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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by somehowpenis(m): 2:47pm On May 14, 2016
vicstar:
• • • • • Here in d states u raise a finger and u lose the house. undecided
here in the country, you raise a finger, you beat sense enter her head
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Burruchaga71(m): 2:48pm On May 14, 2016
It's possible
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Debbywills(f): 2:50pm On May 14, 2016
sinaj:
not true



Behaviors are learnt from the environment nd can also be unlearnt too

No bae, There are certain things that can influence you in a particular environment. Things like this, people don't learn, I think is in their blood. You can't be in an abusive relationship or marriage and you keep enduring, hoping your partner would change for the better.
I've seen a man who killed his wife due to much beatings, the wife was actually hoping the husband could change for the better, but hell, he became worse.
Once it gets into your blood, it remains there. Is very difficult to let go
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by DRISKLEF(m): 2:51pm On May 14, 2016
MissGdope:
Run very very far away from any ma that lays his hands on you o! Many have waited for change but have ended up dead. Love is not worth the loss of your own life abeg. If a man can't control his temper and physically assaults you, who knows what false move he'll make one day and hit you in the wrong place and send you to an early grave.
Runn!! if you are in a physically abusive relationship, run o. run for your life because a dead person cannot hear "I'm sorry"

You've spoken well, ma'am.

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Lotechi(m): 2:52pm On May 14, 2016
According to my mentor, ''change is the only constant thing in life''. Self interrogation will eventually lead a person to the state of sanity!! I guess wat am trying to say is ''a wife beater can change''.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Nobody: 2:55pm On May 14, 2016
andromida:
Yes very possible. It is possible for anyone to change if they are willing to take ownership for the choices they made when they assume full responsibility for the part they played whether they were gullible, evil, blind or whatever.
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........Yes wooo!!! Correct talk ! ....its VERY POSSIBLE. ............The wife can change and become the Defender ! Beat the Fokkin Hell out of the Edddiiiot Good for nothing Mugu Husband grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by hrhobi1(m): 2:55pm On May 14, 2016
No one is talking about the bad mouth wife , I don't think any man would just wake up and start beating his wife, some women cannot control their utterances and no man is perfect, you just have to pray not to be lead into temptation by a woman.

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by nidera(f): 2:55pm On May 14, 2016
they don't change....It's only on God's intervention.
I broke my two eardrum,sustained many injuries while dating one..did all the cool and matured talk..nothing changed..he will even shed crocodile years,call his friends to come and help him beg..all the same he is still the beast he calls himself...
I hired an ENT specialist and he treated my ears very well..I ran as fast as my leg could carry me....he is just a devil's incarnate...during one of the incidents,one aged man told me plainly that his type don't change and I confirmed it..cus I gave him more than 4 chances. ladies should stop having the hope of he will change..he will damage and destroy you and still be happy with his fresh body.

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by omauchay(f): 2:59pm On May 14, 2016
colossus2:

Humans are not leopards.
Do people who meet their special woman ever have issues at any point in time?
Are you saying they have never quarreled?
yes they have issues...no relationship is perfect. The ability for the two persons involved to settle amicably defines what they truly feel for each other...my opinion though
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by VERDA: 2:59pm On May 14, 2016
saaedlee:
Just here to read the lies.
Can a leopard change its spots? Till you get to meet that special woman who you can't raise your hand on, you will still beat that one you beat up before.

I do not think the solution has anything to do with meeting the right person,in relationships, even the seemingly matured,emotions will be flared,its more about having the strenght of character not to raise ur hands on any woman. Its important you enter into a relationship with someone suited to ur nature but the reason must never be so u dont raise ur hand on her.

