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Suigeneris93:
I quite agree with you on English being dynamic, however at the bolded, it is not my topic. I didnt want to proffer advice until I saw that guy's post

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....
Bros,let me ask you a question. Will you be there and the woman you said you love needs assistance and you watch her get it outside? Come on,be realistic.


*for those quoting me on inanitis, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

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lastpage:
Why should it be so difficult to write 'Correct English", if you want to publish something, in a forum that communicates in English?
Stop making excuses for poor knowledge of the Language, it is still Nigeria's official language .....and taught in every school within Nigeria, so how come some people just cant learn?

Common mistakes are still permissible but outright "gbagaun" is undesirable.

Instead of blaming people trying to correct/educate the poster, advice the poster to get good books like 'First Aid in English', 'Lexis and Structure', e.t.c..... books that can improve your spoken and written English.

I dont want to see a Graduate speaking horrible English, yet want to be employed as a Customer Service officer!

"This generation" sef, may be they would one day write JAMB in Vernacular!



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noblegrex:
oh! Sorry. Never checked. Yeah, same with me.I just decided to read comments,may be learn one or two things and log off but your comments caught my attention. That's how they do I've been noticing that for quite sometime now.its only the authoritarians that has the right to that. Any other person is a countefeit. As for that bolded,sorry bout it.may you never witness such anyways.

sweetcocoa:
This kind question sef, impossible is nothing, you never hear that one before, I guess.

Suigeneris93:
amen but even if I do, I will have more sense to not post it on nairaland

Memejem:
If you don't want to give advise why take the time to come here and chastise her. Simply ask about the context of the slap rather than insulting her and women in general. In order to give sound advise you need to collect as much information about the issue at hand. So you can politely ask her for more information about her story or keep your insults to yourself.

You act as if you don't know that there are men who exist in the world that beat women without any provocation.

People like you tire me

seaga:
She loves the pocket more, but unfortunately he isn't going to give it...

noblegrex:
don't worry it won't. But posting it atimes gives courage and ideas.even if there's no parmanent solution here. Its well ooo.

mimzy:
Olodo rabata. Oju eja lomo je. Oni je paper. Silati loma lo. Aji yan wo. Eba tutu lomoje . shiki shiki. Shiorrrrr . Oro dun , ofe ke. Wole Soyinka. Mschewww. Did I even mention u in d first place. Notice me oshi

She highlighted all ur blunders. Its a shame cos u were tryna put someone else down when u ain't perfect. Stop tryna blow grammar biko. If u can't construct , keep it simple and real.
P.S I won't reply u again. UV been noticed

Suigeneris93:
I always believe that most relationship troubles will be resolved better by the couple in question, you are the one wearing the shoe and you know where it hurts the most, why bring in the opinion of stangers who may know little or nothing about your predicament? Eg this op has been in a relationship with someone for almost six years now, my longest relationship is one year and counting, she is of course expected to be in a better position to advise me because of her years of experience, even if its off and on. Some people here dispensing advice haven't even been in one meaningful relationship all their lives and she expects them to advise her especially on this kind of crucial issue. She knows what is best for herself so let her advise herself

noblegrex:
hmmm! I'm jealous o.I perceived you'll make a good wife and a mother though.But you can't fault her anyways,it can be frustrating atimes and only someone with your kind heart and understanding can handle it. I guess she's still ''young'' and background matters most atimes. I just pray your BF/hobby complements your kind and understanding then its joy like a river. Cos its scarce to have a woman with such understanding. But I also have the feelings that you'll be a no nonsense lady ooooo.

Suigeneris93:
Lol, yea he does. And you're right background really does matter. Thanks for the compliment too, I think I'm whatever people want me to be however, I'm still ME

sukkot:
why would he offer to pay for your hospital bills na ? hin na ya papa ni ? lmao. but ermm about the slap part - we need to hear his side of the story cuz you may have attacked him first and now you are forming innocent. jus sayin

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

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jeff1607:
would like to know your response to this;

let's say you cheated with about 3 different men and your man finds out and slaps you, during confrontation, would you leave him or apologise and leave him or just stick to him

babafirst:
Lwkmddddddd,the guy no wan accept im gbagaun ,which is even more scandalous.People like that are very easy to identify,because they have won a few local scrabble competitions in the village nobody will rest.Na dia type dey cram dictionary everyday thinking dictionary na grammar.

Adaure4ever:
The guy look lyk a hot tempered guy.

mimzy:
Its not in me (cheating) so I don't even see the scenario ure painting coming to life. Haba bros, three dfrnt men kilodee

NemzySeries:
na wa Õoº°˚ ˚°ºoo....ure so beautiful ehnnnnn....na only u waka cum? make I jst start work 1st i'll trace u to ur fada's compund

Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




* modified*
Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

Raymondenyi:
yes i didn't deem it necessary to take that into cognisance, my reason is simple, her story is incomplete, she should tell the whole reason why she was slapped, what did she do? For the man to have slapped her just once during the course of their relationship tells he is not really an abuser as she is trying to portend..... she might have stretched him beyond his capacities......

As regards the money part, do you know whether the man had any on him at that point in Time? She never denied the said man hasn't been spending on her before Now? Has she ever reciprocated same gestures ? Women should stop this vain attitude of I'm meant to take all, and only open my legs for him as a payback.... (that's the mindset of low life street hookers, show yourself some class woman.....)

chimah3:
Oshey!!! Defender of the oppressed. Last I checked everyone is entitled to their opinion. I choose not to believe her bullock. Beat me please! Shior!!

Immorttal:
my boss,why are you badt like this

Trendishine:
dnt mind the mumu, they are lots of them on this forum..i call dem, halfbaked 'notice me' spellcheckers' . u cant believe wat they engage themselves wit..