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We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

The Best way is to tell him!

[size=25pt]...what made you say YES inthe first place?,,,Money??[/size]

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake in accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

[color=#000050]You didn't love him yet you still decided to date him and spend his money abi? You are a gold digging idiot.

Now you are coming here to ask us stupid questions okwa ya?

What a redundant moronic Ingrate! [/color]

last November? u didn't tell him dat u don't love him b4 Christmas and u want to tell him now, if u r him wat wll u think? Xmas maga? u beta wait tll June to tell him dat if by dat time u still don't love him.















make sure u lender d service u r getting paid for.
no offense

Kindly tell him. But y did u agree to date him in d 1st instance?

Please, i want you all to know i didn't date him for money or any other material gain but because i needed a soulmate at that point in time.


Lalasticlala please i need more valuable advice.

Ogbeni u don use d nihhga flex Xmas naa, now u wan talk shiit this is why nihggas dey rape Una

it's this kind of things you do that make guys heartless as you termed......
you didn't tell him since last year
you just want to break his heart kawai

Don't tell him but its better you use your actions so that he will use his brain know that you don't love him.





But baby why don't you have feelings for him? Are you desperately going to love him when you clocks 35.

maybe she think say na nairabet wey she go enter try her luck better go tell am face to face or send am through letterbomb

Best thing is tell him

M sure he too has noticed some behaviour of urs

He is just waiting for d truth from u to move on

Nd even if u dont say it he wud get tired nd move on

Humans will get tired nd we need love nd care

So dont feel to fly

Drop ur ego nd tell him

Cos u are too wicked for keepin it dis long

Tell him den tell him now he was prone to get hurt

since u av fufiled ur desire let d innocent man go please

Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

@ op, no mind all these bashers...my take is...dnt sign off yet...give it time...love grows...try to look @those lil aspect of his life u admire....truth is, smtin must have attracted you to him in the first place, look more into that tin...a relationship that started like this always end great...allow the love to grow...instant love or love @ firstsight neva works, it fades away with time...i'd categorically tell you that if you go into a relationship because you love the person, i bet the love will diminish with time...relationship is much more than just love.

Say this exact thing to him.

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

Kindly tell him...

You don chop the poor boy money finish na now you know say you nor love am...
God dey look Una o...!!

Tell him the truth and stop wasting his time.

Christmas, boxing day, new year all passed with him lavishing goodies on you and you never realized you don't love him. Fear God o. Okay, just give him 1 week of steady puszzy as payment for all his love and care after that you can tell him your mind. If na me I no go vex again.

Tell him by opening your mouth and talking to him

U beta tell him now b4 its too late

Ask Lai Muhammed to help you

And Lai Muhammed be like:
Every lie I told was a hit back to back from "blame
everything on GEJ" to "Boko has been defeated" and
campaign promises yet no trust from Nigerians.
Iyalaya anybody technical lying ti take over.
And devil (father of all liars) be like: Egbon Lai if you
want my position come and take it.

we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister. [/quote]

what is your problem? can't you pass your point across without running your mouth? how old are you? 12?

You didn't hear her saying she accepted because of money. people go into relationships for various eg companionship. Everyone isn't a gold digger.

SameMissclassy:
[color=#000050]You didn't love him yet you still decided to date him and spend his money abi? You are a gold digging idiot.

Now you are coming here to ask us stupid questions okwa ya?

What a redundant moronic Ingrate! [/color]

Why do people think like this? what service?? is she a how??

Anthony0094:
last November? u didn't tell him dat u don't love him b4 Christmas and u want to tell him now, if u r him wat wll u think? Xmas maga? u beta wait tll June to tell him dat if by dat time u still don't love him.















make sure u lender d service u r getting paid for.
no offense

I blame the poor guy, there is no way i would be with a lady for that long without knowing where i stand in the relationship. thats why I advised somebody in the other thread to be rugged and always be a step ahead when dealing with human beings. now this op after spending this guy's money wants to ball out anyway none of my bizness

Amberon:
Why do people think like this? what service?? is she a how??

u wl mk a good lawyer

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

nothing at all, that would make you love him?
you know, because you can decide to love him...

tales by moon light....

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

u don't date someone out of pity...ur NO should be ur NO! I won't be surprised if in the next few years u com here on NL nd start ranting bout the downfall of ur marriage (I forbid it tho) cox ts crystal clear u don't love d dude, u are only trying to put up with him coz of his persistence...marriage is a challenging institution, you have to think twice bfo venturing into it.