I am in my mid 20's,right from my secondary school days I don't know how to talk to girls instead of me being the one to make the first move I wait for them to,so any one that comes my way I just flow with her,the problem now is I am used to this kind of life,even during my uni days I couldn't woo a girl instead I would wait for any girl close to me even if she's not my type to make the first move then be friends with her.one of my female friends asked me if I liked her and I confessed that I would prefer someone who is better and she asked why I can't be bold enough to woo a girl I like,i told her I was shy she said I am not shy but proud cos I am not ugly and good looking ,this got me confused,i am the only son with a younger sister who I don't even open up to when it comes to female issues,i think I am sick in a way pls nairalanders come to my aid cc lalastica,mods

7 days fasting n prayer will solve ur case.....

u no get courage ni

Op, hope and pray that "a certain young man" will stumble upon this post. His comment will be of great help to you.

As for me, old age is really telling on me. I can barely come up with something tangible for you. Good luck!

You know what? Gather courage and start any conversation with the girl you like with "I LOVE YOU" and follow it up till it ends well

it is a mental disorder

Your problem has nothing to do with mental disorder or has any connection with your mental soundness. You're more likely battling shyness, fear of rejection and social anxiety and only you can emancipate yourself from it.

I think the first thing you need do is to understand no woman is above you and don't place them on a pedestal. You've to muster the courage to approach any woman you like and understand that the worse case scenario is that she says no and no ends at no, they won't bite you. Don't attach much significance on the woman you intend to talk to and assume them to be on same strata as you.

Don't let fear of rejection hamper you from making a move towards a woman you like. The worse thing about rejection is rejection in itself and if within your mind you've accept rejection then you get rejection. But if you've within your heart vowed you'll win her over so shall it manifest.

Fear of rejection is an offshoot of low self esteem and you need to work on your confidence. You've to build up yourself before you can overcome self esteem. As it appears you look down on yourself and if you don't think high of yourself there's no way another person can think high of you. Do all you can to develop some confidence.

I'm guessing you're introverted but you need to start going out to socialise more. Meet people, join social gatherings as much as you can. You've to start attending events where there are loads of ladies and interact with them as much as you can. It might be hard at the incipient but as time goes on you'd adapt.

I think most guys were like you at some point in their lives and its nothing strange. Only that you've refused to leave your shyness behind you at the appropriate time and it has eaten deep into your system. Go out there, socialise, attend parties, make female friends and identify the one you like and chyke the hell outta that mademoiselle.

Op we are almost d same thing

Wisest words as usual. Op here's your pearl

Wishing you a blessed new year sir

ronald4ever:
Your problem has nothing to do with mental disorder or has any connection with your mental soundness. You're more likely battling shyness, fear of rejection and social anxiety and only you can emancipate yourself from it.

I think the first thing you need do is to understand no woman is above you and don't place them on a pedestal. You've to muster the courage to approach any woman you like and understand that the worse case scenario is that she says no and no ends at no, they won't bite you. Don't attach much significance on the woman you intend to talk to and assume them to be on same strata as you.

Don't let fear of rejection hamper you from making a move towards a woman you like. The worse thing about rejection is rejection in itself and if within your mind you've accept rejection then you get rejection. But if you've within your heart vowed you'll win her over so shall it manifest.

Fear of rejection is an offshoot of low self esteem and you need to work on your confidence. You've to build up yourself before you can overcome self esteem. As it appears you look down on yourself and if you don't think high of yourself there's no way another person can think high of you. Do all you can to develop some confidence.

I'm guessing you're introverted but you need to start going out to socialise more. Meet people, join social gatherings as much as you can. You've to start attending events where there are loads of ladies and interact with them as much as you can. It might be hard at the incipient but as time goes on you'd adapt.

I think most guys were like you at some point in their lives and its nothing strange. Only that you've refused to leave your shyness behind you at the appropriate time and it has eaten deep into your system. Go out there, socialise, attend parties, make female friends and identify the one you like and chyke the hell outta that mademoiselle.

Nubian113:
Wisest words as usual. Op here's your pearl

Wishing you a blessed new year sir

Lol. It's been long I come up with my usual epistle on relationship issues so decided to give it a go. Hoping it helps.

Happy new year, London beauty.

I hear you... Ever the gentleman I blush but thank you. I'm in Cardiff now but my hearts in London

how's this warm winter treating you?

ronald4ever:


Lol. It's been long I come up with my usual epistle on relationship issues so decided to give it a go. Hoping it helps.

Happy new year, London beauty.

Ps I love your siggy... #wisdomOnflick

I'm working on my attraction powers, I find that I can attract but then I block it's abundant flow somehow. I need solitude this year just to prove to myself that this is real and I'm not mad. Eg I attracted my dream flat in my dream location and on the day of signing the papers I blocked it somehow. You dig

I bottle of dry gin and a pregnant he-goat to appease the gods for ur sake

Ibroboss:
You know what? Gather courage and start any conversation with the girl you like with "I LOVE YOU" and follow it up till it ends well

even when I don't? Lol

cruzita:
I bottle of dry gin and a pregnant he-goat to appease the gods for ur sake

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ronald4ever:
Your problem has nothing to do with mental disorder or has any connection with your mental soundness. You're more likely battling shyness, fear of rejection and social anxiety and only you can emancipate yourself from it.

I think the first thing you need do is to understand no woman is above you and don't place them on a pedestal. You've to muster the courage to approach any woman you like and understand that the worse case scenario is that she says no and no ends at no, they won't bite you. Don't attach much significance on the woman you intend to talk to and assume them to be on same strata as you.

Don't let fear of rejection hamper you from making a move towards a woman you like. The worse thing about rejection is rejection in itself and if within your mind you've accept rejection then you get rejection. But if you've within your heart vowed you'll win her over so shall it manifest.

Fear of rejection is an offshoot of low self esteem and you need to work on your confidence. You've to build up yourself before you can overcome self esteem. As it appears you look down on yourself and if you don't think high of yourself there's no way another person can think high of you. Do all you can to develop some confidence.

I'm guessing you're introverted but you need to start going out to socialise more. Meet people, join social gatherings as much as you can. You've to start attending events where there are loads of ladies and interact with them as much as you can. It might be hard at the incipient but as time goes on you'd adapt.

I think most guys were like you at some point in their lives and its nothing strange. Only that you've refused to leave your shyness behind you at the appropriate time and it has eaten deep into your system. Go out there, socialise, attend parties, make female friends and identify the one you like and chyke the hell outta that mademoiselle.

thank you so much bruv,u sound like a psychologist cos I am an introvert and will put all u said to practice hopefully I get to see genevive and try it out,God bless you

Nubian113:
Wisest words as usual. Op here's your pearl

Wishing you a blessed new year sir

have a blessed new year too mam

you're hopeless

it'll pass..

i see you becoming a player.. a big time player

Nubian113:
I hear you... Ever the gentleman I blush but thank you. I'm in Cardiff now but my hearts in London

how's this warm winter treating you?



Ps I love your siggy... #wisdomOnflick

I'm working on my attraction powers, I find that I can attract but then I block it's abundant flow somehow. I need solitude this year just to prove to myself that this is real and I'm not mad. Eg I attracted my dream flat in my dream location and on the day of signing the papers I blocked it somehow. You dig

Ohh, you moved to Cardiff. Why?

Nothing is good about this weather o, it's freezing and it's been projected to hit the minus degrees in the next coming days. Feel like isolating myself and don't go out but I can't.

I think you need to improve on your persistence culture and put in more effort. Attracting positives isn't enough to actualising it but continuous persistence would do.