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| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 11:59am On Aug 04, 2016 |
thorpido:both. especially any family earning less than 6 figures in a month. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 12:21pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Joavid:People must procreate.There's a limit to holding off being pregnant.People want to wed and have babies and not everyone will wait till they see 6 figures. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 1:46pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Joavid:https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/swut.gif ![]() ![]() |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 6:42pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
thorpido:yea right. y'all should keep multiplying poverty, contributing to overpopulation and destroying the country in the process. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 6:44pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
crackhaus:family= husband and wife's joint income being nothing less than six figures. could be 100,000naira in a month |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 6:51pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Joavid: ![]() |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 9:28pm On Aug 04, 2016*. Modified: 11:42pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Joavid:Ohhh, good you explained better.. I was of the opinion you meant the usual 6-figure we all know - 1,000,000 and above, then I was going to ask how many people earn above 1,000,000Naira every month. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by cococandy(f): 11:17pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Having or not having an abortion is not something no one can advice you to do. It's a deeply personal decision. As you can see. Meanwhile I'm wondering what you guys will do when you're post partum and recovering. Will you carry your body like that to continue hustling? The lord is your strength. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 11:22pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
thorpido:She has a point you know, |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 6:59am On Aug 05, 2016 |
pcguru1:Her point is not valid in this case. Joavid,is either married and has a child or expecting one or she plans to marry and have a child of her own. If she does then she contributes to the 'multiplying of poverty and overpopulation' she talks about. Let her come to prove to me she doesn't have a child of her own and does not plan to. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 10:57am On Aug 05, 2016 |
crackhaus:LOL @unconventional ![]() I wonder what kind of contraceptives people use that fail them. ![]() |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 11:02am On Aug 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Shiit happens na.. ![]() So... to terminate, or not to terminate? |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 11:04am On Aug 05, 2016 |
crackhaus:I don't know. I don't have enough info about their situation but since she mentioned that she wants the best for her son, I would say that the best for her son is to have a sibling. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 12:22pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:You ehn... You should be a politician, Hilary Clinton has nothing on you. ![]() When she mentioned she wants what's best for her son, I thought she meant providing everything necessary for him alone without having to share the scarce resources among two kids. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by 5minsmadness: 12:40pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
thorpido:Yes. And they will suffer the consequences. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 12:46pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
crackhaus: ![]() I would consider this option but I don't like to be in the spotlight. When she mentioned she wants what's best for her son, I thought she meant providing everything necessary for him alone without having to share the scarce resources among two kids.This is why I said that I don't know enough about their situation but her husband won't be jobless forever and the little boy's clothes, his buggy and his toys can be passed onto the younger one so the investment in a second baby won't cost as much as it did for the first child. Children are not so materialistic. If you satisfy their basic needs, all they want is fun, fun and more fun and so a sibling comes in handy. And as we grow up, the bond we share with our siblings is priceless. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 12:54pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:I agree totally. I can't quite remember if you were on that thread sometime ago where some of your friends where of the opinion that having just one kid isn't a big deal and then supporting it with all kinds of selfish emotional logic without once considering how the child might actually need to have a sibling. ![]() This is a relief. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 2:06pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
5minsmadness:Everyone who has a child suffers for it? I know you guys are thinking about people who are poor,can barely feed themselves and have kids but I was talking about people who are capable and want their offsprings.Noone should deny them that. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 2:15pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Hmmm,they are not but they place a big demand on time and attention and those basic needs don't come cheap. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 2:17pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
crackhaus:Crackhaus that's actually 7 figures. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 2:31pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
thorpido:They demand less time and attention when they have siblings they can play with, don't they? You just need to intervene when they fight one of their battles. ![]() |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 2:33pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
crackhaus:I wouldn't say that they need siblings but it's nice to have some. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 2:37pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:In that first year,they demand a lot of time and attention but it's when they get a bit matured and have siblings that they play together. Hmm,those cat fights... ![]() |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by 5minsmadness: 3:06pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
thorpido:But this thread is about people who cant afford to have more kids. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by thorpido(m): 3:15pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
5minsmadness:Yes,in this particular case,i agree. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 4:14pm On Aug 05, 2016*. Modified: 4:57pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
thorpido:Indeed, I keep counting only the zeros in money numbers..pardon me ![]() |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by crackhaus: 5:00pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Po-tay-to Po-tah-to To-may-to To-mah-to |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Fastpace(f): 6:29pm On Aug 05, 2016 |
Your hubby told u not to terminate that baby,as a submissive wife u should listen to him,if u can't hear him is it nlanders that u will hear.Have bn in a similar situation has u. i listened to my husband & and trust God and blive me we have not being put to shame.it is tym 4 u and ur husband to pray hard,cast ur burden unto God cause he cares. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by onegig(m): 10:56am On Aug 06, 2016 |
@NikitaNike Nothing to worry about. The first kid is always the one with the most expenses. Trust me, it would be 70% less expensive than your first pregnancy as most items that you had to buy for the first child are still reusable now. There's no need to abort here. Even considering the medical costs of abortion and the risks involved. An abortion far outweighs the cost of giving birth to the child in the short term alrhough child care costs may outweigh it in future but at least by then you should have gotten your bearings well. All you guys need to do is work harder and seek alternative biz that brings in money to cushion the effects of having a new baby. Remember you would be hampered by the pregnancy and your husband needs to return to his role of primary provider. Stay safe and take care. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by Nobody: 11:19am On Aug 06, 2016 |
Pls do not abort the child..your husband should look for other small jobs to do, than staying at home.. I wonder how some people just relax at home without doing any other small jobs.. Pls do not abort. Join hands with yur husband and pray about it, daily Until a breakthrough comes in.. God listens. |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by ogawisdom(m): 12:03pm On Aug 06, 2016 |
NikitaNike:Abortion is evil and unthinkable in marriage, u really wanna kill ur baby. Pls keep d baby and let ur hubby go n hustle. God will see u ppl through. Dt baby may jst b d miracle ur family needs, hubby might land a good job few months after his/her birth |
| Re: Am So Confuse, Pls Advise Me by splaka(m): 2:02pm On Aug 06, 2016 |
pls u never can tell , ur baby in ur womb will be a blessing to your family, so thinking of abortion is absolutely wrong and evil. pls madam, Don do DAT, God will surprise u sooner than u expect. |
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