harrysjones:
HE NEED prayer prayer is d master key

lol ignorant is a disease, i am still like till now, nothing like prayers, he is not confortable there, prayers doesn't solve everything

Op pls carry ur boy on ur lap, cuddle and play with him for a bit den try to coax him to share his experience and feelings about school, his teachers and classmates. It is like he is being victimized or put down in school by his teacher because he may have exhibited a character pattern that may have made the teacher thinks he is dull. So many of our teachers don't really know their jobs. So find out everything you can about the school, his teacher and classmates. Draw ur son out with patience and love. I grew up like ur son, my parents never cared to find out but I have vowed my kids will never go through same. It can be very traumatic.

Omotakins:
School is the issue. He has home teacher and we teach him at home,too He will just not talk in school making the school say he might repeat class.

A 4 years old kid repeating class? A 4 years old kid has a home teacher? Whaat? Why are you abusing your kid?

Change the teacher or you change his school. Some teachers aren't friendly to pupils, even their facial look alone scare pupils from being him or herself, so my advice is that you talk to the teacher to be more friendly with your boy or talk to the school owner and if the complain continues, you can change his school.

octopusfreaky:
yes his teacher should be blamed,, a Kindergarten teacher should be able to receive children warmly and must be friendly. Pay extra attention to the child and u will see changes. I dont fnk Nigerian teacher are patient enough.

A teacher is not a shrink. The teacher brought the child's challenge to the notice of his father because she/he was concerned about the child's academic progress. If this is not commendable to you, well you are not easy to satisfy.

Why would a child evidently learn from school but not even talk in class? That looks like a special need. The father knows his son is learning but the teacher cannot evaluate anything because the boy has not shown what he has learnt. You can hardly blame a teacher for that. The boy needs to be coaxed into being social at school.

Interesting issue. I have similar experience with my little girl, the first thing that came to wife's mind was to change the school, because she couldn't cope with the situation anymore, even when i refused cos i was believing that she will improve but surprisingly, i as soon as i agreed to change her school, almost immediately we observed changes and ever since then happiness never seized. So pls CHANGE THE SCHOOOOOOOOOL

Interesting issue. I have similar experience with my little girl, the first thing that came to my wife's mind was to change the school, because she couldn't cope with the situation anymore, even when i refused cos i was believing that she will improve but surprisingly, i as soon as i agreed to change her school, almost immediately we observed changes and ever since then happiness never seized. So pls CHANGE THE SCHOOOOOOOOOL

Many kids are like that. I personally told my daughter's teacher to spank my daughter anytime she refuses to respond in class though the school does not allow kids to be flogged, it was a secret arrangement I had with d teacher and it worked! Now she represents her class in quizz competition.

@Op! My 4 yr old Son was like that and my 2 yr old daughter is like that too! They are both smart and very intelligent. If you want him to remain in that school, engage the teacher and build his confidence. I had to change my son's school and took him to a school with fewer pupils so the teacher can give him attention and he wont be lost in the crowd!
Engage him personally and let him talk more. He should not be shouted at when he says anything - no matter how seemingly irrelevant the matter he is discussing is.
I push him to ask his peers their names and take him to several outings - music school outside our immediate environment. He is so amazing now. I have started the same process with my daughter and she is also on track now.

If I were you I wont allow him repeat but take him to another school for summer school and get a second opinion.

It is well.

so u dont believe in prayer :oGOD IS UR STRENGTH

Zceesneh:
lol ignorant is a disease, i am still like till now, nothing like prayers, he is not confortable there, prayers doesn't solve everything

Change school!

Your boy has no problem.he possibly feel intimidated in school and his teachers might not be helping matter. educationally,shame last longer than pain. considering his age,aches and hurts sticks to kids memory easily.he might have attempted answering questions that he missed.if the teacher in response scolds or embaras him.he wouldnt want to mingle anymore in class cos he isnt sure what his classmate thinks of his self identity if he is a dullard if his teacher did say that.he also wouldnt want to talk to the teacher either even if he knows the answer to teacher's question. thereby he would withdraw to a shell in school but spill out everything to parents and home tutor who would listen to his jargon and brillance.ur boy to me is the sensitive type. i advice dt either u change d sch or his class teacher b changed to one that would acknowledge pupils individual differences and essence of positive motivation in learning

harrysjones:
so u dont believe in prayer :oGOD IS UR STRENGTH

i believe in prayers buh not everything needs prayer, God is ur strength too

babatee08:
Jst passing by hmmmm

don't ever pass by on important issues like these

babatee08:
Jst passing by hmmmm

don't ever pass by on important issues like this

The problem most likely is with his school teacher. Some teachers scare kids into silence.

I have a daughter exactly like this at this same age like yours, she recites and writes everything at home but very quiet in school despite the money we are paying for both the school fee and private lessons with the same teacher in her school. She came 20th in class and I was hurt so bad that I told her teacher I will withdraw her from the school if I don't see any noticeable improvement in her. Sometimes I do scold her if she's not doing her homework on time, and I made sure I was close to her and buy things for her before I left Nigeria recently. Recently, her position jumped from 20 to 3 and currently doing very well in class and competing with the number 1 student. This to me not surprising because she is very smart but playful. I don't think changing the school will have any impact on him, just get close to him and try to understand why he is quiet in school and playful at home. You can as well visit his school unannounced and try to see for yourself since the problem is from the school. I also did that and ask my daughter to read in my presence.

You need to change the child's school ASAP. I used to have a daughter like that some years ago, but the moment we changed her school she began to respond well in class and her performance improved greatly. Also if the class teacher is hostile and very aggressive such a child will rather keep quiet than talk in the class.

