KashyBaby:
I don't believe in a long distance love affair at all....I cud even hardly trust a man when he is jiz nxt to me, what more he is a thousand miles away?

Jadekitana:
Let's be realistic, you are very much inlove with someone you hardly see in months, it gets frustrating! It works for some but trust me a lot of people fall out of these distant thingy.Here are some reasons:
1) CONSTANT COMMUNICATION: it may be all sweet and cool when the love just started but give it 6months, long talks begin to get boring! These talks revolve around what's happening in your life daily,there's nothing new! Imagine someone who works morning till night exhausted and as usual you bring up those 1hour talks about your boss,exams,buhari,fuel scarcity, beef with one of your best friends....trust me, he/she may just get bored of the regular routine talks

Jadekitana:
2) DIRTY TALKS: nope!! This can never be compared to physical intimacy! We'v been talking dirty for months without actions, what's the difference between you and a celibate? It's even not advisable! Imagine sending naked pictures to your spouse,making videos and what have you, leaving them extremely h0rny, they become vulnerable. They ain't woods, any approach from someone they like can trigger anything immediately.

Jadekitana:
CHEATING: It takes a very disciplined person not to cheat and this seldom happens! I have friends whose girlfriends are in school or working in abuja or ph, they cheat a lot. They would tell you "yes I love my babe but body no be firewood" One recently fell for his bff and ended things with his babe after 2years, he just wasn't feeling the whole thing anymore.

Jadekitana:
MIND NOT AT REST: like it or not your thoughts always sway to his/her direction especially weekends. Questions like where is he? Who is in his house? Hope he's not camping anybody? Who is he hanging out with? You begin to stalk them 247 on social media, you start calling per second,if he/she is clubbing you stay awake keeping tabs on their movement *sighs* unnecessary high bp

Jadekitana:
LESS SPENDING: I know the guys would love this a lot! Stingy people! Distant relationship involves little or no spending, apart from fattening MTN's pocket due to calls! You don't hangout, you don't shop, you don't go to movies together, you don't go on dates! You just stick to your phone anytime you are free. I remember spending my allowee during Nysc every month flying to see this bobo, though he assisted in some other things, it DIDNT work because the whole process got tiring.

Jadekitana:
RELOCATING: this isn't always easy at all, especially when your company refuses to transfer you. Aside that it's not easy leaving all your childhood friends and family to be with someone who may just start acting up anytime, you need to think about that decision a lot.
If you have been in a distant rel for 2-3years and it's not heading anywhere, you need to use your brain and start plotting a Plan B before you receive the shock of your life. Like it or not Out of sight if cares not taken can very well lead to outa mind.
Btw Toks2008 how are you?

funkyglitz:
I love the "hardly" word u used but boo and I are doing just fine in BTW different countries.....to all those doing long distance rship is all about your mindset and determination but if that tingly itch arises you just have to get busy to distract yourself and if you can't den scratch yourself by mast**ba**g

Fraih:
...But I tell you, it works well for some people.

BumBae:
I think it can work it depends on the individuals involved .

Also time how long apart ( 1-2 years ) is very doable with visits even if its once a year it can work.

Distance how far is your loved one ..


Why do i say it depends on the individual , Op those points you listed yes thats the stigma ith distance relationship but some people no matter what, some dont cheat , stray , infact the person they love is the one thing keeping them going. Also no sexual acts being committed makes it special i gues for those who do it ( when they see each other ehh nah explosion)

Also you appreciate each other
Seeing ur guy or girl everyday seff can be soooo boring , one can loose interest after awhile. And all those things listed by the Op can still be done even when your bf/gf lives next door

funkyglitz:
I love the "hardly" word u used but boo and I are doing just fine in BTW different countries.....to all those doing long distance rship is all about your mindset and determination but if that tingly itch arises you just have to get busy to distract yourself and if you can't den scratch yourself by mast**ba**g

coolest01:
My dear, you are not far from the truth!

hifaif1:
Every time I read about relationships, I feel happy to have chosen to be a priest.

Jadekitana:
I was there before, it's difficult

Jadekitana:


If those people come out and tell you what they are going through en, it's not that easy at all.

Yeah, even if they Skype all day...

For me, Being in a distance relationship and taking time to see once in 6wks, I can still relate with that... Buh anything outside that, Nah nah, not me

HardMirror:
I agree 100%

Seems the ban has given you little sense.

coolest01:
Likewise. It's was an experience never to be experienced again

MoneypassGod:
Jadekitana, did u just write something reasonable?? D guys will always cheat, and d women will always get tired of d long distance thingy.

Jadekitana:


@something reasonable! I haven't experienced something awkward lately, maybe I should invite someone for a hangout and sees if he's stingy I wouldn't hesitate to paste that here

Fraih:

Yeah, even if they Skype all day...

For me, Being in a distance relationship and taking time to see once in 6wks, I can still relate with that... Buh anything outside that, Nah nah, not me

MoneypassGod:
Jadekitana, did u just write something reasonable?? D guys will always cheat, and d women will always get tired of d long distance thingy.

mimzy:


Hmm, i beg to disagree on this point dear, the talks NEVER get boring if the feeling is mutual. My Reason? You do not do the same thing everyday, you do not even know what to expect for the next day, so, logically, you have at least something new to talk about each day. The convo does not even have to be unnecessarily long for it to make a whole lot of sense.




This, i would agree with you. no dispute. This is a major challenge for a long distance relationship.




Long distance relationship or not, a cheat will always be a cheat.



Lolz on this one dearie . The moment your mind begins to sway in that direction, then it is time to call it quits. You know why? The first foundation every relationship needs to have is TRUST!!! why would you wana be with someone you cannot trust Even if your partner is cheating on you, even if people feed you with different stories, as long as you trust your man?woman, My dear, you will not be swayed.
Even the ones under your nose will cheat on you so what makes a long distance relationship any different?




Hmmmm, depending on your partner, it could actually involve more spending than a relationship where you get to see each other all the time. Did you just ask me why? Well, your partner knows you don't get to see him all the time so he will wanna compensate you in every other way he can think of...monetary wise especially. Buh as i mentioned earlier, it depends on the partner involved. Guys are not stupid too, you cannot be cheating on a guy and then expect him to give you his all. That being said...I AM NOT GENERALIZING.



hmmm

You have a point here sha. it requires a careful and planned process. In summary, your points are dependent on the parties involved, not all LDR sucks. Cheers bae

KingCheezyPuff:
This is true.
You can't go out together.

Ya'll relationship ends when you put yer phone down.
Sounds bad but it's the hard truth.

You can forget about your partner at times.

Jadekitana:


It's worse with all that skyping! I remember travelling for a week, I virtually skyped all through, it didn't change anything. It's even worse seeing the person at the other end when you can't hold them. Nah nah nah

LoL
That's like torture...