Helloflife:
Please, i want you all to know i didn't date him for money or any other material gain but because i needed a soulmate at that point in time.


Lalasticlala please i need more valuable advice.

chai guys don suffer.

zezebabyxoxo:
Honestly, I'm in the same boat as OP.

if you are pls call me for special advise, 08101956577

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Babe I like you for not saying what you don't mean I.e for not saying you love him while you don't.

Love has it's different ways.... To some they fall one's and to some it takes longer.
What you will do is to stop collecting things from him if you like him.

And if he should ask you next time, simply tell him you don't and you don't want him to go, that he should give you time. Expect if you've find someone else

Helloflife:
Please, i want you all to know i didn't date him for money or any other material gain but because i needed a soulmate at that point in time.


Lalasticlala please i need more valuable advice.

Be honest with yourself hasn't he spent money and time during the course. You make him sound like a good guy yet....Some women just fall for the wrong kind of guys and afterwards come to tag all guys with different obscure names.Lord ve mercy

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

This is one of the reasons I don't pity girls treated like slave by their husbands bcoz it might be the payback of their past sin. is people like you normally end up with people that treats you like slave. Karma is watching. idiot

Sister Me! You are wicked! found my self in this kinda mess before! Was used and dumped by a sister like you! If u know how much hate I have for her now! U won't try it! Somehow she realized that I had something her new maga! Doesn't and she started dancing showki towards me! Trust boys na! D blank and brickwall I erected will last for eternity! She missed me, she wanted to see me, the fault was hers not mine bla bla bla! And all of that shit is what I keep hearing

Amberon:
Then what do I do?? I know I will never love again. The only person I've ever loved, which I still have feelings for doesn't seem to care. ( moreover, its been years since we broke up). Is it not better I date someone who I know loves and cherishes me and has proven himself worthy?

If I leave this guy now, its the same NLs that will call me a mumu for leaving him.

Get the past out of your head. You'll definitely heal and love again. But you must be willing. Your ex is having the time of his life wherever he is and you are wallowing in self pity! Life is too short babe. You're lucky to have someone who you know loves and cherishes you, but listen babe, he won't wait forever. loving and faithful guys like this don't come everyday. If you see yourself not ever loving him,quit wasting your time and his.

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Y don't you love him? Is he not up to standard, a married man or a divorcee? There is something keeping you from loving him. Until you say the reason, then you will get a solution

You have to be careful and be sure that on your part you truly are not in love with him before you tell him because i have been there...

I was in love with this girl and we started dating and after sometimes she told me that she doesnt know if she was in love with me that as a matter of fact she dosnt love me.. I then told her okay i understand that moreover i have noticed her strange behavious...to cut the long story short ..that was how we stopped dating and i moved on.


After a while i started dating my present girlfriend and and uptill now she is still on my neck on how she wanted us back! How she truly love me but didn't realised until I moved on.....

That's why i said be sure u are not really in love with him before telling him...

The best thing is to tell him now, let him see reasons why it won't be good for both of you to continue again and please you have to wait on God to get His mind for you. I believe for every man, God has provided a woman, it's now left to us to find out but it's always possible through prayers and faith. MARANATHA

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Tell him that your pastor said that he is not for you.

I have never met anyone who could defeat this line of incredulous argument.
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Confused State. Iraanu!!!

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

gimme his number and I'll tell him



Simple!



The guy does not deserve you sef. What kind of a guy asks a lady if she loves him? Yea, a guy with a v@gina

Settle the dude with ur puna. Then tell him afterwards.

