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nikkypearl:
Shameless bitches everywhere !

Not your fault! The best thing to do now is come out clean and talk some senses into that guy's head

That's if the 2nd bìtch's juju is not already working

Sparkles003:
The same way you cajoled that your friend to date that wicked.greedy,money hungry lady.go back to him and cajole him to go back to his baby mama citing reasons why his first fruit should not be made to grow with out his father and mother together.
tell him of possibility of the child being labeled a vagabon or basterd cause of his decision to leave the mom.
tell him that any lady that can make a man abandon his family just to be with her can never be honest,reliable,trusted or depended on.
if you did tell him
if after you try all your best he still insist to die there,it is your duty to take care of that child as much as you can.

your last statement... Seriously? It's the OP's duty to take care of the child?

Why?

Nicepoker:
.this was an in-house issue. So u still had the mind to post it on a public forum.

abeg free him jor. You are the only one who knows he's talking about you.

gbens2000:
someone needs your help,and wat u AV to say is kill urselve.just try killing urselve first.

Are you the hub trainer

Open up to ur guy ,tell him how everytn went down and d part d girl made u play,make him understand u did dat innocently and let him know d kind of danger he mite end up in keeping a relationship wit dat girl ...and I believe wit his rite senses and his child involved he will definitely quit d lata.....

Yepaaaaaa! E don set. Kasalla don yapaa.
Set that b.itch up with one other rich dude and arrange for your friend to catch them. That's called redemption. Otherwise when holy ghost fire begin dey pour eh! Your own witch go be puss n butts

nlfan:
I am feeling more like a devil right now,

I have a friend who owns a Business Hub where Technology startups are enhanced and built in the southern state.

Occasionally, he partners with Google to organized tech and entrepreneurial events and i am always one of the resource person, we are good friends and we share alot.

Can we talk abt d hub smwhr else, pls? Any medium u choose

Op u aren't a 21st centuary witch u wia jux used by dt girl to get to ur frd. Go to ur frd n tell him everything n if afta telling him he decides to cont wt her then u let them be. U kw u hv done ur part n tell d oda girl to move on too.

FaskRolce:
abeg free him jor. You are the only one who knows he's talking about you.

and u are the only one who feels he is referring to me.

HomesOfLife:
You're a 21st century witch true true. Now you aff see what you aff cause

This movie needs part 2. Very interesting

Indeed this movie !

Explain to him face to face
Use your correspondences as evidence
Tell him that when you called to ask for her own side, she claimed that she has locked his destiny wifh hers-juju things

cc nlfan

jayriginal:
You acted as a friend so its not your fault that things turned out twisted.

In life always remember though that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

since when did you give romantic advice?

Hmmmmmm, truly op,ure innocent ,she just used u CLEAN. Lord deliver us from all these karishikas ,(more reason why married women need to fortify their hubby on their knees) if I want to talk like a typical nigerian,I would say she even used jazz to separate the guy from his baby and fiance ,so she would have him,which might not be far from the truth. And she even went as far as going for the baby's dedication to rub it in the fiance's face (the jazz sure for am) how she knew the address only shows she is a DESPERATE HUNGRY B*TCH . If the fiance will be prayerfully patient,Karma is closeby and God will fight for her and her baby.

OP i b wan call u winch as u claim bt i go consider u because of two tins, first u b man nd secondly d way dem dey treat winch 4 my place i nr like am. mek i tel u dem dey use new razor blade scrape all their skin remain flesh apply small pepper nd patiently nd gradualy roast dem to death gentle-ly. nai mek i go cal u wizard, wicked wizard anyways dem go still roast u because u dn confess bt i wn tel dem mek dem shw mercy so dem go do am small smal in sequence, i mean dem go start wit ur fingers, den ur legs, hand, gwongwon, ear etc just lyk dat o...... oya send me ur address mek we cme pick u

[quote author=FlawlessRebirth2 post=44220202]RUN YOUR OWN RUN...UNA NO GO HEAR

SEE WATIN U DON CAUSE NA...


