I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. - Romance (4)

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Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by LordReed(m): 4:55pm On Mar 03, 2016

Moppsys:
I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

Instead of cursing you should be celebrating, the real curse is being with someone who doesn't want to be with you. I will never beg anybody who doesn't want to be with me because anyone compelled into relationship will only develop feelings of resentment towards you. BTW why do feel you need to be with someone who you say is flirty? You just want to compound your life, just leave him be and live your own life.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Moppsys(op): 4:56pm On Mar 03, 2016

[quote author=rman post=43450316]The OP is telling half of the story and I am surprised everyone did not pick the salient points;

1) She was dating the guy 4yrs ago, left, married someone else, marriage did not work out and she came back to the guy. That means she dumped this guy, and she used her manipulative tendencies to destroy the marriage and pretended to care for the mugu in waiting.

I did not dump him the first time, he ended the relationship the first time on a claim that he was not ready as he need to sort himself out. I did not destroy my marriage, I was in an abusive marriage a very brutal one and I had to leave or risk my life.

2) Even the waiting mugu, she did not trust the guy but she was actually displaying her own insecurity and decided to set him up, who does that?
He tried getting back with me but I was already married and when he heard that I was no longer married he came back professing his love for me and how he made a mistake letting me go the last time.

The guy was very correct for dumping you. Mind u, he said all that to make u feel bad, no guy that is not serious shows a girl to his family and makes plan for a home. You do not deserve to be with anyone until u sort out your own insecurities, otherwise, life will be hell for your lovers. I am certain that is why the first marriage did not last.

I know that I can be paranoid, but he gave me reasons so be. I am not justifying what I did or said what I did was right, but he gave me a whole lot of reason to do it.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Nobody: 4:58pm On Mar 03, 2016

Don't beg anyone to stay or love you, I believe there shouldn't be phone privacy in a relationship or marriage, he has told u the honest truth that he only took advantage of your spare time, move on with ur life and don't beg anyone to marry you , let the man beg you to marry him. Your own man will come for u

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by rahman3853(m): 5:00pm On Mar 03, 2016

Seriously, OP u were just too faulty beyound words. However, its nt too late. A mistake don't repeat itself to the wise but fool1sh. First of all what made u divorce ur first man? U need to address that. Secondly, its nt advisable to go to ur ex, fully knowing u guys have seperated to the extent u even got married. Is he the only man on earth. Ppl just don't get it, love is nt base on "I dated him before" "we known each oda for long" etc, its just natural. U dnt force ursef to love neither can u force sum1 to love u. Learn from this, n stop hating him, u doing nobody harm but ursef, scientific studies revealed that hatred or malices has some detriment to the heart. U may google that n see why happy ppl usually live longer. Be free, open minded, count hhim as a lesson of life n learn frm ur mistakes. Wen there is tru love u won't even know wen u will be the one answering ur man's call by his wish, left alone perusing his phone. I remember back in those days wen BB was rampant I and my gF used to swap fone in the weekends. We reply eachodas bbm,whatsapp,2go etc messages. That's love n trust. I dnt think its the guy's fault to be honest with u, u came to him at the right time n he decided to take advantage of u. I used to tell ladies, the day u know ur worth, that day ur man will know his luck in finding u. Imagine the saying "monkey no fine, but him mama like am". Avnt u asked ursef, sum ladies are nt that gorgeous nor rich but find n ideal gentleman every woman maty desire. Its becos that lady knows her worth. Done her assignment appropriately before such man could cross her way n captivate his heart.

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Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Smartguy001(m): 5:06pm On Mar 03, 2016

midehi2:
why quoting unnecessarily

What is dis one saying sef...did I quote u? huh

Why are u saying am quoting unnecessarily, mind ursef o angry

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by midehi2(f): 5:21pm On Mar 03, 2016

Smartguy001:
What is dis one saying sef...did I quote u?
Why are u saying am quoting unnecessarily, mind ursef o

its like the weather is too hot for this thing tongue

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by egobetatoday: 5:26pm On Mar 03, 2016

[quote author=Ifakiland post=43427574]that was how an ex cursed me for leaving her, warned her not to cos we both sinned, she no gree....her dad died few months after....op u don't know d spirits protecting d guy curse him at ur own risks. [/quote

funny! so i your mind it was the curse that killed her father. lol. u never start now.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Smartguy001(m): 5:36pm On Mar 03, 2016

midehi2:
its like the weather is too hot for this thing

Now I see wot u are tryna do... cool

Hmmmmm

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by ojsmscom(m): 5:50pm On Mar 03, 2016

Every juju get expiry date

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by agaricus007(m): 6:01pm On Mar 03, 2016

there is nothing bad in checking Ur husband's fone if there is true love.......guys that keep their fones from there gals are cheaters ... tell me the reason y two heart will become one n while courting u made diff promises with sweet words that could raise dead 'the rib from my ribs' that doesn't stop u from keeping side chicks....mopssy u luv the guy but the guy has lust n not love....stop cursing him u are not compatible n I congratulate u cos u would av suffered more in future....u need the life of new beginning Ur own WILL shall come

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Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Nobody: 6:06pm On Mar 03, 2016

Curse ko, blessing ni. So your cursing him is just cos he refused to marry you? Na by force?

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by xxgig(m): 6:12pm On Mar 03, 2016

Jayjay0:
Rubbish..

Girls won't learn to give guys privacy.. Who told you to check his phone?? thank God you saw your head in it and you further went to set him up as FBI or cia..you are reaping the fruit of hard labour (investigation)

Well i pray he DON'T come back so other girls will learn to respect privacy..

