STFUareyouGod:
Bros, don't give up. You are very close to winning the battle

Haha! Which battle? Na champion's league?

Abeggi! Me way go join queue come dey like numba 97 for her list? No be lost case be dat? U know how many pms she dey get per day? Her fb inbox go don get likr 700 msgs by now sef. She fit don dey confuse by now sef.

Baba time no day oh. Maybe when am in the mood to waste my time senselessly, I go resume her case.

STFUareyouGod:
lol. Glo or mtn?

Ntel

Hehehehe. No lele bruv

rudebouy:


Haha! Which battle? Na champion's league?

Abeggi! Me way go join queue come dey like numba 97 for her list? No be lost case be dat? U know how many pms she dey get per day? Her fb inbox go don get likr 700 msgs by now sef. She fit don dey confuse by now sef.

Baba time no day oh. Maybe when am in the mood to waste my time senselessly, I go resume her case.

PinkBarbie:
Ntel

deal!

Meet me back door

STFUareyouGod:
deal!

Meet me back door

JeffreyJamez:


Deep!....

Oliviaarims:
So,I've come to the realization that finding that one person that really suits u isn't so easy...Everybody's got standards and wish very much amongst other things that they find someone who levels up to those set standards,but how easy is that? How many people really do find people that are "perfectly" compatible with them? Let's not begin to delude ourselves that when a person chooses a partner to settle down with,it means he's finally found the bone of his bones .So many go through the herculean journey and still never find exactly what they are looking for,so they settle 4 the next best thing..or the very worst thing.

And please,enough of "there are so many fishes in the water." Yeah,right there are so many fishes out there,but not all of them are available to u. You may never get to see 80/90% of them,and from the available 10/20%, you wouldn't find quite a good number desirable by you..the ones you find desirable may not find you desirable....and from the very minute percentage that might find u worth taking a chance with,there comes the compatibility issues. Finding who amongst these lot is the "perfect" one for you.

Talking about that one person with whom you can be your true self and he/she would love you just like that.

# He knows your flaws and accepts them as a part of you.

# He knows your weaknesses and does not take advantage of them.
# Spurs you to become a better person and achieve your best in whatever you choose to do.
# He sees your shortcomings and knows that with time you'll conquer them.

# He respects you and you respect him.
# There's a good level of understanding between you both and when you fight,you always find a way of resolving it.
# Compromise isn't a problem... You make sacrifices and he makes sacrifices.

# He's no control freak. He allows you live your life the way you want it and corrects you when you start going wrong,without spite.
# There are things he expects of you and he tells you...waiting patiently to see the change happen. He doesn't just give up on you.

# When he loves you and knows you love him back,he doesn't toy with your heart.
# There are no shady deals. You are both transparent with each other.
# He's erred before,apologised and promised to change and he did change......
# He's loyal..he makes you feel special,he doesn't hide his true feeling from you...

The list is endless...We all have those things we are looking out for in a man or woman,and when we find those things, does it make any sense to sacrifice such a relationship because we want to explore other possibilities? Because we think there are so many fishes out there? Perhaps for one or two inconsequential shortcomings that can naturally be dealt with or which will fade away with time....

In summary, take ur time to look carefully and make only the right choice of a partner,there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it... And when eventually you find all or most of what you're looking for,concentrate on developing and sustaining ur relationship rather than looking for the next exit when you encounter a little storm,simply because "there are many fishes out there."

No matter how beautiful or talented or rich u are,not everybody out there is meant for you.

While I subscribe to your thinking I'd take exception to the "... there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it". I don't see it as lowering of standards, I see it as compromising.

Should everyone toe that line, we won't be seeing any happy relationships anytime soon. Think about it.

pato405:
nice narrative...are you the original author?

Yea.

rudebouy:


I like ur reasoning.

Are you single or married?

Married with kids and grandkids

Come to think of it, I don't need a perfect person. I need a diamond in the rough. The moulding, cleansing, chiselling, refining, smoothening and burning process that takes a lot of sweat, tears and blood is the key to a successful relationship (mostly).

At the end of the day, I take a look at my finished work, my dazzling diamond and it takes a look at me and we both love and appreciate one another as we both share a memory of the journey that got us to this moment.

STFUareyouGod:
Remind me where I left you. Cuz even me can't find my way back to the place I left you


Good to know you been good. Im well and kicking fine dear


MissNL, hope you with me on TeamLanicky's ship?

