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Raymondenyi:
stop being silly, what are the blunders you can extract from my piece ? Because a cretin quoted me and blabbed rubbish , you are hailing her...... Now I understand why our educational system is in the messy state it is right now (when u have people that cannot think for themselves)

Bros ADVICE as a word can't be pluralized. I think I learnt that in pry 4 some 22 years ago. And here u r making a mockery of yourself. Just correct the lady with love next time if you don't like venom yourself.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....




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Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

if...

if u have got nothing to say, just keep ur fingers in ur pocket instead of claiming English teacher..

U are lucky you are not even married to this guy yet, he has reveqled signs of his beating nature , you were even hospitalised (God have mercy on women of today)and yet u still ask such question. Dont make a mistake that you would live to regret.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....




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Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

i need to give u a handshake ffor this advice.

lastpage:
You see, they say "Marriage is likened to NIGHT MARKET"........ until you enter, you can never be 100% sure what it is and how it will turn-out.

Seriously, did you even consider that the guy might be broke or going through some financial distress, when he came to see you in the hospital? Yet you think it is your "God-given Right" that he must pay your hospital Bills (for an off-On relationship that you cannot swear both of you were not doing some kpekus with someone else!).

This is what l dont like about "some" women!
They assume because they are "women" (and have that thing), a man should just become clairvoyant and pander to all their wishes! Men too have NEEDS, for Christ sake!
At least, he came to visit you in the hospital, that shows he cares.

Now, he has slapped you once (we dont know what led to it though) but l can assure you that if the event that led to it happened again, he would likely slap you again. He could be the type of person that is temperamental and reacts when provoked.

But where you goofed is trying to "form CIA" on him.
I am sure when he realised you were taking him for a ride by pretending it happened to your girlfriend, when you are actually referring to your relationship with him, he got Mad! (I would too) .......... and called your bluff!

He may not necessarily mean what he said but he is giving you the "middle finger" and saying in Oshiomole's voice: Go and Die!

Verdict: Dont marry him.
You dont trust him, you dont believe him....and now you have also sowed the seeds of doubt in his own mind.

It wont work, l dont want to hear another sad-story here in a a few months time.

Like: My loving husband is a beast! he slaps me whn we are making love!



Lastpage!

BTW: Dont let me see you trying to collect money/gift from him henceforth, .....now that you know you should not marry him o.
You know he can slap wella-wella.

correct!

Sis how old re you,nd how old is dis ur guy,
Hv ou been attending marriage semiar,
Hv you pray nd seek God presence
Hv you. Watch him very well 4get abt the chemistry nd physics side of him

See goto 2cor 7vs 1 to end
Marriage is not all about him coming to see ur parents oooh
Is all abt maturlity
Endurance
Faith
Patience
Long suffering
Love
Happiness
Forgiveness
And nort with
Beating
Think of it,that kind is he a born again christain
Is he d type that is always found in a wrong place @ d right time
Wat qulities did u see inhim
Do u see him as ur husband
How much percent of love did u ve 4 him nd him ve 4 u,
Ve u test him inmay things to see
Dis one he started beating u dis morning nd left u in hospital
Think of it ooo
Na 4 better 4 worst ooo
Do u want only better can u endure
See 4get. Him 4now telhim to give u time like 6months use it to pray well nd pray 4 d family u re going to
Tel God if he is 4 u telhim d signs u want God to prove to you that you ll understand is yrs
Telhim to wait use it to test him
Don't marry cuz others marry oooh don't lethim force you when u re nt ready
Yo re 2 sweet tobe a victim in N.Lander font page,so think pls why u tel him to wait
Ask him wat qualites did he see inyou
Wat mks him think he can marry you

glimpse33:
The Fact That He Onced Raised His Stinky Hand To Slap You Is Enough Reason To Arrest Him.
Do Not Marry Him Please, Else He I'd Turn You Into A Punching Bag

You are wrong bro
Ask what lead to slap

Some ladies only understand strong hand

Use strong hand and dey will behave

Am nt saying dt man shld use strong hand on d Lady
No No no

But ask what lead to the slap First

Some Ladies only behave well when u Lay hands on them

diva90:
The red flags are everywhere! The moment he slapped you was the moment you should have left his physically abusive ass! You better run before you enter one chance. If you decide to go on and Marry this man, you are on your own, don't come to nairaland 6 months from now asking us if you should seek divorce cos na u do yourself ...

Edit (Caveat): Dont read if you have 'attention-span problems'.... it is an Epistle!

On a serious note:

Most marriages fail within the first five years of getting married. If your marriage can survive those first five years, it will likely survive for a long time.

Trust me, no marriage is perfect!
But with time, couples will gradually stabilize and overcome their challenges, once they are honest with, and respect each other. not to phuck-up!

Most importantly, dont bring "personal ego" into your marriage, it will crash it.
Apologise to your spouse when you do wrong.
Appreciate your wife (commend her regularly), even though she is not perfect.
Respect your husband and appreciate the little he does, he will always want to do better!

