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| Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by gennypearl(op): 11:48am On Feb 29, 2016 |
I'm a young lady of 23years a graduate, I finished school last year and serving soon. My problem is I am a vìrgin not that am naive or anything as a matter of fact I sabi well as in I am not the innocent type of virgìn they portray in movies. I have a boyfriend, we've been together for 5years he's a great and loving guy though... ...different tribe and religion he understands me so well but he can be temperamental although he never hits me but whenever he gets angry I get so scared cos he makes it look like he can hurt me and sometimes i feel he is obsessed with me. We do other things like head ,sm0och, fore play in general but no s3x .I am a very pretty lady and I love life I party alot, I've crazy friends and I meet different guys but I never allowed any one touch me and that's why I lose so many opportunities(great offers for that matter). I've searched for a PT job cos I don't like being idle but all still leads back to s3x and my dear BF isn't taking finding job serious but 5 years is a long time to leave this guy have known my whole life. Now I met this guy; very good and hardworking, my tribe and he is calm with me. I told this new guy my sexual status and he didn't have a problem with it. He spends alot for me, when I ask and when I don't; he knows what I need when I... ...need it, he's so generous and he doesnt ask for s3x or anything. At first I was into it but later I started getting scared if he wasn't using me (jazz) but he is clean. He has a good job, mind you my Bf isn't working although he is older than me with more than 5 years but this new guy is married with a KID though young as.... ...well but after 4 months now he is stylishly talking about s3x also though he says he will understand any answer I give him. Please help I still need this guy in my life and am beginning to like him. Please I need your advice. The End. Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/confused-virgin.html?m=1 |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 11:49am On Feb 29, 2016 |
tosyn2much and Cruzita mk una come |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by MzzTega(f): 11:53am On Feb 29, 2016 |
This story is somehow. You are really confused. Don't do married men. It's wrong. 1 Like |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Patented: 11:57am On Feb 29, 2016 |
loll, cheating with a married man. Some Chics sha!!!! you are not confused, you are looking for approval and you wont get it. if your bf is not srz abt life and u wanna leave fine!! but this that you are doing....na devil playground 1 Like |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by tooman: 12:05pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
you better pray for that your first date. married men  remember you are not his first love. Toh I think U should be able to undstnd that. |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 12:07pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
First, you are wicked for keeping a guy 5 years without sex, that is why he gets temperamental sometimes and if he gets a job he will leave you, because you are making it a challenge for him. Second, a married guy in your radar and with benefits and you are claiming no sex? You are really confused and very selfish my lady, and you deserve none of both guys 3 Likes |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Fmartin(m): 12:11pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Ur new boyfriend has a kid.. Because he is generous nd spend his money extravagantly on u, then u tink he's good fr u? 5yrs relationship no b moi moi in this present generation. Dnt let money influence ur thinking. Even if u ar to hav s3x nw, y nt wit d guy who hv been there fr u up to 5 yrs? Hmm....money cn do anytin. #follow ur mind |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Leriebloom(f): 12:14pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
This girl sha. U left your unmarried boyfriend because he doesn't have money for a married man with a kid because he is giving you money(money that would still choke you). All there is in store for you is heart break and you would be destroying the guy's family. |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Smellymouth: 12:15pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Girls sha.. I hail una!! So after 5 yrs u just realized ur BF is not taking finding job serious?? Is dat d only excuse u have to find comfort in another man? I hope when ur new man "married with a KID" deflowers u and dump u, u won't create another thread on NL saying --" ALL GUYS ARE THE SAME "?  1 Like |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by iamdynamite(m): 12:15pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
i think the married man isnt worried about the sex because he gets sex whenever he wants it from his wife,because i believe its difficult for any single guy to spend his hard earned money without getting your body in return,your first boyfriend have been cool with you because he gat no job yet,just wait till he gets a job and see how reaction will change towards.but babe at 23 i think you should have a rethink on this your virginity thingy,cause i feel it high time#justsaying |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by ayoolataiwo: 12:16pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
u ve gone a long way keeping ur dignity,dnt be so cheap to lay wit.....gat a long way to go.....keep it till ur wedding day nd d right man 1 Like |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by belloabd1914(m): 12:19pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
If I find my GF of 5yrs acting like u "confused" imagine a whole 5yrs, my dear u not are confused, u just looking for a way to secure a guy with a job, guess d 5yrs guy has just been used and dumbed. If he was Dat bad he should have raped in d course of 5yrs. Guess u forgot to add how ur 5yrs guy saw u tru skul by all means. At d end it's d same story. Dey ain't loyal, if u know what I mean. |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Jblaiseboy(m): 12:39pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Me sef am confused now,5 yrs and no sex? Ah ah ..sister dats pure wickedness...it is your type dat will make a man be patronising oloshos, if a gal issue ready for sex,then she should also say no to relationships. Back to the matter now...asin i don't even know the advice to give again buh i don't think a grown man will agree to a relationship without sex while he spends on u.Just pray he doesn't rape u when konji hold am for throat |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 12:50pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
