₦airaland Forum

Lots of marriages fail these days as a result of the unrealistic goals and expectations that couples set before marriage. Many people venture into marriage for the wrong reasons; some cannot even say why they are in it.

Ladies most times are to be blamed here; they always seem to have certain standards the men are expected to meet before they agree to marry them. They keep chasing vague things and pay little or no attention to important matters. Many women get married because of the pressure placed on them by their family members or the society.



Some of them feel the need to get married because their mates are doing it and they want the man they would end up with to fit some fictional characters in their heads. These wrong choices or criteria often make them fall into the wrong hands and ruin their chances of being happy.





Find below some of the weird things ladies check in men before marrying them:


1. Height

This is the first thing a woman is likely to say when you ask her about the things she desires in a man. Every woman wants men that are tall. No one wants a short man.

Some women would even say they cannot date men that are taller than they. Thus, when they meet men who are tall and have one or two traits that fit their vague qualities, they tune in and fall in love with them.


2. Well-furnished Apartment

Ladies do not want to settle for less now when they are planning for marriage. Every woman wants a man who is successful and has different properties to show with it. Men who have their own houses are presumed to be better than men who don’t.

These houses have to be furnished to taste and classy for the women to fit into them. If a man does not have this or something close enough, some women would not agree to marry them.


3. Wealth

Every woman wants a man that can see to her financial needs. Money is important to a lot of women out there and they would not settle down with men who are struggling financially.

Men who cannot meet their needs may not even make the list of suitors they would be considering. It does not matter whether the man has some hidden demons as long as he has enough money in his account.

4. Cars

Now, it would amaze you to discover that some ladies would not date men who do not have a car. As soon as you approach them on with your ‘leggedbenz’ and they do not see you holding a car key, it is a no-no.

Some ladies love comfort and would not trade anything for it. Before you stand a chance to talk to them at all, your appearance has to speak a ton about you.

5. Romance

Some ladies simply love it when they meet guys who are romantic; they love men who would read lines of poems to them and make them feel like princesses. They enjoy the attention they get from men like these and would immediately fall for their gentle and romantic gestures.

As far as some of these women are concerned, the men’s ability to show love and care while being romantic is more than enough.

6. Citizenship

As soon as some ladies get to know the guys asking them out are not Nigerians or they have dual citizenship, love happens. Ladies love the concept of marrying foreigners or men who would give them the fair chance of stepping outside the shores of this country.

You would be shocked to discover that some ladies would be willing to marry some men as soon as they know they have passports to other countries.


7. Presence of six packs



Women certainly love men who are physically fit; they believe guys that are well-built are manly and would be able to perform better than men who are not. The presence of six packs would make some of the ladies melt and get wet on the spot. They would always choose a man with a firm body over a man with a pot belly.


8. $exual Performance

Women no doubt love men whose strength in bed can be likened to that of a stallion; they love men who can drive them to different peaks of desire when it comes to $exual activities.

Knowing fully well that many women end up cheat*ng in marriage as a result of $ex, they would rather go for men who would make them go wild with desire and leave their bodies limp after being satisfied.


9. Occupation



Many ladies want to get married to men who have good jobs. They will always ask about the men’s place of work within the first few minutes they meet and would use the details to map out their plans about them. Men who work in oil and gas companies are seen as better suitors as compared to those who teach.


In the same light, bankers are preferred to mechanics. Women love the idea of being known with men who have good jobs in the society.

10. Talent and Fame

Some ladies want to marry men who are talented and famous. It is highly ridiculous finding women who are ready to spend the rest of their lives with certain men because of the talents the men have and how famous they have become.

Therefore, it is not strange when you see some women who have dreams of getting married to some artistes and public figures they do not know personally. As long as they have talents they like, then getting married to them is no big deal.

ikbnice:
and that's more of the reason why many ends up being single at 40 or lands in a marriage full of disapointments because their expectation is too high.

The funny part is that most of these ladies are the type their father had no shoes when their mother married him.

Psoul:
Lots of marriages fail these days as a result of the unrealistic goals and expectations that couples set before marriage. Many people venture into marriage for the wrong reasons; some cannot even say why they are in it.

Ladies most times are to be blamed here; they always seem to have certain standards the men are expected to meet before they agree to marry them. They keep chasing vague things and pay little or no attention to important matters. Many women get married because of the pressure placed on them by their family members or the society.



Some of them feel the need to get married because their mates are doing it and they want the man they would end up with to fit some fictional characters in their heads. These wrong choices or criteria often make them fall into the wrong hands and ruin their chances of being happy.