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

I have heard many ladies say stuffs like "John
loves me but i can't marry him because i have
no feelings for him but I love Jude but he is just
acting funny and he even told me he does not
love me" but she will still continue to hope that
Jude wakes up one day to start loving her while
she keeps driving John away.
This is the case with many ladies loving a man
who does not want or love them while neglecting
or friend-zoning the serious minded dudes who
sincerely want them.A happy and peaceful union
is not about being with a Tall,cute,handsome,rich
bla bla bla...but its about having a man who
respects and sincerely wants you.
Please as a lady,you must understand that it is
not every man who professes love to you is
genuine and not not all the men who ask for
your hand in marriage really wants you because
many guys marry for different reasons.Some
want unhindered sex,some just want to have
children,want someone to take care of the home
front or just satisfy the demands of family
members so be sure to test that man to know if
he really loves and wants you as a wife for the
right reasons before saying yes i do to him..
I have so many lady friends who have been in
and out of affairs and i can boldly make this
conclusion with no fear of confrontation that for
a lady to have a fulfilling marriage, it is not about
how sweet looking or romantic or rich a guy is
and infact the feelings of the lady towards the
man as important as it may be does not
guaranty a happy marriage rather it is what the
man feels towards the lady that matters.
Now let me blow your mind;many ladies will not
agree with this but this is how women are wired.
Men are visually influenced while ladies are
emotionally influenced.
If a woman marries a man she does not love as
in no single love at all but this guy starts to
show her real love and i mean treats her like a
queen,i bet you that in no time, she will begin to
fall in love with him even if he is a fat,short,ugly
man. This is the mystery that women don't even
understand just like the act of sharing a man
but if you marry a guy by all means because he
is a cutie,rich or for any other reasons asides
from his unequivocal desire for you, trust me,by
the time he treats you like a poo after
marriage,that cute guy you marry will look like a
beast and all the money he has will be
inconsequential to you . The beauty and the
beast movie is not just fiction.
My unbiased conclusion is that if a lady marries
a man that truly loves and cherishes her,SHE IS
COMPLETE IN MARRIAGE but if a lady marries a
man she loves and feels so crazy about but does
not truly loves or desires her,SHE IS MARITALLY
FINISHED .
Every woman should pray to marry a man who
will make them complete.....so please ladies
take NOTE.

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

After seeing the level of your seriousness, I would say you ladies make this mistakes over and over again and it will continue.

I know why you don't love him. Wanna know why? HE IS TOO NICE to you. Your feminine hormones are wired not to like such guys. You want a bad boy, one that will keep you in so much suspense, at the brink of insanity. You want/need a guy who cheats with others girls, or who does not care much about you, one who pay less attention to you. It's not your fault but the way you are wired, which is what I am not happy about in ladies.

I am VERY sure there is a new guy somewhere who has the alpha male characteristics and he is making you crazy, you wanna win him and conquer him, even though you have refused to say so in your OP.

Girl, it is easy to get ANYTHING you want in a guy that is MADLY in love with you than otherwise, not saying you should take advantage of the guy in question o. Just saying that you will have much peace of mind. You can NEVER find a complete package ANY where, so stop lookng for it. This guy truly loves you and you are about to throw it away just because someone is catching you fancy somewhere. You may never be lucky to find that ONE who loves you just as much till your death. It's not a curse, it's life and SO many women are married to men who don't love them just because he was all they had left and all because when they came back, the one who really loved them was long gone.

LOVE is special and a ONE TIME OFFER.

He may not consider you again if you go to the new guy and come back. So, if you wanna leave, better leave and NEVER look back when things turn bad between you and the new guy that is catching you fancy.

SO MANY guys are as bad as you can imagine. Even if he was gonna marry you isn't a guarantee that you will be happy. Your happiness she precede your emotions in this time, use your head instead of your heart. Love is a very delicate thing.

What is it that you don't like about this current guy? Is he ugly? Is he dirty? Is he broke? What exactly?

I need answers and I just hope you are not trying to be the normal girl who build castle in cloud, with so much fantasy. That lifestyle has ruined MANY because they refused to face reality.

Mrlekan07034617:


Lolz really hilarious I must tell u.

That's y I don't give a shit about them. If I'm attracted to you and I make the first move to meet u by trying to talk to you and you are like..... (Forming!!!)

I will just walk away and talk to someone else, instead of holding your fingers on my knee begging for just a "YES"

The BAD ones among them had really made guys go WILD dealing with ladies. That's y there are so many RAPE cases everywhere!!

that's how them swap there potential lovely husband to be to a goat and start blaming all men are the same!

WOMEN really really got a lot of problems.

2sex:
After seeing the level of your seriousness, I would say you ladies make this mistakes over and over again and it will continue.

I know why you don't love him. Wanna know why? HE IS TOO NICE to you. Your feminine hormones are wired not to like such guys. You want a bad boy, one that will keep you in so much suspense, at the brink of insanity. You want/need a guy who cheats with others girls, or who does not care much about you, one who pay less attention to you. It's not your fault but the way you are wired, which is what I am not happy about in ladies.

I am VERY sure there is a new guy somewhere who has the alpha male characteristics and he is making you crazy, you wanna win him and conquer him, even though you have refused to say so in your OP.

