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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by RuuDie(m): 8:33pm On Mar 17, 2016
We really should stop mixing religious and societal laws...a SIN is not necessarily a CRIME!

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by donvicky2007: 8:34pm On Mar 17, 2016
Angelberry:

In most churches without parental consent they won't join the couples.

court wedding doesn't required the consent of the parents.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by aforti(m): 9:01pm On Mar 17, 2016
Now everyone is blaming the parents, for as stranger that just appeared in this woman's life all in the name if love and marriage. Soon or later this same woman light come on niara land to rant how are husband is cheating on her and maltreating or how he is beating her after everything she has Don for him, and people will come but with the question where are her parents. Ehpasians 6:4 honour your father and mother that your days maybe longs on earth and it shall be well with thee. Any child who chose to ignore his or her parents advice is only evoking parent curse to himself. Until we realise that our parents are our earthly god's and treat them as such, you will keep calling unnecessary problems to ourselves. If it was the man's parents that were against the marriage this man will drop this girls asap. She is obviously being foolish and infatuated so she chose without her parents consent. Choosing a total stranger over the people that natured you, invested time efforts and resources on you. She is in the foolish wheel of love. The parents care too much about her, they should allow her to feel the other side of marriage so she can retrace her steps by herself.

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by baby124: 9:07pm On Mar 17, 2016
aforti:
Now everyone is blaming the parents, for as stranger that just appeared in this woman's life all in the name if love and marriage. Soon or later this same woman light come on niara land to rant how are husband is cheating on her and maltreating or how he is beating her after everything she has Don for him, and people will come but with the question where are her parents. Ehpasians 6:4 honour your father and mother that your days maybe longs on earth and it shall be well with thee. Any child who chose to ignore his or her parents advice is only evoking parent curse to himself. Until we realise that our parents are our earthly god's and treat them as such, you will keep calling unnecessary problems to ourselves. If it was the man's parents that were against the marriage this man will drop this girls asap. She is obviously being foolish and infatuated so she chose without her parents consent. Choosing a total stranger over the people that natured you, invested time efforts and resources on you. She is in the foolish wheel of love. The parents care too much about her, they should allow her to feel the other side of marriage so she can retrace her steps by herself.
Honestly I am all for adults doing what they like. But we keep getting stories of women in court, footing all the bills why these same men are cheating constantly and spreading disease. If you look closely the woman's parents were against the marriage. Similar case I read on a blog. A woman abandoned her family, and tried to brush up this guy. The guy ended up poinsoning her and marrying another woman as second wife. She was weeping and lamenting at what she did to her family. If you want to go against your family all well and good, but the man better be worth it. For a woman's family to reject a man at her age, tells me something is off about the guy. But if she insists she can go on. I prefer if it is a guy's parents that object and he is the breadwinner than the other way around. Cause women always have more to lose in a bad relationship.

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by Nobody: 9:08pm On Mar 17, 2016
nobody stole her... the parents are trying to force the woman to marry someone she does not like.

Angelberry:
Don't steal a woman
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by aforti(m): 9:10pm On Mar 17, 2016
baby124:

Honestly I am all for adults doing what they like. But we keep getting stories of women in court, footing all the bills why these same men are cheating constantly and spreading disease. If you look closely the woman's parents were against the marriage. Similar case I read on a blog. A woman abandoned her family, and tried to brush up this guy. The guy ended up poinsoning her and marrying another woman as second wife. She was weeping and lamenting at what she did to her family. If you want to go against your family all well and good, but the man better be worth it. For a woman's family to reject a man at her age, tells me something is off about the guy. But if she insists she can go on. I prefer if it is a guy's parents that object and he is the breadwinner than the other way around. Cause women always have more to lose in a bad relationship.




