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MarieSucre:
The op did say she has a job in Lagos. The uncertainty in Mowe in this present economic climate is what made her rethink the move.

Rollar:
Ehn
See dis yeye pikin oh. Na ur papa nyash you dey open for public lyk dis?
You're right, but I maintain, anybody that goes to such great lengths to prove she's over somebody that jilted her, is obviously in denial. Whatever her reason for going to that party, to show the guy what he's missing or to rattle him, she's clearly bitter that he left her.
I understand the fact that moving may have been detrimental to her business, but calling his bluff to go and meet another lady, just because he hurt her ego by insinuating he could get someone else was reckless. She has no idea what made him so adamant. Maybe his parents/family members/peers were unaware of the consequences of her moving and were mocking his manhood for his inability to 'be a man.' Bet that possibility wasn't taken into consideration. You know as Africans, our parents have great influence over our actions (whether we like it or not) she says they could afford a house in Lagos, but what if the guy doubted his ability to keep up with subsequent rents and didn't want to risk having to depend on her to put a roof over his head? She sounds like the type that would still turn around to open a thread about how her useless boyfriend was depending on her for rent. The dude had a free house to stay in and he saw no sense in passing up the opportunity. It was left for her to calm him down and make him see things her way in a mature manner, instead of lashing back at him for bruising her pride

IGBOPRINCE:
man is a rational being but sometimes goes irrational. my friend things re happening in this world. It s strange but true
Hope you understand.

MarieSucre:
The op did say she has a job in Lagos. The uncertainty in Mowe in this present economic climate is what made her rethink the move.

misspicy:
daddy,I concur with what she did and obviously nigga will regret his actions....

who leaves a four years relationship and jumps to get married almost immediately to another person,he did it to taunt her and bet me he is gonna regret it,because obviously his village wife will be all yes sir to him but she has nothing to contribute to him financially,and by the time the financial burdens starts rolling in,he might even cheat on the village wife with his ex..or worst still some other women.


Do you know what it feels like to groom a man from nothing to something then have him leave?

akike:
Biko if he did what he did because of his family, I can only say kudos to the woman. God forbid I end up with a man that does things because of his family.

So it wasn't the man's job to state his reasons clearly and reasonably

nlfan:
This Is How I Broke Him Down After He Broke My Heart

I met this young man when i was 21 and he was 24 we dated 4 years, we were both struggling, we stayed with each other and help each other to grow.

We grow to become successful and i became very influential in my field and he was so proud of that.

Last october we agreed to walk down the isle, we were planning where we are going to stay after the wedding, he stays somewhere in Lagos mainland while i stay in the island. He told me that he will be moving somewhere in Mowe in Ogun State where his father built a house about 2 years ago.

I told him that will not be a good idea, going from Mowe to Victoria Island everyday will be terrible for me since we can afford a house in Lagos at least for now or we stay where he is staying currently, he maintained he cant change, we could not reach an agreement on that, the next thing i got a shocker, he traveled for event outside Lagos to the east, where he comes from, only to get attracted to a girl he met there and came boldly to tell me, if i cannot marry him and stay at mowe, there are so many good girls who will rush the offer and in annoyance i told him, have you found one please marry her.

To my surprise few days after i saw a photo of him and that girl he just met, less than two months all over social media, he has engaged her.

Initially i was pained, but let's face it he doesn't deserve my tears, his groups of friends started calling my line to ask when we stopped dating since we still stepped out recently to his friend birthday.

I didnt know what to say i asked them to ask him, things went that way and i started hurting, after he did official intro to the girl i knew it was over, i called him and told him i wish him happiness and best of luck with his wife to be.

He felt bad but said he knew i was a good person that he is not shocked i called, i ask him to keep me updated on wedding plans and he did and i told him i will attend he said he will be grateful.

