This could have been achieved in four paragraphs.

I am not a lazy reader, but it's annoying when you put in a thousand words what could be said in a hundred.

Anyway, to the issue. You acted when you didn't have all the facts. That's not your fault.

There's really nothing you can do now. You are caught in the middle as it were.

Talk to your paddy in parables without being too forward. He ll understand and ask the girl questions

have notin to say

Ok

Monalisa185:
the guy in question is greedy, his fiancee had a child for him, they are still engaged and he still chose to cheat.... odiegwu....dazzal!!

It's not greed love.It's who we are.

My dear just kill yourself that's all cos I don't know how you wanna cope living with this guilt uve done

I get ur point but sha tell the guy o, but wait o,the guy sef deserves small inflicted pain for leaving his lady n baby. Leave am make e suffer small but WE LADIES how do u trust ur fellow bitch like the way Christ trusted Judas

You made them date........u can still undate them

Enough work for u!

Meanwhile, what kind of studio do u run?

witch, fire, pastor, prayer, juju, heaven, santa...The bane of 21st century mentally-undeveloped Africans.

with minds like these the Continent is having serious difficulties developing "human-level" mental intelligence!

I weep for that continent everyday, I do.

Morso why are some female folks so desperate and mean when it comes to man matter....sometimes I regret been a female

Guys beware 2016



Karishika is Roaming in 2016




God help us all! !! !!!

Cheating is in everymans dna,man is naturally polygamous.this is a bad mess already come out clean and clear your self first then try to talk sense into the guy then run for ur life if nothing changes.

The second woman (husband snatcher) is a devil. The man whose head was used must call the three parties together and make peace. Before calling the three parties, let him talk to his friend first.
If the husband snatcher decides to go ahead so be it.

The same way you cajoled that your friend to date that wicked.greedy,money hungry lady.go back to him and cajole him to go back to his baby mama citing reasons why his first fruit should not be made to grow with out his father and mother together.

tell him of possibility of the child being labeled a vagabon or bastard cause of his decision to leave the mom.

tell him that any lady that can make a man abandon his family just to be with her can never be honest,reliable,trusted or depended on.

if after you try all your best he still insist on beinv with her it is your duty to take care of that child as much as you can.

Guys beware 2016



Karishika is Roaming in 2016




God help us all! !! !!!

All you need to do is to talk to the guy, make him see reasons. He has a baby girl of just 6 months and he wouldn't want to jeopardize the fact that he has been a good guy.

Space bookers... Where is your manner of maturity...? Una no talk for matter na space Una de book up and down like say them go pay you money for front page.

KashyBaby:
I even have no idea what to say...this is a big mess..anyway, I think that man moved on already with his new one...his a Mitch so he deserved that 2nd b*tch...she's the witch & she used u to get him...

Never trust her..she can turn things upside down..

Gbam!

nlfan:
I am feeling more like a devil right now,

I have a friend who owns a Business Hub where Technology startups are enhanced and built in the southern state.

Occasionally, he partners with Google to organized tech and entrepreneurial events and i am always one of the resource person, we are good friends and we share alot.

When i traveled down for one of the training, he showed me his girl, whom he also call his fiance.

One day he called me to say one of the mentee in the hub was going to represent him in an event in Lagos and that he would like her to stay in my place, and i gladly accepted.

The lady came and she was completely amazing, i took her shopping and we had massive fun, i liked her already and she stayed a little longer after the program before she left.

She became my friend and sees me too as a mentor, i advised her in areas of my specialties and helped her market her startup, she started visiting Lagos randomly because she now had me, so one day when she visited, she told me she is really in love with her mentor in the Hub, who is also the man that introduced her to me, i told her the mentor already have a fiance and she confirmed that she knows but just in love with him, we talked over it and we had a good laugh.

So last year when i went for the training, i did not see the Hub manager fiance, i asked him and he told me she is fine, i said are you sure because she is always here in your programs, what happened, the guy laughed and went away.

