I was reading the report someone made on the front page about the violent activities of the husband on the sister. I didn't even bother to read through the artice or see the pictures because women are responsible for this.

Make no mistake, I am not in support of men laying hands on women but right now, I blame women for this! I no longer blame the men!

When a man hits a woman today in a relationship she would cry, give him the silent treatment, tell a friend, call him a dog and keep malice for 3 days or a week max then all is well again after a fake "I'm sorry" or "I didn't mean it" or "I was Angry". All is bliss again. And at work she would say it was an accident. Tell me, won't such a man repeat the same thing later? This doesn't change the man or make the man feel remorse it only makes him feel better and stronger with the idea that he is everything and she cannot survive without him. It's a simple theory.

"Assault.. Apologize.. Repeat"

And it goes on and on and on for months and later they would come online to wail "See what my husband did to me because I refused sex". That's bullsh!t. Many men have bought into the theory that they can do whatever they like to their partner Afterall, a simple apology and shopping would do the trick.

If the newspapers and media channels are filled with divorce stories and men getting arrested over violence trust me, many men would think twice. But when many instead of filing a law suit or a divorce as a result of violence are looking for pity online with lame sentimental stories that touch like someone tied them with ropes in the relationship then it won't stop. It would continue to spread like a plague and how long would the men be blamed? Are you chained to a chair?

This, is why i say that women today, are the cause of this. If your husband or boyfriend or whatever fvcking crap he is lays his hands on you the first time, get him arrested then file a divorce immediately set an example of him so others would learn but if you decide to sit and cry in your pillow, dear, you deserve whatever comes next if it happens again.

Like I said, I don't support violence in any form of relationship. It's wrong. It's illegal. But when the women are allowing it in the name of not allowing society to talk then we shouldn't blame men any longer. Maybe we should blame society. No! Men are society so blame Women!

coolsix:
Vinshu I agree with you. Most women today behave like kids without brain. #noOffence.

It's saddening. They stay in violent relationships for weeks and months then later come online looking for pity. Mtcheew like say dem use super glue to glue them to the marriage.

Vinshu:


They feel they are nothing without a man. That's why. A lady told me on yandex that she stays even when her husband is violent because she doesn't want to be labelled as a divorcee or make her child have divorced parents. Imagine that.

calliope:
If He hits you.... BLOW IS BALLS OFF ,

#saynotodomesticviolence.

calliope:
If He hits you.... BLOW his fvcking BALLS OFF ,

#saynotodomesticviolence.

calliope:
If He hits you.... BLOW his fvcking BALLS OFF ,

#saynotodomesticviolence.

coolsix:


Your signature says otherwise. Do yu know forgiveness is also what drives this thing. When she forgives her man

blowing the balls

If a man hits his woman the first time and he apologizes, definitely she will forgive him because she will accept it as a mistake and let things slide because she loves him.

KingCheezyPuff:
°Yes!! °•*Castrate his tail!
....3 or more good blows should imobilize him enough for you to get away.
#say no to domestic violence.

coolsix:


Your signature says otherwise. Do yu know forgiveness is also what drives this thing. When she forgives her man

KingCheezyPuff:
°•Sure will forgive him
...while I look at his crumpled over body are my shoe does him in.


Forgive?!!!
When he beating the taste outta her mouth?

coolsix:


I don't understand what you wrote.

However, it's not easy for a woman to fight a man. It won't end well. Let's not dwell on that. The point is, RUN!

Vinshu:
@Naijaboiy I understand that things may work differently down there but like you mentioned



This is wrong! If he loves her, he won't have made the mistake. So it's still part of it. How long would she continue to forgive? Why didn't she question his own love?

naijaboiy:

[b]First of all I am not speaking in favour of men who beat their women so that y'all won't box me up in one corner.

I only explained to you what really happens and why you should not blame the women. I've not heard of any woman who goes to report immediately her man hit her for the first time. It's always seen as a mistake, most times, if not every time she forgives him. Even the women ranting here about retaliating won't do anything other than to cry their pupils out.

I think what you should center your focus on should be on the women who still choose to remain in a constant violent relationship. Not something that happened only once.

We all make mistakes as humans, not to talk of in relationships. My woman may verbally insult me out of anger and later on apologize. I won't say because she insulted me this first time then I'll take drastic actions, I'll definitely accept it as a mistake and let things slide.

The problem now is, if she keeps repeating this behavior and I do nothing about it. But then again, the fact that I chose to remain in the relationship doesn't make me completely at fault for her utterances. She's the one who's meant to control her tongue and not wait for me to do it for her.

Per bolded, that is sounding quite off to me. A man can love his woman and still cheat on her, he can still beat her and may even kill her while still having strong feelings for her. Loving someone does not stop any human from doing what they want to do that will hurt the significant other.

So do not say "Because a man loves a woman he should not hit her". In my opinion love should not even be the reason why we should not be abusive to our partners. For every reason we should respect each other, not simply because we love each other but because we chose to stay together despite our differences.

So please don't make it sound like because you love someone then you are bound not to make any mistake at all, and I mean in general terms. Some men have hit their wives in the past and they have never tried it again because they regret their actions. I can categorize that as a mistake because such men were remorseful and didn't repeat it again.[/b]

naijaboiy:
[b]i support you that violence is not acceptable and that women are supposed to take actions when such thing repeats itself. But the problem with you is that you always write as if you are addressing an audience filled with people in the same geographical location as you are.

I keep telling you, this is not Europe. How many times do women down here successfully report their husband to the police and an action is taken? It is hardly applied here except you are wealthy or at least have enough money to bribe the police to arrest your husband and even hire a lawyer if it goes legal.

What most of them do is just to simply leave the man and continue with their lives.

Secondly, I think it is not far fetched as to why some women still remain in the relationship. If a man hits his woman the first time and he apologizes, definitely she will forgive him because she will accept it as a mistake and let things slide because she loves him.

Women are known generally to endure a lot of things from men so it is not surprising why so many women who find themselves in such situations act that way. They keep forgiving because they keep seeing it as a mistake he made. Nobody will just go directly to report an assault on the first, second and sometimes even third occurrence, because they believe their man will truly change.

Women who have gone on to report such cases of battering are known to have encountered past experiences before they finally gave up and took action.

You cannot blame them at all. Let the men who indulge in such crude actions stop taking advantage of their woman's forgiving nature to hurt her the more. The attackers are the problem, not the victims.[/b]

Vanquay:
This thread only reaffirms Women as lazy Golddigging Hoes

If you'RE in an Abusive relationship and don't want to leave it's because the man has got dough to feed your hungry ass.

OP thinks Husbands are as Bountiful as H2O...Continue your false sense Of Victory...

pucelle:
First time I will agree with vinshu on an issue

You made so much sense,just that women in this part of the world are not ready to be freed from domestic Violence.


They are dependent,and society conscious.

until this two issues are corrected,women will continue to be with monsters in the name or marriage and kids,and the death tow rises.

skarlett:
Its true most abused women aren't doing themselves good by staying but when the man is their major source of income, where can they go?

Vanquay:
This thread only reaffirms Women as lazy Golddigging Hoes

If you'RE in an Abusive relationship and don't want to leave it's because the man has got dough to feed your hungry ass.

OP thinks Husbands are as Bountiful as H2O...Continue your false sense Of Victory...

Vinshu:
Reserved!