On the wedding day, during the reception i showed up, i had gone to get a very flattering dress, i even paid for make up, i looked so beautiful i couldn't believe myself too

When i entered the room everybody went crazy, all his friends and associate knew me, some are even pained at what he did to me, i showed up all his friends rushed to greet me, it took over 30 minutes to cheek kiss all of them and hug a few, the few people who didn't know me was wondering who i was and why i am so beautiful

I went up to greet him, he almost fell down from where he was standing, i greeted his wife ( a village girl from akwa ibom lol - the way she pronounce the thanks for coming though )

I started catching fun and dancing crazy, my ex couldn't stand it anymore, he ask his wife to go inside the car only him came to greet his guys where i was seated, THEN BROKE DOWN IN TEARS

HE CRIED SO LOUD LIKE PEOPLE WERE SCARED, People will think that i will disappear from there scene since he was crying, i was still seated shaking body to the tune of music, he then told one of his friend, i don't know but i think i messed up - the guy was like you messed up big time, are you just realizing, then live with it the rest of your life, his wife rushed out of the car i guess he heard his prince charming was crying, he came and the moment she opened her mouth to ask daring wot isssit, guys had funny faces about to explode.

At that point he left and i continue hanging out with his friends before oping into my car to go home. He sent a touching sms yesterday.

Alezy:
So why is she pained?? Everybody is settled....she had her job, the guy has a wife who was willing to move to mowe.

Acidosis:
You've seen a better man already, right?


Please let him be, don't crash his marriage. Whether the girl is a village girl from Akwa Ibom or not, the truth is that she had something you didn't have (its not your fault). The lady is ready to move to Mowe, while you're not ready for such.


Only a lady who has seen another man ALREADY will do all you did. Mind you, he has been dating that lady for years. No man, I repeat no man will meet a new girl and get married to her within a space of 2 months. It will never happen in Nigeria.

Your storyline is sweet, but it takes a culpable, fickle, gullible and predisposed mind to believe your story hook line and sinker. Something is missing in your post and I know it.

Rollar:
Madam I know we're all striving to live like oyinbo people, but the truth is that as long as we're in Africa, we're gonna live like Africans. I see nothing wrong in a man heeding to the advice of his father, it doesn't make him weak. If his father was trying to make him do something bad, that'll be different.
There's no doubt the guy was immature, but are you suggesting that justifies the lady's immaturity? There must be at least one adult in a relationship. When ones partner beats them to the punch by being childish, one is left with no choice than to be the voice of reason. If not most marriages would comprise of two people who go about sticking their tongues out at each other and holding hissing matches.

MarieSucre:
I think she should have not gone for the wedding at all. But then people will say she is pained.

nlfan:
This Is How I Broke Him Down After He Broke My Heart

I met this young man when i was 21 and he was 24 we dated 4 years, we were both struggling, we stayed with each other and help each other to grow.

We grow to become successful and i became very influential in my field and he was so proud of that.

Last october we agreed to walk down the isle, we were planning where we are going to stay after the wedding, he stays somewhere in Lagos mainland while i stay in the island. He told me that he will be moving somewhere in Mowe in Ogun State where his father built a house about 2 years ago.

I told him that will not be a good idea, going from Mowe to Victoria Island everyday will be terrible for me since we can afford a house in Lagos at least for now or we stay where he is staying currently, he maintained he cant change, we could not reach an agreement on that, the next thing i got a shocker, he traveled for event outside Lagos to the east, where he comes from, only to get attracted to a girl he met there and came boldly to tell me, if i cannot marry him and stay at mowe, there are so many good girls who will rush the offer and in annoyance i told him, have you found one please marry her.

To my surprise few days after i saw a photo of him and that girl he just met, less than two months all over social media, he has engaged her.

Initially i was pained, but let's face it he doesn't deserve my tears, his groups of friends started calling my line to ask when we stopped dating since we still stepped out recently to his friend birthday.

I didnt know what to say i asked them to ask him, things went that way and i started hurting, after he did official intro to the girl i knew it was over, i called him and told him i wish him happiness and best of luck with his wife to be.

He felt bad but said he knew i was a good person that he is not shocked i called, i ask him to keep me updated on wedding plans and he did and i told him i will attend he said he will be grateful.

