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bulldoza:
So because of this bullshitz, u created another account and a dumb mod help you push this nonsense into fp

Rubbish

Are you the husband?

*shsss*

MrDoGood:
I'm suspecting you.........

freecocoa:
I don't understand, no woman should have his number because he is married? He doesn't have colleagues? Former school mates? Business associates? Acquaintances?

Did i say anything about no woman should have his contacts? who even said they were colleagues or former school mates? Anyways who they are is besides the point. For a woman to be comfortable enough to ask a man out says a lot. He obviously allowed that to happen with his approach with these ladies. Maybe you are the type to have conversations as a married woman to all sorts of men and it may be okay for you as well as okay for your spouse but its not okay for me and many other woman. I dont believe a married man or woman should be entertaining other men or women

Has fuel increased d price of koboko in your area too?

Saddenedsoul:
I've tried something crazy before, don't want to compound my problems. The fact that he keeps his calm just further drives me crazy

i knw ur angry....his calmness just means that there is notin goin on...just calm down and talk to him like a wife and not the husband.,..am sure he will give u answers

realtalk19:
what you dont know will not kill you. stop looking and consider yourself special for him to av choosen you to be his wife. as long as domestic violence or serial cheating wit evidence isnt shown from him yet,there is stil hope.stop doubting and commnicate wit him more often as ur husband. no one is perfect, besides his chats isnt a concrete evidence that hes sleeping wit them.

what if they are the one hitting on your husband?

what if he deleted the chats and u neva saw it,wuld u know about it?

what if his colleague used his laptop to chat?

what if its nothing personal?

give him a benefit of doubt and act wisely afterall before the chats you saw u trusted him. dnt allow the devil to penetrate ur home. erase ur mind from what u saw and focus on building a happy home.dnt feel intidated by unseen girls who ar enjoying themselves nd having fun somewhere while you are tucked in ur own worries and giving yourself high blood pressure on a man thats already yours forever.

very nice contribution, and in addition... The woman must not confront him now but this is the best time to be closer to him more and get more of his attention, communicate often and deeply with him. Pray for him also... Prayer is very important at this stage.
I would recommend that u share this issue with this woman( http://www.amaraofficial.com/ ) she is surely gonna be of help to u

Madam,wif d way d world is going u cn only stop having competitors wen all d teeth in ur husband's mouth are gone,due to old age. Jst b cool wif ursef n family,at least u r d one wearing his ring. Every side chick wil pray to become a Mrs someday bt nt to ur husband.

callmebeauty:
Are you the husband?

who open gate 4 dis one

kiyosaki1:
From your comment it can be deduce that you are the type of woman that's man's dependent.A man is cheating and you are advising a fellow woman to condole it .....hmm

excuse me mr kiyosaki1 where did u see d evidence in the op write up that hes cheating except for watsapp mesaages.so u xpect her to throw tantrums nd start looking for evidence.for ur info i respect my husband's privacy nd apply wisdom to handle situations.asides from domestic violence and serial cheating wit concrete evidence and proof ,evry other issues can be handled wit wisdom

bonetalk:
very nice contribution, and in addition... The woman must not confront him now but this is the best time to be closer to him more and get more of his attention, communicate often and deeply with him. Pray for him also... Prayer is very important at this stage.
I would recommend that u share this issue with this woman( http://www.amaraofficial.com/ ) she is surely gonna be of help to u

God bless u sir.may u av more wisdom to the one u have.

babysophie:
Na today? D ones dey go out for most tyms r wells n boreholes,worse dan d woman at home.

It's a big lie. That's the truth you women fail to accept. No one goes out to seek for dilapidated pu$$1 when he has a fresh one at home.

Simple advice. Keep the damn meat fresh for your husband. If it's too hard to do then it won't be too hard for him to cheat.

Subom1:
Did i say anything about no women should have his contacts? who even said they were colleagues or former school mates? Anyways who they are is besides the point. For a woman to be confortable enough to ask a man out says a lot. He obviously allowed that to happen with his approach with these .ladies. Mayve you are the type to have conversations as a married woman to all sorts of men and it may be okay for you as well as okay for your spouse but its not okay for me and many other woman. I dont believe a married man or woman should be entertaining other men or women

My friend calm down, what brought me into the conversation? Why make it about me being okay with talking to all sorts of men in marriage?

You implied that the women having his number is as good as him cheating, on the grounds that he gave them the number. I was merely saying anyone in the listed groups could have his number as people will always be in a person's life, any of such person's of the opposite sex can ask him out, excepting maybe blood relatives.