BY THE TIME THAT LADY START REPORTING TO HER PASTOR THAT "deris a winch disturbing her relationship",,,THEN D PASTOR WEEE BE SHOUTING "DIE BY FIRE" ONTOP YOUR HEAD[/quote/confarm u

Very tricky situation.

If you tell the babymama your role in this mess, she might not forgive you.

If you try pulling the new couple apart, they will malign you and even call you jealous.

The new woman can even accuse you of asking her out.
Fear women, especially those that think/fear you want to remove butter from their bread. She can destroy you.

I inadvertently joined two people, leading to break up of one with his fiancée. But thank God I introduced both together as "fiancé & fiancée" to the new lady. The ex-fiancée acknowledged it afterwards.

But I ended my friendship with all the parties.

Being used in a dirty game is not funny.

@OP, if they play no role in your business and you can avoid them, stay far away from ALL of them. They are not good friends. They will keep using you and abusing your good nature. Even the innocent baby mama can later turn against you in her frustration.

Oahray:
your last statement... Seriously? It's the OP's duty to take care of the child?

Why?

when i say take care of the child i did not mean full responsibility,what i ment was in the event the friend refuses to take care of his child and the op is called on for assistance by the baby mama it is the duty of the op to assist her.

cos to me see it which ever way the op( in the absence of full details )contributed to the break up.

thou the op friend already had a tendency of straying whether now or later.the op only helped hasten it

Sparkles003:
when i say take care of the child i did not mean fullu responsibility,what i ment was in the event the friend refuses to take care of his child and the op is called on for assistance by the baby mama it is the duty of the op to assist her.

cos to me see it which ever way the op( in the absence of full details )contributed to the break up.

thou the op friend already had a tendency of straying whether now or later.the op only helped hasten it

Why not just tell OP to marry the baby mama?

He was not there when they had their baby. None told him about it. He was used.

He owes nobody nothing in this respect. Let the baby mama approach the law courts to get child support if baby daddy won't pay up.

Soon they will be accusing OP of having had a secret affair with the baby mama all along.

Best thing is to stay away from all of them.

Sparkles003:
when i say take care of the child i did not mean fullu responsibility,what i ment was in the event the friend refuses to take care of his child and the op is called on for assistance by the baby mama it is the duty of the op to assist her.

cos to me see it which ever way the op( in the absence of full details )contributed to the break up.

thou the op friend already had a tendency of straying whether now or later.the op only helped hasten it

hmmm... So if the man who fathers a child REFUSES to take care of his child, it becomes the DUTY of his friend because he advertised another girl without knowing?

Ok o.

Are u a man or a woman@ d op wit ur answer I will tell u wot to do

Peacefulgold:
Open up to ur guy ,tell him how everytn went down and d part d girl made u play,make him understand u did dat innocently and let him know d kind of danger he mite end up in keeping a relationship wit dat girl ...and I believe wit his rite senses and his child involved he will definitely quit d lata.....

Gbam u are so on point@ op pls don't forget to tell ur guy dt u bleep the new girl anytime she came 2 lag to spice up ur story.do it as a confession dt u r asking for his forgiveness don't mention his babymama else he will suspect foul play. It works like magic in separating people.

nikkypearl:
Shameless bitches everywhere !

Not your fault! The best thing to do now is come out clean and talk some senses into that guy's head

follow this advice. Once you come out clean, the guy will see the kind of person he has gotten involved with and will have a rethink

FlawlessRebirth2:
RUN YOUR OWN RUN...UNA NO GO HEAR

SEE WATIN U DON CAUSE NA...


BY THE TIME THAT LADY START REPORTING TO HER PASTOR THAT "deris a winch disturbing her relationship",,,THEN D PASTOR WEEE BE SHOUTING "DIE BY FIRE" ONTOP YOUR HEAD

Hahahahahahaha u people no go kill me ooo

You want to correct the mess my niggga just go shiiittt.

nlfan:
I am feeling more like a devil right now,

I have a friend who owns a Business Hub where Technology startups are enhanced and built in the southern state.

Occasionally, he partners with Google to organized tech and entrepreneurial events and i am always one of the resource person, we are good friends and we share alot.

