₦airaland Forum

Dear People of Lomance Seshun of Nairaland,

I aff obsav that many of our brethren and sisterz have many problems in their luff life and they dinnor know how to solve them. Just ask your queshun here and we wee try to hep your matter.

Seriously tho, minimal bashing requested. People really need help sometimes. Don't insult somebody and make em commit suicide ooo

Just drop your questions here and get the help that you need

Am still single

Oma307:
Am still single

First of all...i hope you aff nor pass 35 years of age ooo...

Second, i hope you're not still waiting for prince sharming that you saw inside harlequin noveh

Third, make yoursef more havalable. (this does not mean that you shuu become ashewo ooo)

you see, the problem is that some girls will just carry their head up and be snubbing everybody as if the paid for the whole road. Smile small. That nigga that you're waiting for may be scoping you but you're not smiling. He cannor come and be asking for number when he does not know if they just bounced you from interview.

finally, don't use past experiences to judge the present. this does not mean you shuu forget them ooo. Use them to learn and grow stronger but don't assume all men are like "this" because one guy was like "that".

Is you satisfy with my lesponses??

Decker:
Good evening, Sir. Please I need some help. I find it hard to maintain relationships. I easily get bored. What's do you think is my problem? What solution can you prescribe?

My broda...izz nor only you. It happuns to the best of us.

However, you need to have chemistry in your relationships. You need to let go of your inhibitions (some people are too uptight)

When you meet someone, learn to communicate...a lot. Communication makes things interesting. You would learn new things about your partner everyday. My woman and I talk every single day (no lies). Sometimes, i get pissed...sometimes i get bored. But the good times always outweigh the bad times

Again, i aff obsav that many pipu dunno how to keep their eyes inside one pot. They want to drink from all the coke bottle in the country. If you're one of those long-throat pipu, you aff to change. That kinda lifestyle makes you objectify women and before you know it, all you can derive from them is sexual gratification. No emotions or deep feelings.

Most relationships die because there is no communication. If your babe cannor cook and you dont like it, tell her
If your babe no dey dress well and you no like am, tell her.
If your babe is too random (them dey see am everywhere) and you dont like it, tell her.

when you bottle these things up. relationship aff die.

Lastly, if you have an argument with your partner, never ever go to bed without sorting it out.

aRE you satisfy with my lesponses?

Decker:
Good evening, Sir. Please I need some help. I find it hard to maintain relationships. I easily get bored. What's do you think is my problem? What solution can you prescribe?

u need to get seriously laid

Abeg u dey do magun juju for person? I need am badly for that my gf

RadicallyBlunt:
Abeg u dey do magun juju for person? I need am badly for that my gf

lmao

my broda... ham nor a babalawo.

However, you con googu for potent babalawo in your area or even use insta-messanger. Ham sure you wee find someone to hep you.

But if you cannor trust the geh, why are you with her in the first place??

My question is this; if you meet a guy and just after two weeks he's already asking you out on a date to be his gf...

How do you react I was thinking shouldn't a friendship be developed first rather than jumping into a so called relationship

Gimmie some new scams on how to get a girl laid sharp sharp. Loool

gloshennel:
My question is this; if you meet a guy and just after two weeks he's already asking you out on a date to be his gf...

How do you react I was thinking shouldn't a friendship be developed first rather than jumping into a so called relationship

Sister... you know that in this life, there are some pipu called "hit n run" also, there are some pipu that believe in luff at first sight...or in your guy's case, luff after two weeks.

If you like this guy and you want to confam that he is not a hit n run driver, tell him you want to get to know him first. Tell him to chill...but you have to make him understand that you're not friend-zoning him ooo. That is what makes most guys want to strike faster than a cobra.

Let him understand that you don't wish to rush into anything because izz rush rush that has killed many pipu in this life (God bless their souls)

Watch his behavior afterwards. You will know sharp sharp whether he is oga hit n run.

MemphisDepay:
Gimmie some new scams on how to get a girl laid sharp sharp. Loool

hmmm... Uncle... the new scam is simpu

chat with her well well.
be super nice.
send her simpu texts to check on her...nothing weird or creepy.
invite her out or if she agrees, invite her to your place. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TOUCH HER (she wee be hespecting it and u can chop slap)
if you can cook, cook for her. let her have fun.
das all

the next time she comes over, she no go fit talk NO.

Maximum time required: 2 weeks. (Tested and confirmed).

(girls make una no vess for me oooo but e dey work well well)

samted:
hmmm... Uncle... the new scam is simpu

chat with her well well.
be super nice.
send her simpu texts to check on her...nothing weird or creepy.
invite her out or if she agrees, invite her to your place. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TOUCH HER (she wee be hespecting it and u can chop slap)
if you can cook, cook for her. let her have fun.
das all

the next time she comes over, she no go fit talk NO.

Maximum time required: 2 weeks. (Tested and confirmed).

