₦airaland Forum

postmann:
I'm sorry to be late to this thread.

Truth is marriage is too sacred to be interfered with by some godless scholars. Who the hell is a judge or magistrate or whatever to pronounce anyone married or divorced? GOD is the owner, originator of marriage, not man. And we are to abide by GOD's standard in marriage. When man attempt to fix issues he never originated by his own knowledge and understanding, he only complicate it further and prove he isn't truly wise.

Even priests have no scriptural backing to join anyone in matrimony. They can only bless a marriage.

An unmarried girl belongs to her father. And he only can give her out in marriage with his blessings to any man she chooses. His role is to advice and counsel her before she makes her choice and after.

Children belong more to their fathers even in divorce. They trace their lineage through their father and therein lies their inheritance and identity.

Since man-made, carnal institutions have poked their noses into marriage, divorce is rampant and most times for flimsy reasons.
I pity the soul of any judge who has ever dissolved a marriage save for adultery. On issues of threat to life, I believe the appropriate response is separation, and not outright divorce.

Still, I believe a judge should have no powers dissolving any marriage. Such an institution is too sacred for his carnal mind to meddle into.

Traditional marriage is the most spiritual and significant. There you abide by custom and pay every dues to the bride's parents and relative. Then you would have settled both man and spirit.

But she's not a property oooo!

So smart men will never in the first place trust their marital covenant to be based and supervised by some spiritually hollow intellectuals, A.K.A wise-fools.

She's not a property indeed. Most times the family of the bride use the opportunity to acquire all the wealth they couldnt get in their miserable life time. Infact these days, girls are taught to look out for choice rich men for their family to milk dry!

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

im not sure what the laws are in Nigeria but guys wise up, only do traditional lest u part with ur landed property and union bank shares!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

That is what I did. From day one, I made her understand I wasn't gonna do any church or court wedding.

Not because of the reasons above though just that I believe wedding is wedding and as an Igbo man, I should we'd according to Igbo tradition.

Like Ooni second wife

this is beremx baby?

hensben:
Bitter truth.

Single Ladies face right now...

this is beremx baby!

hensben:
Bitter truth.

Single Ladies face right now...

5minsmadness:
Traditional marriage
Court wedding
Church wedding


That's the plan.

Truth is, marriage is a SPIRITUAL institution and not a CARNAL or LEGAL one. The moment white folk introduced the pre-nup and legal aspect, they screwed up the spiritual romance of marriage. Why go into marriage seeking for what you will gain from your partner instead of what you can give. Selfishness in marriage is a recipe for misery.

People's should marry those whom they love(women) and respect(men). The purpose of marriage is to bring joy and love, not Strife and competition.

Good contribution. Certificate don't marry, it's the couple involved that matters. I intend to burn off my own because I have two.

Whatever rocks your boat

I did court, traditional and church..in that order

Church marriage is just for formality where couples go recite vows they won't keep after their Pastor

Court and traditional have value and meaning..

The OP presented a very valid assertion, but these ignorant people have turned the advice into their myopic religious sermons. A smart man knows enough to sign a prenuptial agreement if you must engage in the court marriage thing, but best thing is to avoid it if possible. I really do not understand the reason a man should pay alimony for an ex until she finds a new husband, while they go around fucking every dick. I understand the child support but alimony is the reason many men are scared in marriage and becoming lame dogs cos no one wants to slave for a certain ex all his life.

Well said

Who in his right sense will do this shit?

In Nigeria men reign supreme, even the laws are more favorable towards us but it helps to create additional safeguards just incase. Putting the name of your child or children on properties negates any future consequences that may arise due to divorce. When it comes to cash, setting up a corporation means your business profits are safeguarded against personal liabilities, this is what smart successful men do. Remember wealth won't give you intelligence but intelligence protects your wealth....may God save us all!

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

im not sure what the laws are in Nigeria but guys wise up, only do traditional lest u part with ur landed property and union bank shares!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

broad daylight scam, especially among yoruba babes. Ndi ori

Joy1706:
Good luck with that. I don't think any sane lady will marry a man in this era without doing registry marriage. I for one will do all three.

with una kind of desperation to get married you will not even wait for traditional marriage before getting pregnant for him

Who in his right sense will try that shitt? I never try such, I suffered to make my money alone, so I must have full control of my money.. I see no reason why I'll hand over my money and future to one biatchhh..
Marriage is societal expectation, so I'll fulfil it for the society, but handling my money to her? Hell No!

Vyolet:
None of those laws work here in Nigeria, when a man divorces you or you divorce him, no one would force him to give you Nada, unless he is responsible enough to know his responsibility.

And his "responsibility" is to provide for you while you sleep with any man you like, post-divorce?

better talk

postmann:
I'm sorry to be late to this thread.