On the wedding day, during the reception i showed up, i had gone to get a very flattering dress, i even paid for make up, i looked so beautiful i couldn't believe myself too

When i entered the room everybody went crazy, all his friends and associate knew me, some are even pained at what he did to me, i showed up all his friends rushed to greet me, it took over 30 minutes to cheek kiss all of them and hug a few, the few people who didn't know me was wondering who i was and why i am so beautiful

I went up to greet him, he almost fell down from where he was standing, i greeted his wife ( a village girl from akwa ibom lol - the way she pronounce the thanks for coming though )

I started catching fun and dancing crazy, my ex couldn't stand it anymore, he ask his wife to go inside the car only him came to greet his guys where i was seated, THEN BROKE DOWN IN TEARS

HE CRIED SO LOUD LIKE PEOPLE WERE SCARED, People will think that i will disappear from there scene since he was crying, i was still seated shaking body to the tune of music, he then told one of his friend, i don't know but i think i messed up - the guy was like you messed up big time, are you just realizing, then live with it the rest of your life, his wife rushed out of the car i guess he heard his prince charming was crying, he came and the moment she opened her mouth to ask daring wot isssit, guys had funny faces about to explode.

At that point he left and i continue hanging out with his friends before oping into my car to go home. He sent a touching sms yesterday.

nlfan:
This Is How I Broke Him Down After He Broke My Heart

I met this young man when i was 21 and he was 24 we dated 4 years, we were both struggling, we stayed with each other and help each other to grow.

We grow to become successful and i became very influential in my field and he was so proud of that.

Last october we agreed to walk down the isle, we were planning where we are going to stay after the wedding, he stays somewhere in Lagos mainland while i stay in the island. He told me that he will be moving somewhere in Mowe in Ogun State where his father built a house about 2 years ago.

I told him that will not be a good idea, going from Mowe to Victoria Island everyday will be terrible for me since we can afford a house in Lagos at least for now or we stay where he is staying currently, he maintained he cant change, we could not reach an agreement on that, the next thing i got a shocker, he traveled for event outside Lagos to the east, where he comes from, only to get attracted to a girl he met there and came boldly to tell me, if i cannot marry him and stay at mowe, there are so many good girls who will rush the offer and in annoyance i told him, have you found one please marry her.

To my surprise few days after i saw a photo of him and that girl he just met, less than two months all over social media, he has engaged her.

Initially i was pained, but let's face it he doesn't deserve my tears, his groups of friends started calling my line to ask when we stopped dating since we still stepped out recently to his friend birthday.

I didnt know what to say i asked them to ask him, things went that way and i started hurting, after he did official intro to the girl i knew it was over, i called him and told him i wish him happiness and best of luck with his wife to be.

He felt bad but said he knew i was a good person that he is not shocked i called, i ask him to keep me updated on wedding plans and he did and i told him i will attend he said he will be grateful.

On the wedding day, during the reception i showed up, i had gone to get a very flattering dress, i even paid for make up, i looked so beautiful i couldn't believe myself too

When i entered the room everybody went crazy, all his friends and associate knew me, some are even pained at what he did to me, i showed up all his friends rushed to greet me, it took over 30 minutes to cheek kiss all of them and hug a few, the few people who didn't know me was wondering who i was and why i am so beautiful

I went up to greet him, he almost fell down from where he was standing, i greeted his wife ( a village girl from akwa ibom lol - the way she pronounce the thanks for coming though )

I started catching fun and dancing crazy, my ex couldn't stand it anymore, he ask his wife to go inside the car only him came to greet his guys where i was seated, THEN BROKE DOWN IN TEARS

HE CRIED SO LOUD LIKE PEOPLE WERE SCARED, People will think that i will disappear from there scene since he was crying, i was still seated shaking body to the tune of music, he then told one of his friend, i don't know but i think i messed up - the guy was like you messed up big time, are you just realizing, then live with it the rest of your life, his wife rushed out of the car i guess he heard his prince charming was crying, he came and the moment she opened her mouth to ask daring wot isssit, guys had funny faces about to explode.

At that point he left and i continue hanging out with his friends before oping into my car to go home. He sent a touching sms yesterday.

Rollar:
Now you're talking! I'm glad we're finally on the same page. If she really didn't care, she'd have stayed home watching movies or taken herself out for a treat. Not spending so much money to look good and traipsing over to the wedding to cause commotion

nlfan:
over hill wetin? i had loved him for 4 years but it stopped the moment he did intro with that babe, it doesnt mean i dont have suitors, it is even because of him im not married yet and yes, very soon im gonna be very happy with my own husband too, very soon and i will announce on NLer

misspicy:
daddy,I concur with what she did and obviously nigga will regret his actions....

who leaves a four years relationship and jumps to get married almost immediately to another person,he did it to taunt her and bet me he is gonna regret it,because obviously his village wife will be all yes sir to him but she has nothing to contribute to him financially,and by the time the financial burdens starts rolling in,he might even cheat on the village wife with his ex..or worst still some other women.


