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Creamish:
Whatz the confusion Jay? LDR is rily difficult (speaking from experience). I'd rather he be right here with me.

jaybee3:
I thought i had a genuine chance ya know

Creamish:
U still dey pipeline?

jaybee3:
Did i ever leave?

Once you enter pipeline you never truly leave now....

I'm now part of the ionization process

Creamish:
LOLZ....lemme know when u make up ur mind. Hope it wont be too late by then oo..

Jadekitana:
Let's be realistic, you are very much inlove with someone you hardly see in months, it gets frustrating! It works for some but trust me a lot of people fall out of these distant thingy.Here are some reasons:

1) CONSTANT COMMUNICATION: it may be all sweet and cool when the love just started but give it 6months, long talks begin to get boring! These talks revolve around what's happening in your life daily,there's nothing new! Imagine someone who works morning till night exhausted and as usual you bring up those 1hour talks about your boss,exams,buhari,fuel scarcity, beef with one of your best friends....trust me, he/she may just get bored of the regular routine talks

2) DIRTY TALKS: nope!! This can never be compared to physical intimacy! We'v been talking dirty for months without actions, what's the difference between you and a celibate? It's even not advisable! Imagine sending naked pictures to your spouse,making videos and what have you, leaving them extremely h0rny, they become vulnerable. They ain't woods, any approach from someone they like can trigger anything immediately.

CHEATING: It takes a very disciplined person not to cheat and this seldom happens! I have friends whose girlfriends are in school or working in abuja or ph, they cheat a lot. They would tell you "yes I love my babe but body no be firewood" One recently fell for his bff and ended things with his babe after 2years, he just wasn't feeling the whole thing anymore.

MIND NOT AT REST: like it or not your thoughts always sway to his/her direction especially weekends. Questions like where is he? Who is in his house? Hope he's not camping anybody? Who is he hanging out with? You begin to stalk them 247 on social media, you start calling per second,if he/she is clubbing you stay awake keeping tabs on their movement *sighs* unnecessary high bp

LESS SPENDING: I know the guys would love this a lot! Stingy people! Distant relationship involves little or no spending, apart from fattening MTN's pocket due to calls! You don't hangout, you don't shop, you don't go to movies together, you don't go on dates! You just stick to your phone anytime you are free. I remember spending my allowee during Nysc every month flying to see this bobo, though he assisted in some other things, it DIDNT work because the whole process got tiring.

RELOCATING: this isn't always easy at all, especially when your company refuses to transfer you. Aside that it's not easy leaving all your childhood friends and family to be with someone who may just start acting up anytime, you need to think about that decision a lot.

If you have been in a distant rel for 2-3years and it's not heading anywhere, you need to use your brain and start plotting a Plan B before you receive the shock of your life. Like it or not Out of sight if cares not taken can very well lead to outa mind.

Btw Toks2008 how are you?

Jadekitana:

Maxi112:
this one is corrupt...

plz call efcc for me

Jadekitana:
Let's be realistic, you are very much inlove with someone you hardly see in months, it gets frustrating! It works for some but trust me a lot of people fall out of these distant thingy.Here are some reasons:

1) CONSTANT COMMUNICATION: it may be all sweet and cool when the love just started but give it 6months, long talks begin to get boring! These talks revolve around what's happening in your life daily,there's nothing new! Imagine someone who works morning till night exhausted and as usual you bring up those 1hour talks about your boss,exams,buhari,fuel scarcity, beef with one of your best friends....trust me, he/she may just get bored of the regular routine talks

2) DIRTY TALKS: nope!! This can never be compared to physical intimacy! We'v been talking dirty for months without actions, what's the difference between you and a celibate? It's even not advisable! Imagine sending naked pictures to your spouse,making videos and what have you, leaving them extremely h0rny, they become vulnerable. They ain't woods, any approach from someone they like can trigger anything immediately.

CHEATING: It takes a very disciplined person not to cheat and this seldom happens! I have friends whose girlfriends are in school or working in abuja or ph, they cheat a lot. They would tell you "yes I love my babe but body no be firewood" One recently fell for his bff and ended things with his babe after 2years, he just wasn't feeling the whole thing anymore.

