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Awww, it is always at this point, most married women are vulnerable...

Why not seek the face of God like the women of old did? He will answer u

Didn't you guys court? You should have noticed all these while dating.

For all I know, his sisters could be responsible for your barrenness.

As for the sisters, make dem no marry again na.

What you need is prayer, my sister. May God see you through... Amen!

at this stage I will advice separation....not divorce, bitter but true.... rather than becoming a basket case...while you seek the face of God in prayer...

MsJackson:
Hello. please advice me. what should I do about a man who
-deletes his Whatsapp chats with girls (y delete if u have nothing to hide )
-calls down evil on me whenever I talk about his sisters(they pretended to like me initially but I discovered they were painting me black to my husband and his parents, prompting me to avoid them)
-he is jobless but I support him with the little I earn, but he's NEVER grateful (rather get takes sides with his sisters that, on many occasion, are very stingy to him)
-I do all in my power to make him happy but he doesn't value me, it's his sisters Who don't give a damn about him, that he values.
During a family meeting, one of his sisters said it to my face that she has promise herself that no woman can ever take her brother from her. and my hubby never said a word, just looking. Is all this because i havent been able to conceive after two years of marriage? The summary is: HOW CAN I DEAL WITH A MAN THAT'S NOT INTERESTED IN DEFENDING ME WHEN HIS FAMILY VICTIMIZES ME, AN INGRATE AND ONE WHO IS ON THE ROAD TO CHEATING? Please help me!

Seeking God's face is key at this point. Also how well do you know your man? 2ndly doing what u think will make a man happy can often be diff from what actually makes a man happy. I pray God will give you the wisdom to handle this correctly. Also rem dt a 3rd party in a R/shp cld lead to problems. Don't take ur story to many pple

Stop giving a dam, which one is seek God's face?

Tallesty1:
Stop giving a dam, which one is seek God's face?

Pray.

angels09:
at this stage I will advice separation....not divorce, bitter but true.... rather than becoming a basket case...while you seek the face of God in prayer...

exactly

What a toxic family

angels09:


Pray.

For what exactly?


Oh! You're an angle? Oya forward her case to God asaply.

@OP, stop giving a dam, two cannot walk unless they agree.

You are not in your marriage to please his sisters

Dont give a f.uck about it,put on your ‘i dont care attitude‘

And for his sisters.....no right thinking man with a good job will take sides with his sisters even when they are wrong

I've been praying and will continue to pray. We did court, but like I said, they were all pretending. never knw until recently. the sisters are all married with kids, they're older to him. It's sooo bad that when I had a miscarriage last year, my hubby told them. not a single word of comfort from them. only my parents in-law love me. but these sisters keep poisoning their minds. I belong to one conception group on fbk, a woman posted that she had a miscarriage, I only comforted her, I never made reference to myself. that same evening, my father inlaw called my hubby to ask him if I posted on fbk for the whole world to see that I had a miscarriage. my hubby defended me because, thank God, I showed him the fbk post before I uploaded it. then my father inlaw admitted that it was one of his daughters Who called him to report me. my father inlaw is not on fbk. Imagine another scenario. Where I was working with my eldest sister in-law, she was always reporting to her hubby abt my activities. I can never talk to a man or wear the trousers my own hubby bought for me to go to work with. All the sisters and parents inlaw will hear. she even told my hubby that men were always dragging me into the toilet at work. WHICH MAN WILL HEAR SUCH? I was paralysed with shock. Why will I be close to such people? simple I LOVE U from my hubby to me gets them angry. they never showed all these traits to me before marriage. Maybe it's because no child. AM I GOD? had I know... #sobs#

D problem is hydra headed.... U just av 2b prayerful if u werent.. Hopefully d jazz de use on him will wane soon...

MsJackson:
I've been praying and will continue to pray. We did court, but like I said, they were all pretending. never knw until recently. the sisters are all married with kids, they're older to him. It's sooo bad that when I had a miscarriage last year, my hubby told them. not a single word of comfort from them. only my parents in-law love me. but these sisters keep poisoning their minds. I belong to one conception group on fbk, a woman posted that she had a miscarriage, I only comforted her, I never made reference to myself. that same evening, my father inlaw called my hubby to ask him if I posted on fbk for the whole world to see that I had a miscarriage. my hubby defended me because, thank God, I showed him the fbk post before I uploaded it. then my father inlaw admitted that it was one of his daughters Who called him to report me. my father inlaw is not on fbk. Imagine another scenario. Where I was working with my eldest sister in-law, she was always reporting to her hubby abt my activities. I can never talk to a man or wear the trousers my own hubby bought for me to go to work with. All the sisters and parents inlaw will hear. she even told my hubby that men were always dragging me into the toilet at work. WHICH MAN WILL HEAR SUCH? I was paralysed with shock. Why will I be close to such people? simple I LOVE U from my hubby to me gets them angry. they never showed all these traits to me before marriage. Maybe it's because no child. AM I GOD? had I know... #sobs#

