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Here are the 5 stages of relationship



1. The Romance Stage

2. The Power Struggle Stage

3. The Stability Stage

4. The Commitment Stage

5. The Co-Creation or Bliss Stage


1. THE ROMANCE STAGE
(DRUG ADDICTION
PHASE)
Nature
designed the
Romance
Stage to have
us fall in love.
In fact, nature
forces us to
fall in love,
but not with
just anyone… Nature’s bias is towards
survival of the species. Adaptation and
growth are nature’s way of ensuring
survival.
THE REAL REASON YOU FELL IN
LOVE…
So how does nature ensure that we adapt
and grow?
Nature makes sure we fall in love with
the most incompatible person in the
entire universe…
…the person least capable of meeting our
needs and most capable of making our worst
nightmares come true.
Yet they are the PERFECT person to push our
every button and force us out of our
comfort zone to ADAPT and GROW.
But of course, when we fall in love, we don’t
see our partner’s flaws. If we knew about
them, we’d run like hell in the opposite
direction…
Which is exactly why nature has to DRUG
us!

2. THE POWER STRUGGLE STAGE (THE LOVE HANGOVER) The highest percentage of first marriage divorces happen here – around the 3 to 4 year mark. This is such a painful time for most couples as the illusion that ‘romantic love will last forever’ falls away and is replaced with feelings of disappointment and anger. Instead of seeing your similarities (like you did in the Romance stage), you begin focusing on your differences and your partner’s flaws. So, you get to work trying to change your partner back into the person you thought they were, or punish them for not being that way, or both. Often one partner pulls away and withdraws, needing space… and the other partner needily chases them feeling emotionally deserted. If you can relate to any of this in your own relationship, then your relationship is likely stuck in the Power Struggle Stage.

There are 2 ways most couples deal with the Power Struggle stage.
THEY BREAK UP: They take the nearest exit and break up. Very often these people are serial daters, never fully committing, always looking for love, but finding disappointment instead.
THEY SURVIVE: They continue along their journey together, surviving through the pain and frustration of a relationship that is stuck in the past and no longer growing. People who have chosen this option typically think that good relationships involve sacrifice and compromise. Their relationship eventually emotionally flatlines, along with their sex life. OVERCOMING THE POWER STRUGGLE STAGE The other alternative is that you overcome the Power Struggle , either on your own, or with professional guidance. You graduate from the Power Struggle stage when you: accept and appreciate each other’s differences learn to share power, and realize that using force will never get you what you want in love realize who you are and what you have (as a couple) give up your fantasies of harmony without struggle surrender to life just the way it is

Mine is not here.

3. THE STABILITY STAGE
Once you’ve learned how to fight in a way that both of you win, you move to the Stability stage. The thrill of being in love returns and if you’ve completed the Power Struggle stage, it returns in an even deeper, more mature form than in the Romance stage. In this stage, it finally becomes very clear that you’re never ever going to succeed in changing your partner and you’ve given up the desire to. You’re OK with your partner being different from you. You both have clear boundaries and you need to learn mutual respect. If you don’t, you go back to the Power Struggle

4. THE COMMITMENT STAGE
In the commitment stage, you fully surrender to the reality that you and your partner are human and that your relationship has shortcomings as a result. You have learned to love each other having to like each other and you choose each other consciously. You can honestly say to your partner, “I don’t need you. I choose you knowing all I know about you, good and bad.” You begin to experience a beautiful of balance of love, belonging, fun, power and freedom. The trap in this stage is thinking that all your work is done. While this may be somewhat true on an individual level, your work in the world a couple is just beginning.

5. THE BLISS / CO- CREATION STAGE
In this stage you become two people who have chosen to be a team moving out into the world. You move beyond the relationship and your relationship becomes a gift to the world. Often, couple in this stage work on a project together – some kind of shared creative work that is intended to contribute to the world in some way e.g. a business, a charity or a family.

Countrygirl:
Mine is not here.

check again

Ok

So beating stage dey ? the moment u try it ,relationship cancel niyen no going back ! No pleading

Pheals:
So beating stage dey ? the moment u try it ,relationship cancel niyen no going back ! No pleading

lol....as u can see its the lady beating the guy....u ladies and your slaps....but its just an indicator of the strugle....no violence involved or promoted. Thanks

[color=teal]Am at the single stage, where I can live young, wild and free....... [/color]♣♣♣

I have not bought a ticket to board that ship called relationship.

Stability stage @ the moment.

BrownCookie:
Stability stage @ the moment.

happy for u....and may it go well as you have planned it to be

[quote author=Pheals post=45760681]So beating stage dey ? the moment u try it ,relationship cancel niyen no going back ! No pleading[/quote

I think you need it once in a while... to reset you...

poshpappy:
happy for u....and may it go well as you have planned it to be

Amen

wordbank:
Stability stage I guess
But now I'm on chow stage
Make I chop first

lol.....how was your night....and was it with yo partner??......

[quote author=BiafraBushBoy post=45761254][/quote]na bush boys dey beat his gf or wife b4 ...because na Bush gals den dey marry b4

Ooohhhkkk......... Am in the single stage. But very nice piece tho

Mizzara:
Ooohhhkkk......... Am in the single stage. But very nice piece tho

single by choice or looking forward to an imperfect pefect partner??

poshpappy:
single by choice or looking forward to an imperfect pefect partner??

By choice.... Or maybe my standard are too Rare

Mizzara:
By choice.... Or maybe my standard are too Rare

why not tune down ur standard a bit....get a coool cat and giv a chance...nd build an empire together....just saying....it works atimes

Pheals:
na bush boys dey beat his gf or wife b4 ...because na Bush gals den dey marry b4

Chai... lol..

Na me you dey call bush boy...

My moniker don kimme...

poshpappy:
why not tune down ur standard a bit....get a coool cat and giv a chance...nd build an empire together....just saying....it works atimes

Trust me my standard is not high...its jst rare and I don't wanna waste my time with the wrong person

Mizzara:
Trust me my standard is not high...its jst rare and I don't wanna waste my time with the wrong person

wow....cooool...i like that....strong will....if u dont mind....we cn be frds...i like keeping rare friends....

poshpappy:
wow....cooool...i like that....strong will....if u dont mind....we cn be frds...i like keeping rare friends....

Mizzara:

y yo laffing @ me na...lol

Ok

Pway that ya statement don't caught up with you, actually is not ok of a guy to beat his lady, no mra what