Pinkbarbie...STFUareyouGod? Having ur discussion on my thread! Lol

Oliviaarims:

Married with kids and grandkids

Nice. So wot did u study in scl?

Oliviaarims:

Married with kids and grandkids

Nice. So wot did u study in scl?

4C2215131:


While I subscribe to your thinking I'd take exception to the "... there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it". I don't see it as lowering of standards, I see it as compromising.

Should everyone toe that line, we won't be seeing any happy relationships anytime soon. Think about it.

Compromising in specific situations is a different thing entirely from lowering your inherent standards wholly.

rudebouy:


Nice. So wot did u study in scl?

Still in school.

4C2215131:
Come to think of it, I don't need a perfect person. I need a diamond in the rough. The moulding, cleansing, chiselling, refining, smoothening and burning process that takes a lot of sweat, tears and blood is the key to a successful relationship (mostly).

At the end of the day, I take a look at my finished work, my dazzling diamond and it takes a look at me and we both love and appreciate one another as we both share a memory of the journey that got us to this moment.

We're saying the same thing in different "languages" .

Oliviaarims:


Still in school.

Dats good.

I get very pleased whenever I see fine gyals dat have sense. Ya mama try for ya head oh!

rudebouy:


Dats good.

I get very pleased whenever I see fine gyals dat have sense. Ya mama try for ya head oh!

Lol. Thanks. Who resurrected this thread,anyway?

Oliviaarims:


We're saying the same thing in different "languages" .

Are you sure? The emboldened in my previous post tells me different save you were just waxing philosophical somewhat.

Oliviaarims:

Lol. Thanks. Who resurrected this thread,anyway?

Dont know.
What state are you from?

Oliviaarims:


Compromising in specific situations is a different thing entirely from lowering your inherent standards wholly.

Assuming you qualified your earlier statement with what you just said, my retort would have been different . To me the statement was all encompassing...you know.

While I do not pander to the notion of throwing your éligibility requirements' to the wind, I believe people should just develop friendships irrespective of the finer points given our requirements. You'd be so surprised the way things turn out. I've come to realise that we usually get disappointed because more often than not we expect too much from people (read: looks, attitude, class, finances etc). Sometimes, just let it ride (with sense sha o!)

4C2215131:


Assuming you qualified your earlier statement with what you just said, my retort would have been different . To me the statement was all encompassing...you know.

While I do not pander to the notion of throwing your éligibility requirements' to the wind, I believe people should just develop friendships irrespective of the finer points given our requirements. You'd be so surprised the way things turn out. I've come to realise that we usually get disappointed because more often than not we expect too much from people (read: looks, attitude, class, finances etc). Sometimes, just let it ride (with sense sha o!)

True@the friendship part.

4C2215131:


Are you sure? The emboldened in my previous post tells me different save you were just waxing philosophical somewhat.

Lol...not at all. Would have wanted to expatiate,but I can't do that right now. I'm somewhere in school trying to vote and I'm getting seriously l
pissed.

Oliviaarims:


True@the friendship part.

Lots of times, you do not know when it (friendship) develops or gravitates into a full blown relationship. But it is not always paradise for this kind of relationships as I know folks who were far better friends than they were as lovers. It's a dicey thing my friend, we just got to go into it with high hopes, faith and fingers crossed but I believe that in the end for those whose hearts are truly pure with respect to their partners even if such a knucklhead cheats and shiits on them, they will come out the better in the end albeit with love scars. Think of it this way, it just makes such a one a veteran, a General with so much battle experience in the relationship war. And such a person can do much good to others just being drafted to the warfront.

Oliviaarims:



Lol...not at all. Would have wanted to expatiate,but I can't do that right now. I'm somewhere in school trying to vote and I'm getting seriously l
pissed.

School? (scoffs), welcome to Heartbreak Hotel.

Oliviaarims:

Article was an eye opener

JeffreyJamez:


Article was an eye opener

I'm glad.

Oliviaarims:



Pinkbar.bie...STFUareyou.God? Having ur discussion on my thread! Lol

lol. Sorry ma

PinkBarbie:

Oliviaarims:



Pinkbarbie...STFUareyouGod? Having ur discussion on my thread! Lol

Sorry, forgive us.

PinkBarbie:
Sorry, forgive us.

^^^^^^^^kaiiiiiii..see lightskin yellow ice cream chick......am definately gonnno add this one too to my list and marrry her soonest!!

PinkBarbie:
Sorry, forgive us.

Forgiven