Girl, it is easy to get ANYTHING you want in a guy that is MADLY in love with you than otherwise, not saying you should take advantage of the guy in question o. Just saying that you will have much peace of mind. You can NEVER find a complete package ANY where, so stop lookng for it. This guy truly loves you and you are about to throw it away just because someone is catching you fancy somewhere. You may never be lucky to find that ONE who loves you just as much till your death. It's not a curse, it's life and SO many women are married to men who don't love them just because he was all they had left and all because when they came back, the one who really loved them was long gone.

LOVE is special and a ONE TIME OFFER.

He may not consider you again if you go to the new guy and come back. So, if you wanna leave, better leave and NEVER look back when things turn bad between you and the new guy that is catching you fancy.

SO MANY guys are as bad as you can imagine. Even if he was gonna marry you isn't a guarantee that you will be happy. Your happiness she precede your emotions in this time, use your head instead of your heart. Love is a very delicate thing.

What is it that you don't like about this current guy? Is he ugly? Is he dirty? Is he broke? What exactly?

I need answers and I just hope you are not trying to be the normal girl who build castle in cloud, with so much fantasy. That lifestyle has ruined MANY because they refused to face reality.

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Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Something must have really made u to date him in the first place. Think of it, review it, then talk to him.
In such situation, it is good to do things by mutual consent. With that, nobody would feel hurt emotionally.

oodua1stson:
gimme his number and I'll tell him



Simple!



The guy does not deserve you sef. What kind of a guy asks a lady if she loves him? Yea, a guy with a v@gina

so if I ask you "do you love me" I have v@gina ABI

I PITY this species of women we have in this country particularly!

If he was the only man on earth that sees u , wunt u love him? Or if u were 35yrs , wunt u love him... Women are the most wicked selfish creatures ever created

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

While it may seem like foolishness to most girls, I want you to know you made the right and best decision? I OWE you MTN 1500. How do I send it?

missyadorable:

Oh!

.....
And u call urself a girl?

I pity men who crosses ur path.

brownlolly:


I'm in d same situation now. This girl I worked with last year. She is a very pleasant person. I had intentions but amidst all of dat I saw right thru her. We talked everyday since then till this year and I tot we should start a relationship. We have never had sex.

But now I know I'm not into her. Never told her I love her. I don't miss her. I don't feel obliged to call her or do anything. I just want to be left alone.

Please how does she feel about you?

mulliga44:
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brotherly, enter Afroromance.com and go see women upon women SEARCHING... na Eritrea matter carry me enter there ooo.

How did such women, beautiful women, end up searching till they ended in that age? This OP does not know that men will always have greater advantage than they

pamellla:

u don't date someone out of pity...ur NO should be ur NO! I won't be surprised if in the next few years u com here on NL nd start ranting bout the downfall of ur marriage (I forbid it tho) cox ts crystal clear u don't love d dude, u are only trying to put up with him coz of his persistence...marriage is a challenging institution, you have to think twice bfo venturing into it.

madam, you are wrong. She stated it clearly other qualities her guy has and besides, the ones she loved never loved her. She is wiser than you dumb fvck!

Helloflife:
I still haven't told him.
I need more advice

...
When I said I hate girls, urs is exactly my reason.

Ur type cos men to become desperately wicked to females.

I hate You.

czarr:
Did you notice the thing the op and the commenter with the same problem have in common?

The guy doesn't ask them for sex,or pressurize them rather!!!

These girls feel like they are dating their brother.
They don't feel sexually desired and that alone is an ego killer to a girl,she may not like to admit it but its true

She wants to turn you down but she also wants you to ask...

Weird right?
Women right?!

I missed that o. NA D FUCKERRYYY b the koko... lmaooo. if you don't bang them, you are nothing bro. thumbs up buddy

um y'all need to give her a break these things happen. Well there must be a reason why you dated him i the first place,so you should really take your time before you do wat you would regret. Until you are 100% sure that you are not interested,then you should just tell him.

kuchikau:
.....
And u call urself a girl?

I pity men who crosses ur path.

Lol.Men don't "crosses" my path!
I am settled!

RoyalBlak007:
[size=25pt]...what made you say YES inthe first place?,,,Money??[/size]

[size=14pt]Nice font[/size]

adexsimply:
[size=14pt]Nice font[/size]

[size=24pt]Thanks Sir[/size]