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Richardonald:
Na u talk soo? But wait who tell u

Richardonald:
Na u talk soo? But wait who tell u

Happiness87:
Toks2008, all your topics are for matured people not kids who live in fantasy would
j keep it up

sickstars:
To me the best wedding ceremony acceptable by God is d ceremony u have nd u are determined to stick to d marriage no matter wat


Avin a traditional wedding nd stickin till end of time togeda is 1000 times better dan
Avin a church wedding nd divorcing d next day or next month

Cos wat is bound on earth is bound in heaven

Nd wat is loosed on earth is loosed in heaven

Ceremony doesnt matter but the 2 hearts goin on dat life time journey

God is after every human heart first
Den actions next

ue:
d way Nigerians dey take dey collect bride price eehh, especially in d east....
me: papa/mama good day sir/ma
INLAWS: my son how are you sit *offers him garden egg* you can eat as much as you want
me: thank you sir*eats alot of garden egg*
INLAWS: ooh eeem we forgot to tell you, One garden egg cost #1500
me: *FAINTS*

Toks2008:
This is a very sensitive and twisted issue that needs to be approached cautiously and intelligently.

I have read in many places where people have expressed contrary views on this all time important issue. I have seen where a lady have asked if she can move in with her husband after traditional wedding?,i have seen a case where a lady insists that until a man does the white or church wedding,they are not considered married before GOD.

I have even heard many people stating emphatically that as long as a lady's bride price have not been paid then the lady is not considered married to the man and so many other discrepancies too numerous to highlight.`

Now the big question is what exactly is the module for a wedding ceremony and what ceremony really is ordained by GOD? When can GOD acknowledge a man and woman as married?is there any part of the Quran or Bible that stipulates a direct guideline of how a marriage ceremony must be conducted to be legitimate in GOD's eyes?

I will quickly answer this from the Quran and Biblical angles.


1.From the Quran:Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)

The Quran wedding ceremony module is simply hinged on Mutual Agreement of Bride and Groom called Nikah.

Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun ghalithun) as expressed in Quran 4:21. The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.

Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.


2.From the Bible:I am very sorry to disappoint those who live by "my pastor said" or "my parents say" to empty their heads of every man made philosophy and get this straight...[size=13pt]there is no place in the bible where white wedding,traditional wedding or even court-wedding was ever mentioned and infact there was never a place in the bible that gave any preferred wedding ceremony[/size] and the issue of bride price was never mentioned as a yardstick for marriage but a punishment for rape and infact you can pay the bride price and still not allowed to marry the lady because you only paid a fine for rape-exodus 22:16-17:

It is quite absurd that today,many people have the erroneous belief that until all the three forms of wedding is done then GOD has not ordained such and while some say until a church wedding is conducted,GOD will not bless their wedding and i just look at the myopic mindset of these ignorant people and wonder where on earth they got that wrong doctrine from.

There is one scripture that sums up the steps to follow in any form of wedding ceremony you desire to have and that be found in Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and join to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.


A.The first step is for the man to make up his mind to leave his parents to be with a woman and start a family together.

B.A couple can be considered joined when they are legally married. The scriptural support typically given for this view is the biblical command to obey the government’s laws (Romans 13:1–7; 1 Peter 2:17). A couple can also be considered joined together in God’s eyes when they have completed some kind of formal wedding ceremony whether in the church or culturally.

C.The third and final stage is becoming one flesh which occurs when sexual act occurs and this is why many people are warned against indiscriminate sexual acts as any sexual act is actually fulfilling the third stage of marital union and many people have actually been married to so many people in their life time.

So whether you decide to have just one of the 3 mode of celebration or you want to do Religious,traditional and court,you are very free.But it is important to note that in GOD's eyes the only thing he recognizes as directed by him is for a man to leave his parents,be joined to his wife and lastly become one with her and which ever way both of you decide to go about the ceremony as long as its not against his ordinances,its perfectly ok.

