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And you are still asking? I don't subscribe to you expecting him to pay your hospital bills if u have a family and a good support system tho, but the moment you say ' Yes, I do' or even contemplate saying 'Yes', then see urself as a human punching bag. Your approach was immature ,I must say but it doesn't justify his actions

Pls do no marry that monster, he will do worse.

Pls do no marry that monster, he will do worse, marriage is not wat u rush into. Mr. Right will come, n when he comes u will know, u won't need Nairaland for advice, believe me.

Suigeneris93:
Like seriously, your own grammar is even more appalling, I don't even know where to start from. Please take your own advice first.

you call yourself a writer and blogger...? SMHID!

I'm sure u wouldnt be asking dis question if it was only slap issues,i fink ur probs here is the fact dat he didnt pay ur hospital bills..it hurts to knw our ladies now take relationship as a job(u'r in it to get paid)..tell me, do u knw he has his own bills to pay,did u evn verify if he had enough on him wen u were hospitalised,wat hav u done and how have u helped this man to achieve his goals(mostly financially/career wise)?,has he been doing his hustling alone while u expect him to pay ur bills?,(cos 95% of our women sit,watch and dnt support their man jst cos of their stupid mentality of "is his duty to provide,am a lady,i dnt wana luk cheap)...women,its not men's duty to pay ur bills until u'r married to him,any man dat aids u financially is doing it out of his own free will,its nt mandatory..pls dnt even tell me he has to do it cos he makes love to u,na only him dey enjoy am? After all na our strength we stil dey waste

Suigeneris93:
Like seriously, your own grammar is even more appalling, I don't even know where to start from. Please take your own advice first.

EPIC

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

Mods, please front page

I learnt something never to judge when you haven't heard from the other party, madam sincerely what did you do for him to. SLAP you

Raymondenyi:
I do not have the luxury of time to waste on your lots; if my lexicon was way over your comprehension or vocabulary , the best you could have done was take solace in your dictionary instead of being stupid...... This is a social platform where all and sundry come, people are meant to learn and build up from what they know and do not know, not feigning crass, obscene and irritating ignorance and yet basking in grandiloquent delirium when in fact u know absolutely nothing...... saying you are silly will be an abuse of that word...... Go search for help , I will not dignify your obscenities with a response anymore..... continue in your crass ignorance you truly deserve it...

Ebot

.... and it's your duty to make them "behave"(whatever that means) by beating them huh? gerrahaere.. just gerrahere mehn

Watsoneology:
You are wrong bro
Ask what lead to slap

Some ladies only understand strong hand

Use strong hand and dey will behave

Am nt saying dt man shld use strong hand on d Lady
No No no

But ask what lead to the slap First

Some Ladies only behave well when u Lay hands on them

English is not our proprietary language. You see why we appear foolish most times. You are here trying to accuse OP of verbal incongruity. Here you are gbagauning left right and center. If you say you didn't comprehend her plight in that post, may ur left scrotum change. Oya see that plank for your eye, comot amm.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve[b] on[/b] your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




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Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

[quote author=Raymondenyi post=43646155]you really need help, if you lack in English language, you should seek help..... This isn't a classroom and I'll not waste my time on a kid that knows nothing putting you through written English.....


I thought you said you won't reciprocate..... You have issue Sorry issues more than the lady.. all advice on this post goes to you....

But why is it that some girls love guys that beats them?

Did you read what she typed? I belive in the ending of her story she inferred that he was the one who caused her hospitalization. Due to his beating he landed her in hospital. If this is true then, he is liable for her injuries and should be held accountable which includes paying for the hospital bill.

It's only because nigeria is lawless that he got away with his behaviour. In countries that are appropriately regulated when someone who is obviously battered visits the hospital the police are invited to investigate.

When in her writeup did she say that she wanted to be sprayed with gifts? She is expecting the man who brutalized her to pay for his actions, based on what she wrote. Do you have any humanity?

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

Raymondenyi:
you really need help, if you lack in English language, you should seek help..... This isn't a classroom and I'll not waste my time on a kid that knows nothing putting you through written English.....

Did you not see where you goofed big time while trying to correct someone? This is Nairaland and not some whatsapp group or something.
Stop feeling like you know it all and accept your mistakes. It's pieces of advice, not advices.

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

I don't think it is about immaturity. I think it is her love language. We all have different love languages

As for beating you,i would say,dont marry him,but as for not paying your hospital bills,its possible he didn't have enough money then.
But did he actually say he would have given you a double slap?
oloshi ni bobo yen sha

Y not tell us what you did that made him slap you. You ladies can be stupid and always give one side of the story to play victims!! Abeg dey go jo!

[quote author=Raymondenyi post=43635855]Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....


You sound like an English teacher who can identify all the tenses in people's problem but lack the ability to see his/her problem...

