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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 8:54am On Mar 07, 2016
faruku104:


all I see is display of arrogance... stop being a f^ck boy

Rich men can get any woman in Nigeria. This is why. We don't wait on women to carry our responsibilities.

We get to phuck all kinds of women, married and single.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by uzoormah(m): 8:55am On Mar 07, 2016
obowunmi:
Many Nigerians on this thread are lazy buffoons.

Does this even make sense? She will go to work, cook, clean, phuck you, then give you her hard earned money after....

You're bunch of thieves, thieves.

may u marry a stingy woman.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ourchoice(m): 8:55am On Mar 07, 2016
‎@deyemia read and read carefully:

The number 1 mistake many guys make with ladies is this: out of fear not to lose a lady they feel is heaven and earth to them, they don't tell the lady their own value....principle, dos and don'ts...they swallow their words so as not to make the lady angry.

This is what desperate guys do! Guys who feel their destiny is tied to one lady!

Guys who feel without a particular lady, their life will quench!

Guys who feel if they don't get a particular lady, that means they won't find another beautiful, good lady again.

Such guys are losers!

It is high time guys stop being desperate about women! Tell any lady u are dating and plan to marry what u want and don't want and if she's not okay with it, let her go!

Guys who accept everything a lady tells them are losers and ladies don't find such guys attractive!

Don't beg any lady to stay with you; that's very wrong and abnormal!

Shine like a star in your finances....put in your best to succeed financially and don't make women your priority in life.

Love is a fallacy created by manipulative people just to manipulate people they want to cage!

There is nothing like true love!

No man can love a woman the same way the woman loves her!

No woman can love a man the same way the man loves her!

What people call love is always skewed and unbalanced; either one partner is giving more than the other to hold the so-called love, which makes it a fallacy.

Marriage is not just about love, but a contract of agreement of mutual understanding between two people who agree to help each other become better and achieve their individual goals, vision and dreams.

If the only thing a woman u want to marry plans to contribute in your life and marriage contract with her is sex and the result of sex- children, then you don't need marriage but babymama or contract mother.

Flee while there's still time for you....don't ever marry a girl because u feel her family is rich (cos I hear u mention that her mum is rich) because u will regret marrying such a girl! 

A girl's family wealth if not big enough to give u political contracts and connections worth millions‎ is a waste....they will only milk you dry and leave u regretting marrying their daughter!

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 8:56am On Mar 07, 2016
uzoormah:


may u marry a stingy woman.

May you remain a lazy husband...lazy man
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Mackson01: 8:56am On Mar 07, 2016
Her mind us made up. Don't ignore the warning sign God has opened your eye to see. Go with her friend who I assume could even be more prettier.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by faruku104(m): 8:57am On Mar 07, 2016
obowunmi:


Rich men can get any woman in Nigeria. This is why. We don't wait on women to carry our responsibilities.

We get to phuck all kinds of women, married and single.

LMAO! I know your type..... May God keep giving your much more money you are making. cos if God show you the other side of life, you will hear it bad bad.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Toks2008(m): 8:58am On Mar 07, 2016
deyemia:
The Person I Intend To Marry Just Told Me This!!!


Dear Nairalanders,

I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons"

So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed.

On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband shocked. I acted cool at first.

Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers.

I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial.

At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never!

She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri.

Now here are the facts,
-We got introduced through match making,
-there are some good things about her that is worth consideration.
-I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of.
-This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich.

My Challenge is,
Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology.


She just said she is ready to drimk garri with you so what else do you need?

in my opinion that is a supportive woman and honest too.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by uzoormah(m): 8:59am On Mar 07, 2016
obowunmi:


Rich men can get any woman in Nigeria. This is why. We don't wait on women to carry our responsibilities.

We get to phuck all kinds of women, married and single.

still blinded by money..my broda money doesn't stay forever.."repent"
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Iykon1313(m): 8:59am On Mar 07, 2016
deyemia:
The Person I Intend To Marry Just Told Me This!!!


Dear Nairalanders,

I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons"

So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed.

On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband shocked. I acted cool at first.

Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers.

I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial.

At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never!

She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri.

Now here are the facts,
-We got introduced through match making,
-there are some good things about her that is worth consideration.
-I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of.
-This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich.

My Challenge is,
Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology.


She should better be joking but bros if she is serious...a beg run for your life.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 8:59am On Mar 07, 2016
faruku104:


LMAO! I know your type..... May God keep giving your much more money you are making. cos if God show you the other side of life, you will hear it bad bad.