I hope this makes sense
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jnrbayano:
There's no place in the bible where Nairaland and its usage is written.

Why do you use Nairaland?

Toks2008:
Ok sis but can i ask you a quick question.

If you had a legal wedding with someone and the bride price has not been paid will you say both of you are not yet married?

debque:
d way Nigerians dey take dey collect bride price eehh, especially in d east....

me: papa/mama good day sir/ma

INLAWS: my son how are you sit *offers him garden egg* you can eat as much as you want

me: thank you sir*eats alot of garden egg*

INLAWS: ooh eeem we forgot to tell you, One garden egg cost #1500

me: *FAINTS*

Toks2008:
thought Muslims do just nikah merged with traditional.

Lezzlie:
Traditional marriage is the way to go for me. Marriage in the bible is often done in cultural settings of the day, hence it is traditional in nature.

I beleive church weddings came to bear in Africa due to colonialism, especially for youths who rejected their traditional beliefs and become outcasts. With time, we have grown so attached to all three forms of marriage rites.

For me, a pastor has no maral or spiritual authority pronouncing or joining man or woman as husband and wife. That should be left to the parents.

No wedding or marriage ever took place in the synagogue , neither was any conducted by any prophet or disciple.


But women, forever emotionally unstable will guarantee that this wasteful culture continues.

Toks2008:
This is a very sensitive and twisted issue that needs to be approached cautiously and intelligently.

I have read in many places where people have expressed contrary views on this all time important issue. I have seen where a lady have asked if she can move in with her husband after traditional wedding?,i have seen a case where a lady insists that until a man does the white or church wedding,they are not considered married before GOD.

I have even heard many people stating emphatically that as long as a lady's bride price have not been paid then the lady is not considered married to the man and so many other discrepancies too numerous to highlight.`

Now the big question is what exactly is the module for a wedding ceremony and what ceremony really is ordained by GOD? When can GOD acknowledge a man and woman as married?is there any part of the Quran or Bible that stipulates a direct guideline of how a marriage ceremony must be conducted to be legitimate in GOD's eyes?

I will quickly answer this from the Quran and Biblical angles.


1.From the Quran:Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)

The Quran wedding ceremony module is simply hinged on Mutual Agreement of Bride and Groom called Nikah.

Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun ghalithun) as expressed in Quran 4:21. The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.

Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.


2.From the Bible:I am very sorry to disappoint those who live by "my pastor said" or "my parents say" to empty their heads of every man made philosophy and get this straight...[size=13pt]there is no place in the bible where white wedding,traditional wedding or even court-wedding was ever mentioned and infact there was never a place in the bible that gave any preferred wedding ceremony[/size] and the issue of bride price was never mentioned as a yardstick for marriage but a punishment for rape and infact you can pay the bride price and still not allowed to marry the lady because you only paid a fine for rape-exodus 22:16-17:

It is quite absurd that today,many people have the erroneous belief that until all the three forms of wedding is done then GOD has not ordained such and while some say until a church wedding is conducted,GOD will not bless their wedding and i just look at the myopic mindset of these ignorant people and wonder where on earth they got that wrong doctrine from.

There is one scripture that sums up the steps to follow in any form of wedding ceremony you desire to have and that be found in Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and join to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.


A.The first step is for the man to make up his mind to leave his parents to be with a woman and start a family together.

B.A couple can be considered joined when they are legally married. The scriptural support typically given for this view is the biblical command to obey the government’s laws (Romans 13:1–7; 1 Peter 2:17). A couple can also be considered joined together in God’s eyes when they have completed some kind of formal wedding ceremony whether in the church or culturally.

C.The third and final stage is becoming one flesh which occurs when sexual act occurs and this is why many people are warned against indiscriminate sexual acts as any sexual act is actually fulfilling the third stage of marital union and many people have actually been married to so many people in their life time.