Privacy Ke? Smh

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Praktikals(m): 6:12pm On Mar 03, 2016

Ifakiland:
lemme guess u guyz were dating, u left to marry anoda guy, it dint work, u divorce and u went bk to old flame...and u expect him to marry a used product? ure wicked.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Meeky(m): 6:25pm On Mar 03, 2016

pamellla:
it's high time we ladies understand that not all relationships are bound to result in marriage.

you get to learn one or two things be it +ve or -ve...in short try nd move on dear!

pam pam are u a football fan @dp.u look lovely like a cheerleader though

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Watsoneology: 6:36pm On Mar 03, 2016

Go to him and Lay Your humble apology

If He refuse to call back the relationship

Then go to His Family. As You stated dt He has introduce u to his family... So go and tell them that u re sorry on ur wrong did to him

If He accept You Congrat

If He did not

My sister Let him go

Just understand dt when people want to walk away from You

Let them walk

Takia n Best of luck
@love nor relationship na by choice not by force

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by RealCJ: 6:38pm On Mar 03, 2016

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

if you have ever committed sin of fornication with him, don't be surprise your curse may come back to you so to on a safer side, just forget him and move on with your life.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Toks2008(m): 7:08pm On Mar 03, 2016

No comment.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by wittyt98(m): 7:43pm On Mar 03, 2016

I'm sure he's a Yoruba boy

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Smartguy001(m): 7:46pm On Mar 03, 2016

midehi2:
its like the weather is too hot for this thing

If u r crushing on me jst lemme know instead of dis silly talks...PM me cool

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Smartguy001(m): 7:51pm On Mar 03, 2016

midehi2:
its like the weather is too hot for this thing

If u r crushing on me jst lemme know instead of dat poo u saying...PM me cool

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Nobody: 7:56pm On Mar 03, 2016

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

END TIME BREAKUP

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by pamellla(f): 8:31pm On Mar 03, 2016

Meeky:
pam pam are u a football fan @dp.u look lovely like a cheerleader though

thanks dear....a football fan to an extent mainly coz of my boo

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Nobody: 8:58pm On Mar 03, 2016

Op, just free yourself from cursing him, cause the emotional energy u will use cursing him daily can be used efficiently in yur career or school or biz.. Trust me such energies when transefered positively to other important things, it creates wealth at the end.
When theres is breakup, no need pondering on what would have been. And in your own case the guy has saved u emotional stress and baggage he would he brought into your life if he eventually get married to u.
Life is too short to worry about a guy who does not want to be kept by a doting lady like u.. Dont disturb yur peace abt him.. Because the more u curse, u sef will not be at rest, especially doing it everyday.. Forget about him and move on.. Make yur life happy, and have plan B on having a family.
Not every lady will.marry.. Now i know why there are lots of babymamas out there.. Initially i didnt understand but a time comes in ones life.. Having a.kid or two is all that matters, with a thriving income.. Every other thing is secondary.
My dear , move on and be at peace with yurself.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by midehi2(f): 9:20pm On Mar 03, 2016

Smartguy001:
If u r crushing on me jst lemme know instead of dat poo u saying...PM me

kikiikiikikikiki grin

crush on you huh

a harsh guy huh

Lmao

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by midehi2(f): 9:21pm On Mar 03, 2016

Smartguy001:
Now I see wot u are tryna do...
Hmmmmm

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by hatchy: 9:26pm On Mar 03, 2016

Ifakiland:
lemme guess u guyz were dating, u left to marry anoda guy, it dint work, u divorce and u went bk to old flame...and u expect him to marry a used product? ure wicked.

You are rite on point dear.What made her leave her first marriage? Now you want to place a curse on him for your own stupidity, Karma doesn't work that way.Pray for forgiveness of sin and seek the face of God so that the man destined for you will come.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by habsydiamond(m): 10:16pm On Mar 03, 2016

Aunty shey u don watch 'could this be love' na for only that film u fit see curse dey affect guys ooo. No be both of una enjoy una sef. Why na only u dey curse.... Only God knows

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Smartguy001(m): 10:28pm On Mar 03, 2016

midehi2:
kikiikiikikikiki crush on you a harsh guy Lmao

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Meeky(m): 10:42pm On Mar 03, 2016

pamellla:
thanks dear....a football fan to an extent mainly coz of my boo

ok.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by Rajalat: 10:43pm On Mar 03, 2016

thorpido:
The bolded is what you ought to think deeply about.
Why do you want to hold on to a man who really doesn't feel you and deeply want a future with you?The problem is not that you were checking his phone.you found out he has been flirting anyway.Do you want a man that is not stable?
You say you are divorced and you didn't say why but I'll tell you something.....
Don't get desperate.

Well said my brother you just hit the hammer on the nail

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by rahman3853(m): 11:16pm On Mar 03, 2016

[quote author=Moppsys post=43450691][/quote]u mentioned that the marriage was abusive and endangering ur life. Can u kindly expand wat for. Was ur ex-husbby battering u? Throwing u out of the house etc. It might be that God is pushing u back to ur husbby. Seriously. Let's know the "abusive" meaning n we can know if to advise u to go back to ur home or just forget the both of them.

Re: I Loved Him, He Broke My Heart, And I Have Been Cursing Him Deep. by rahman3853(m): 11:46pm On Mar 03, 2016

Kondomatic:
Curses are not expensive, so free her.

BTW, why not ask her what led to their first break up?

Who dumped who?

The answer to the question will help us to understand the guy a little.

gbam....u said it all......she just said the marriage was abusive but dint say wat kind of abuse she went tru. U know the saying, a bird in hand worth millions in the bush.

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