My point exactly, with all the stories going on. One should know that family love is the only love worth fighting for. If your parents are against its time to re consider your options, these days marriage are more like business contract. You never know what your partner has in store waiting for you . Even thou they seem so eager to sign equity with you without blinking. You lose the love of family you stand alone. Coz when push comes to shoves every blood will looks for his or her umbilical cord or those that shared thesame rout.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by Ayo25: 9:17pm On Mar 17, 2016
Very complicated story today of one of
my acquintances in the University (Kris
Madugba), who was arrested by the
police for marrying his wife, Nono Orji,
without her parents permission or
blessings. My thoughts on the subject as with many like this, is this. Things
should never be allowed to
degenerate to this level. Parental
consent is very important in any
relationship and inspite of the ideals of
liberalism and freedom holding sway in the world today, people who are
getting married should strive to get it.
But parents have the worst guilt as far
as I am concerned. It makes no sense
to give your child all that education
and expect to control a very important decision in their life like who they will
spend the rest of their life with after
they leave your home. The essence of
all the education they have had is to
be able to make their own decisions.
Parents can talk of all their investments on their children. But yes that is
nothing short of what they deserve
since they(the children) did not asked
to be brought into the world. You
brought them into the world and its
your duty to bring them up. That does not however give you absolute
control over every area of their. Their
are many other ways parents would
certainly be rewarded for their efforts
on their children. You can love your
child but you cannot love a child more than he loves himself. Being over-
protective of your child usually results
in this kind of messy situations. If your
children insist they are sure of their
decision about who to marry, just give
them your blessings knowing fully well that they will suffer the most of
any bad consequences... BTW, the Kris
Madugba I know is a perfect
gentleman, with a good sense of
humour. I pray he pull through this.

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by gemale(m): 9:25pm On Mar 17, 2016
masterblogger:
It's morally and religiously wrong for a woman to marry without the parents consent.
bt nt legally. Abeg make her parents go OD on chill pills. As long as d woman wasnt forced in2 d union, its legal & binding. If dem no wan gree, 1 litre bottle of jik dey dere 4 dem 2 drink.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by texazzpete(m): 9:28pm On Mar 17, 2016
aforti:
Now everyone is blaming the parents, for as stranger that just appeared in this woman's life all in the name if love and marriage. Soon or later this same woman light come on niara land to rant how are husband is cheating on her and maltreating or how he is beating her after everything she has Don for him, and people will come but with the question where are her parents. Ehpasians 6:4 honour your father and mother that your days maybe longs on earth and it shall be well with thee. Any child who chose to ignore his or her parents advice is only evoking parent curse to himself. Until we realise that our parents are our earthly god's and treat them as such, you will keep calling unnecessary problems to ourselves. If it was the man's parents that were against the marriage this man will drop this girls asap. She is obviously being foolish and infatuated so she chose without her parents consent. Choosing a total stranger over the people that natured you, invested time efforts and resources on you. She is in the foolish wheel of love. The parents care too much about her, they should allow her to feel the other side of marriage so she can retrace her steps by herself.

Look at you, quoting Bible and talking about Love in a case when Parents used police to illegally detain an innocent man for nothing.

With all the nonsense you posted, one would think that parental consent prevents infidelity and violence.

99% of the broken marriages in Nigeria were done with the blessings of the parents and religious bodies.

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by ikukuhero: 9:44pm On Mar 17, 2016
kITATITA:


A 28 year old woman (medical professional) doesn't require parental consent for marriage or any decision for that matter.

For real? But why? Because she is 28 or because she is a medical professional? Either way, no big deal. Anyway, I pray your daughters do same to you.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by RuuDie(m): 9:48pm On Mar 17, 2016
@Ayo25

I sabi Kris (Ugo) very well and the suggestion that he is some sort of gold-digger outrages me. How much dem wan give am sef... omo I dey boil for here wen I dey. Young man suppose dey house je'je dey cheer UTD angry
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by aforti(m): 9:50pm On Mar 17, 2016
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by ikukuhero: 9:56pm On Mar 17, 2016
texazzpete:


Look at you, quoting Bible and talking about Love in a case when Parents used police to illegally detain an innocent man for nothing.