MIND NOT AT REST: like it or not your thoughts always sway to his/her direction especially weekends. Questions like where is he? Who is in his house? Hope he's not camping anybody? Who is he hanging out with? You begin to stalk them 247 on social media, you start calling per second,if he/she is clubbing you stay awake keeping tabs on their movement *sighs* unnecessary high bp

LESS SPENDING: I know the guys would love this a lot! Stingy people! Distant relationship involves little or no spending, apart from fattening MTN's pocket due to calls! You don't hangout, you don't shop, you don't go to movies together, you don't go on dates! You just stick to your phone anytime you are free. I remember spending my allowee during Nysc every month flying to see this bobo, though he assisted in some other things, it DIDNT work because the whole process got tiring.

RELOCATING: this isn't always easy at all, especially when your company refuses to transfer you. Aside that it's not easy leaving all your childhood friends and family to be with someone who may just start acting up anytime, you need to think about that decision a lot.

If you have been in a distant rel for 2-3years and it's not heading anywhere, you need to use your brain and start plotting a Plan B before you receive the shock of your life. Like it or not Out of sight if cares not taken can very well lead to outa mind.

Btw Toks2008 how are you?

Jadekitana:
Let's be realistic, you are very much inlove with someone you hardly see in months, it gets frustrating! It works for some but trust me a lot of people fall out of these distant thingy.Here are some reasons:

1) CONSTANT COMMUNICATION: it may be all sweet and cool when the love just started but give it 6months, long talks begin to get boring! These talks revolve around what's happening in your life daily,there's nothing new! Imagine someone who works morning till night exhausted and as usual you bring up those 1hour talks about your boss,exams,buhari,fuel scarcity, beef with one of your best friends....trust me, he/she may just get bored of the regular routine talks

2) DIRTY TALKS: nope!! This can never be compared to physical intimacy! We'v been talking dirty for months without actions, what's the difference between you and a celibate? It's even not advisable! Imagine sending naked pictures to your spouse,making videos and what have you, leaving them extremely h0rny, they become vulnerable. They ain't woods, any approach from someone they like can trigger anything immediately.

CHEATING: It takes a very disciplined person not to cheat and this seldom happens! I have friends whose girlfriends are in school or working in abuja or ph, they cheat a lot. They would tell you "yes I love my babe but body no be firewood" One recently fell for his bff and ended things with his babe after 2years, he just wasn't feeling the whole thing anymore.

MIND NOT AT REST: like it or not your thoughts always sway to his/her direction especially weekends. Questions like where is he? Who is in his house? Hope he's not camping anybody? Who is he hanging out with? You begin to stalk them 247 on social media, you start calling per second,if he/she is clubbing you stay awake keeping tabs on their movement *sighs* unnecessary high bp

LESS SPENDING: I know the guys would love this a lot! Stingy people! Distant relationship involves little or no spending, apart from fattening MTN's pocket due to calls! You don't hangout, you don't shop, you don't go to movies together, you don't go on dates! You just stick to your phone anytime you are free. I remember spending my allowee during Nysc every month flying to see this bobo, though he assisted in some other things, it DIDNT work because the whole process got tiring.

RELOCATING: this isn't always easy at all, especially when your company refuses to transfer you. Aside that it's not easy leaving all your childhood friends and family to be with someone who may just start acting up anytime, you need to think about that decision a lot.

If you have been in a distant rel for 2-3years and it's not heading anywhere, you need to use your brain and start plotting a Plan B before you receive the shock of your life. Like it or not Out of sight if cares not taken can very well lead to outa mind.

Btw Toks2008 how are you?

Toks2008:
Now im scared....

You actually lifted this topic and the contents from my brain.

Jadekitana:
Let's be realistic, you are very much inlove with someone you hardly see in months, it gets frustrating! It works for some but trust me a lot of people fall out of these distant thingy.Here are some reasons:

1) CONSTANT COMMUNICATION: it may be all sweet and cool when the love just started but give it 6months, long talks begin to get boring! These talks revolve around what's happening in your life daily,there's nothing new! Imagine someone who works morning till night exhausted and as usual you bring up those 1hour talks about your boss,exams,buhari,fuel scarcity, beef with one of your best friends....trust me, he/she may just get bored of the regular routine talks

2) DIRTY TALKS: nope!! This can never be compared to physical intimacy! We'v been talking dirty for months without actions, what's the difference between you and a celibate? It's even not advisable! Imagine sending naked pictures to your spouse,making videos and what have you, leaving them extremely h0rny, they become vulnerable. They ain't woods, any approach from someone they like can trigger anything immediately.