When he left, this lady who usually visits me in Lagos then told me, that they have broken up, that the lady was not good for her because she knows nothing about his business, the hub or help in anyway and so he had to let her go. we talked over it and i said shebi you are in love with him, isn't this the best time for you to go in lol. initially i took this as a play but when i returned from the training early this year, the lady called me and said she knows i can influence him to fall in love with her, i told her since he is single that i will see if my pranks can work.

I started talking to the guy about one of his mentee, how i like her and how good she is, he also confirmed she was good bla bla bla bla, i started talking to him about dating the girl, used different tricks, initially the guy was neutral and did not want to have anything to do with someone in his hub, to avoid disrespect et all, but i told him the girl is more matured than that etc. and ofcourse i asked the girl to shower him with respect, work smart, well and make him see reasons to fall in love.

Few weeks after we put all of these together, he asked her out and they started dating, I was so happy for them.

But trouble started when the old fiance of the guy came to me on facebook to chat, reporting the guy to me, that she knows he respects me alot and so she wants me to talk to him, and i asked what is the issue, she told me she has a child for him, a child they are bringing up together and that the child is less than 6 months old, that he was a good father until recently (the exact time he started dating this girl in the office) he has changed, and that he is now dating a girl in his office and that the girl has been robing it on her face, that the girl had the mind to come to their child dedication and flaunt her relationship with her fiance even though she still wears his ring and he still insist there is nothing to worry about.

I asked her, did you guys ever broke up and she said never, infact it was his idea to keep the child, they never had any issue in the relationship, and the reason she never showed up for the program last year was because her baby was so little she couldnt leave her alone in the house, i think the baby was a month old then.

At that point my head bursted, how could i be a party to those who will inflict pains and agony on another woman.

I never knew she had a girl for him or that they are still dating, this lady used my head and made me confused an innocent man, even though i do not understand why the guy never told me he now has a child.

I asked this other lady if she knew the fiance had a child and she said yes, that she did not want to tell me and that she doesn't care if she has a child or not, that the fiance did it out of wickedness to have a child for him so to block others from competing with her, i almost went mad at hearing her talk that way, i asked her to leave the couple alone to bring up their child that i will never be part of it but she said she cannot.

What do you think i can do to correct this mess i have created.

Mehn i think this story would be great for Gidi up season 3

OP you truly messed up. How could a girl tell you to grease and oil her love with your friend and you stupidly did so? I don't understand the way some people take serious issues so lightly.

Guys beware 2016



Karishika is Roaming in 2016




God help us all! !! !!!

You acted as a friend so its not your fault that things turned out twisted.

In life always remember though that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

D girl is really a devil her sef.nawah for some girl .

This is exactly why I hate match making or interfering in people's love lives, it always blows up in the match makers face.


OP stop blaming yourself. Your guy friend already had issues in his relationship, that was why he didn't tell you he had a baby.

This is not totally your fault, you need to talk sense to that your friend.

BornnAgainChild:
My dear just kill yourself that's all cos I don't know how you wanna cope living with this guilt uve done

try killing urselve first,becuz that wat u deserve for this comment.

@nlfan Reading through your write up i will ask you not to blame youreslf. Your friend is not a baby that had to jump into that bitch hands because you goaded him when he knew his gf just gave birth for him.


Call the guy and explain everything to him, stay away from him to show that you are not and will never be a party to a deceptive relationship.


You dont have to join wotds with that usurper because it wont last and you have opened up to your friend what transpired and how the usurper came in.

@nlfan Reading through your write up i will ask you not to blame youreslf. Your friend is not a baby that had to jump into that bitch hands because you goaded him when he knew his gf just gave birth for him.


Call the guy and explain everything to him, stay away from him to show that you are not and will never be a party to a deceptive relationship.


You dont have to join wotds with that usurper because it wont last and you have opened up to your friend what transpired and how the usurper came in

gbens2000:
try killing urselve first,becuz that wat u deserve for this comment.

Are you the hub trainer

BornnAgainChild:



Are you the hub trainer

someone needs your help,and wat u AV to say is kill urselve.just try killing urselve first.

nikkypearl:
Shameless bitches everywhere !