I guess if you are TY Belo you won't call on the bread seller bcus she can't speak and write foreign language

Raymondenyi:
I do not have the luxury of time to waste on your lots; if my lexicon was way over your comprehension or vocabulary , the best you could have done was take solace in your dictionary instead of being stupid...... This is a social platform where all and sundry come, people are meant to learn and build up from what they know and do not know, not feigning crass, obscene and irritating ignorance and yet basking in grandiloquent delirium when in fact u know absolutely nothing...... saying you are silly will be an abuse of that word...... Go search for help , I will not dignify your obscenities with a response anymore..... continue in your crass ignorance you truly deserve it...

you made errors in your original post, for one, there is no such word as 'advices'. Maturity is when you're able to admit your error, not by using what you think is impressive vocabulary to counter people who just pointed out your error. Who English don help sef?

If you don't want to give advise why take the time to come here and chastise her. Simply ask about the context of the slap rather than insulting her and women in general. In order to give sound advise you need to collect as much information about the issue at hand. So you can politely ask her for more information about her story or keep your insults to yourself.

You act as if you don't know that there are men who exist in the world that beat women without any provocation.

People like you tire me

chimah3:
Y not tell us what you did that made him slap you. You ladies can be stupid and always give one side of the story to play victims!! Abeg dey go jo!

Suigeneris93:
Like seriously, your own grammar is even more appalling, I don't even know where to start from. Please take your own advice first.

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I know u will take offence from real advice given to you. So many cements i have read here, they are just deceiving /misleading u. Many keep saying u should leave the relationship without even ask u. What u did that warranted d slap. U took offence for a guy that didn't pay your bill when u re not yet his wife? Indeed, u re a kid. Please many sure u mature bf u go into marriage. THE BITTER TRUTH IS THAT 80% OF MARRIAGES THAT FAIL CAUSED BY WOMEN. try to humble and respect ur crown

[quote author=Raymondenyi post=43646155]you really need help, if[b] you lack in English [/b]language[code][/code], you should seek help..... This isn't a classroom and I'll not waste my time on a kid that knows nothing putting you through written English.....


You don't seem to understand, your English is equally bad if not worse. If you should be correcting anyone it should be yourself. How can you be so full of shit, you see every other person's error and remain blind to yours. Na wa o

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

Mods, please front page

NO!!!

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

Stop all these childish response to a post, and for the fact that you understood her post is enough reason. Language is a means of communication nd communication is two way thing, which is why you are able to reply her post. Moreover she never requested that you help her out in her written English......... You should big up professor

What this??



Seek advice from him more when you have lost a tooth and broken an arm then say no to him.


Sounds like what a twelve year old will do


Are guys that scarce?? Wise up and reason more,life is too short to live in misery.

Suigeneris93:
Like seriously, your own grammar is even more appalling, I don't even know where to start from. Please take your own advice first.

I never knew you noticed yourself.thank God you did.I was just so amused when I saw what the hypocrite wrote.don't mind them that's how they do. Its very shameful.someone who's English is as poor as a church rat will be correcting another.English is a dynamic language noboy is imppecable. Well,to your topic.I guess you should still give him some time atleast you said you guy met like 6yrs ago and there was no record of such before now. Check your attitude that turned him against you. If none,give him some time and obviously pray about it.

He's trying to change? I thought if Nigerians hear the word change, they will pack their slippers and run for their lives and the future....

ojuu4u:
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I know u will take offence from real advice given to you. So many cements i have read here, they are just deceiving /misleading u. Many keep saying u should leave the relationship without even ask u. What u did that warranted d slap. U took offence for a guy that didn't pay your bill when u re not yet his wife? Indeed, u re a kid. Please many sure u mature bf u go into marriage. THE BITTER TRUTH IS THAT 80% OF MARRIAGES THAT FAIL CAUSED BY WOMEN. try to humble and respect ur crown

Ooops! I'm not the op that advice should be directed to hernergygirl

sexymoma:
Why are you still with him
cos he s cute, presentable or what? or for pple to see both of you and feels you are lucky to have him?
he slapped you once? nor be there e dey start?
my sister no how wey u go cover sh1t wey nor go still smell oo

borrow yourself brain ooo

The guy get money, dat na y

noblegrex:
I never knew you noticed yourself.thank God you did.I was just so amused when I saw what the hypocrite wrote.don't mind them that's how they do. Its very shameful.someone who's English is as poor as a church rat will be correcting another.English is a dynamic language noboy is imppecable. Well,to your topic.I guess you should still give him some time atleast you said you guy met like 6yrs ago and there was no record of such before now. Check your attitude that turned him against you. If none,give him some time and obviously pray about it.

I quite agree with you on English being dynamic, however at the bolded, it is not my topic. I didnt want to proffer advice until I saw that guy's post

Hypnosis is real.