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She was my course mate, we started dating during our final year. She is a good girl by all standards but she wants to control me. When we started dating she told me that she will never hv sex with me outside marriage rather she is prepared to leave me, I was angry with that because I never requested for sex and am not a sex addict. I have been providing for her since then oh, but she did something today that I have told her before that I don't like it(possessiveness), I came back from church and went out directly with some friends there by leaving my phone at home, only for me to come back and I saw her miss calls and a message. I called her and she was angry and didn't even want to hear me out and I had to drop the call and called back later still the same harsh response, I don't like things like this bordering me which I have told her before. Should I leave her and be free or should I continue? Or is she doing this because she is two years older than me?. Because am not even ready for marriage unless in the next two/three years time. Or could it be distance because we are not staying in the same state and she has only visited me twice since this year

Paradise2015:
She was my course mate, we started dating during our final year. She is a good girl by all standards but she wants to control me. When we started dating she told me that she will never hv see with me outside marriage rather she is prepared to leave me, I was angry with that because I never requested for sex and am not a sex addict. I have been providing for her since then oh, but she did something today that I have told her before that I don't like (possessiveness), I came back from church and went out directly with some friends there by leaving my phone at home, only for me to come back and I saw her miss calls and a message. I called her and she was angry and didn't even want to hear
me out and I had to drop the call and called back later still the same harsh response, I don't like things like this bordering me which I have told her before. Should I leave her and be free or should I continue? Or is she doing this because she is two years older than me?. Because am not even ready for marriage unless in the next two/three years time

M still small to be advising u on Relationship ish... . Buh i do knw 1tin if u're nt married yet nd shes very Possessive(Dominance) den its nt a gud tin o.. .. d possessiveness z because she knws shez older dan u.... I knw 1 mummy in my area chai.. .. U dnt want to imagine how she treats her husband

You both have temperament issues.

You didn't have to bring up the non-sex part. It is unnecessary. Unless you are using that as a criterion which would be immature.


Anyways,
Give her sometime, she will come around.






As per me, I love them possessive.

Tell her your mind or let her go!

About the missed calls, i think its normal to be angry but not the way she's taking it though...its a little to the extreme.
Then, the age difference is another thing you guys need to seriously talk about because she is already ready for marriage or almost ready and you're not anywhere close to that point now.

You guys need more communication. Pour your hearts out...dazall

Girls sha




seriously why are girls like this?

Anything or anyone that drags you down emotionally or otherwise shouldn't be a part of ya life. Life is too short for that crap.

Me I go just jejely waka leave you alone.

Frei:
Tell her your mind or let her go!

and what do you think is my mind or do you think I don't love and want her. The only thing here is that am trying to lay my hands on her behavior today

Paradise2015:
and what do you think is my mind or do you think I don't love and want her. The only thing here is that am trying to lay my hands on her behavior today

when I say tell her your mind' I didn't mean you should break up with her! what's on your mind? her possessiveness behaviour? Tell her how you feel about it... don't keep it to yourself thinking she'll change...If you do' don't be surprised or annoyed when she tells you to shut up in the presence of your friends or in a public place!

dude! You're in a relationship! if you're going to go to your friends then at least send her a text and tell her. Sometimes we worry about this stuff and think the worst. talk to her about it. Don't just be a coward and give up. If she loves you she will always worry about your whereabouts.