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Op, sometimes we don't have control of who we love, but we have control on how we allow ourselves to be treated. Everything you are going through now is bcoz you allowed it. You are playing the victim when you should be the Victor. From your first post your hubby is not working, yet the family has so much power over your marriage, why? Bcoz you are giving them too much attention. Don't you have a family, or you don't have a bond with your family, try to cling to your own family look for love and comfort from your family instead of trying to be paddy with your husband sisters, they have made up their minds to frustrate you so ignore them. If your husband join them ignore him join too. Are you a child that they will be reporting your activities up and down? Is it what your sister in-laws sisters in-laws are doing to them. Call your husband sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him, he should grow up and stop being a poppy to his sisters, they should face their marriages . If you dontb sit-up now them go do worse. You have prayed ones God has heard, leave the prayer matter and deal with the reality of the day. God no get time to dey handle matters way him Don give you the ability to handle.

Hian! When I say I honestly don't get stories like this, someone will think I'm lying.

I mean, how can a fellow grown a$$ woman like myself be the one to decide what happens in my home? A home where I'm even the sole bread winner.

Mehn! Some things are just impossible o.

OP I honestly don't know what to tell you o, cos I believe you should know what to do, haba!

freecocoa:
Hian! When I say I honestly don't get stories like this, someone will think I'm lying.

I mean, how can a fellow grown a$$ woman like myself be the one to decide what happens in my home? A home where I'm even the sole bread winner.

Mehn! Some things are just impossible o.

OP I honestly don't know what to tell you o, cos I believe you should know what to do, haba!

Its because she was slow of the mark and maybe was doing some eye service when she was courting their brother just to be in their good books.

I dont think that they changed
You only just noticed it now that you are in their family

My advise is to stop playing the victim or you will be like this till kingdom come
Hopefully it isnt too late
It seems that you are all too close....same job with your SIL is a little too close for comfort.

In the meantime Just be firm and let your yes be yes and your no be no
stop reporting them to your hubby as it puts him in a uncomfortable position
Just ignore them and dont get too close to them. Its not as if you eat from the same pot.
pls do not be rude to any of them. Be civil but keep a distance.
And like someone said...Yes please do pray

I also want you to remember that stress does impact on fertility, so please dont let anything stress you
All the best and I pray that you have your own baby soon.

tearoses:


Its because she was slow of the mark and maybe was doing some eye service when she was courting their brother just to be in their good books.

I dont think that they changed
You only just noticed it now that you are in their family

My advise is to stop playing the victim or you will be like this till kingdom come
Hopefully it isnt too late
It seems that you are all too close....same job with your SIL is a little too close for comfort.

In the meantime Just be firm and let your yes be yes and your no be no
stop reporting them to your hubby as it puts him in a uncomfortable position
Just ignore them and dont get too close to them. Its not as if you eat from the same pot.
pls do not be rude to any of them. Be civil but keep a distance.
And like someone said...Yes please do pray

I also want you to remember that stress does impact on fertility, so please dont let anything stress you
All the best and I pray that you have your own baby soon.

On point! She said they were pretending... I knew she was exaggerating,they have no need to pretend to you,they are older than your husband and have their families.They were always like that you were the one trying to please them by losing yourself.

Just like tearoses said,you are too close to them-they can be in your business for all they want but you should avoid and stay away from them.Stop associating with everything they are a party to. Make yourself unreachable. Get out of that facebook .

I don't even think it is the right time to bring a child,the space is too toxic even from your husband.
You need to grow firm and bold.It is time you sit him down and tell him that you won't tolerate anymore disrespect and bullies.
You better concentrate on your job as it is and if your husband chooses to be his sisters's poppy,don't worry about it as long as he doesn't bring his madness to you.Support your HOME and if you feel uneasy,go to your parents for a while and comeback home when you feel better.

Lest i forget,do have a saving account.A wise man sees trouble coming and prepares for it.

edwife babes long time
How are you dear

tearoses:
edwife babes long time
How are you dear

I am fine dear,hope you are too.Winter is over...

edwife:


I am fine dear,hope you are too.Winter is over...

I'm still cold o!

tearoses:


I'm still cold o!

It is better o,i don't have to cover myself up and down.

edwife:


It is better o,i don't have to cover myself up and down.

edwife:


I am fine dear,hope you are too.Winter is over...

Winter is coming......

my mum and sisters are blaming me seriously for being too slack. seriously I didn't notice this attitude in them before marriage. they acted soooo nice to me, then.

Awwwhhh e hugs to you babe. Sadly you can't. I was in ur shoes....exactly the same issue. My story and yours is quite similar except that when I decided I wanted out of the marriage, after all the noise from both sides.