With all the nonsense you posted, one would think that parental consent prevents infidelity and violence.

99% of the broken marriages in Nigeria were done with the blessings of the parents and religious bodies.


How did you come about that figure 99%?. From what data? Just how did you get to your conclusion? Just writing some invalid stuff.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by ladyF(f): 9:58pm On Mar 17, 2016
glossy6:


Hector, LadyF is waiting
hmmmm...what is LadyF waiting for? smiley

cutehector how are you?
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by oribi(m): 9:58pm On Mar 17, 2016
only in 9ja do u hear dis type of b.s and pooangry angry angry angry...we are so 1960.....she's 28 years old for Christ's sake...
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by Emperorkennyk(m): 9:59pm On Mar 17, 2016
grin permission ko, consent ni
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by oribi(m): 10:05pm On Mar 17, 2016
ikukuhero:


For real? But why? Because she is 28 or because she is a medical professional? Either way, no big deal. Anyway, I pray your daughters do same to you.

if u read the news is not as if they did not seek the parents consent but they did not approve so what ur saying is that she does not have a right to choose cause she's a zombie...

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by oribi(m): 10:07pm On Mar 17, 2016
Ayo25:
Very complicated story today of one of
my acquintances in the University (Kris
Madugba), who was arrested by the
police for marrying his wife, Nono Orji,
without her parents permission or
blessings. My thoughts on the subject as with many like this, is this. Things
should never be allowed to
degenerate to this level. Parental
consent is very important in any
relationship and inspite of the ideals of
liberalism and freedom holding sway in the world today, people who are
getting married should strive to get it.
But parents have the worst guilt as far
as I am concerned. It makes no sense
to give your child all that education
and expect to control a very important decision in their life like who they will
spend the rest of their life with after
they leave your home. The essence of
all the education they have had is to
be able to make their own decisions.
Parents can talk of all their investments on their children. But yes that is
nothing short of what they deserve
since they(the children) did not asked
to be brought into the world. You
brought them into the world and its
your duty to bring them up. That does not however give you absolute
control over every area of their. Their
are many other ways parents would
certainly be rewarded for their efforts
on their children. You can love your
child but you cannot love a child more than he loves himself. Being over-
protective of your child usually results
in this kind of messy situations. If your
children insist they are sure of their
decision about who to marry, just give
them your blessings knowing fully well that they will suffer the most of
any bad consequences... BTW, the Kris
Madugba I know is a perfect
gentleman, with a good sense of
humour. I pray he pull through this.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by aforti(m): 10:09pm On Mar 17, 2016
texazzpete:


Look at you, quoting Bible and talking about Love in a case when Parents used police to illegally detain an innocent man for nothing.

With all the nonsense you posted, one would think that parental consent prevents infidelity and violence.

99% of the broken marriages in Nigeria were done with the blessings of the parents and religious bodies.





I am responsible for what I say, you are responsible for what you understand.
When marriages break where she do the spouses run to for comfort and support? My point is no one is saying don't marry but when you ignore the very people that natured you, believed in you, provide for you and invested in you to become who you are before you started marking your own decisions you might end up alone on the other side of the divide when the quake of marriage comes, 99% of marriages go through a stage of marital quick the rate of survival depends on the foundation of the marriage and it's support system...which the young man and women are obviously ignoring a brike called the parents. These parents did not illegally detain the man that want to marry without the consent of the people that gave birth to the very being he wants to marry. They believed their child was hyponized into getting married without their consent and that is enough reason to arrest him until proven otherwise. He was not kidnapped by tugs hired by the parents, he was arrested, the guy should prove that he did not hypnotize their daughter and that she married him with clear mental state, period.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by oribi(m): 10:11pm On Mar 17, 2016
aforti:
Now everyone is blaming the parents, for as stranger that just appeared in this woman's life all in the name if love and marriage. Soon or later this same woman light come on niara land to rant how are husband is cheating on her and maltreating or how he is beating her after everything she has Don for him, and people will come but with the question where are her parents. Ehpasians 6:4 honour your father and mother that your days maybe longs on earth and it shall be well with thee. Any child who chose to ignore his or her parents advice is only evoking parent curse to himself. Until we realise that our parents are our earthly god's and treat them as such, you will keep calling unnecessary problems to ourselves. If it was the man's parents that were against the marriage this man will drop this girls asap. She is obviously being foolish and infatuated so she chose without her parents consent. Choosing a total stranger over the people that natured you, invested time efforts and resources on you. She is in the foolish wheel of love. The parents care too much about her, they should allow her to feel the other side of marriage so she can retrace her steps by herself.


