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Dear Bunmi,

My girlfriend is an official member of a leading Pentecostal church and she takes her religion seriously – so much so that she always recoils at the idea of having sex. She says it’s against the teachings of the Bible.
This makes me sad. I am a Christian myself and I go to a reputable orthodox church from time to time. My girlfriend’s attitude is really upsetting me. I know a lot of our religious friends who are happy in fulfilling sexual relationships, why should our situation be different?
At times I even wonder if she’s not hiding something more sinister from me. I’ve asked her to reach some sort of compromise by giving me MouthAction but she says nothing can be done sexually until we are married.
It seems as if she is using her religion as a bait for us to get married. What can I do? If she turns out to be a pig-in-a poke after we get married, what could I do? Do you think there’s anything I can say to change her views? I want her so much.

Funsho by e-mail.

Dear Funsho,

As you must have realised by now when people have deep religious beliefs, it is impossible to change their views and unwise and unfair to try. It doesn’t matter that some religious people do have sex before marriage, what matters is that your girlfriend doesn’t believe in it. You want to know what you can do? Why not marry her if you want her so desperately? If you really love each other and believe you could have a good life together, marriage should be the next step. That way, you could have all the sex you want without messing up her life. But, if marriage is not in your agenda, then call the relationship off and move on. That should also free her to find someone who believes what she believes. Then both of you will be happy.

rosalieene:
No matter the lies the devil might come
up with to put fear in the hearts of
people,we must remember that God
words cannot be a lie.He has said "do
not fornicate", it should and always be
so.
#runsaway

rawtouch:
It's a scam that's how you will enter one chance cab

Oma307:
I wish to come across this kind of lady. Straight away to my mama

heeyarnuh:
marry her

bet9jaguru:
she no be virgin oooOOooooo

you know sumpple after getting burnt once or twice will decide to go into a "no sex till Marriage" relationship and quite a lot of tymes the set guy will most probably just cumming out of a sexually active relationship

Oma307:
I wish to come across this kind of lady. Straight away to my mama

Oma307:
The case get as e bi, with time she will succumb

dangervu:
. That actions of yours might give you eternal regret,i fear girls pass devil this days,you won't be surprise when the poster comes here to tell us he found out someone as been bleeping her while she forms thou at holy

dangervu:
. That actions of yours might give you eternal regret,i fear girls pass devil this days,you won't be surprise when the poster comes here to tell us he found out someone as been bleeping her while she forms thou at holy

Josephamstrong1:
She'll only succumb if she isn't a virgin.
virgin acclaimed spirit filled hardly fall for it. Although they can fall for kissing and light smooching.

Oma307:
The case get as e bi, with time she will succumb

bet9jaguru:
or maybe she has a "succumbus" bcuz she moans in her sleep

bet9jaguru:
only if pa adeboye can stand as her guarantor

heeyarnuh:
loooooool

firstking01:
These are the kinda girls that could eventually lead you to heaven, op marry her.

Oma307:
Just cant hold this laugh, this is serious

bet9jaguru:
i hope so

firstking01:
stick with her

bet9jaguru:
aiit
lemme forecast small

firstking01:
nairabet ba?

bet9jaguru:
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bet9jaguru:
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