Kollyman:
You are newly married and you carried your marriage matter to NL to seek advise from some ladies who are still thinking of when someone would propose to them let alone of marriage, some boys who judge marriage from boy friend/ girlfriend paspective and those who claim to be !married but couldn't build a happy home.

Sisto, you better listen to your husband to save your infant marriage!

You can get some salient advice from people you least expected. The onus rest on the OP to sieve them and make do with the ones that best suit her situation

your hubby is just scared of your ex... you should do away with your ex, and not your sim...

I plan to change my numbers anyways..
But give my close female friends the new numbers
And buisness partners...

I wont even wait for him to tell me 2.. No big deal there.

If you still have an ex that your husband is insecure about up to the point of him asking you to change your number, then he shouldn't have married you. Even If you change your number, It's obvious you and this ex still has feelings for each other and something will definitely happen along the line. That's why people really need to be sure before they get married

SimonN:
If you know you were a cheerful giver , then you have to change it.

Lol, @bolded

skywife:
Dear Nairaland family.

Have been married for a couple of months now and my spouse have been disturbing and threatening me to dispose my sim cards that everything about me needs to change since am now a married woman.He complain alot about frequent calls by my ex,to be sincere I have nothing to do with anyone again since am married and have explain to him but he wouldn't listen.I told him I have other business partners that calls on this same number and one of this line is for business and am well known with it,am scared I might lose some vital businesses or contracts due to this.I told him but all proved aborted.This has been an issue and am fed up.Is it mandatory after I changed name I should also change number? PLZ ADVICE ME

U dated ur husband for some time, thats enough time for ur ex to forget you, you are married ur ex still calls you and you are asking why you should kill that number
Advice:get a new SIM/Number, text all ur important clients,friends and family ur new number and destroy that old SIm end of story if not you will we soon hear ** He dumped me just 4 months after wedding**

goingape:
you even called yourself skywife

To show you the level of your atrocity. Why won't he tell you to change ya number? He know how you people operate in the dark!

After marriage you will be calling ya ex to sample you just because ya is not getting enough from your husband.

Come let me give you an advice! Break that sim of yours and change your number if you like yourself because if I'm your husband I would do thesame becos I know ya background and would think you were once an PROSTITUTE but got no choice but to marry you.


By the way! Why do you even talk to ya ex

You see the level of stupidity you exhibit from talking to ya ex it will graduate to touching ya ex, and from there you will obtain master degree in sleep with men up and down.


I just don't know what you WOMEN are made of. Is it that you don't use your brain or your brain is not functioning

Woman! You are what they called: I MARRIED TO A PROSTITUTE WHO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU AND AT THE END POISON YOU.

you are a mad woman

Go change your sim if you know what is good for you before you misbehave anyhow

She only asked for advice not insults.
U would have been able to pass your message meaningfully without insulting her.

Eyop:


If only you will behave then you are allowed to use your old number but if not.....

My ex is happily married but we remain best of friends. We still talk regularly on the phone and his wife knows, so ki ni big deal? It is only an insecure person that will demand their spouse change numbers because they're now married

rileest:
If you still have an ex that your husband is insecure about up to the point of him asking you to change your number, then he shouldn't have married you. Even If you change your number, It's obvious you and this ex still has feelings for each other and something will definitely happen along the line. That's why people really need to be sure before they get married

Spot on! I had a close friend and brother before I met my hubby although He was not too happy when I told him I was getting married to my husband. He was there on my wedding day and I introduced him to my hubby. We were there for him also when he got married the following year The two families became friends till they travelled out of the country. Lesson: there should be a level of trust in a marriage without which the marriage will be shaky and may be heading for the rock.

Yes is very necessary in marriage. At least to get rid of the past. I did exactly that to my wife. I changed both her phone and the sim and she is OK with it. Till today we are living peacefully and she is loving.

jnrbayano:


"Why on earth should she still entatain calls from her ex?"

This question is a petinent question, not the one you just asked.

What is wrong in entertaining calls from the ex? Are they enemies?

donbenedict:
If u like be saying it's for business. By the time he gets to knw u are still flirting with ur exes, ur own don be.



Besides, some men should quit this over-jealous attitude abeg.. it's gettn so annoying these days.


Just tryna be fair.

Guy we ar talkin abt wife hear not babe dat we can share . Coz on my wife u did not expect me to use condom. And am not expect to take any child that is not my coz he may kill me. Most child that fighing their father nawaday did not belong to that man. May God 4give woman And i dnt want to cheat nt coz of my wife bt coz of God it defile my body. In a case of jelous i said these.

joydiva:
Naawaaaooo me I can't change my number like that, since its my business line

wait until ur husband ask you to then refuse,especially if you are chatting to ur ex on it.What is difficult in giving ur new number to ur new Biz associates?

still receiving calls from you ex shows you are not ready for marriage because allowing this in the first place will be the beginging of trouble in your marriage. Just obey tour husband and get a new sim card beside it is not as if you are relocating from your business place. Customers can still reach you. It is better to keep your home than the old sim card A word is enough for the wise.