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by genuineone: 3:01pm On May 14, 2016
Yes..WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by GatJokez(f): 3:02pm On May 14, 2016
When there's a will, there's a way..... If the beater recognizes his (or her) wrongs, the beater will stop, repent, and do everything possible to change. Also, there are some key behaviors people should take care of:

#1 Anger Management - keep emotions in check and let annoyances roll off your shoulders
#2 Respect - respect yourself and your husband/wife
#3 Loyalty - is not just about fidelity, it's about not turning on your partner because you're upset or having a bad day.
#4 Trust - when we get into a relationship or marry, we trust each other to be safe with each other, to not harm each other. Don't brake that trust!
#5 Communication - remember we have verbal and non-verbal communication.... our words and actions can hurt very much, sometimes can hurt more than a beating. So, mind your words, be gentle with how you say things and how you treat each other.
#6 Love - remember this is the person you love.... focus on loving and let the negatives go.

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Eben2: 3:02pm On May 14, 2016
A wife beater will change to a saint if he comes in contact with Jesus. I did and I never thought I could.

Now, I have the happiest of homes. If Jesus could save a vile person as I, He can save anyone.

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by flokii: 3:02pm On May 14, 2016
@OP don't get it twisted, most guys don't start out or pray to be wife beaters..

D wife's past/history has a way of influencing d mind (has its own toll).. To worsen it, when she starts nagging or quick to campare d man with her past lovers, things like that

But it's really not advisable to over react & beat a woman
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Nuella222(f): 3:07pm On May 14, 2016
jmoore:
Of course, he can change from ordinary slapping to giving knockouts.
Yes, from ordinary punching to cutting off head with sharp cutlass/using acid to disfigure face...that is change.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by vicstar(m): 3:10pm On May 14, 2016
BuddhaPalm:


You don't need to raise nothing. Once she decides she's done, you're fvcked.

There's absolutely no good reason for a male to get married in the US.

Splitting your current assets is not even the scariest scenario. Garnishing your future income is just pure evil, on the part of the law.


yea. Yea. ThankGod u know what's up cool

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by sinaj(f): 3:11pm On May 14, 2016
Debbywills:


No bae, There are certain things that can influence you in a particular environment. Things like this, people don't learn, I think is in their blood. You can't be in an abusive relationship or marriage and you keep enduring, hoping your partner would change for the better.
I've seen a man who killed his wife due to much beatings, the wife was actually hoping the husband could change for the better, but hell, he became worse.
Once it gets into your blood, it remains there. Is very difficult to let go
blood has nothing to do with this lol.


It's just that in Nigeria, counseling nd therapeutic services ain't recognized.

Else that's d work of the rehab.

I don't advice anyone to go into an abusive reltnshp.

If u notice it on time, u can opt out of the reltnship.

But in d case of marriage, u shud remember that he wasn't like that b4 u married him.
He use to b that sweet guy, u shud find out what went wrong in d marriage nd correct it via therapies.


Now u don't have to wait for him to kill you first.

You guys can be separated in d mean time while he is undergoing rehab or his therapeutic sessions.



Gracias!
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Nobody: 3:12pm On May 14, 2016
vicstar:
• • • • • Here in d states u raise a finger and u lose the house. undecided
U mean oshodi abi cheesy
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by goingape: 3:13pm On May 14, 2016
once you start beating WOMEN you can never go back to normal.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by kaboninc(m): 3:19pm On May 14, 2016
MissGdope:
Run very very far away from any ma that lays his hands on you o! Many have waited for change but have ended up dead. Love is not worth the loss of your own life abeg. If a man can't control his temper and physically assaults you, who knows what false move he'll make one day and hit you in the wrong place and send you to an early grave.
Runn!! if you are in a physically abusive relationship, run o. run for your life because a dead person cannot hear "I'm sorry"

Run run run from a woman who uses her mouth to murder and cremate a man.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by viktor01(m): 3:22pm On May 14, 2016
What are you not saying? If Nigeria can experience CHANGE, who do you think cannot change? of course, a woman beater can change to a woman killer, ask Nigerian s.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Debbywills(f): 3:22pm On May 14, 2016
sinaj:
blood has nothing to do with this lol.


It's just that in Nigeria, counseling nd therapeutic services ain't recognized.

Else that's d work of the rehab.