(girls make una no vess for me oooo but e dey work well well)

BADDEST

@OP..
Yu said "tell him you want to get to know him first"
and I ask...
won't that make him pretend to be who he's not like trying to play cool, be nice and all dat...just to get ur consent(which is most guys signature)

Advice me on how to get over a guy. I can't seem to have

samted:
Sister... you know that in this life, there are some pipu called "hit n run" also, there are some pipu that believe in luff at first sight...or in your guy's case, luff after two weeks.

If you like this guy and you want to confam that he is not a hit n run driver, tell him you want to get to know him first. Tell him to chill...but you have to make him understand that you're not friend-zoning him ooo. That is what makes most guys want to strike faster than a cobra.

Let him understand that you don't wish to rush into anything because izz rush rush that has killed many pipu in this life (God bless their souls)

Watch his behavior afterwards. You will know sharp sharp whether he is oga hit n run.

Nice response bro....thumbs up...no guy enjoys friendzone

gloshennel:
@OP..
Yu said "tell him you want to get to know him first"
and I ask...
won't that make him pretend to be who he's not like trying to play cool, be nice and all dat...just to get ur consent(which is most guys signature)

well...true. If he plays cool and waits long enuf for the girl to like him, we'll say he has worked for his prize, won't we?

I'm nor hencouraging it ooo... but this kind of situation is a conundrum of sorts... its like gambling. There's no sure way to handle it.

Elegantdiva:
Advice me on how to get over a guy. I can't seem to have

Let me hunstand you proply... Izz e dah you and the guy aff date and break up?? or you are crushing on a guy you know you cannor aff??

Lol....we had a fling

Elegantdiva:
Lol....we had a fling

ahh... those flings that were better than expected.

Well, just like an addiction, the best way to get over a memory is to replace it with another memory. If you don't have a boyfriend now, maybe you shud get one. Not any random nigga ooo...someone that can make you cry (without hitting you). Make new memories... the happier you get, the faster you'll move on from shii you're holding on to.

In all of my years on this planet, I aff obsav that pipu hol on to things, jobs, memories, and stuff like that cos they are hafraid that norin berra wee come their way. But ezz a lie. Diariss halways something berra.

So, make new memories...and watch the fling nigga memory fade away.

You don't understand ...I av tried and still trying to get him off my mind but its not working out.. I av him all over my social network appz. ......

Elegantdiva:
You don't understand ...I av tried and still trying to get him off my mind but its not working out.. I av him all over my social network appz. ......

Then if you really want to get over him, you aff to do the first himportant thing... Lemove all possibility of contact. Delete his numbers, block his accounts...
Lemember, the only way to truly avoid something is to flee from it.
Get rid of those things that act as triggers n reminders.

Except...you secretly wan to hook up again ... If dahs the case...just call the uncu involve n do the do.

If you aff reach dah point in your life...where everything relating to luff n sezz or marriage is giving you plenty headache... Just drop your hissue here and get a solushun.

Hook up again? With someone else husband? Hell No.there is no future there at all and I hdislike wasting time on something I know there won't be any gain...I just need to get over him

samted:
hmmm... Uncle... the new scam is simpu

chat with her well well.
be super nice.
send her simpu texts to check on her...nothing weird or creepy.
invite her out or if she agrees, invite her to your place. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TOUCH HER (she wee be hespecting it and u can chop slap)
if you can cook, cook for her. let her have fun.
das all

the next time she comes over, she no go fit talk NO.

Maximum time required: 2 weeks. (Tested and confirmed).

(girls make una no vess for me oooo but e dey work well well)

some girls will read this, and still fall for it. Why?

Am a virgin and ready to settle down,but they all want to get down with me in a relationship before talking marriage, what can I do?

MemphisDepay:
some girls will read this, and still fall for it. Why?

its a migic

Elegantdiva:
Hook up again? With someone else husband? Hell No.there is no future there at all and I hdislike wasting time on something I know there won't be any gain...I just need to get over him

Ahhh!!! But sister! You dinnor teh me dah e aff marry na!

This one is strong ooo.

Getting over someone is really difficult...especially if you really had a thing for the person. However, since you know that there is no gain in trying to hook up with him, you have to set your mind on forgetting him. Like I said before, you have to try as much as you can to limit or suspend any form of contact with him. That's a crucial first step. If you see his updates, you'll remember him...so you gotta avoid that.

It all boils down to the effort you put in. Eventually, when you haven't heard from him for days, weeks, months... you're bound to lose interest and get over him.

pucelle:
Am a virgin and ready to settle down,but they all want to get down with me in a relationship before talking marriage, what can I do?

My sista... this one is a conundrum... it doesn't really have a definite solution.

Depending on your faith, the first logical advice will be to pray about the situation.

Then you have to be really careful and smart about the whole thing. Note that, one reason guys want to sleep with a girl before going too deep is that they don't want to be with a girl for years and then another nigga does what they've been waiting to do.

You need to find a guy that really loves you and when you find him, you'll know. He will be responsible and he'll respect you and treat you how you wish to be treated. Until then, don't compromise your principles for nothing. There's no guarantee that those other guys will still wanna marry after y'all do the do.

Just been careful and stand your grounds. Be nice to people you meet but don't be naive.