Instead of you to reply like a rational person, you are hinting at the possibility of me being in support of women talking to all sorts of men after marriage.

How did he allow it to happen? Is he inside the minds of the women asking him out? How can he stop them from asking him out? Do you even need to be friendly with someone before they can ask you out? Don't you even know that some people are daring and persistent?

I don't even know what you are going on about, you are suggesting you didn't say women shouldn't have his contact and you are also saying a married person shouldn't entertain(who knows what you mean) other people, try and make you point clearer.

From the description of your husband, it sounds like he is alot like me. Introverted, thinker, self confident man of little words. If he is anything like me which from your description I believe, then those attention he gets from females now he didn't get in the past while in school he is now successful as and now females want him. It like a kid who has a new toy it will fascinate him awhile and interest him alot. You have to be his mother now and think like his mother not necessary to control but making feel loved and valued massage his ego. for example when you see those things o whatApp don't confront him at all. When you feel he has to go away, help him dress up, look in his eyes maintain contact smile lovingly and tell him you know that he is so handsome successful and all and this comes with alot of attraction from women. Tell you trust him to always be there and overcome them, tell him you know the man you married and you are sure he is faithful to you and you have his full confidence. try this he would be the one coming to you and poor his heart out to you.

Cutehector:
if u don't want to screw ur marriage, u take dat laptop opening the whatsapp page and shove it to his face and give him a piece of ur mind tellin him if this marriage fails, he should knw he caused it. Den walk out of his presence.

I totally disagree this is d worst advice ave seen in a long while, shove wat to his face, wat if he doesn't play along with these ladies? Wat if he's mind is clear? If he really had all that sinister motives don't u feel he won't part with he's laptop in d first place, pls my darling I'd advice u have a heart to heart talk with ur man, give him good sex and food, pamper him, then open up about wat u discovered make him understand ur hurting, please don't let the devil into ur hone through this means. Be matured and d Lord will guide and protect ur marriage

UIA04:
You sef dey give marriage advice yimu

sharap and watch the movie madea.

Avalon316:
It's a big lie. That's the truth you women fail to accept. No one goes out to seek for dilapidated pu$$1 when he has a fresh one at home.

Simple advice. Keep the damn meat fresh for your husband. If it's too hard to do then it won't be too hard for him to cheat.

Ok,wat den wil u say of a man hu had a nulliparous wif bt was caught in d act wif anoda man's nursing wife,a moda of two?

callmebeauty:
Are you the husband?

How is it your business?

Always have it in ur mind that all men are polygamous in nature. Seeing something and pretend as if you dont see it makes someone live long. And always hav it in your mind that what will be will be. Stop disturbing yourself

babysophie:
Ok,wat den wil u say of a man hu had a nulliparous wif bt was caught in d act wif anoda man's nursing wife,a moda of two?

There are exceptions to every rule. I understand that some men will cheat on their young wives with grannies sef.

Some sef no well. Their problems no get solution.
I was referring to the normal sane guys.

Please mods kindly remove this thread. This lady pls if u like go and confront ur husband, if possible fight him and do whatever u wish cos u saw some messages on ur husband whatsapp. Remember men are scarce, the population of unmarried women doubles everyday. Maybe u want to be part of the statistics. Nonsense

Avalon316:
There are exceptions to every rule. I understand that some men will cheat on their young wives with grannies sef.

Some sef no well. Their problems no get solution.
I was referring to the normal sane guys.

Hmmm,hw many of d normal guys are sane regarding to cheating ?

freecocoa:
My friend calm down, what brought me into the conversation? Why make it about me being okay with talking to all sorts of men in marriage?

You implied that the women having his number is as good as him cheating, on the grounds that he gave them the number. I was merely saying anyone in the listed groups could have his number as people will always be in a person's life, any of such person's of the opposite sex can ask him out, excepting maybe blood relatives.

Instead of you to reply like a rational person, you are hinting at the possibility of me being in support of women talking to all sorts of men after marriage.

How did he allow it to happen? Is he inside the minds of the women asking him out? How can he stop them from asking him out? Do you even need to be friendly with someone before they can ask you out? Don't you even know that some people are daring and persistent?

I don't even know what you are going on about, you are suggesting you didn't say women shouldn't have his contact and you are also saying a married person shouldn't entertain(who knows what you mean) other people, try and make you point clearer.

i am very calm thank you.
I really do not have time nor energy to respond to your long epistles and going back and fourth on this issue. I stand by what i say and you do too so lets just agree to disagree.

babysophie:
Hmmm,hw many of d normal guys are sane regarding to cheating ?