So whether you decide to have just one of the 3 mode of celebration or you want to do Religious,traditional and court,you are very free.But it is important to note that in GOD's eyes the only thing he recognizes as directed by him is for a man to leave his parents,be joined to his wife and lastly become one with her and which ever way both of you decide to go about the ceremony as long as its not against his ordinances,its perfectly ok.

I hope this makes sense.

Omotayor123:
Don't know... What I know is that I must do All of the Above!

Toks2008:
I have even heard many people stating emphatically that as long as a lady's bride price have not been paid then the lady is not considered married to the man and so many other discrepancies too numerous to highlight.`[/b] and the issue of bride price was never mentioned as a yardstick for marriage but a punishment for rape

olakan22:
apologies...are u making ur point based on d Bible or Quran? Moreso, d biblical passages you mentioned aren't dissecting d issue...in short, I assume u are trying to pass to us your own perspective on weddings other than d HOLY SPIRIT's revelations

Toks2008:
This is a very sensitive and twisted issue that needs to be approached cautiously and intelligently.

I have read in many places where people have expressed contrary views on this all time important issue. I have seen where a lady have asked if she can move in with her husband after traditional wedding?,i have seen a case where a lady insists that until a man does the white or church wedding,they are not considered married before GOD.

I have even heard many people stating emphatically that as long as a lady's bride price have not been paid then the lady is not considered married to the man and so many other discrepancies too numerous to highlight.`

Now the big question is what exactly is the module for a wedding ceremony and what ceremony really is ordained by GOD? When can GOD acknowledge a man and woman as married?is there any part of the Quran or Bible that stipulates a direct guideline of how a marriage ceremony must be conducted to be legitimate in GOD's eyes?

I will quickly answer this from the Quran and Biblical angles.


1.From the Quran:Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)

The Quran wedding ceremony module is simply hinged on Mutual Agreement of Bride and Groom called Nikah.

Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun ghalithun) as expressed in Quran 4:21. The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.

Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.


2.From the Bible:I am very sorry to disappoint those who live by "my pastor said" or "my parents say" to empty their heads of every man made philosophy and get this straight...[size=13pt]there is no place in the bible where white wedding,traditional wedding or even court-wedding was ever mentioned and infact there was never a place in the bible that gave any preferred wedding ceremony[/size] and the issue of bride price was never mentioned as a yardstick for marriage but a punishment for rape and infact you can pay the bride price and still not allowed to marry the lady because you only paid a fine for rape-exodus 22:16-17:

It is quite absurd that today,many people have the erroneous belief that until all the three forms of wedding is done then GOD has not ordained such and while some say until a church wedding is conducted,GOD will not bless their wedding and i just look at the myopic mindset of these ignorant people and wonder where on earth they got that wrong doctrine from.

There is one scripture that sums up the steps to follow in any form of wedding ceremony you desire to have and that be found in Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and join to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.


A.The first step is for the man to make up his mind to leave his parents to be with a woman and start a family together.

B.A couple can be considered joined when they are legally married. The scriptural support typically given for this view is the biblical command to obey the government’s laws (Romans 13:1–7; 1 Peter 2:17). A couple can also be considered joined together in God’s eyes when they have completed some kind of formal wedding ceremony whether in the church or culturally.

C.The third and final stage is becoming one flesh which occurs when sexual act occurs and this is why many people are warned against indiscriminate sexual acts as any sexual act is actually fulfilling the third stage of marital union and many people have actually been married to so many people in their life time.

So whether you decide to have just one of the 3 mode of celebration or you want to do Religious,traditional and court,you are very free.But it is important to note that in GOD's eyes the only thing he recognizes as directed by him is for a man to leave his parents,be joined to his wife and lastly become one with her and which ever way both of you decide to go about the ceremony as long as its not against his ordinances,its perfectly ok.

I hope this makes sense.

Toks2008:
Ok sis but can i ask you a quick question.

If you had a legal wedding with someone and the bride price has not been paid will you say both of you are not yet married?