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| Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 6:40pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
Most (if not all) Nigerian ethnic groups require the payment of bride-price by the man to the parents of his woman in other for both parties to be considered as a married couple, in the traditional sense. Payment of bride-price kinda signifies that the woman has been 'bought' and thus is now the 'property' of her husband. Likewise, once could say payment of groom-price in India is akin to 'buying' the husband by the wife. Thoughts? |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by mackhunter77: 6:47pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
I WILL NOT MARRY A WOMAN THAT WONT COST ME ANYTHING... |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by trollolololol(m): 6:48pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
And who's gonna abolish it?  |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by AccidentalGenius: 7:03pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
mackhunter77: Why pay for love? Why pay for happiness? Why pay when it's something both of u want? It's saddening Nigeria as a country is still stuck with the old archaic ways. Do not feel insulted, but if you pay for your wife, it's no different than paying for the phone you're using now. You're paying for her services. You're buying her. See it the way it is 1 Like |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 7:08pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius: I agree it's archaic. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by AccidentalGenius: 7:12pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
CFCman: This is what makes me jump on the foreign train. I'll definitely not pay for love nor will I receive money for my daughter. A gift will do, or group dinner where we'll all discuss. Get to know the man that'll marry my daughter. Not take money and let them go and years later you start listening to drama. Pssshhh |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by obiorathesubtle: 7:20pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
broke ass nigga can't afford a wife.. when you get your own child.. Dash her to another broke ass.. So the broke ass lineage continues.. As for me.. Any nigga coming to marry my daughter will pay just as I paid for her mother!! 4 Likes |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 7:22pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius: I like that idea. It's more dignifying than a brazen auction of my daughter. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by AccidentalGenius: 7:25pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
CFCman: Even more dignifiying for her. Assuming there's a heated argument and words are exchanged, she won't hear stuff like "after all I paid for you" That's demoralising. Women sha. Sometimes it's their fault they're seen as objects |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by emperorchedda(m): 7:26pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
Paying for women is just inappropriate to say the least... You don't expect me to treat you like a woman with equal right as me when I paid for you even if it's 5naira No man will pay for my daughters because they ain't no commodity! |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
emperorchedda:  |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by mackhunter77: 7:59pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius: why not give them the gender equality law before thinking of removing bride price? Thou shalt not place the cart before the horse |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Odunharry(m): 8:17pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
This is getting interesting |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by AccidentalGenius: 8:57pm On Apr 11, 2016 |
mackhunter77: Lol my good sir, gender equality has nothing to do with this. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by tolustx(m): 12:35am On Apr 12, 2016 |
Tradition is tradition, culture is culture. Let d Nigerian men who got married and didn't pay bride price come here and tell us. If you aint married and u're saying you won't pay, wait till then. Let's here from those who are married first. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Strahovski1(m): 12:44am On Apr 12, 2016 |
Very true. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by whogoscam: 12:46am On Apr 12, 2016 |
tolustx: Tradition is tradition. That's why we have education. Who created the tradition? I can't pay for love that's why I married foreign woman. The money I spent on wedding abroad and all that is more than Nigerian bride price but yet I can't pay for love. A woman is no commodity. Neither would my daughter be. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by halfricanadian(f): 1:22am On Apr 12, 2016 |
bullsh*ts like this makes me already hate marriage till eternity i will never marry whoever pays my bride price He is just decieving himself i will marry who sees me as human not a commodity I will never ever marry such i rada b single aint no sin in that afterall its my life to hell with whoever i rubbish u nd ur bride price 2 Likes |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by tolustx(m): 1:26am On Apr 12, 2016 |
whogoscam:Nice one. This man got married to. Foreign woman nd ws therefore saved of the extinct trdition of paying bride price. Waiting for dos who are planning to marry Sade, Tinuke, Chidinma, Nneka, Aisha or Aminat and are also dreaming of not paying bride price. In many traditions today, the bride price is being returned when offered to d family. I guessed wht strted d whole issue of bride price is tht the bride's family wants to be sure that the man has a source of livelihood, where he got d money from and therefore, he will be able to take care of their child. People of course, will derail such an act. That is wht got wrong in the long run. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 6:04am On Apr 12, 2016 |