i agree with you in some views yes it's a must to respect your parents but also your parents must also respect your views when you become an adult..

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by masterblogger(m): 10:12pm On Mar 17, 2016
NICENEDU29:

So you mean he/she must remain unmarried when he/she is of marriageable age and desires to marry so long as the parents refuse to give their useless consent? My friend pls try and get small common sense and do not let religion deceive or mislead you. Dont follow it sheepishly. Although parents' consent is good but it is NOT a must. U can dispense with it when they refuse to give it. U are an adult and ur educated for that matter.

Onuku(my friend), I said morally and religiously wrong. Why would you even get married without the consent of the parent who notutered and trained you. Please let's forget the legality of our damn constitution. It is Morally and religiously illegal
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by prissyluv(f): 10:13pm On Mar 17, 2016
masterblogger:
It's morally and religiously wrong for a woman to marry without the parents consent.

So she should remain single since the parents didnt approve her choice of man ba?

Parents are not always right .I keep saying it. At times their best intentions are channeled the wrong way.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by RuuDie(m): 10:14pm On Mar 17, 2016
ikukuhero:


How did you come about that figure 99%?. From what data? Just how did you get to your conclusion? Just writing some invalid stuff.

Simple... there are way more marriages with parents consent than there are without!
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by masterblogger(m): 10:15pm On Mar 17, 2016
prissyluv:


So she should remain single since the parents didnt approve her choice of man ba?

Parents are not always right .I keep saying it. At times their best intentions are channeled the wrong way.

My dear I don't expect such from a lady like me. Am disappointed

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by julsuc: 10:17pm On Mar 17, 2016
kITATITA:

My dear Sister; Glory to Jesus. Families could do more harm than good sometimes. I'm almost certain that they feel that the young man is beneath their Dr. Daughter.
Exactly what am thinking and quiet sure the parents of the girl are wealthy and they will feel the guy is a gold digger.Naija mentality sha
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by RuuDie(m): 10:19pm On Mar 17, 2016
aforti:





I am responsible for what I say, you are responsible for what you understand.
When marriages break where she do the spouses run to for comfort and support? My point is no one is saying don't marry but when you ignore the very people that natured you, believed in you, provide for you and invested in you to become who you are before you started marking your own decisions you might end up alone on the other side of the divide when the quake of marriage comes, 99% of marriages go through a stage of marital quick the rate of survival depends on the foundation of the marriage and it's support system...which the young man and women are obviously ignoring a brike called the parents. These parents did not illegally detain the man that want to marry without the consent of the people that gave birth to the very being he wants to marry. They believed their child was hyponized into getting married without their consent and that is enough reason to arrest him until proven otherwise. He was not kidnapped by tugs hired by the parents, he was arrested, the guy should prove that he did not hypnotize their daughter and that she married him with clear mental state, period.


In other words, stay indoors and do not step a foot outside because if you do, there is a chance you can get hit by a car. I see your reasoning, it is PERFECT!
By the way are you supposed to DETAIN and JAIL someone on SUSPICION of HYPNOSIS or after actually proving that they did it...? and who is supposed to be providing this PROOF - the man that is already locked up in JAIL... the parents/police Or the fact that the girl is the one out there trying to bring this to news and social media attention doesn't count!?

