Tatian:

I have been dating him for close to three yrs. He's jst the same way since have met him, he's never romantic, never caring, always giving excuses but, always sincere when he does so. Have always thought of quitting but, can't just bring myself to do so. Am going crazy. pls nairalanders, i need candid and honest advice.

What do you mean you just can't bring yourself to quit the relationship?

Sine1:

which 1 is pasapasa abi pokasoko pls move to one side.

poster
what do u like him?

Tatian:

I have been dating him for close to three yrs. He's jst the same way since have met him, he's never romantic, never caring, always giving excuses but, always sincere when he does so. Have always thought of quitting but, can't just bring myself to do so. Am going crazy. pls nairalanders, i need candid and honest advice.

Rosabelle:

Leave him before he leaves you. He's bidding his time until the girl he wants to marry returns from whereever she is, or until his parents find him a wife. He's just not that into you. RUN

Tatian:

He's jst the same way since have met him,

Missy B:

You must have a very good knowledge of the dude in Q.

Rosabelle:

Nope I dont. This is just experience talking here. A man who loves a woman wont make her doubt his feelings for her. He'l makesure she always knows how he feels, even if he doesnt say anything.

Tatian:

He's jst the same way since have met him,

Missy B:

That You were being played doesn't mean she is.
T's not like he changed over night or after having intimate relations wiff her . . . .
She said:

Rosabelle:

Yep , she said he's been that way since they met. She's probably been waiting for him to change and he hasnt. Cos he wont.

Rosabelle:

MissyB, a woman always knows. We just have a way of ignoring the writing on the wall.

Rosabelle:

If she's so insecure after 3 yrs, theres definitely something wrong.

FL Gators:

3 years? Dude got bored.
A guy that's too "busy" to care for his woman, too "busy" to talk to her or communicate, too "busy" to ever be caring does not want your ass nomore.
Quit and stop emotionally depending on him. grrrrr, women love wasting time

Rosabelle:

What exactly is your argument?? Cos Im not sure anymore  

Rosabelle:

Cos one time you say he doesnt have to be cheating on her cos I was cheated on, and then in another breath you ask why its so hard for her to bounce if he's always been like this whats up

CrazyMan:

I still don't get your story; why did it have to take you three years before knowing that he doesn't have time for you?

Also, I believe that you should know by now if he's seeing someone else or his excuses are genuine.

finally, if this your story is true, then I would suggest that you have a heart to heart discussion with him; and be sure that you pour out your heart and tell him how you feel about his attitude. One doesn't just throw away a three year old relationship as tho it were some crap; there should always be a room for a change.

Missy B:

I'm not arguing wiff You . . .I'm just touching Your points where necessary.

Rosabelle:

It happens. You think maybe the deeper we go, the better thigns will get, and they just dont. And then because youre so used to waiting, you wait anyway. And you tell yourself to be patient . And then you wait somemore. And then youre done waiting, but you ask yourself: what if he's ready now and I leave?
Its not easy. You have to take the full dose and then you know you'l never go down that road again. This is her's I guess lol

Tatian:

Thank you all nairalanders. A bigger thank you to you ROSABELLE. It seems as if, you you live my world. More of your advise will do a whole lot of good to others out there because, i kn some people ve similar cases. WELL DONE. @ FL. i don't depend on him. Infact he has never solved any of my financial problems. Meanwhile, the idea of quitting is really bothering because,each time i try, something keeps telling me dat am going to miss out. There are times when i refuse to call or see him and when if eventually calls, he complains i don't call. i just don't understand anymore,