Interesting responses.. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 7:10am On Apr 13, 2016 |
#women/menarenotforsale |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Nobody: 7:08pm On Apr 13, 2016 |
halfricanadian: |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Tay16(f): 5:41am On Jun 21, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius:i agree with you, you shouldn't be paying $500- $1,000 as bride price when you can get a foreign girl who will expect you to buy an engagement ring for not less than $5,000. Its better to spend more following a foreign culture than paying anything in a bid of following your own. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Tay16(f): 5:47am On Jun 21, 2016 |
whogoscam:you can't pay for love but you spent money on a wedding, im still trying to make sense out of this. If you do not mind me asking, when did you finish paying back all the money lended to you to have your white wedding? Maybe you might not be aware that before white people came to Africa, paying bride price was what signified the union between 2people and white people had a wedding ceremony to signify the union between 2people. Its funny how you think your own tradition is archaic when its purpose is just the same as a white wedding that you are now having in the 21st century. If white men start wearing skirts on a daily basis i bet you will be the first follow, so you wont be called archaic for following your own culture or tradition  The beauty of Asian and Native American people is that they have their own minds and they still embrace their own culture. Although they have been influenced Western ideas, they never through away their culture because a white person doesn't believe in what they believe in. Unfortunately the same cannot be said about some African men, he cannot engage in anything a white person doesn't understand or approve of. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by foolinlove(f): 5:49am On Jun 21, 2016 |
Save money and heart ache. Just go buy olosho, it's what all men do anyway. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Tay16(f): 6:08am On Jun 21, 2016 |
CFCman:Make me understand how an African tradition is archaic? Did white people start having white weddings in 2010 or it has been a tradition for centuries? Are white weddings archaic also? Help me understand how its perfectly normal for a man to save up and even go as far as taking out loans for a $5,000 engament ring, $2,000 wedding ring, $10,000 wedding reception and $4,000 honeymoon and completely outrageous to take out less than $2,000 as bride price, just to achieve the same purpose (union between a man and a woman)? Asian people have been influenced by the Western culture too, but are they abandoning their tradition or culture because white people do not engage in the same practices? God bless the mordern African man and "his follow the white man blindly" mentality |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Tay16(f): 6:28am On Jun 21, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius:maybe the rest of us are still in the dark and you have seen the light, but doesnt a wedding ring signify the same thing as bride price? Are you still not paying something or rather paying for something just to get married to her? Or do you pick up wedding and engagement rings from Iroko tree at no cost? Better yet, make me understand the purpose of a white wedding sef, if you even know its origins and purpose? And please none of that google stuff you will try to copy and paste after reading this post. |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by chericleo(f): 6:57am On Jun 21, 2016 |
Som people and d way dai reason . U pay som amount of money for a woman's bride price and u say u bought d woman rili  if parents should sum up d money dai spend on a gal child to d extent she gets to wen u decide to marry her, do u fink u can pay for it? Is dere any free thing on earth? Even d white ladies som talk abt, saying dai dnt pay any money in marrying dem I wonda y dai engage in white wedding and spending on rings. Even if u don't pay directly u pay indirectly. Whether u lik it or not Nigerian tradition wen it comes to bride price is OK. If u dnt want to pay anything for a woman den dnt marry her no body is forcing u. Som guys are looking for free stuff dat dai can just mess wif and get away wif it. Ur looking for free wife. Nonsense1 Like |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Cutezt(m): 7:21am On Jun 21, 2016 |
Yes, Especially From The East |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by Moana(f): 8:05am On Jun 21, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius:By allowing your daughter to wear an engagement ring you will be demoralising too because she will be exchanging a "yes" for a piece of metal with a price tag on it. Maybe you could consider just letting her cohabit with a guy, since thats the only form of union that does not involve an exhcange of gifts with a monetary value  |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by MarryMeee: 11:41am On Jun 21, 2016 |
halfricanadian:i want to see if you will refuse a guy who proposes marriage to you with a $100,000 price tag on it, since you are not a commodity that can be bought with a price tage let me guess that rock doesn't make you a commodity since you will be the one enjoying it and not your parents? |
| Re: Should Bride Price Be Abolished? by halfricanadian(f): 11:48am On Jun 21, 2016 |
MarryMeee: lol i will decline it fast I care bou his heart soul nature nt his money Ok so after d money he cheats abi? Or turn me to punching bag? Im d girl dat blivs i can make my own money too so use love to impress me not money |
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