When i traveled down for one of the training, he showed me his girl, whom he also call his fiance.

One day he called me to say one of the mentee in the hub was going to represent him in an event in Lagos and that he would like her to stay in my place, and i gladly accepted.

The lady came and she was completely amazing, i took her shopping and we had massive fun, i liked her already and she stayed a little longer after the program before she left.

She became my friend and sees me too as a mentor, i advised her in areas of my specialties and helped her market her startup, she started visiting Lagos randomly because she now had me, so one day when she visited, she told me she is really in love with her mentor in the Hub, who is also the man that introduced her to me, i told her the mentor already have a fiance and she confirmed that she knows but just in love with him, we talked over it and we had a good laugh.

So last year when i went for the training, i did not see the Hub manager fiance, i asked him and he told me she is fine, i said are you sure because she is always here in your programs, what happened, the guy laughed and went away.

When he left, this lady who usually visits me in Lagos then told me, that they have broken up, that the lady was not good for her because she knows nothing about his business, the hub or help in anyway and so he had to let her go. we talked over it and i said shebi you are in love with him, isn't this the best time for you to go in lol. initially i took this as a play but when i returned from the training early this year, the lady called me and said she knows i can influence him to fall in love with her, i told her since he is single that i will see if my pranks can work.

I started talking to the guy about one of his mentee, how i like her and how good she is, he also confirmed she was good bla bla bla bla, i started talking to him about dating the girl, used different tricks, initially the guy was neutral and did not want to have anything to do with someone in his hub, to avoid disrespect et all, but i told him the girl is more matured than that etc. and ofcourse i asked the girl to shower him with respect, work smart, well and make him see reasons to fall in love.

Few weeks after we put all of these together, he asked her out and they started dating, I was so happy for them.

But trouble started when the old fiance of the guy came to me on facebook to chat, reporting the guy to me, that she knows he respects me alot and so she wants me to talk to him, and i asked what is the issue, she told me she has a child for him, a child they are bringing up together and that the child is less than 6 months old, that he was a good father until recently (the exact time he started dating this girl in the office) he has changed, and that he is now dating a girl in his office and that the girl has been robing it on her face, that the girl had the mind to come to their child dedication and flaunt her relationship with her fiance even though she still wears his ring and he still insist there is nothing to worry about.

I asked her, did you guys ever broke up and she said never, infact it was his idea to keep the child, they never had any issue in the relationship, and the reason she never showed up for the program last year was because her baby was so little she couldnt leave her alone in the house, i think the baby was a month old then.

At that point my head bursted, how could i be a party to those who will inflict pains and agony on another woman.

I never knew she had a girl for him or that they are still dating, this lady used my head and made me confused an innocent man, even though i do not understand why the guy never told me he now has a child.

I asked this other lady if she knew the fiance had a child and she said yes, that she did not want to tell me and that she doesn't care if she has a child or not, that the fiance did it out of wickedness to have a child for him so to block others from competing with her, i almost went mad at hearing her talk that way, i asked her to leave the couple alone to bring up their child that i will never be part of it but she said she cannot.

What do you think i can do to correct this mess i have created.

Why are you feeling bad when you did nothing wrong. You were only trying to help a friend and now you've found out that your friend is beyond help.

You friend is at fault. He was still in a relationship and he put his head into another.

Don't blame yourself for anything.
Just sit, relax and drink Fanta

I am a lady and i am no Lesbian

amacastel:
Gbam u are so on point@ op pls don't forget to tell ur guy dt u bleep the new girl anytime she came 2 lag to spice up ur story.do it as a confession dt u r asking for his forgiveness don't mention his babymama else he will suspect foul play. It works like magic in separating people.

nlfan:
I am feeling more like a devil right now,

I have a friend who owns a Business Hub where Technology startups are enhanced and built in the southern state.

Occasionally, he partners with Google to organized tech and entrepreneurial events and i am always one of the resource person, we are good friends and we share alot.

When i traveled down for one of the training, he showed me his girl, whom he also call his fiance.

One day he called me to say one of the mentee in the hub was going to represent him in an event in Lagos and that he would like her to stay in my place, and i gladly accepted.