Truth is marriage is too sacred to be interfered with by some godless scholars. Who the hell is a judge or magistrate or whatever to pronounce anyone married or divorced? GOD is the owner, originator of marriage, not man. And we are to abide by GOD's standard in marriage. When man attempt to fix issues he never originated by his own knowledge and understanding, he only complicate it further and prove he isn't truly wise.

Even priests have no scriptural backing to join anyone in matrimony. They can only bless a marriage.

An unmarried girl belongs to her father. And he only can give her out in marriage with his blessings to any man she chooses. His role is to advice and counsel her before she makes her choice and after.

Children belong more to their fathers even in divorce. They trace their lineage through their father and therein lies their inheritance and identity.

Since man-made, carnal institutions have poked their noses into marriage, divorce is rampant and most times for flimsy reasons.
I pity the soul of any judge who has ever dissolved a marriage save for adultery. On issues of threat to life, I believe the appropriate response is separation, and not outright divorce.

Still, I believe a judge should have no powers dissolving any marriage. Such an institution is too sacred for his carnal mind to meddle into.

Traditional marriage is the most spiritual and significant. There you abide by custom and pay every dues to the bride's parents and relative. Then you would have settled both man and spirit.

But she's not a property oooo!

So smart men will never in the first place trust their marital covenant to be based and supervised by some spiritually hollow intellectuals, A.K.A wise-fools.

if only nairalanders can reason like u den dis contri go b a beta place for us

ibkn:
this is not the position under Nigerian Law. a woman doesn't get half of the assets by force

if you do court wedding in nigeria, u are in for that.

Get a lawyer and sign a prenuptial agreement...

hedonistic:
And his "responsibility" is to provide for you while you sleep with any man you like, post-divorce?

I dunno why some of you misquote my point.
Anyways, his responsibility here are his children.

chigoizie7:
When it is time for me to get married, I will only do that in a traditional way (traditional wedding). If I eventually change my mind on d marriage thing.

If she so desires the white wedding, good, but only my immediate family and hers (dad,mum and siblings) maybe one or two friends. and if the church suggests the court paper whatever, they should just forget it entirely.


Traditional marriage is the best.


For my side, even if u like, let pope's, cardinals, archbishops, curates, primates,general overseers officiate that white wedding without traditional marriage, u re still single and searching.

gbam

blueseacats:
Me two.

Me three.

Okijajuju1:
Only foolish women will accept this fuckery of a suggestion.


SO you marry her under customary laws and leave the woman with no rights or legal protection whatsoever.. You can kick her and the kids out whenever you please and keep all your money and leave her high and dry abi?

Or when you die, you leave her at the mercies of your family to determine what portion of your asset she gets or not abi?

Of you can marry more wives and add to her and she cant do shit about it abi?

Or you can cheat on her with no consequences abi?






This Thread is the dumbest thread of the year..

Women, If your Husband wants to marry you, let him do court marriage first to show he is serious before una even go do traditional.


The only protection a married woman has in Nigeria is her Court Marriage license.

You sound pained,does this thread thread reminds you of something personal??

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

im not sure what the laws are in Nigeria but guys wise up, only do traditional lest u part with ur landed property and union bank shares!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

My brother is a living witness. he is practically working for the woman and her boyfriend as i am typing this.

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

im not sure what the laws are in Nigeria but guys wise up, only do traditional lest u part with ur landed property and union bank shares!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

In the United States, the divorce laws vary with each state. In some states, the woman is only entitled to a portion of her ex-husband's earnings if she earns or has total financial assets below a certain threshold.

Some other states only give the woman a share of the assets if such assets were acquired during the course of the marriage (also known as community property).

But I agree with you that most American and Western European divorce laws are overwhelmingly in favor of the woman.

hedonistic:
And his "responsibility" is to provide for you while you sleep with any man you like, post-divorce?

I agree with you,lol .My ex wife is about to re-marry but her shameless Fiance is busy driving and picking babes around town in a jeep I bought for her when we were together.She met a 'mumu ' in me but I just imagine what will happen when the new guy is through with her.But I no fit do woman that kind wickedness.My final point is I agree with the traditional thing ,to continue providing for her after break up outside the upkeep and education of the children is unrealistic and mumucious.

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

There is something called a prenuptial, people should learn to use it and stop losing their common sense to excitement when they are about to wed.

My brother, I concur with you ABSOLUTELY

the reason i started this thread is i noticed many guys complain on nairaland how they were with a babe for x amount of time then suddenly the babe started acting wierd and eventually left.... so im thinking what if same happens in marriage. gotta protect urself.

Bitter truth men...

Best solution actually is to marry only financially well to do ladies or don't marry at all...

why should a man spend money on traditional, white, court with divorce risks and all it entails. what does the babe have to offer in return for a man doing all these; from a purely business/ investment perspective? and please leave the spiritual mumbo jumbo out of this!