Do you know what it feels like to groom a man from nothing to something then have him leave?

MarieSucre:
Where did she say she is pained in the post? Or are you reading the back of your phone?

Malakh:
they are both kids men!, only grown-up thing they did was fvck

blesoh:
LOL. The girl try sha. Spent your hard earned money to look good for your ex marriage Which would have been you, odikwa risky lol.

BreezyRita:
Say this actually happened:
You sound so full of yourself lady. I get it that you're hurt and I'm sorry.

To the part where you think you're better than the woman he married. You're mocking her when I'm here wondering who taught you English.
And you could easily have said she's a village girl without adding Akwa Ibom (like that's all they are). If you said this about an Igbo or Yoruba woman, I'm sure you'd be regretting this post by now.

Your man saw something better in that illiterate Akwa Ibom girl that said 'daring' instead of darling which made him choose her over you. Its left to you to find out what that was.
Goodluck!

nlfan:
This Is How I Broke Him Down After He Broke My Heart

I met this young man when i was 21 and he was 24 we dated 4 years, we were both struggling, we stayed with each other and help each other to grow.

We grow to become successful and i became very influential in my field and he was so proud of that.

Last october we agreed to walk down the isle, we were planning where we are going to stay after the wedding, he stays somewhere in Lagos mainland while i stay in the island. He told me that he will be moving somewhere in Mowe in Ogun State where his father built a house about 2 years ago.

I told him that will not be a good idea, going from Mowe to Victoria Island everyday will be terrible for me since we can afford a house in Lagos at least for now or we stay where he is staying currently, he maintained he cant change, we could not reach an agreement on that, the next thing i got a shocker, he traveled for event outside Lagos to the east, where he comes from, only to get attracted to a girl he met there and came boldly to tell me, if i cannot marry him and stay at mowe, there are so many good girls who will rush the offer and in annoyance i told him, have you found one please marry her.

To my surprise few days after i saw a photo of him and that girl he just met, less than two months all over social media, he has engaged her.

Initially i was pained, but let's face it he doesn't deserve my tears, his groups of friends started calling my line to ask when we stopped dating since we still stepped out recently to his friend birthday.

I didnt know what to say i asked them to ask him, things went that way and i started hurting, after he did official intro to the girl i knew it was over, i called him and told him i wish him happiness and best of luck with his wife to be.

He felt bad but said he knew i was a good person that he is not shocked i called, i ask him to keep me updated on wedding plans and he did and i told him i will attend he said he will be grateful.

On the wedding day, during the reception i showed up, i had gone to get a very flattering dress, i even paid for make up, i looked so beautiful i couldn't believe myself too

When i entered the room everybody went crazy, all his friends and associate knew me, some are even pained at what he did to me, i showed up all his friends rushed to greet me, it took over 30 minutes to cheek kiss all of them and hug a few, the few people who didn't know me was wondering who i was and why i am so beautiful

I went up to greet him, he almost fell down from where he was standing, i greeted his wife ( a village girl from akwa ibom lol - the way she pronounce the thanks for coming though )

I started catching fun and dancing crazy, my ex couldn't stand it anymore, he ask his wife to go inside the car only him came to greet his guys where i was seated, THEN BROKE DOWN IN TEARS

HE CRIED SO LOUD LIKE PEOPLE WERE SCARED, People will think that i will disappear from there scene since he was crying, i was still seated shaking body to the tune of music, he then told one of his friend, i don't know but i think i messed up - the guy was like you messed up big time, are you just realizing, then live with it the rest of your life, his wife rushed out of the car i guess he heard his prince charming was crying, he came and the moment she opened her mouth to ask daring wot isssit, guys had funny faces about to explode.

At that point he left and i continue hanging out with his friends before oping into my car to go home. He sent a touching sms yesterday.

Rollar:
Mehn I just weak. Maybe she go borrow money sef. I can just imagine that conversation, "Chidera abeg borrow me 10k mah use am dress to kill with ogbonge makeup, mah show Martins say I no send am."

icedbeatz:
are you a teenager? Don't just read the typed words, analyse the true state and mindset of the individual that is typed the story, why would they type such stuff and their selection of words in describing the characters in their story and how they were related to each character only then you can .......