a bit unfortunate that some people just don't seem to get it right. They go into countless relationships, which almost never lasts longer than the flicker of a candle light before it dies off.

From the Girl's Angle.

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1. Be Indispensable:

Don't make yourself unnecessarily scarce, because soon enough, he'll fill up the role you were supposed to be playing. That holds him down.

2. Be Polite.

Some girls are just naturally rude and uncourteous in their manner of talking. Know how to make your requests, without making them sound like commands.

3. Be Calm

Listen. When there's an argument between u two and he's saying something, that shouldn't be the time for u to be struggling to be heard too. Remain calm and allow him finish talking before u say your piece.

4. Apologize.

When u find out that you're at fault, be quick to apologise and do it with all sincerity.

5. Make an effort to be truthful.

The more lies u tell, the less likely he'll trust u. But when u make it a point of duty to tell the truth always, he'd always give u the benefit of doubt whenever something fishy comes up.

6. Make him your buddy.

Make your significant other your realest buddy. Begin to see him as a friend. Tell him everything that can be told, even if it seems irrelevant. It would make for better understanding, closer bond,things to always talk about and fun in your relationship.

7. Don't flaunt your toasters in his face.

He already knows that you're bound to have a couple of guys wooing u. You could even discuss some of them with him and laugh together over funny pick up lines. But know the difference between telling him about your toasters for the sake of fun and flaunting it in his face to make him feel jealous and insecure.

8. Watch his ego in public.

When he's in public with you or in a gathering of friends, be careful what u say or do. It would be really embarrassing if you ignore him and perhaps turn your attention elsewhere. Let him have your full attention always. Try to take his side and defend him in an argument. 

9. Pay Close attention to the things he always wants you to do and those he doesn't want.

Being in a relationship is very much about compromise. Definitely, there would be certain things you do which pisses him off and which he's made known to you. Work on avoiding doing these things and instead doing the things he likes.

10. Lastly, quit the "forming."

Like seriously, we girls like to form a lot. I agree it's necessary in certain occasions, but there's really no need doing that with your significant other. Let him know that you're his "personal person".. No styling, no fronting. Feel free to fart in his presence (but please, not after eating beans and egg). Eat eba with him. Get into a bus with him if he can't afford a cab at that point in time.. Go to the market with him to buy foodstuffs. Buy ur ice-fish freely. U can't cook with chicken and beef all the time.

Above all, try to be original and have the mindset of making your relationship work. The mind really, is the starting point.

Emusmith: Well said Oliviaarims, the mind is the starting point. Love starts from the mind and ends through our actions. In this year, 2016, let's do all we can to making sure our relationships stay stronger, heading towards marriage.

Happy New Year in advance!

Like I will Always Say/Type; There are No laid Down Principles For Things like This! No Routine! No Law!


Just let things Go "Naturally. The ONE meant for you will Stick with You NO MATTER WHAT.

See love!!
Nice one OP! @Olivia I love your points, well analysed.

Wish you both a prosperous new year and everlasting relationship!

a happy new year to you emusmith & Oliviaarims




to the ladies stop being a pest.....
to the guys stop being a mugu or father Christmas...



use your head when in the relationship and not your emotions

Omotayor123:
See love!!
Nice one OP!

OPs...not Op

emusmith:

OPs...not Op

You guys are one

Nice writeup!!
If only we will put into practise what we read or write!!!

This will be interesting

who is gonna be my date?

dollyjoy:
Nice writeup!!

If only we will put into practise what we read or write!!!

Thanks. Nice dp

The nature of things up here is really amazing. What more can I say? Emusmith, are u the same as the moniker u tagged? Na wa o!

Rapmoney:
The nature of things up here is really amazing. What more can I say? Emusmith, are u the same as the moniker u tagged? Na wa o!

Thanks Rapmoney

Omotayor123:
See love!! Nice one OP! @Olivia I love your points, well analysed.
Wish you both a prosperous new year and everlasting relationship!

Lol. Thanks. Wish u same, too.

RexKex:
Like I will Always Say/Type; There are No laid Down Principles For Things like This! No Routine! No Law!


Just let things Go "Naturally. The ONE meant for you will Stick with You NO MATTER WHAT.

What happened to ur former acct?

Wow..nice points.

Oliviaarims:



What happened to ur former acct?

New year! New Me! New Moniker!.

Laveda:
Wow..nice points.

Thanks

Well detailed & concised.

Thumbs @OP_s

RexKex:
New year! New Me! New Moniker!.

Hahahahahahahahahah. Very funny... And of course too cliché.

Oliviaarims:


Hahahahahahahahahah. Very funny... And of course too cliché.

You never told me You ... ** Coughs**.

RexKex:
You never told me You ... ** Coughs**.

Never told you I.....?

Oliviaarims:



Never told you I.....?

Let's Not Derail Your Thread.

ijustdey:

a happy new year to you emusmith & Oliviaarims



to the ladies stop being a pest..... to the guys stop being a mugu or father Christmas...


use your head when in the relationship and not your emotions

A prosperous New Year to you, too...

Good points,will apply some in 2016.

Very well outlined, good points btw ...

I don't like this thread. Why is everyone agreeing to everything said. We need opposing views. It's boring when everyone is on same page.

Digging for blunders.

Collabo Threads
Good and Innovative ...

ronald4lif:
I don't like this thread. Why is everyone agreeing to everything said. We need opposing views. It's boring when everyone is on same page.

Digging for blunders.

I like your point, Ronald

ClassCaptain:
Collabo Threads

Good and Innovative ...

Thanks

No.5 of the first part sounds soo cool.

Wow! What a perfect collabo of emusmith and olivia. Ending the year with evergreen relationship update. Thanks.