I don't advice anyone to go into an abusive reltnshp.

If u notice it on time, u can opt out of the reltnship.

But in d case of marriage, u shud remember that he wasn't like that b4 u married him.
He use to b that sweet guy, u shud find out what went wrong in d marriage nd correct it via therapies.


Now u don't have to wait for him to kill you first.

You guys can be separated in d mean time while he is undergoing rehab or his therapeutic sessions.



Gracias!

Lol...He was that sweet, loving and caring guy before you married him was because he was pretending. Now you've married him and he began to show his real self.
Yeah, maybe he could change through God's intervention but I bet you that's going to be an huge task

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Nobody: 3:23pm On May 14, 2016
kaboninc:


Run run run from a woman who uses her mouth to murder and cremate a man.
yes it's better to run from her than to beat her and kill her in the process. run away from each other. such a relationship is toxic and headed for disaster

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by amtaken(f): 3:24pm On May 14, 2016
No man can beat me because my body is the temple of the Holy Ghost and no weapon formed against me shall prosper. Besides I am physically fit.

Dem never born the great grandma of the man wey go raise hand beat me. E mi ke!

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Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by vicstar(m): 3:26pm On May 14, 2016
HateU2:
U mean oshodi abi cheesy



WTF!! Get off my screen!! sad

Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by KevinDein: 3:26pm On May 14, 2016
MissGdope:
Run very very far away from any ma that lays his hands on you o! Many have waited for change but have ended up dead. Love is not worth the loss of your own life abeg. If a man can't control his temper and physically assaults you, who knows what false move he'll make one day and hit you in the wrong place and send you to an early grave.
Runn!! if you are in a physically abusive relationship, run o. run for your life because a dead person cannot hear "I'm sorry"
what do you have to say about verbally abusive women? We should pray for them? Fast for them to change?
Sheesh! its a two way thing. You ladies have done more harm with your mouths but I guess we should all keep shut and overlook it.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by gabbytabby: 3:31pm On May 14, 2016
I would like to think yes just for my sanity because I had a family who was in that situation and as a result we have become estranged.

The effect in my books damaged their first child till this day but they know if I know about any more of such occurrence(God forbidden) he is a gonner hence they do not talk to me.

I am proud of his accomplishment but detest this side of him. Apparently his dad used to beat the mum.
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by kaboninc(m): 3:35pm On May 14, 2016
MissGdope:

yes it's better to run from her than to beat her and kill her in the process. run away from each other. such a relationship is toxic and headed for disaster

If everybody starts running away from their problems they'll end up postponing the evil day.

My point is that most women beater or men who have ever laid their hands on their wife or gf didn't just do so because they feel like or its a passion or they derive pleasure in it. But in most cases, their women instigated it
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by Nobody: 3:35pm On May 14, 2016
vicstar:




WTF!! Get off my screen!! sad
will u keep kwayet undecided
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by robonski15(m): 3:39pm On May 14, 2016
BuddhaPalm:


You don't need to raise nothing. Once she decides she's done, you're fvcked.

There's absolutely no good reason for a male to get married in the US.

Splitting your current assets is not even the scariest scenario. Garnishing your future income is just pure evil, on the part of the law.

What About signing a prenup before marriage! Better that way
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by zicky(m): 3:44pm On May 14, 2016
amtaken:
No man can beat me because my body is the temple of the Holy Ghost and no weapon formed against me shall prosper. Besides I am physically fit.

Dem never born the great grandma of the man wey go raise hand beat me. E mi ke!

Sister mi na mouth you dey make, when the guy begin nack you na you go say leave him its love play
Re: Is It Possible For A Wife Beater To Change? by vislabraye(m): 3:46pm On May 14, 2016
colossus2:

Humans are not leopards.
Do people who meet their special woman ever have issues at any point in time?
Are you saying they have never quarreled?

If a husband habitually beats up his wife, it will be difficult for him to change. It's a different thing if he had beaten her once or 2ce out of anger. Cos marriage is not easy.

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