The lady came and she was completely amazing, i took her shopping and we had massive fun, i liked her already and she stayed a little longer after the program before she left.

She became my friend and sees me too as a mentor, i advised her in areas of my specialties and helped her market her startup, she started visiting Lagos randomly because she now had me, so one day when she visited, she told me she is really in love with her mentor in the Hub, who is also the man that introduced her to me, i told her the mentor already have a fiance and she confirmed that she knows but just in love with him, we talked over it and we had a good laugh.

So last year when i went for the training, i did not see the Hub manager fiance, i asked him and he told me she is fine, i said are you sure because she is always here in your programs, what happened, the guy laughed and went away.

When he left, this lady who usually visits me in Lagos then told me, that they have broken up, that the lady was not good for her because she knows nothing about his business, the hub or help in anyway and so he had to let her go. we talked over it and i said shebi you are in love with him, isn't this the best time for you to go in lol. initially i took this as a play but when i returned from the training early this year, the lady called me and said she knows i can influence him to fall in love with her, i told her since he is single that i will see if my pranks can work.

I started talking to the guy about one of his mentee, how i like her and how good she is, he also confirmed she was good bla bla bla bla, i started talking to him about dating the girl, used different tricks, initially the guy was neutral and did not want to have anything to do with someone in his hub, to avoid disrespect et all, but i told him the girl is more matured than that etc. and ofcourse i asked the girl to shower him with respect, work smart, well and make him see reasons to fall in love.

Few weeks after we put all of these together, he asked her out and they started dating, I was so happy for them.

But trouble started when the old fiance of the guy came to me on facebook to chat, reporting the guy to me, that she knows he respects me alot and so she wants me to talk to him, and i asked what is the issue, she told me she has a child for him, a child they are bringing up together and that the child is less than 6 months old, that he was a good father until recently (the exact time he started dating this girl in the office) he has changed, and that he is now dating a girl in his office and that the girl has been robing it on her face, that the girl had the mind to come to their child dedication and flaunt her relationship with her fiance even though she still wears his ring and he still insist there is nothing to worry about.

I asked her, did you guys ever broke up and she said never, infact it was his idea to keep the child, they never had any issue in the relationship, and the reason she never showed up for the program last year was because her baby was so little she couldnt leave her alone in the house, i think the baby was a month old then.

At that point my head bursted, how could i be a party to those who will inflict pains and agony on another woman.

I never knew she had a girl for him or that they are still dating, this lady used my head and made me confused an innocent man, even though i do not understand why the guy never told me he now has a child.

I asked this other lady if she knew the fiance had a child and she said yes, that she did not want to tell me and that she doesn't care if she has a child or not, that the fiance did it out of wickedness to have a child for him so to block others from competing with her, i almost went mad at hearing her talk that way, i asked her to leave the couple alone to bring up their child that i will never be part of it but she said she cannot.

What do you think i can do to correct this mess i have created.

email him this link

https://www.nairaland.com/3017462/feel-like-21st-century-witch

[quote author=Cutehector post=44220267]Tori for town[/quote

Cutehector:
Tori for town

Hahahah....you be pitakwa guy?

DifferentBoy1:
Hahahah....you be pitakwa guy?

confirmento

I have been used like that before and I felt so hurt. Like you I was quick to jump on your friend's train and try to protect them, without understanding all sides of the story before acting.
But you on the other hand assuming you knew better for your friend broke up an engagement. That is very wicked on your part. Even if his fiancée is a villager, he saw that and still gave her a ring. What makes you think it is your place to tell him his choice is not good enough. You don't even know her! This is why any sharp woman is careful the kind of friends around her husband or boyfriend. Especially if the man does not have a strong mind. Some just destroy things and for very petty and stupid reasons. Trust me this new girl is a schemer and very sharp. You think she has not finished you to her boyfriend yet? She knows what she is there for. You will lose in all ramifications. To resolve this, put the guy and his fiancée on three way call and confess. Be ready to lose his friendship and be ready for whatever comes out of this. But know that, that new girl will destroy your friendship if you try another way.