Not your fault! The best thing to do now is come out clean and talk some senses into that guy's head

..ladies do not swaaaar!

KashyBaby:
I even have no idea what to say...this is a big mess..anyway, I think that man moved on already with his new one...his a Mitch so he deserved that 2nd b*tch...she's the witch & she used u to get him...

Never trust her..she can turn things upside down..

Really, that is the fact!
She used you.
Op, You already acted well, nothing more you can do.
The guy is responsible for his own decisions. Just make him know the implications.

nlfan:
I am feeling more like a devil right now,

I have a friend who owns a Business Hub where Technology startups are enhanced and built in the southern state.

Occasionally, he partners with Google to organized tech and entrepreneurial events and i am always one of the resource person, we are good friends and we share alot.

When i traveled down for one of the training, he showed me his girl, whom he also call his fiance.

One day he called me to say one of the mentee in the hub was going to represent him in an event in Lagos and that he would like her to stay in my place, and i gladly accepted.

The lady came and she was completely amazing, i took her shopping and we had massive fun, i liked her already and she stayed a little longer after the program before she left.

She became my friend and sees me too as a mentor, i advised her in areas of my specialties and helped her market her startup, she started visiting Lagos randomly because she now had me, so one day when she visited, she told me she is really in love with her mentor in the Hub, who is also the man that introduced her to me, i told her the mentor already have a fiance and she confirmed that she knows but just in love with him, we talked over it and we had a good laugh.

So last year when i went for the training, i did not see the Hub manager fiance, i asked him and he told me she is fine, i said are you sure because she is always here in your programs, what happened, the guy laughed and went away.

When he left, this lady who usually visits me in Lagos then told me, that they have broken up, that the lady was not good for her because she knows nothing about his business, the hub or help in anyway and so he had to let her go. we talked over it and i said shebi you are in love with him, isn't this the best time for you to go in lol. initially i took this as a play but when i returned from the training early this year, the lady called me and said she knows i can influence him to fall in love with her, i told her since he is single that i will see if my pranks can work.

I started talking to the guy about one of his mentee, how i like her and how good she is, he also confirmed she was good bla bla bla bla, i started talking to him about dating the girl, used different tricks, initially the guy was neutral and did not want to have anything to do with someone in his hub, to avoid disrespect et all, but i told him the girl is more matured than that etc. and ofcourse i asked the girl to shower him with respect, work smart, well and make him see reasons to fall in love.

Few weeks after we put all of these together, he asked her out and they started dating, I was so happy for them.

But trouble started when the old fiance of the guy came to me on facebook to chat, reporting the guy to me, that she knows he respects me alot and so she wants me to talk to him, and i asked what is the issue, she told me she has a child for him, a child they are bringing up together and that the child is less than 6 months old, that he was a good father until recently (the exact time he started dating this girl in the office) he has changed, and that he is now dating a girl in his office and that the girl has been robing it on her face, that the girl had the mind to come to their child dedication and flaunt her relationship with her fiance even though she still wears his ring and he still insist there is nothing to worry about.

I asked her, did you guys ever broke up and she said never, infact it was his idea to keep the child, they never had any issue in the relationship, and the reason she never showed up for the program last year was because her baby was so little she couldnt leave her alone in the house, i think the baby was a month old then.

At that point my head bursted, how could i be a party to those who will inflict pains and agony on another woman.

I never knew she had a girl for him or that they are still dating, this lady used my head and made me confused an innocent man, even though i do not understand why the guy never told me he now has a child.

I asked this other lady if she knew the fiance had a child and she said yes, that she did not want to tell me and that she doesn't care if she has a child or not, that the fiance did it out of wickedness to have a child for him so to block others from competing with her, i almost went mad at hearing her talk that way, i asked her to leave the couple alone to bring up their child that i will never be part of it but she said she cannot.

What do you think i can do to correct this mess i have created.

....arrrrha..are you one of thooise Lagos witch that fly around at night with broom stick & .are you related to Onstelly from nairaland?