Find below some of the weird things ladies check in men before marrying them:


1. Height

This is the first thing a woman is likely to say when you ask her about the things she desires in a man. Every woman wants men that are tall. No one wants a short man.

Some women would even say they cannot date men that are taller than they. Thus, when they meet men who are tall and have one or two traits that fit their vague qualities, they tune in and fall in love with them.


2. Well-furnished Apartment

Ladies do not want to settle for less now when they are planning for marriage. Every woman wants a man who is successful and has different properties to show with it. Men who have their own houses are presumed to be better than men who don’t.

These houses have to be furnished to taste and classy for the women to fit into them. If a man does not have this or something close enough, some women would not agree to marry them.


3. Wealth

Every woman wants a man that can see to her financial needs. Money is important to a lot of women out there and they would not settle down with men who are struggling financially.

Men who cannot meet their needs may not even make the list of suitors they would be considering. It does not matter whether the man has some hidden demons as long as he has enough money in his account.

4. Cars

Now, it would amaze you to discover that some ladies would not date men who do not have a car. As soon as you approach them on with your ‘leggedbenz’ and they do not see you holding a car key, it is a no-no.

Some ladies love comfort and would not trade anything for it. Before you stand a chance to talk to them at all, your appearance has to speak a ton about you.

5. Romance

Some ladies simply love it when they meet guys who are romantic; they love men who would read lines of poems to them and make them feel like princesses. They enjoy the attention they get from men like these and would immediately fall for their gentle and romantic gestures.

As far as some of these women are concerned, the men’s ability to show love and care while being romantic is more than enough.

6. Citizenship

As soon as some ladies get to know the guys asking them out are not Nigerians or they have dual citizenship, love happens. Ladies love the concept of marrying foreigners or men who would give them the fair chance of stepping outside the shores of this country.

You would be shocked to discover that some ladies would be willing to marry some men as soon as they know they have passports to other countries.


7. Presence of six packs



Women certainly love men who are physically fit; they believe guys that are well-built are manly and would be able to perform better than men who are not. The presence of six packs would make some of the ladies melt and get wet on the spot. They would always choose a man with a firm body over a man with a pot belly.


8. $exual Performance

Women no doubt love men whose strength in bed can be likened to that of a stallion; they love men who can drive them to different peaks of desire when it comes to $exual activities.

Knowing fully well that many women end up cheat*ng in marriage as a result of $ex, they would rather go for men who would make them go wild with desire and leave their bodies limp after being satisfied.


9. Occupation



Many ladies want to get married to men who have good jobs. They will always ask about the men’s place of work within the first few minutes they meet and would use the details to map out their plans about them. Men who work in oil and gas companies are seen as better suitors as compared to those who teach.


In the same light, bankers are preferred to mechanics. Women love the idea of being known with men who have good jobs in the society.

10. Talent and Fame

Some ladies want to marry men who are talented and famous. It is highly ridiculous finding women who are ready to spend the rest of their lives with certain men because of the talents the men have and how famous they have become.

Therefore, it is not strange when you see some women who have dreams of getting married to some artistes and public figures they do not know personally. As long as they have talents they like, then getting married to them is no big deal.

sade1994:
What I mostly check for is if you are hardworking.. .

ikbnice:
and that's more of the reason why many ends up being single at 40 or lands in a marriage full of disapointments because their expectation is too high.

The funny part is that most of these ladies are the type their father had no shoes when their mother married him.

ummeey:
What is 6packs? I have a crush on rickross!

illuminada:
Hahahahahahaaa.....dis comment almost killed me

ummeey:
You don't understand, am for real.

illuminada:
Ummeey...Beht why na, hahahaha. This is even more hilarious than the first post.
Question for you...what are the qualities/features in a guy that'll make him ideal for you?

ummeey:
Lol do I even know?

ummeey:
What is 6packs? I have a crush on rickross!

ummeey:
You don't understand, am for real.

ikbnice:
and that's more of the reason why many ends up being single at 40 or lands in a marriage full of disapointments because their expectation is too high.

The funny part is that most of these ladies are the type their father had no shoes when their mother married him.

LuveU2:
How come you want
a pretty, curvy, intelligent and homely woman for wife. Aint these not high expectations?

Nasri100:
Is it weird? No. Boils down to taste and desire. I used to have a strict policy of dating only busty girls but my ex wasnt busty. It is okay for a woman to have her fantasy.

LuveU2:
How come you want
a pretty, curvy, intelligent and homely woman for wife. Aint these not high expectations?

illuminada:
Lol.....what are your expectations though

BoboFashion:
Dont tell me u didnt have all these o, cos am coming to pay ur dowry sooner o.