OP should marry a very poor woman who doesnt mind struggling with him and stop whining.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Trunaijian: 9:00am On Mar 07, 2016
Think about it. Was she saying it to your hearing? You said her mum is rich. You just started dating.

Maybe she wants to see your reaction. Don't be discouraged. She may not be so really.

You said she had other qualities worth fighting for.

Keep it cool and play along. If she has other qualities you say u like in a wife, concentrate on those. Maybe she is being protective of her mothers wealth knowing many guys would date her because of that. Don't be scared, aftersll, u are dating her for her only.

Women say a lot of things, if you follow them, bro you fit kolo.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by greatbrian(m): 9:00am On Mar 07, 2016
Bros please run for your life to avoid stories dat touches d heart............. a leopard never changes her skin I believe d whole scenario happened for uto know d real her

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 9:01am On Mar 07, 2016
Toks2008:


She just said she is ready to drimk garri with you so what else do you need?

in my opinion that is a supportive woman and honest too.

She wants a man that can fend for himself, OP cannot. Relationship is not by force.

She is unwilling to take care of an adult male like a baby.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by petkoffDrake(m): 9:02am On Mar 07, 2016
MzOnajin1:
Hmmm. I would not want to move on with that kind of a lady. My opinion
Are u sure??
















Were u not d one that told ur bf to buy 1k suya.... U ate all d meat and gave him onions to feed on! undecided








Just saying cry
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by uzoormah(m): 9:02am On Mar 07, 2016
obowunmi:

May you remain a lazy husband...lazy man
thank u. mr hard working man

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by delightf(f): 9:03am On Mar 07, 2016
Wife. Re meant tobe a helpmate toitheir husband in all ramification of life,stop giving her money, try to ask her 4 money that you need her support u ve an issue with some1 if she give you fine, keep testing her if nt ur children ll suffer if u live them nd travel,if she don't change pls live her sothat it ll nt be an issue 2rom onur marital life,pls
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by KingRex1(m): 9:03am On Mar 07, 2016
naijaboiy:

This cannot be estharfabian!!! shockedshockedshocked
Yea, i guess she was hacked.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by faruku104(m): 9:04am On Mar 07, 2016
deyemia:
The Person I Intend To Marry Just Told Me This!!!


Dear Nairalanders,

I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons"

So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed.

On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband shocked. I acted cool at first.

Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers.

I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial.

At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never!

She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri.

Now here are the facts,
-We got introduced through match making,
-there are some good things about her that is worth consideration.
-I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of.
-This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich.

My Challenge is,
Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology.


oya make I talk. What I like about your dilemma is that your woman has shown you who she is. tho not experience but at least she is not a pretender. she will tell you as it is. God knows how many women who can support your hustle and still cheat and dump yo ass cos she can.

instead of dumping her... I believe you should observe her more. three months is not enough to know someone. Like I have done to my babe and ex's, they are always subjected to test. if she fails it doesn't mean u should leave her. Make her see reason by the best way possible so that she can change her ways.

even if you both go separate ways, God might be using you to change her. Baba women full everywhere, if one fails, you try another. your in the medical line so money ain't much of an issue.

wish u all the best sire.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 9:05am On Mar 07, 2016
obowunmi:


OP should marry a very poor woman who doesnt mind struggling with him and stop whining.
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by delightf(f): 9:05am On Mar 07, 2016
Is she refuse to leran nd change u live her, if you want to abide that her mum is rich OYO cuz she ll nt give you her mum's money

Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by goodnewscliff(m): 9:05am On Mar 07, 2016
y e b say gals dy always get 1 myopic,gullible,monkey banana-going mindset on 1 topic or anoda....if shes is reasoning like d ''sigidi'' in tortoise story on dis one, how would she act on complex and thout provoking, family affecting issues..?? Better scrutunize....if any iota of apc change is still in her, then stick...if not then better not make the worse mistake of the entirety of ur adulthood .,......

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by josite: 9:05am On Mar 07, 2016
u better thank this lady for being honest with you if indeed she is not joking.she may in another way be telling u she doesnt want to marry u because she knows what she is saying will not please your ear.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by delightf(f): 9:07am On Mar 07, 2016
If you marry her 2rom you may even tel you sex is a fornication,you think is only money
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by petkoffDrake(m): 9:07am On Mar 07, 2016
deyemia:
The Person I Intend To Marry Just Told Me This!!!


Dear Nairalanders,

I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons"

So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed.

On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband shocked. I acted cool at first.

Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers.

I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial.

At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never!

She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri.

Now here are the facts,
-We got introduced through match making,
-there are some good things about her that is worth consideration.
-I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of.
-This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich.

My Challenge is,
Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology.





Simple. Ask her if her mama didn't support her papa in bringing her up?





Her reply might shock u. Then U'll know if to dump her or not and move on...... No timetime angry
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by halfricanadian(f): 9:08am On Mar 07, 2016
Topestbilly:


U no go use hubby money buy things for urself?

Dis is probably d joke of d day.

Women and their hubbies pocket ar 5 & 6.

Shebi thats a good hubby dat wont help u nd rubbish u for it or make u pay for it

Some hubby dont see their wives as companions but a domestic being

So if im very lucky to marry a man who sees me as a companion nd not a domestic object sure we wud join money togeda nd spend
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ayomisrael: 9:08am On Mar 07, 2016
I think the ideology is not totally right. you didn't just meet her. Try to get/check her giving attitude and examine the issue sensitively and not sensibly. She could also be using ideology to see how you would react to trivial issues in your home- females could be funny and slimy! #from-experience #
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ihatesycophant(m): 9:08am On Mar 07, 2016
I've passed through the same bridge and God helped me to crossed it. I once had a lady that I wanted to marry and she said exactly the same thing to me , not at my back but face to face several times with her not mincing words. I even tried her one day when she was traveling to Ilorin from our village to buy me a boxer but she bluntly told me she has no money. Boxer was sold then around N100 to N120. I also discovered she will never buy a card of N20 for me to celebrate Val or birthday but wished I should break bank for her. One day I complained to her that since will began dating, you've not bought a single card for me, she told me, she doesn't have money. This is a lady that can do thousand of naira hair style and buy any reigning expensive cloth and also pestering me to lay down the little I have for her upkeep. The day she shocked me was when she bluntly told me, she cannot use her money for any man, since that day I had a second thought about her.
To God be the glory I am joyfully married with kids but till date she's still looking for Mr. Right.
My advise, you know what is good for you, all you need doing is to use your mind and let your spirit dictate to you what you want and is good for you. Don't rely on your heart because it's emotional and it can fail you. The choice is yours to choose because if thousand of nairalanders tell you to stick to her or not, it will not make meaning until you have a conviction within your spirit man because love is better choosing within individual man's spirit and mind.

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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by PresVA: 9:09am On Mar 07, 2016
Men need 'supportive' wives that would help them run the house financially. .. but it's sad many of them can't help domestically while still expecting the wife to make money...

I encourage men to marry women that have visions; she should have plans career wise or business wise atleast to add value to herself. .. However, marrying a woman because she'll help you financially doesn't just add up to me.. A man shouldn't keep such a mindset! You should struggle and your woman would know when just to step in and help; you shouldn't be echoing the financial help thingy. ..

Except the lady in question is a lazy Gold digger. .
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by princetom1(m): 9:10am On Mar 07, 2016
Am following o, let's see wat happens next after u talk to her. U are not going to just give up, right?
Don't mind all these drop her, drop her talk, u should try first, so that on d end, u can beat ur chest that u tried. I tell u, u will feel so happy if she change.
Wish u luck
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by naijaboiy: 9:10am On Mar 07, 2016
KingRex1:
Yea, i guess she was hacked.
Definitely! cheesy
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by innocent1(m): 9:11am On Mar 07, 2016
I know a lot of people will blame this girl. But she has said her mind. If the man is not okay with that he can look for another lady. Is good that the lady made the statement in front of the man. If in the future they finally got married and the man finds himself in a financial issue and the wife refuses to assist he most not see the woman as a bad person because the woman has made a point know from the beginning. Am not saying is a good ideology, but this is part of defining a relationship
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by malachytochukwu(m): 9:12am On Mar 07, 2016
Bros... Your fiancee is going to be a supportive wife.... Her friend was trying to be smart by saying sweet things that you would like to hear.. But your fiancee was pissed off by all the show of "good wife material" and subsequently, she took the other side of the argument. Don't by chance fall for your fiance's friend. Go talk to her in a very low and understanding voice....
deyemia:
The Person I Intend To Marry Just Told Me This!!!


Dear Nairalanders,

I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons"

So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed.

On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband shocked. I acted cool at first.

Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers.

I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial.

At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never!

She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri.

Now here are the facts,
-We got introduced through match making,
-there are some good things about her that is worth consideration.
-I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of.
-This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich.

My Challenge is,
Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology.

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