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jusRadical:
You did not commit any abortion. Rather, you commited murder.

Continue to open your legs to a man who has not put a ring on you. When we speak against premarital sex, you people call us all soughts of names.

Now enjoy.

Your parents who are encouraging you to engage in pre-marital sex ought to be flogged.

Countrygirl:
Sis, take heart.

The Lord will strenghten you.


Next time, learn to avoid premarital sex, it complicates things especially for the ladies.

faustinalove:
so true sister.

faustinalove:
Rethink? His sister is already planning on getting a girl from d village for him! would u still blame me for aborting baby?

faustinalove:
babe u r so right. i just wanted to make my paremts happy. i am d first child and u know d bible part of obeying one's parent. thanks babe. pls read d rest

doris4u:
U said d guy is not educated,sorry to say dis " Most uneducated Anambra men has shallow way of thinking".How can a man reason like dat..
As for d abortion,its a personal choice u made,no one shld blame u on that.

faustinalove:
Rethink? His sister is already planning on getting a girl from d village for him! would u still blame me for aborting baby?

faustinalove:
so true sister. i voiced out my concern at d beginning abt his educational status but mom said men are d same and that all i need is to be calm a a woman. anything little we had, d next thing u'll hear is "its because u went to school, so now u want to control me"..he even kept bringing d issue of me going to school even in unrelated topics. he felt so inferior. he stopped me frm talking to all my male contacts both on phone and on whatsapp.. and once its abt 9pm, he would tell me to switch off my phone. it was hell with him

Parpor:
. My love,I still blame you for aborting your baby. Please keep praying for forgiveness. Can I get to know you better?

faustinalove:
Rethink? His sister is already planning on getting a girl from d village for him! would u still blame me for aborting baby?

boladale:
My dear, u made mistakes and d most important thing is to 'see' them and resolve never to repeat them in life! believe me, if u sleep with every 'fiancee' esp in just a wk, how many stories will u tell ur husband? who will understand? they will just conclude that u r lo0se. you must be careful not to fulfil what ur ex and friends think of abj girls because d truth is, they looked at u and felt u could do it. sadly, i think so too. i dont think you'll do it intentionally, but life events can take u there, if d price is right! dont pass d buck,m u liked d idea of marrying this guy, i can imagine u 'gisting' - u friends at d beginning. u likely decided on d abortion urself so u cud v stood up to ur parents in other areas! from now on respect them but dont always dilly to their sentiments cos that's what they r. u r better educated than they are. work for urself. u v some alawee now, dont u? manage it well, get more skills, make better income. marriage is not all there is to life for a woman. i'm not judging u, bn d

iAmCharis:
My dear, ignore all those stressing on the abortion. I like you to know God isn't angry with you cos you did abortion. That pregnancy could frustrate your life forever and God doesn't want that for you. Tell them to show you where God said you shouldn't abort an unwanted pregnancy. If you still feel you committed a sin by aborting the baby, pray and believe you're forgiven. Forgiveness doesn't come by praying continuously but by asking from a sincere heart once! By the way, praying continously for forgiveness will tie you with the guilt and hold you in the past. Good decision you made. Keep your head up and learn from the experience. Don't feel bad about yourself either. We all make mistakes at certain points in our lives. What matters is what you do after realizing you made a mistake. I think it's better to leave the mistake in the past and move on with your life.


From your write up, I can boldly say he's a violent person who might send any lady she marries to her early grave. This is how many ladies end up with some man that will frustrate them for the rest of their lives.

DonMekino:
ppl saying dat d abortion was ok...hv we finally lost our senses ppl hv kept babies from rape sef...not to talk of dat from a consentual sex...

the guy is a big idiot.....but killing dat foetus isn't cool at all unless...

Countrygirl:
Sis, take heart.

The Lord will strenghten you.


Next time, learn to avoid premarital sex, it complicates things especially for the ladies.

Stegomiah:
I agree with your points sir,

But, there is no one above mistakes

She has made her mistakes, it has happened,

She is really hurt, takes courage to share her story

She doesn't need a whipping lash now, she admitted and not being proud of it

What she needs now is how to move forward, and learn from her mistakes

pedrilo:
where is ur brain young man? did u read her story from start to finish? someone who cud not afford her own Tfare from ogun state to fct shud keep a baby? the job of raising a child shud not be given to another child, the op clearly stated she is still a dependant, and its a known fact we do not have child support in dis country, increasing our already polluted population and society through such means is a sure way of making recruits available to the likes of boko haram, militants, kidnappers, armed robbers, political thugs and other social misfits. lets learn to address issues without necessarily playin the emotional, religious, tribal or regional card pls.

Trudiee:
hian
ure educated n u want to marry an illiterate??
girl, u can't cope with that, trust me.

i have nothing against illiterates.. some of them are enlightened. but some!!! are still living in the stone age.

i just see negative fins here

whether u like it or not, ure his rebound girl. u re a catholic n ure slowly changing ur faith.

my dear, there are ppl who go for nysc n remain the way they are, its all about choice buh i doubt u l be able to convince him cuz.. he sounds opinionated.

but what advice do u need??

boladale:
My dear, u made mistakes and d most important thing is to 'see' them and resolve never to repeat them in life! believe me, if u sleep with every 'fiancee' esp in just a wk, how many stories will u tell ur husband? who will understand? they will just conclude that u r lo0se. you must be careful not to fulfil what ur ex and friends think of abj girls because d truth is, they looked at u and felt u could do it. sadly, i think so too. i dont think you'll do it intentionally, but life events can take u there, if d price is right! dont pass d buck,m u liked d idea of marrying this guy, i can imagine u 'gisting' - u friends at d beginning. u likely decided on d abortion urself so u cud v stood up to ur parents in other areas! from now on respect them but dont always dilly to their sentiments cos that's what they r. u r better educated than they are. work for urself. u v some alawee now, dont u? manage it well, get more skills, make better income. marriage is not all there is to life for a woman. i'm not judging u, bn d