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Loisemm:
She has my sympathy but she tried too hard to show she 'had moved on'. In the end, she showed that she was yet to actually move on. Paying a professional make up artist and buying a new dress etc all to 'show' a man that was marrying another woman?! Common, that looks pitiable. [size=18pt]The best revenge[/size] is to live your life well not attending ur ex's wedding all glamd up to prove that point. Go out there and live your life well and God will bring another man.

So long as you are thinking "revenge" you are just setting yourself up to repeat your woes, because you are not learning from your mistakes.

The man (boy?) solved the problem of where to live by riding rough shod over his girlfriend of 4 years. How did she stay with him for 4 years and not know that that is his nature?

Answer:

It was in her nature, too. Over the 4 years, when she saw him riding rough shod over other people, alarm bells didn't begin to ring, because she is the same. It was in the nature of both of them from the beginning, so they couldn't see anything to worry about in each other.

Then, at some point he does it to her. She responds by trying to ride rough shod over him.

It is the same with women who go with violent men. These women are violent, and they get their boyfriends to be threatening or act out their violence for them. All the warning signs are there, but they can't see anything wrong, because violence is ok with them, until their boyfriend turns round and does it to them.

But many are so blinded by feelings of revenge that they don't learn their lesson, that it is their own behaviour coming back to bite them. They think it starts with the partner. But, until they learn, they will continue to attract the same kind of partner or become totally disillusioned with relationships.

akike:
BS!!!

Some men are so stupid that they believe that a woman do not have the tendency to get angry at a man and if she does, they expect her to do it respectfully because she is a woman, a Super human

and some woman are so foolish(according to the Bible) that they will rather destroy their home with bad manners and attitude rather than build it

akike:
Look at this one

Men MARRY for beauty!!!

and thats he left you for the one you percieved to be a village girl.

Abbie25:
She didn't spoil her wedding, she only showed the heart breaker what he missed. She acted maturedly. If she had gone and said "Pastor I object to this marriage", then you can say she spoilt the wedding. After everything they have being through together, how could he do that?
Put yourself in her shoes dear

My dear that act isn't mature and cool. Showing him what he miss means what. A matured lady will just move on and stop acting childish

nlfan:
over hill wetin? i had loved him for 4 years but it stopped the moment he did intro with that babe, it doesnt mean i dont have suitors, it is even because of him im not married yet and yes, very soon im gonna be very happy with my own husband too, very soon and i will announce on NLer

If it's true, seems you are also jumping into one, Good luck

Mrbigman1:
U re a bery wicket EX!!!

Buhari must hear this.

how she take wicked oga?if na me though it can never be me,he go know say e get babe wey their head no correct one bit###anyways reason y I struggle for myself ##no time for let's build our lives together

sainty2k3:
and some woman are so foolish(according to the Bible) that they will rather destroy their home with bad manners and attitude rather than build it

infact most men are useless ##thy cant even differentiate between choice and want,ndi ara

Weldone my dear, the man that will appreciate you will come. You did not know that majority of men from that part of the divide go back to the village to marry. I bet they did not just met two month but he has been seeing her secretly. Let him sleep on his bed the way he has layed it. Don't give him chance to come to you house again.

mystiqueDZ:
Oh yea? A friend got married to an 'abroad' guy 2 months after the guy came in......

Now is that a marriage or a wedding?

i smell d guy isnt a good pouncer cos if he has has pounce u enof during dating, u wouldnt have such liver to behave and still crash his.

im a player even as iv repent now but all my ex still respect me like mad upon d betrayal knowing how bad i am on bed and feel jealous and envy to still have or be a sidechick rather than them crashing my important day to make feel bad

No pics, I no believe...it's too fake to b true

Aleora:
infact most men are useless ##thy cant even differentiate between choice and want,ndi ara

lol. calm down . oya think about it again. you want the guy to treat you as a queen while u treat him as a foot stool.

Abbie25:
I soo admire your courage nifan. Wish i could borrow some

That ain't courage, is stupidity of an isolated mind

sinequanon:
So long as you are thinking "revenge" you are just setting yourself up to repeat your woes, because you are not learning from your mistakes.

The man (boy?) solved the problem of where to live by riding rough shod over his girlfriend of 4 years. How did she stay with him for 4 years and not know that that is his nature?

Answer:

It was in her nature, too. Over the 4 years, when she saw him riding rough shod over other people, alarm bells didn't begin to ring, because she is the same. It was in the nature of both of them from the beginning, so they couldn't see anything to worry about in each other.

Then, at some point he does it to her. She responds by trying to ride rough shod over him.

It is the same with women who go with violent men. These women are violent, and they get their boyfriends to be threatening or act out their violence for them. All the warning signs are there, but they can't see anything wrong, because violence is ok with them, until their boyfriend turns round and does it to them.

But many are so blinded by feelings of revenge that they don't learn their lesson, that it is their own behaviour coming back to bite them. They think it starts with the partner. But, until they learn, they will continue to attract the same kind of partner or become totally disillusioned with relationships.

my dear, how are you...long time...so, you de folo this movie...lol

nlfan:
Like i have been busy commenting on his wedding pictures uploaded by his wifey

HMMMMMMM AND U CALL HER VILLAGE GIRL??

falseman:
Both of you suffered together
You are now a very big girl
Dude still didn't care about your big girl status that he went to marry a girl you assume you are better than
You went there to dance and shine teeth
My dear 5 years later you will be disappointed at your actions. I feel you may have attitude problem since a man could forfeit your beauty, elegance and class for a low life girl like you said.

