I like to think of such people as stup1d cos that's exactly what they are.

Take away SEX, and CHILDREN. I don't see the need for a WIFE!!! Everyother thing can be sourced for
For food - get a cook/male maid
For finance - get a job & make Investment
For laundry - dry cleaner etc.

According to late Myles Munroe, he said "God says its not Good that man should be alone" God didn't say its not good that man should be single he says ALONEEEEE. To not be ALONE in this life, SURROUND urself with FRIENDS & FAMILY

amicable09:
I have a little ish troubling my mind whenever this topic about older ladies and marriage is raised. One of such question is, is the lady supposed to marry herself?

It takes two to tango after all. A lady interested in marriage and there's no eligible suitor, what should she do? There are some ladies who have only married men approaching them for relationships, what are they to do? Run to the streets and marry any guy who is single because they are above 30 and nearing 40?

Let's stop and think for a minute about such situations, rather than jump into conclusions, calling successful single ladies, bitter.

When y'all demands are too much, how will they approach? When ladies are still young, they keep looking for all manner of features in a guy, 6packs, handsome, tall, romantic, huge house, big car forgetting the essential qualities.

Marriage is not the ultimate but it's a beautiful thing

TruthHurts1:


Sad to say but this warped mindset is usually found in women. To be specific, it is found in those women who would never had amounted to anything in life if they had to stand on their own two feet. These are the type of women who are consumed with envy when they hear of single, successful, self-made women.

There are poor single women in their mid 30's and 40's too. They get yapped by their family and others all d time. Even younger ones don't respect them during family issues. It has nothing to do wt wealth or jealousy. Its a societal value.

janellemonae:


There are poor single women in their mid 30's and 40's too. They get yapped by their family and others all d time. It has nothing to do wt wealth or jealousy. Its a societal value.

thanks for informing the voltrons.

berryBee:
Thank you for this post..it makes some ladies get scared about getting successful. I remember when I used to say I won't marry, but now I know na Africa I dey.. My mates don marry, my Lil cousins don dey engage. so everything I said when I was young don change. Now I want to settle down ....but from my hubby's house I wll start fighting d war against discrimination against single successful ladies..they need to b proud of what they hv achieved. But I don't want to be one of them.. Yes, I'm a hypocrite

you are the only lady that has spoken well today.::ahaahahahahaa

Well, Men and Women can hide under "I don't want to get married!

But whether u like it or not, Marriage is, has and will be the supreme bond and contract btw a Man and a Woman and it is mainly through that legitimate and responsible off-springs will be made!

I888:
it's the dirty mentality of Nigerians at large. They see Marriage as the ultimate. Just tell a girl you want to marry her and see majority of fall over for you.

If you aren't married, people bug you with it so much so you think you are not good enough.

This is why you even see those who can barely feed themselves getting married by all means. After marriage what next? Poverty!

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women who are rich and single should consider helping other men and women who are still single but not successful or rich like them.

And the assistance should not come with strings attached, such as a requirement for the other males/ladies to remain single.

o ju lon roju saanu.

if the single guys/ladies decide or find someone to marry, their rich counterpart should be able to sponsor or contribute to the wedding without making them feel bad and without they themselves feeling bad.

Let me park my bicycle and observe the comments of the aged, single, lonely and bitter

What I find wierd is that, whenever topics like this comes up, people end up making reference to women who are in abusive marriage as if there are no women who are abusive to their spouse too.

henryhemon:


Anyone that said the beautiful ones are not born is a liar. This one na beauty.

Very funny...Merci pour le compliment.

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doveda:


Why don't you read her post again? This time, read and understand it

Okay. Since you understood it, why not explain it for me?

iykedare:


Women with good character and decent way of life will surely get suitors.

She will but what kind? That's the problem for some, they may be unlucky in this game of "settling" down.

sukkot:
being single is a beautiful experience because you get to explore yourself, but being married to your soulmate is an even more beautiful experience. question is what are you comfortable with ? beautiful or more beautiful ?

Hey Sukkot Beautiful what you just wrote. tell me, are you married or planning to? Sounds interesting.

Marriage has over-lived its intention. I dont think there is any reason to get married these days.

overlord77:


When y'all demands are too much, how will they approach? When ladies are still young, they keep looking for all manner of features in a guy, 6packs, handsome, tall, romantic, huge house, big car forgetting the essential qualities.

Marriage is not the ultimate but it's a beautiful thing

It's not bad to look for good features that are attractive to the eyes of the beholder na. Don't men look for certain features too in ladies? Why should a lady accept a proposal from men they are not attracted to? Not cool.

Marriage is beautiful therefore in due time, maybe at 40+ too, she may just find the beautiful one for her *smiles.

We must never at this juncture try to take away the beauty and sweetness of marriage!

Am not married yet!

But I know and feels that marriage is a wonderful adventure and everybody is eligible to embark on this adventure!

Married is not all about CHILDREN and SEX! Every other beautiful things in life is attach and connected to marriage!

I can't wait to have that woman and divine helper of mine leaving under my roof!

LoJ:

Hey Sukkot Beautiful what you just wrote. tell me, are you married or planning to? Sounds interesting.

Loj how are ya buddy ? I am married to myself as well as ................. LOL . lets just say i am married to life

When you see a 70yrs old woman without Husband or children, you will respect marriage. Marriage is No1 achievement for any woman if you must avoid a miserable old age, atleast.

Atlantian:
Marriage has over-lived its intention. I dont think there is any reason to get married these days.

thats like saying ' eating ' has over-lived its intention

Op

Omotayor123:
Because, getting married is one of our social and even religious responsibility..
People tend to view unmarried adult (male and female) as socially irresponsible.

Though, marriage is not everything but we should endeavor to fulfill our responsibility!