You won't understand it. I just don't even know what makes us wanna taste different women. Probably cos different women taste differently. If you had a d1ck,you will understand.

Should I borrow you mine for a month? I can imagine what you will do with it?

Confront him, when ever a serious married man is confronted of cheating especially with prove like WhatsApp messages, he will deny. But that may stop him if really loves you and respect your union. More importantly he will know that you will never accept or condone cheating. Let him know the consequences of such, preach to him and beg him not to bungle the union. He will deny but it will stop him totally or slow him down from continuing such. You too try to satisfy your man sexually. After first issue women do abandoned their husband for the care of the baby, it only takes a matured mind to appreciate that it was for my child. May GOD Guide you aright and strengthen your marriage.

Just face your own part as a wife. Cheating men will always cheat and men that are not cheats wont cheat no matter what you do. Be a total woman to your husband and he wont need to cheat (most times) and if he choose to; there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Don't let anybody deceive you with any fake theory, just don't think about it. I have been married for 9 years now and I am simply not the cheating type, thou I have some friends that are chronic cheats and have been my friends even before I got married so my wife knows their stories, never the less, I am yet to give her any reason to doubt me and she also has never taken out time to look for any reason too. Not that she does not care, she once told me that the day she will catch me with a woman she will typically/practically kill me and I knew she was not joking, so I dey respect myself, I no wan die

[quote author=mizlovette post=46090133]I'd advice u have a heart to heart talk with ur man, give him good sex and food, pamper him, then open up about wat u discovered make him understand ur hurting]

Chai!!!! This is the formula. Use what you have to keep your husbands.

Sister mizlovette,i dey look you with one eye.

Hmmm..buh thrz a missing part in the story

U r yet to tell us his replies to these messages(which am sure u saw as well)...
His replies to these msgs wud the basis for whatever thoughts trend u wanna concoct

Hm, curiosity, you borrowed his laptop to work but rather than do that which it was borrowed for, curiosity, you opened where you should not have and saw what you should not have seen. You inflilted yourself with the problem. Well, just in playful mood, say mistakenly you saw this when he gave you his laptop and you were scared. Whatever explainations he gives please accept with gentle plea to save your young marriage. Men, men will always be men, don't cage them otherwise you will ruin then for life and he will never be your dream hushand again. Plead with him to becareful with girls outside becos they are always ready with deadly charms to remote men and you are not ready to loose him to someone else who will turn him an slowpoke. Make him your great friend. Please don't raise your voice while talking to him. Don't go anywhere with anybody becos that pastor or others, ask yourself, are they able to pray themselves out of their own problems. Pray to your God on how you understand and ask His grace to continually guide your marriage. Don't quarrel with him becos if you do, you get depressed and you would have finally given him visa to go and ruin himself also. And please, never you check his phone if you are not intentionally inviting hypetention/death to yourself, it a warning. Girls, leave married men alone to enjoy their marriage, your own will surely come, its never too late, don't mind african mindset. We are all living by His grace and not by anybody. May God in His infinite mercies protect your marriage. Amen.

Subom1:
i am very calm thank you.
I really do not have time nor energy to respond to your long epistles and going back and fourth on this issue. I stand by what i say and you do too so lets just agree to disagree.

You haven't said anything reasonable so far and standing by it doesn't change that anyways, so it's all good.

Odunharry:
This is true.. I wonder why people will keep crying when they saw the sign during courtship/relationship and will still go ahead without solving the issue thinking the other person will change.

Honestly, I see no reason why couples should hide their Fones from each other..
attitude lik this breed suspicion and before we know it..

I really don't get what people take this marriage for, if they aren't ready to be married, why marry? Those that hide phone know they are shady, so they will prefer to keep things discreet. This marriage thing no be by force oo.



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Avalon316:
You won't understand it. I just don't even know what makes us wanna taste different women. Probably cos different women taste differently. If you had a d1ck,you will understand.

Should I borrow you mine for a month? I can imagine what you will do with it?

Laffs...i dnt nid a d1ck to understand. Indiscipline is d main reason cos in d end u get d same feeling after ejaculation,which is exhaustion. Kwantinu,na longerthroat dey worry una n una pocket n d1ck na im go pay.

babysophie:
Laffs...i dnt nid a d1ck to understand. Indiscipline is d main reason cos in d end u get d same feeling after ejaculation,which is exhaustion. Kwantinu,na longerthroat dey worry una n una pocket n d1ck na im go pay.

You think our problem is indiscipline? You think we love to hurt our babes,wives? Nah. You girls need to put us in your prayers. This issue no be by power.

Btw,our pockets may suffer but our d1cks see it as won battles.