Abso-fvcking-lutely PERFECT, LOGICAL reasoning!!!

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by baby124: 10:27pm On Mar 17, 2016
aforti:





My point exactly, with all the stories going on. One should know that family love is the only love worth fighting for. If your parents are against its time to re consider your options, these days marriage are more like business contract. You never know what your partner has in store waiting for you . Even thou they seem so eager to sign equity with you without blinking. You lose the love of family you stand alone. Coz when push comes to shoves every blood will looks for his or her umbilical cord or those that shared thesame rout.
Now people are saying this guy is married and has 4 kids somewhere. I knew something was not right in all this. This girl better retrace her steps before it's too late. A transparent guy will work hard to win the parents over. Not go and have a sham marriage somewhere

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by texazzpete(m): 10:37pm On Mar 17, 2016
ikukuhero:


How did you come about that figure 99%?. From what data? Just how did you get to your conclusion? Just writing some invalid stuff.

How did YOU come about the conclusion that my assertion was invalid?

Get thee behind me, misguided one.
Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by texazzpete(m): 10:40pm On Mar 17, 2016
baby124:

Now people are saying this guy is married and has 4 kids somewhere. I knew something was not right in all this. This girl better retrace her steps before it's too late. A transparent guy will work hard to win the parents over. Not go and have a sham marriage somewhere

How is it a 'sham' marriage?

If they married legally in court, there's nothing 'sham' about it. It's a legally binding arrangement in a country where polygamy is legal.

The crux of the matter here is the parent sending police to arrest the husband. Last I checked, having another wife (if true) is not grounds for arrest in Naija.

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by prissyluv(f): 10:40pm On Mar 17, 2016
masterblogger:


My dear I don't expect such from a lady like me. Am disappointed

You are yet to get loads of it then.
What is your point really?
If this story is investigated well,they must have pleaded severally for the parents approval but what?? They declined and probably on flimsy reasons. Lets assume their reasons are genuine and the lady insisted on her choice of man,they should have given their consent and blessed her. She has the sole right to choose who she wants to spend the rest of her life with and bears the consequences alone too if any. Parents are to guide us on such decisions.

I am not saying parental consent is not important,by all means try and get it but what happens if they refused to give it? Wait eternity?
I better wine and dine in my mistake than the mistake i was pushed into.

I hear you say parents nurtured and trained us. Of course,it is their duty to do so within their capability and capacity. Did you know when the plan to conceive you was made? Why the sentimental talk of nurturing and training then??

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by RuuDie(m): 10:43pm On Mar 17, 2016
baby124:

Now people are saying this guy is married and has 4 kids somewhere. I knew something was not right in all this. This girl better retrace her steps before it's too late. A transparent guy will work hard to win the parents over. Not go and have a sham marriage somewhere

Who u dey hear gist from? BIG LIE... I know him, personally! Anyway, @HeraldNG just tweeted that he has been released - na dat wan concern me. If dem like make dem go lock their pikin up too!

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Re: Police Arrest Man For Marrying Wife Without Parents’ Permission (photo) by texazzpete(m): 10:44pm On Mar 17, 2016
aforti:


These parents did not illegally detain the man that want to marry without the consent of the people that gave birth to the very being he wants to marry. They believed their child was hyponized into getting married without their consent and that is enough reason to arrest him until proven otherwise. He was not kidnapped by tugs hired by the parents, he was arrested, the guy should prove that he did not hypnotize their daughter and that she married him with clear mental state, period.


I cannot believe an educated person is the one who typed this drivel.

My word, for someone who talks about honoring parents, you sure wasted the money invested in your education by your folks.

What a disgrace. You may have lost the ability to feel shame, but you'll be gratified to know I feel deeply ashamed for you.

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