Not a religious responsibility , even the Bible says it's better to remain single and serve God but if you can not abstain from sex then get married.

4C2215131:


Could be visiting a mom who's still kicking it strong even though the son is 40.

Lol. Eku visiting!

4C2215131:


To butress your point, I know of a LOVELY lady that has just married chaps asking her out. Now we are real close so I know it has got nothing to do with her character or village as she's above board in both regards.

She complains about this. The single chaps that do come around are according to her not serious. Now before you say she's being picky and whatnot, she isn't!

No female friend of mine can be irresponsibly picky as long as I'm there cos I check their assess quick! But I do believe that One Sweet Day my beloved friend will walk down that aisle with a man who truly loves and values her and by God's grace that day is nigh.

I'm glad you know one personally. There are many like her out there.

amicable09:
I have a little ish troubling my mind whenever this topic about older ladies and marriage is raised. One of such question is, is the lady supposed to marry herself?

It takes two to tango after all. A lady interested in marriage and there's no eligible suitor, what should she do? There are some ladies who have only married men approaching them for relationships, what are they to do? Run to the streets and marry any guy who is single because they are above 30 and nearing 40?

Let's stop and think for a minute about such situations, rather than jump into conclusions, calling successful single ladies, bitter.

I think it has to do with the subconscious programming of/by the ladies in the early teenage years of fantasy of the ideal man for romance.

Such subconscious programming may create a loop, hindering such a lady from making the transition to marriage.

The "ideal" man for romantic relationship may not be or make the "ideal" husband, most times; Thus calling for self re-evaluation by ladies and re-evaluation of the men in their lives as they (ladies) progress in life.

I tink we live in a society dat places too much attention on ladies 2 get married (African Mentality) many a times d pressure 4rm families , friends, and d society pushes dis ladies into making mistakes on dia life partner.. many ave cum 2 live 2 regret. what Bible condemn is a sinful act it 9va 4 once said must marry... don't let the society detect ur life 4 you... daru nu

Savigne:

Like seriously,I actully like her datz why I decided not to reply.
If people think I'm weird because I'm not married,then people can shove their opinion where the sun dont not shine...
I have always and will always say this: Marriage does not guarntee one's happiness.

Good one! You mirror my thoughts. I know some unmarried people that I have mad respect for. Their marital status has no bearing at all on how I treat them. Getting married should be a choice one should seriously consider before deciding. But a whole lotta people get married just because other people are doing it. And then they end up enduring what they ordinarily ought to have enjoyed

KashyBaby:
Definitely I agree with this...in this wonderful paradise we called it "earth" ,marriage is not for everyone.. and so what if a lady will stay single for the rest of her life? Simply bcoz she doesn't want complicated things..

And not to mention, so many marriage are broken as well..why? Coz a lot of couple thought they married the right person or they were juz forced to marry someone they do not love...

#singleforlife

no let mumsy see dis o

masonkz:
I actually don't know if this is a global thing, but I've come to notice it a lot around people here, especially the guys.

You see a single woman that is successful at what she's doing, and then the next thing that comes to your mind is to start opining that she must be bitter cos she's in her 30s or approaching 40 and not married. These are the kind of people that feel that for a woman, marriage is the biggest achievement that can happen to her. That no matter what a woman has in life, if there's no marriage, then she's not made, not minding the fact that many married women are silently suffering in their marriage.

In turn, this same thought process goes on to affect the woman as she starts getting desperate and starts having a very low self esteem. The pressure gets to the point where they end up going from one church to the other and in so doing may fall into the prey of men solely looking out for these kind of women to exploit. Only those bold enough to shake off the society's expectation of a woman can actually hold their head high and not give a hoot about what anyone says.

Even women can be their own enemies when a married lady starts using another's singlehood to insult her. In my opinion, that is way below being petty. Now the trend is when people see fine pictures of single ladies on social media, the next question is "where is her husband?", "...who go marry this one wey don reach 30something?", "...too bad that she's this rich and fine with no husband"... poor reasoning I.M.O.

Ladies/Women, your first priority when it comes to happiness is yourself, and not to cater to the happiness of the society. Granted, you may have wanted to marry in your 20s, but if that isn't /wasn't the case, why go on killing yourself about it? Develop yourself the more, be beautiful to yourself, get that money rolling, the career moving, that business booming. If need be, get a baby papa and get yourself pregnant and train the child yourself!. If teenagers can have unwanted pregnancies and still see the child through childhood, successful women can surely do better!

While that last part may not lie well with many, my point still is that you shouldn't go through life thinking having a husband would be your guarantee to having a fulfilled life. Having a great family is beautiful, if you don't have one, align your priorities and have your options open as to what really you CAN DO to make yourself more happy with YOUR LIFE.


#okbye.

it is a great deal of self deceit to believe wealth and money can replace love happiness and companionship. I used to be of this opinion in the past, but then; I realised that the more money you accumulate, the more depressed you can be when you are alone. how old are you sir? because if you are young, no matter what I write here, you will not understand it.
Secondly; talking about society and baby mamas. I believe many adults are not ignorant of the scientific fact that a child can be born out of wedlock, but not too many people want it. celebrities are not the standard for anything. lucky dube sang a beautiful song " behind the mask of a clown, lies a trail of tears. they may be crying everyday in their banana mansion and you wont know.
the issue of loneliness started arising when people started getting married for the wrong reasons. when there is love, and couples mature gracefully into old age, seeing their kids and maybe grandkids, trust me, no amount of wealth can buy it. cars and houses are reduced to nothing in the face of such joy. let us pray that we all have this experience. men too. we get lonely too. we need love and companionship. we will feel bad going to social circles as bachelors in our 40s. and we have not embraced the idea of havings basstads as kids. one love nairafam.