Sunnycliff:
At marriage you are subject to the decisions of your husband! If you don't want change of name why get married? Is marriage by force

baba decision enforcer, marriage is an equal rights partnership. Not an autocratic govt, d man might as well change his number.

still receiving calls from you ex shows you are not ready for marriage because allowing this in the first place will be the beginning of trouble in your marriage. Just obey tour husband and get a new sim card beside it is not as if you are relocating from your business place. Customers can still reach you. It is better to keep your home than the old sim card A word is enough for the wise.

mentorandfriend:
Another Insecure, purposeless man just got married.

I don't know who manages to convince these men that marriage will solve the problem of their battered and damaged egos.

People should be matured and totally heal emotionally (if they have battered egos) before disturbing the peace of any lady in the name of marriage.

10,000 likes

I can't imagine changing a line I've been using for 10 years, unto sey old things are passed away. That's premium, high grade bullshit.

mentorandfriend:
Another Insecure, purposeless man just got married.

I don't know who manages to convince these men that marriage will solve the problem of their battered and damaged egos.

People should be matured and totally heal emotionally (if they have battered egos) before disturbing the peace of any lady in the name of marriage.

Two bottles for you.

You husband is immature. Changing phone numbers won't stop your ex from calling you so what's the point?

No it is not mandatory. I did not change mine. But if you are still entertaining frequent calls from your exs, that calls for the concern of any reasonable husband..

Ishilove:

10,000 likes

I can't imagine changing a line I've been using for 10 years, unto sey old things are passed away. That's premium, high grade bullshit.

ok let me ask U, if yu are geven these options, change ur line or marriage over which would you chose?

Ishilove:

My ex is happily married but we remain best of friends. We still talk regularly on the phone and his wife knows, so ki ni big deal? It is only an insecure person that will demand their spouse change numbers because they're now married

Well if you say so. Whether number is changed or not is never the point because the new number can still be gotten through another means. I guess the husband does not trust the wife. But come oooh, what are you still discussing with your ex u wanna be the 2nd wife

AZeD1:

Two bottles for you.

You husband is immature. Changing phone numbers won't stop your ex from calling you so what's the point?

I can't imagine changing a line I've been using for 10 years, unto sey old things are passed away. That's premium, high grade bullshit.[/quote]
ok let me ask U, if yu are geven these options, change ur line or marriage over which would you chose?

Ishilove:

What is wrong in entertaining calls from the ex? Are they enemies?

Baby boo , welcome back . How you dey ? It is very wrong to entertain calls from the ex . They can slowly steal your heart away from hubby/wifey ! Especially if there are problems in the marriage . E.g unsatisfactory sex from hubby/wifey , precarious financial problems , unrequited love etc .

I believe you understand me

Changing of number or not is got no business with your marriage. Only if you got guilty conscience you can be reasoning this with your wifey. Even if she changes no bcuz of your personal interest. She still know how to retrieve them. Woman na woman. That's why you should pray to God your creator before marriage. Marriage can never be controlled by your power but God. Safe

byvan03:
I didn't change mine, it wasn't an issue for us. Did he change his?

Olodo...did he call his ex?

erico2k2:

I can't imagine changing a line I've been using for 10 years, unto sey old things are passed away. That's premium, high grade bullshit.
ok let me ask U, if yu are geven these options, change ur line or marriage over which would you chose?

I can't be given this two options because I can't marry an immature lady.

laphta:
baba decision enforcer, marriage is an equal rights partnership. Not an autocratic govt, d man might as well change his number.

wait until ur wife recieves calls from her ex just to say hi and hows she is doing and see how it feels,to B honest, why would I want to chat to my ex when I am married? if for biz purpose then yeh cos in marriage one has to compromise, don't ever do anything that will hurt ur husband/wife, Emotionally, changing of one's number wont hurt but not changing it would hurt. and can do serious emotional damage and introduce trust issues.

All these annoying and biased topics una dey always create for hia I hope the husband is changing his number too.

I actually thought before now ,it was obituary.

erico2k2:

ok let me ask U, if yu are geven these options, change ur line or marriage over which would you chose?

I can't be given such options because I can't end up with such a petty man

ladyF:
All these annoying and biased topics una dey always create for hia I hope the husband is changing his number too.

What happened to its ladyF again?