Work on yourself Beauty and class won't count if you've got attitude problems.

I agree, the so called low life girl could possibly do things better than her in marriage, like cook better, cleans better even submissive. So it's a shame a low life beat you at your game of over 4 years experience in 3months

seaga:
I agree, the so called low life girl could possibly do things better than her in marriage, like cook better, cleans better even submissive. So it's a shame a low life beat you at your game of over 4 years experience in 3months

Haters!!!

Look at them

creamylicious:
The man is just scared that the lady has got excellent career goals,, she therefore may not 'submit' to him... He has found the one to show his macho manliness to.

If that's what you can deduce from this write up, then.....
You said excellent career goals, like working on the island is the greatest achievement.Some of you ladies when you get one little job that can be terminated at any given time you think it success and think you are larger than life. Open your eyes before these peanut of a salary consumes all the good virtues of a woman

daretodiffer:
Haters!!!

Look at them

Well that should be accosted to the Op that demeaning a fellow woman because she thinks she's better.Nah

PresVA:
Hello uncle

Kilode?

Lmao! Which uncle? How can a mom birth her uncle?

seaga:
If that's what you can deduce from this write up, then.....
You said excellent career goals, like working on the island is the greatest achievement.Some of you ladies when you get one little job that can be terminated at any given time you think it success and make larger than life. Open your eyes before these peanut of a salary consumes all than he good virtues of a woman

What are you saying?

That little job is what feeds her!!! If a girl had aiad the same thing about an employed guy, I can't begin to imagine the insults. You are the smae set of people that will call her likes gold diggas. WTH do you guys want? Would you advise your sister to live a professional job to stay unemployed in a family home? Do you consider whether it might be harder for her to professionally develop herself in Mowe?

seaga:
Well that should be accosted to the Op that demeaning a fellow woman because she thinks she's better.Nah

Yes, she should feel superior

You would have done the same if you were in her shoes

daretodiffer:
Yes, she should feel superior

You would have done the same if you were in her shoes

Me? Make a fool of myself in a wedding I am not supposed to be.No way!

And why should she feel superior? Because her accent is better? Tell me..

seaga:
Me? Make a fool of myself in a wedding I am not supposed to be.No way!

And why should she feel superior? Because her accent is better? Tell me..

She didn't!

Besides she didn't expect his reaction, it was a gamble.




Yes, if your ex had left you to marry one bush boy like that. You will definitely hold on to inconsequential things like accent, looks to make yourself feel better

Like I told my ex years ego, we graduated and was looking for job, you dumped me for a G boy, lol today I still slash her like tomorrow nodey, lol I paid my price and am a better man today and can afford her type times 10.

daretodiffer:
What are you saying?

That little job is what feeds her!!! If a girl had aiad the same thing about an employed guy, I can't begin to imagine the insults. You are the smae set of people that will call her likes gold diggas. WTH do you guys want? Would you advise your sister to live a professional job to stay unemployed in a family home? Do you consider whether it might be harder for her to professionally develop herself in Mowe?

That comments wasn't for the Op , it was for the lady that came up with a naive observation

sainty2k3:
and some woman are so foolish(according to the Bible) that they will rather destroy their home with bad manners and attitude rather than build it

Some men are so foolish to think that women are superhumans yet they wouldn't mind calling us emotional at the same time

God is a very rational, fair and intelligent. He won't clasify a situations where a woman is merely reacting to injustice/unfairness as bad attitude.

daretodiffer:
She didn't!

Besides she didn't expect his reaction, it was a gamble.




Yes, if your ex had left you to marry one bush boy like that. You will definitely hold on to inconsequential things like accent, looks to make yourself feel better

That's even if I follow up on an ex relationship, my dear I ve lots of demand on my time, to be entangled with bygones

Loisemm:
She has my sympathy but she tried too hard to show she 'had moved on'. In the end, she showed that she was yet to actually move on. Paying a professional make up artist and buying a new dress etc all to 'show' a man that was marrying another woman?! Common, that looks pitiable. The best revenge is to live your life well not attending ur ex's wedding all glamd up to prove that point. Go out there and live your life well and God will bring another man.

Darling, people have different ways of moving on and trust me she has moved on

My babe was merely trying to stay SUPER POSITIVE. She needed it

automatix:
you know why I am laughing reading ur post? It clearly shows you have a wounded heart that it yet to heal. Forget all the formalities u ar displaying here. I know when someone act like u are doing right on this thread.

I know this cos I had been tru same.

Good for you

1) I am not the op
2) I believe she is feeling better. Some people need to realise that their ex is in not in a better position, she clearly has that benefit of witnessing it.

sainty2k3:
and thats he left you for the one you percieved to be a village girl.

You are not even making any sense

People leave people for someone better or worse!!!

BiggyB242:
Just as you can't deceive me that you weren't hurt lol.

I am.not the op but I am ready to be her advocate