Have you tried asking him what the problem is? It's amazing how much insight children already have into themselves and their environment by the age of 4.
The problem appears to be situational though, since it only happens in school. Is he being bullied? Does he interact well in other settings outside the home? He might have social anxiety issues which you will have to address very vigorously otherwise he might never adjust later even as an adult.

Oyimeoyimemua:
sound friendly and find out what normally happens in class
how does the class teacher relate with pupils

kick start a conversation about his school and observe his reactions and response

find out from the class teacher how your child relates with other kids in class and out of class

ask him intentional questions about his teacher

ask him to tell you the names of his friends in d class

Alos do the following
1. Ask you boy what he wants to be in the future
2 let him know that to be way ever he wants to be he needs to:
a. Listen in class

b. write in class

c. Answer questions in class

d. Do his home work
On you part keep talking to him patiently, children respond to academic environment differently. Gradually he will come out of his shell and you you will be suprised.good luck

He's shy. Please allow him to repeat if needs be. Do not try to force him so he doesn't feel bullied rather let him go at his own pace.

Jcob:
There is nothing wrong with your child. I guess he started school late hence keeping to him self in school this period. At age 4, he should be in Nursery 1. Truth is everything taught in school his sticking to his brain and can reproduce in a warm environment (Teacher and co pupils).

Visit the school and see how the teacher relates with them. At that stage, teaching should be individual based and not general. What is the age range of those in the class and well does he relate with his mates.

The teacher in school can be of help by using incentives and motivation methods to make him crawl out of his shell. HE is just being shy!

You can also involve the proprietor or proprietress of the school.

This is the right thing to do and the first step to take. Also note the child's attitude when dropping him off at school. Some schools admit more than they can handle in a class and teachers ( in some cases with only one minder) tend to be a bit impatient with children of this age. Please if the proprietor or proprietress of the school does not do much to help your son's situation kindly change to another as this could affect him as they grow older.

Omotakins:
My son(almost 4yrs) is in the reception class. He doesn't respond to teachings at school, doesn't talk or play. This is the exact opposite at home. Plays very well at home, sings and talks about all he's taught in the school. He responds very well to the teachings of his home teacher. His teacher in school is saying he will repeat class 'cos there is nothing to show he's learnt things. What do I do? Teachers, educators and Co, ur help is needed pls.

Please don't listen to those who have said, change his school. If the environment is not friendly, your child cannot learn anything to the extent of producing it at home. I am a professional teacher with 12 years of experience. I have taught many types of these children. Some of them are in higher institutions now doing fine. There was one that was just moody but very intelligent, she was in P4 then.
Sometime, this problem is natural. I was like that when I was in school. I don't show off in the class but very intelligent. I surprised my lectures after exams.
I would suggest you explain the performance of your child at home to his class teacher, that may also help her to handle him.
If the problem persisted, please see a psychologist to address selective mutism.

eleko1:
His class teacher is dumb .thank God,holiday is here for them,Change hiS school chap.

. Thats true bt after changing his schl if there is no change then he need divine intervention upon that.

All will be well.

Wolex143:
. Thats true bt after changing his schl if there is no change then he need divine intervention upon that.

I find it hard to believe he doesn't talk to his mates at school. My lil girl used to be very shy at that age in nursery but a chatterbox at home - I just couldn't understand it until I secretly observed her one day and realised it was because she was used so independent she didn't really know how to interact with kids other than family .So everytime I dropped her off I reminded her it was important to make friends and speak up with her head up. And sometimes I asked her to learn the names of the kids in her class.You have to understand your child before this is resolved .

The teachers also has a part to play in helping him. Are you sure he's not been scolded everytime he doesn'tspeak ? Pay an unannounced visit to the school and watch how he interacts in class to get a clear idea on the issue.

IMHO a 3 year old is too young to repeat a class. What exactly is a three year old learning apart from ABCs.

sir, my daughter does same thing in school, so what I did was to start taking her out to parks, shopping malls so she can see things and mix with other kids , then I make sure I went to d school and demands to change her class or d anty , and honestly she has since then changed and last term she was one of d best three in her class. its very possible he doesn't like his anty, and with that he can not learn, you know children needs petting a times b4 they can learn. just try and ask him questions like what's d name of your aunty , do you like her etc and see his response. God bless our children.

CriticMaestro:
homeschooling bro homeschooling shikenan...op say no b obange sha

lol

Omotakins:
My son(almost 4yrs) is in the reception class. He doesn't respond to teachings at school, doesn't talk or play. This is the exact opposite at home. Plays very well at home, sings and talks about all he's taught in the school. He responds very well to the teachings of his home teacher. His teacher in school is saying he will repeat class 'cos there is nothing to show he's learnt things. What do I do? Teachers, educators and Co, ur help is needed pls.

The difference in attitude at home and school indicates a hostile environment in school. You have to playfully engage him and get details from him because all the symptoms point to child abuse. His teacher is suspect

ask him about who his friends are. 4 year old can respond to that.
ask whether he likes his teacher, whether his teacher beats him,or calls him a dullard, or whether he will like to have another teacher. check his response when you tell him he will not see the teacher again as per school changing, check for subtle hidden signs of physical abuse.

its not a matter of watching and waiting..This formative years are more vital even than than his teen years. Please sir, you must change school ASAP

It is very likely your child is introverted.Introverted children do not really enjoy being around strangers and will seek solitude but such children will seem extroverted when around an environment/people he/she is used to being around like his/her family and friend(if he makes friends,they usually have small circles of friend).Google and read more about this personality type and how to care for them,it may be of help

The child simply doesnt like crowd. Try to enhance his SPICE of life. Social Physical Intectual Cognitive and Emotional

Change his school.