CHEATING: It takes a very disciplined person not to cheat and this seldom happens! I have friends whose girlfriends are in school or working in abuja or ph, they cheat a lot. They would tell you "yes I love my babe but body no be firewood" One recently fell for his bff and ended things with his babe after 2years, he just wasn't feeling the whole thing anymore.

MIND NOT AT REST: like it or not your thoughts always sway to his/her direction especially weekends. Questions like where is he? Who is in his house? Hope he's not camping anybody? Who is he hanging out with? You begin to stalk them 247 on social media, you start calling per second,if he/she is clubbing you stay awake keeping tabs on their movement *sighs* unnecessary high bp

LESS SPENDING: I know the guys would love this a lot! Stingy people! Distant relationship involves little or no spending, apart from fattening MTN's pocket due to calls! You don't hangout, you don't shop, you don't go to movies together, you don't go on dates! You just stick to your phone anytime you are free. I remember spending my allowee during Nysc every month flying to see this bobo, though he assisted in some other things, it DIDNT work because the whole process got tiring.

RELOCATING: this isn't always easy at all, especially when your company refuses to transfer you. Aside that it's not easy leaving all your childhood friends and family to be with someone who may just start acting up anytime, you need to think about that decision a lot.

If you have been in a distant rel for 2-3years and it's not heading anywhere, you need to use your brain and start plotting a Plan B before you receive the shock of your life. Like it or not Out of sight if cares not taken can very well lead to outa mind.

Btw Toks2008 how are you?

Toks2008:
ok this looks like i wrote it but i would use the title..."Seven reasons why long distanceE relationship hardly work"

Then the points will be numbered and i would substitute your points with.

1.Boring constant communication.
2.Dormant fantasy
3.Unfaithfullness
4.ERRATIC THOUGHTS
5.LACK OF SPENDING FUN
6.STRESS OF RELOCATING
7. FALSE HOPE ...where you elucidate on most cases where ladies date married men thinking they are single n hving false hope of marriage but beeing in close proximity with your bae will give you the vantage position to know more about him or her...

So do these modifications and quote lalasticlala in a new comment and i bliv it will be beamed on fpage...cos its a good content.

Jadekitana:
Hey dear, i'm very tired just got back home! Stopped for a brief hangout, the traffic was much. I just saw what you wrote, very nic one! I'd look into it tomorrow because right now i'm so so so tired

mimzy:
Hmm, i beg to disagree on this point dear, the talks NEVER get boring if the feeling is mutual. My Reason? You do not do the same thing everyday, you do not even know what to expect for the next day, so, logically, you have at least something new to talk about each day. The convo does not even have to be unnecessarily long for it to make a whole lot of sense.




This, i would agree with you. no dispute. This is a major challenge for a long distance relationship.




Long distance relationship or not, a cheat will always be a cheat.



Lolz on this one dearie . The moment your mind begins to sway in that direction, then it is time to call it quits. You know why? The first foundation every relationship needs to have is TRUST!!! why would you wana be with someone you cannot trust Even if your partner is cheating on you, even if people feed you with different stories, as long as you trust your man?woman, My dear, you will not be swayed.
Even the ones under your nose will cheat on you so what makes a long distance relationship any different?




Hmmmm, depending on your partner, it could actually involve more spending than a relationship where you get to see each other all the time. Did you just ask me why? Well, your partner knows you don't get to see him all the time so he will wanna compensate you in every other way he can think of...monetary wise especially. Buh as i mentioned earlier, it depends on the partner involved. Guys are not stupid too, you cannot be cheating on a guy and then expect him to give you his all. That being said...I AM NOT GENERALIZING.



hmmm

You have a point here sha. it requires a careful and planned process. In summary, your points are dependent on the parties involved, not all LDR sucks. Cheers bae

stubbornman:
Ahhh!!! aunty you can analyze for Nigeria ,,kai