Op, it's not completely your fault sha. Your didn't have all the details, but your friend did. He made his choice and is responsible for it. If there's any witch, it's the new girl who played dirty to hurt a fellow girl. She's malicious and self-centered.

However, you are a big busybody in matters which do not concern you.

Next time don't try to play the judge and jury in other people's relationships, not even a sibling's, and not even if you are asked to. After all you wouldn't be there to bear the consequences.

Besides a heart-to-heart talk with your friend, don't even bother trying to fix this. You can't.

nlfan:
I am feeling more like a devil right now,

I have a friend who owns a Business Hub where Technology startups are enhanced and built in the southern state.

Occasionally, he partners with Google to organized tech and entrepreneurial events and i am always one of the resource person, we are good friends and we share alot.

When i traveled down for one of the training, he showed me his girl, whom he also call his fiance.

One day he called me to say one of the mentee in the hub was going to represent him in an event in Lagos and that he would like her to stay in my place, and i gladly accepted.

The lady came and she was completely amazing, i took her shopping and we had massive fun, i liked her already and she stayed a little longer after the program before she left.

She became my friend and sees me too as a mentor, i advised her in areas of my specialties and helped her market her startup, she started visiting Lagos randomly because she now had me, so one day when she visited, she told me she is really in love with her mentor in the Hub, who is also the man that introduced her to me, i told her the mentor already have a fiance and she confirmed that she knows but just in love with him, we talked over it and we had a good laugh.

So last year when i went for the training, i did not see the Hub manager fiance, i asked him and he told me she is fine, i said are you sure because she is always here in your programs, what happened, the guy laughed and went away.

When he left, this lady who usually visits me in Lagos then told me, that they have broken up, that the lady was not good for her because she knows nothing about his business, the hub or help in anyway and so he had to let her go. we talked over it and i said shebi you are in love with him, isn't this the best time for you to go in lol. initially i took this as a play but when i returned from the training early this year, the lady called me and said she knows i can influence him to fall in love with her, i told her since he is single that i will see if my pranks can work.

I started talking to the guy about one of his mentee, how i like her and how good she is, he also confirmed she was good bla bla bla bla, i started talking to him about dating the girl, used different tricks, initially the guy was neutral and did not want to have anything to do with someone in his hub, to avoid disrespect et all, but i told him the girl is more matured than that etc. and ofcourse i asked the girl to shower him with respect, work smart, well and make him see reasons to fall in love.

Few weeks after we put all of these together, he asked her out and they started dating, I was so happy for them.

But trouble started when the old fiance of the guy came to me on facebook to chat, reporting the guy to me, that she knows he respects me alot and so she wants me to talk to him, and i asked what is the issue, she told me she has a child for him, a child they are bringing up together and that the child is less than 6 months old, that he was a good father until recently (the exact time he started dating this girl in the office) he has changed, and that he is now dating a girl in his office and that the girl has been robing it on her face, that the girl had the mind to come to their child dedication and flaunt her relationship with her fiance even though she still wears his ring and he still insist there is nothing to worry about.

I asked her, did you guys ever broke up and she said never, infact it was his idea to keep the child, they never had any issue in the relationship, and the reason she never showed up for the program last year was because her baby was so little she couldnt leave her alone in the house, i think the baby was a month old then.

At that point my head bursted, how could i be a party to those who will inflict pains and agony on another woman.

I never knew she had a girl for him or that they are still dating, this lady used my head and made me confused an innocent man, even though i do not understand why the guy never told me he now has a child.

I asked this other lady if she knew the fiance had a child and she said yes, that she did not want to tell me and that she doesn't care if she has a child or not, that the fiance did it out of wickedness to have a child for him so to block others from competing with her, i almost went mad at hearing her talk that way, i asked her to leave the couple alone to bring up their child that i will never be part of it but she said she cannot.

What do you think i can do to correct this mess i have created.

U have to talk to your guy and be fast about it before the so-called mentee will also get pregnant for him cuz from all ramifications it appears that she is just desperate