We started talking again and I really opened up on how his siblings actions/pretence affected me. How taking sides with them affected me much more. He felt really bad and has been making every effort 2 change.

He even told his family that if I change my mind and choose to remain in the marriage, they won't be allowed to visit unless I approve. They will no longer be allowed 2 be abusive or make snipy comments about me.

But all these happened because He CHOOSE to change.....prayers didn't make him because trust me, I prayed, fought, ignored him and even his family.....till I decided I was done and wanted out of the marriage......so babe I wish u all the best in whatever you decide

Cutehector:
Awww, it is always at this point, most married women are vulnerable...

Why not seek the face of God like the women of old did? He will answer u

And again!

You are right edwife. One thing though, I think having a separate saving now is going to be a problem since the husband isn't working.
Op, also start applying for jobs elsewhere....too close for comfort.

edwife:

Lest i forget,do have a saving account.A wise man sees trouble coming and prepares for it.

armyofone:
You are right edwife. One thing though, I think having a separate saving now is going to be a problem since the husband isn't working.
Op, also start applying for jobs elsewhere....too close for comfort.

With the kind of husband she has that tells everything to his sisters,she doesn't have to tell him.

If he changes,it will still be useful to both but if not,she will at least have something to fall on.

MsJackson:
Hello. please advice me. what should I do about a man who
-deletes his Whatsapp chats with girls (y delete if u have nothing to hide )
-calls down evil on me whenever I talk about his sisters(they pretended to like me initially but I discovered they were painting me black to my husband and his parents, prompting me to avoid them)
-he is jobless but I support him with the little I earn, but he's NEVER grateful (rather get takes sides with his sisters that, on many occasion, are very stingy to him)
-I do all in my power to make him happy but he doesn't value me, it's his sisters Who don't give a damn about him, that he values.
During a family meeting, one of his sisters said it to my face that she has promise herself that no woman can ever take her brother from her. and my hubby never said a word, just looking. Is all this because i havent been able to conceive after two years of marriage? The summary is: HOW CAN I DEAL WITH A MAN THAT'S NOT INTERESTED IN DEFENDING ME WHEN HIS FAMILY VICTIMIZES ME, AN INGRATE AND ONE WHO IS ON THE ROAD TO CHEATING? Please help me!

So why are you still with him?

I mean, what are you gaining from the "union" apart from misery?

MsJackson:
I've been praying and will continue to pray. We did court, but like I said, they were all pretending. never knw until recently. the sisters are all married with kids, they're older to him. It's sooo bad that when I had a miscarriage last year, my hubby told them. not a single word of comfort from them. only my parents in-law love me. but these sisters keep poisoning their minds. I belong to one conception group on fbk, a woman posted that she had a miscarriage, I only comforted her, I never made reference to myself. that same evening, my father inlaw called my hubby to ask him if I posted on fbk for the whole world to see that I had a miscarriage. my hubby defended me because, thank God, I showed him the fbk post before I uploaded it. then my father inlaw admitted that it was one of his daughters Who called him to report me. my father inlaw is not on fbk. Imagine another scenario. Where I was working with my eldest sister in-law, she was always reporting to her hubby abt my activities. I can never talk to a man or wear the trousers my own hubby bought for me to go to work with. All the sisters and parents inlaw will hear. she even told my hubby that men were always dragging me into the toilet at work. WHICH MAN WILL HEAR SUCH? I was paralysed with shock. Why will I be close to such people? simple I LOVE U from my hubby to me gets them angry. they never showed all these traits to me before marriage. Maybe it's because no child. AM I GOD? had I know... #sobs#

So I ask again, what's keeping you in there?

MsJackson dont listen to anyone that will tell u to divorce your husband. Many people have their own struggle in their marriages and none of them divorce their husbands.Only after u have tried everything u think u can then u can take a drastic decision.Be wise,i see some good comment above,follow them.

MsJackson:
my mum and sisters are blaming me seriously for being too slack. seriously I didn't notice this attitude in them before marriage. they acted soooo nice to me, then.

No, no, no. You kissed their ar.ses and planted your lips so far up their butts that you didn't open your eyes to take a good look at them. First be honest with yourself then you can solve the problem.

You've gotten good advice from here. It's upto to decide what you want and how much you can take. Your problem is that your husband isn't drawing boundaries. You need to let him know (without attacking anyone) that things need to change. And take a break by going to see your parents.

EfemenaXY:


So why are you still with him?

I mean, what are you gaining from the "union" apart from misery?



So I ask again, what's keeping you in there?

love. commitment. respect for marriage.

For those of you Who still insisted that I knowingly went into this marriage with the sisters attitude, well I can't try to convince you further. if u aren't married, then you'll know that circumstances could change people. in my case, the issue of childbirth changed them(I think ), because they were so welcoming. we even ate from the same bowl(literally and otherwise ) we were that close. God dey.