u want to cheat on ur bf and he wan cheat on his wife? end time sin ! |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Kustin(m): 12:51pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
First and foremost, I thank the great grand achitect of the universe and cosmics host for making me llve today. Sister mary the virgin, I will advise you to stick with the first guy dnt think bcus he has no job now that he cant be rich tommorrow |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by firstking01(m): 1:18pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
gennypearl: |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by firstking01(m): 1:19pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
gennypearl:in one of your recent threads, you said you are married |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by funkyglitz: 1:26pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Its simple ask yourself whether you want to be a side chick with benefits or stick with your bf....I guess its the benefit |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:29pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Leriebloom:Nicely said, so this is your escape from the real world..... hmmmm wonder what you are like off these forum tho... keep the comments coming dear |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:41pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
gennypearl:Interesting read, i kind of expected a topic like this sooner or later from a virgin girl on nairaland, iot goes to prove that, just because a girl is a virgin doesn't means she doesn't have urges, she obviously would love romance, head and more, the story is an understandable one altho i would like to read on what really kept you nd your bf together for that long life, from wheat i can read, it has gotten boring, you met someone closer to your age range, spends on you, (every girl likes the good life) so i won't hold you on that, he is married with a kid, you are a maybe a beautiful young attractive girl, maybe you are fun to be with or maybe he finds you being a virgin but also open to trying out new things fascinating and it keeps him liking you, now it is very possible you guys get to have sex and he begins to see like every other girl, the gifts and cash stops coming the way they are are or you don't have sex with him buit after a point, he starts getting ideas or you might even get too comfortable and want to do it with him, now your story doesn't say what you think he feels for you, as i know you ladies get blinded easily when gifts, cash and attention and mistakenly take them for love, it could just be that he like him because he is an attractive young man who understands you, works and is very different from your boyfriend...... |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by tosyne2much(m): 1:43pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
olihilistic:Me ke ? I no sabi anything oooo  Make we call oga Ronald4lif  |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 1:44pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
tosyne2much:lol but you suppose sabi evlytin na |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by tosyne2much(m): 1:49pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
olihilistic:So u don turn me to Commissioner for women affairs? |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 1:53pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
tosyne2much:LMaO prof e never reach tht level na |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by olubusayomie(f): 1:53pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Dont even go der!!! U too much for a married man to mess up. Jst clearly define wat u want, and start from der |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 1:54pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
tosyne2much: |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by GoldenJAT(m): 2:07pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
E go rust.... I repeat the pussy go rust.... Sum women are very wicked, and 2think that it is 1 agbero guy that will disvirgin u.. Haba!!! U don even rush collect head... Na leg u go collect, wen u finally disvirgin. |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by cruzita(f): 2:44pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
olihilistic:noooooo I'm a secondary virgin not confused one 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by banty: 3:44pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Have you given your life to Christ? Tomorrow maybe too late! |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by 3rdlegxxx(m): 3:57pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Leriebloom:Babe i feel there is more to this story than she is letting on and then again, sometimes this things happen, you meet a new person, he is different from ur guy, probably sees and treats you differently and all, no justification for it tho but these things do happen and her case surely wouldn't be the 1st i have heard. |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by andreernest28(m): 4:04pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Your story is absolutely confuse and crazy like you said.just hold on if you truely love him,my dear shit happen,You never can tell what tomorrow can bring.Things can turn out to be very brigth in the furture. |
| Re: Confused Virgin!!!!!!!!!! by Leriebloom(f): 4:17pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx:You are right but the only thing she would get from this is heartbreak. Sometimes its best to play smart and avoid such situations.I am very sure when she eventually gets married she wouldn't like the idea of her husband getting it on with another woman.If she thinks a 5 year relationship can be flushed down in a drain just like that for a man who would still end up hurting her, she should. That married man might be treating her good today but tommorrow he wouldn't and by then she would have lost the boyfriend who had been with her for 5 years. |
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