There is no "golden formula" that can make marriage work.

"Big Holla" to all those couples who can keep it together.

@OP this pix describes how I feel about the story

kpolli:
Why did he slap you? You can't come and give us half story and expect full advice....

Plus if he wasn't the one who hospitalized you, why should he pay? Now you look like the bad person

Is it not you
Always looking for a way to defend the male folks

Yinmu Yinmu

Why are you asking us for advise when we still know the outcome? A man slapped you and left you in the hospital for your family to cater for the bill and you are asking us to advice you on marrying him or not? SMH for most Nigerian ladies

whats the point for asking strangers for advice of your personal life when they are still going to mock you and your story.

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

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Benwems:
Why did he slap her? Have you asked? Dont draw conclusion. Most girls now cheat/double date. They have lost their value and decency.

Wife beater Alert!
So u want to teach "Value" and "Decency" by slapping a woman?
Irony of life!!!

Number one your man will be a complicated man to live with considering the fact that he's not mature enough for a serious relationship, he will you use as a specimen to grow up. Secondly, I sense you on the other hand need to improve on your attitude also not paying for your hospital bill is a trivial excuse as you wouldn't know his financial state at that given time. So to me is a no no no marriage.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....

I thought advice was an uncountable noun?

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....

There's a huge difference between "Editing" and "Edition"... smh

Get a dictionary and check the meaning of the adjective "dire" before using the adverb "direly"


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henergygirl:
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

Dont go ahead b4 u'd fall in2 an abusive marriage.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....




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Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

Professor emeritus in english. Thats how you people would be shooting bird when they say you should go and catch fish....forget about the messenger and comment on the message....itk.

samuelUMOH:
Sure the guy is rich that y d op remain there.Unfortunately ladies dont mind double slaps so far their bills are paid .

lol umoh you funny. Abadie na?

sweetcocoa:
Run for your dear life, if you love yourself.

She loves the pocket more, but unfortunately he isn't going to give it...

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

Mods, please front page

Take your profile picture down to remain anonymous.

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

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When you were dating him, were you taking advice from your girlfriend or not ? YES OR NO.

So to you, your relationship with your boyfriend is a competition ring where one works hard to outsmart the other ?

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....




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Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

You are a man. Immaturity is one big reason most ladies dont marry or stay married. How can she be taking advice from her gf on how to fight her bf ?

You didn't tell us why he slapped you, who knows, you must have done something very annoying to him, so i will not be quick to condemn him, it might be your fault. A guy slapping a lady and vice versa is not 100% unjustifiable. Now you called him and tried to trick him with a childish question, come on, he is no fool. You just reminded him of what you did to make him slap you, which i guess is very very annoying to him, and he wished he had slapped you more so that your brain will be reset to default. The man was being sarcastic by his reply, so you don't have to conclude on that. If you really want to put him to test, use something that is mature enough not that childish question of yours.
As for him paying your hospital bill, you sounded like you completely relied on him for that, and i bet he noticed. But let me ask, did he slap you into the hospital bed as well. If yes, then he should have taken the sole responsibility of the bill, if no, don't hold it agains him.
So my sister step up your game, from your post i deduced you ain't mature enough for this guy. Step up! I repeat, step up!

You don't have any case with him

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

I have few things to say to you:

Wisdom is the principal thing. In whatever you are getting get wisdom.
If you lack it ask for it.

You didn't even deem it fit to mention the fact that she was slapped or doesn't that mean anything to you?

About the hospital bill: the lady had exhausted all her money in the medical treatment, any reasonable and caring guy would have offered to assist as much as he could.

I pray that none of my relatives should fall for your kind.

Repent!

Suigeneris93:
Like seriously, your own grammar is even more appalling, I don't even know where to start from. Please take your own advice first.

that is what i call "obongbobo ganpe",they both school at yemetu alaadoorin n'badan.

Raymondenyi:
you really need help, if you lack in English language, you should seek help..... This isn't a classroom and I'll not waste my time on a kid that knows nothing putting you through written English.....

Go and correct the crap you wrote there and stop claiming to be right.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible , for readers to offer their advices which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

I just think u are a nagative minded somebody. other quoted u

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

Mods, please front page

Please go ahead and marry him.

After all the Igbobi orthopedic interns needs patients to practice on.

Raymondenyi:
I do not have the luxury of time to waste on your lots; if my lexicon was way over your comprehension or vocabulary , the best you could have done was take solace in your dictionary instead of being stupid...... This is a social platform where all and sundry come, people are meant to learn and build up from what they know and do not know, not feigning crass, obscene and irritating ignorance and yet basking in grandiloquent delirium when in fact u know absolutely nothing...... saying you are silly will be an abuse of that word...... Go search for help , I will not dignify your obscenities with a response anymore..... continue in your crass ignorance you truly deserve it...

Easy bro.